Guest guest Posted September 6, 2010 Report Share Posted September 6, 2010 I never really understood this until I began watching my nephew grow up. I know him from the miracle of his birth, and for the beautiful child he is. It helps me remind myself how I started out as well. > > How do we let go of all the hurt and the pain, the memories, the flashbacks, the > nightmares that torture our beautiul souls every day of our lives? > > How do we learn to truly let go and start to live our lives for the present > moment? > > How do we learn to accept that past is past? How do we learn to love ourselves, > and accept ourselves for whom we are? > > There are so many hows and why's that us abuse survivors battle with everyday, > we battle with our inner deamons, we wonder and wonder how another human > being/s, could rip our soul and heart out and leave nothing but a deep black > hole filled with fright and terror. > > We are constanty searching for something, but we dont know what that something > is, but we still keep searching, we search everywhere, we seek out self > destructive behaviours such as alcohol, drugs, compulsive shopping, pushing > people away, rejecting love, we may constantly seek reassurance from others, we > may not trust in ourselves or others. > > This is just some of the damage that abuse can do to the human spirit, but there > is hope, we as survivors may have had our souls deeply wounded and torn apart, > but we are still here living, breathing.........even though at times we dont > really feel like we are living but we are. > > We as survivors got through the abuse, and we can and will heal our broken > hearts. We are beautiful individals who deserve everything that the world has > to offer, however, to heal we need to take that leap of faith, we need to have > courage, we need to have strength and determination, we have to want to heal, > and I believe that no matter how hard the days may seem, we all as survivors > have all the qualities to heal. > > As an abuse survior myself, in an ironic kind of way, I am learning to accept my > abuse and that actually if I never endured what I went through as a child, I > would not be the person that I am today, some of the most humanistic and > creative people I know are abuse survivors, we as survivors have so much to > offer the world and our children and the children of tomorrow. > > The truth will set you free. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2010 Report Share Posted September 6, 2010 For me and I don't know if I ever will be totally free of all of the abuse- it has become such a part of who I am- but- but here goes how I am surviving my life: Lots of therapy Mixed with huge dosages of self love Moments of self care/ self discovery Loving my animals- who give me unconditional love and hope Recognizing the terrorist attacks that is exist today- when dealing with nada Maintaining boundaries Connecting each day with my inner child and letting her know I will protect and love her - not matter what. Doing all I can to not let the abuse continue with my own daughter Forgiving myself- for all that has happened in my life- knowing sometimes I was helpless- sometimes I could have done better- but I didn't have the tools or knowledge to cope any better then I did. Quieting my inner critical voice with love..... Malinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2010 Report Share Posted September 6, 2010 For me and I don't know if I ever will be totally free of all of the abuse- it has become such a part of who I am- but- but here goes how I am surviving my life: Lots of therapy Mixed with huge dosages of self love Moments of self care/ self discovery Loving my animals- who give me unconditional love and hope Recognizing the terrorist attacks that is exist today- when dealing with nada Maintaining boundaries Connecting each day with my inner child and letting her know I will protect and love her - not matter what. Doing all I can to not let the abuse continue with my own daughter Forgiving myself- for all that has happened in my life- knowing sometimes I was helpless- sometimes I could have done better- but I didn't have the tools or knowledge to cope any better then I did. Quieting my inner critical voice with love..... Malinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2010 Report Share Posted September 6, 2010 Yes, yes and yes!!!!! Thank you, . I can't tell you how much I needed this! What a beautifully written testament of our value and power. Thanks for encouraging all of us. It meant the world to me today. Blessings, Karla > > How do we let go of all the hurt and the pain, the memories, the flashbacks, the > nightmares that torture our beautiul souls every day of our lives? > > How do we learn to truly let go and start to live our lives for the present > moment? > > How do we learn to accept that past is past? How do we learn to love ourselves, > and accept ourselves for whom we are? > > There are so many hows and why's that us abuse survivors battle with everyday, > we battle with our inner deamons, we wonder and wonder how another human > being/s, could rip our soul and heart out and leave nothing but a deep black > hole filled with fright and terror. > > We are constanty searching for something, but we dont know what that something > is, but we still keep searching, we search everywhere, we seek out self > destructive behaviours such as alcohol, drugs, compulsive shopping, pushing > people away, rejecting love, we may constantly seek reassurance from others, we > may not trust in ourselves or others. > > This is just some of the damage that abuse can do to the human spirit, but there > is hope, we as survivors may have had our souls deeply wounded and torn apart, > but we are still here living, breathing.........even though at times we dont > really feel like we are living but we are. > > We as survivors got through the abuse, and we can and will heal our broken > hearts. We are beautiful individals who deserve everything that the world has > to offer, however, to heal we need to take that leap of faith, we need to have > courage, we need to have strength and determination, we have to want to heal, > and I believe that no matter how hard the days may seem, we all as survivors > have all the qualities to heal. > > As an abuse survior myself, in an ironic kind of way, I am learning to accept my > abuse and that actually if I never endured what I went through as a child, I > would not be the person that I am today, some of the most humanistic and > creative people I know are abuse survivors, we as survivors have so much to > offer the world and our children and the children of tomorrow. > > The truth will set you free. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2010 Report Share Posted September 6, 2010 I agree, that was beautifully written, . And very hopeful. Well done! -Annie > > > > How do we let go of all the hurt and the pain, the memories, the flashbacks, the > > nightmares that torture our beautiul souls every day of our lives? > > > > How do we learn to truly let go and start to live our lives for the present > > moment? > > > > How do we learn to accept that past is past? How do we learn to love ourselves, > > and accept ourselves for whom we are? > > > > There are so many hows and why's that us abuse survivors battle with everyday, > > we battle with our inner deamons, we wonder and wonder how another human > > being/s, could rip our soul and heart out and leave nothing but a deep black > > hole filled with fright and terror. > > > > We are constanty searching for something, but we dont know what that something > > is, but we still keep searching, we search everywhere, we seek out self > > destructive behaviours such as alcohol, drugs, compulsive shopping, pushing > > people away, rejecting love, we may constantly seek reassurance from others, we > > may not trust in ourselves or others. > > > > This is just some of the damage that abuse can do to the human spirit, but there > > is hope, we as survivors may have had our souls deeply wounded and torn apart, > > but we are still here living, breathing.........even though at times we dont > > really feel like we are living but we are. > > > > We as survivors got through the abuse, and we can and will heal our broken > > hearts. We are beautiful individals who deserve everything that the world has > > to offer, however, to heal we need to take that leap of faith, we need to have > > courage, we need to have strength and determination, we have to want to heal, > > and I believe that no matter how hard the days may seem, we all as survivors > > have all the qualities to heal. > > > > As an abuse survior myself, in an ironic kind of way, I am learning to accept my > > abuse and that actually if I never endured what I went through as a child, I > > would not be the person that I am today, some of the most humanistic and > > creative people I know are abuse survivors, we as survivors have so much to > > offer the world and our children and the children of tomorrow. > > > > The truth will set you free. > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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