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Hi Mikey,

I started reading "The Rules of Normal Eating" today. One thing I read

really resonated with me. It said that eating things you crave should

be like scratching an itch--you only scratch until the itching is

gone. Basically it means if you crave something, you should eat it,

but only until you're satisfied. I started thinking about it and

realized that a lot of times my binges start with a craving for

something, and the first bites are soooo good, but then my brain turns

off and it becomes a binge. I now think the moment where the taste

doesn't matter and the compulsion takes over is just beyond the

satisfaction point. So what I need to do is really pay attention to

satisfying the craving and not going beyond that. I think if you can

tell yourself that you'll focus on satisfying your craving and no more,

you'll feel less guilty about it. Does that make sense?

Jeannie

mikey wrote:

i know this is a popular topic and has been talked about a lot.

but how do you guys keep yourself from feeling guilty about eating

'whatever you want' when you are not TRULY hungry or don't REALLY need

it. this is the first part of IE, right. letting go. giving yourself

100% permission. even when you have weight loss/fitness goals. you know

when it comes to your goals the poptart wont help, but you also know

you HAVE to let yourself eat it if you want it. the first step of this

'system' is the hardest. i have been trying for quite awhile now. and i

still haven't figured out how to truly let go. advice? stories?

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i wanted to thank ALL of you. some very sound advice! i am doing a lot of

self-talk. and i'm feeling better about my eating than i have for awhile. even

though i'm not eating as 'healthy' as i would like i know that i need to be kind

to myself. i need to understand that it took me a long time to form this bad

relationship with food and it will take a while to to mend the relationship. i

am going back and re-reading my IE book. thank you again!

>

> Thanks for your comments, Jeannie, on " The Rules of Normal Eating. "   I have

ordered it and can hardly wait to start reading it!

>  

> Mikey, I do a lot of self-talk, reminding myself that there are no forbidden

foods. Of course, I haven't totally mastered this step, as periodically a

negative thought will sneak in.  But if I choose to have that sweet, I tell

myself it is okay and savor it!  Principle 4:  Challenge the Food Police in

" Intuitive Eating " has been very helpful.  Also when I do eat a formerly

'negative' food, I try to eat it in a more mindful manner, paying attention to

my satiety signals and how my stomach feels.  In giving myself permission to eat

whatever I want, I've made a pleasant discover that those sweets I used to binge

on has lost some of their allure. 

>  

> You know, if you give yourself permission to eat and enjoy that Pop Tart,

probably that one will make you feel satisfied and do more in the way of helping

you reach your weight loss/fitness goals because you're not depriving

yourself.  Hope this helps in some way!  Good luck and don't give up!

>  

> All the best,

> Jeanne

>

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i can relate with you. my binges almost ALWAYS begin with feeling of anxiety.

and then i guess i turn to food to blanket those uncomfortable feelings because

that is the tool i have used the most in the past. that is what bothers me most

with my relationship with food. i love food, i love what it can do for my body,

i love to cook, i love the memories you can make. but the fact that i use food

to smother feelings of anxiety is not okay to me. i have not found a sure fire

way to avoid this yet. but hobbies do work sometimes. especially stuff i do with

my hands. but you have to practice them regularly, not just when you have the

urge to binge.

> > >

> > > Thanks for your comments, Jeannie, on " The Rules of Normal Eating. "

> > I have ordered it and can hardly wait to start reading it!

> > >

> > > Mikey, I do a lot of self-talk, reminding myself that there are no

> > forbidden foods. Of course, I haven't totally mastered this step, as

> > periodically a negative thought will sneak in. But if I choose to

> > have that sweet, I tell myself it is okay and savor it! Principle 4:

> > Challenge the Food Police in " Intuitive Eating " has been very

> > helpful. Also when I do eat a formerly 'negative' food, I try to eat

> > it in a more mindful manner, paying attention to my satiety signals

> > and how my stomach feels. In giving myself permission to eat whatever

> > I want, I've made a pleasant discover that those sweets I used to

> > binge on has lost some of their allure.

> > >

> > > You know, if you give yourself permission to eat and enjoy that Pop

> > Tart, probably that one will make you feel satisfied and do more in

> > the way of helping you reach your weight loss/fitness goals because

> > you're not depriving yourself. Hope this helps in some way! Good

> > luck and don't give up!

> > >

> > > All the best,

> > > Jeanne

> > >

> >

> >

>

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