Re: Checking in---LONG(TOO)

[Guest guest]

Melinda - Hang in there sweetie. Yes it seems that kids are ungrateful and

they do everything they can to try and prove that, just hold on a few years

and it'll all turn around. They'll find out that they do need Mom & Dad. Is

there an alternative school for her to go to?? One where they learn at their

own pace?? My son did really well in that enviroment and finished 3 1/2

years of school in less than 6 months. I couldn't believe it. You never know

what will work with teenagers. Sometimes you'd like to strangle them, other

times you just want to hug them and never let go.

Hugs,

[Guest guest]

Melinda - Hang in there sweetie. Yes it seems that kids are ungrateful and

they do everything they can to try and prove that, just hold on a few years

and it'll all turn around. They'll find out that they do need Mom & Dad. Is

there an alternative school for her to go to?? One where they learn at their

own pace?? My son did really well in that enviroment and finished 3 1/2

years of school in less than 6 months. I couldn't believe it. You never know

what will work with teenagers. Sometimes you'd like to strangle them, other

times you just want to hug them and never let go.

Hugs,

[Guest guest]

Melinda - Hang in there sweetie. Yes it seems that kids are ungrateful and

they do everything they can to try and prove that, just hold on a few years

and it'll all turn around. They'll find out that they do need Mom & Dad. Is

there an alternative school for her to go to?? One where they learn at their

own pace?? My son did really well in that enviroment and finished 3 1/2

years of school in less than 6 months. I couldn't believe it. You never know

what will work with teenagers. Sometimes you'd like to strangle them, other

times you just want to hug them and never let go.

Hugs,

[Guest guest]

Melinda...You'll get through it...teenaged girls are a PITA, LOL. Kayly had major depression as a teen (still does but it's treated) and we didn't treat it. She saw a counselor a couple of times and that was all we did, I'm very embarrassed to say that I didn't recognize the extent of it....partly because I was the same way as a teen and by her teens still didn't realize that I had depression, too.

I know the car stuff is very hard financially, but considering that most teens do major damage to the car in an accident within two years of their license...well, at least she only hit the curb.

Sorry to hear about the canceled vacation.

I didn't have the academic problems with Kayly, nor did my parents with me, so we were lucky.

I'm so sorry to hear about the MRSA again...I think two weeks of Augmentin means it is definitely time for the Vanco....especially with the knee replacement, I don't understand why they are hesitating.

You did send the email from your sister. Maybe you need to let them know that you got it...heck maybe your Mom does know she forwarded it and did it so things weren't being said behind your back?

All of the stress, physical and mental, of course makes all of the family stuff (Sara included) that much harder to take.

You're in my prayers.

Hugs,

Kathy

Checking in---LONG(TOO)

Hi friends, What a week--seventeen years ago today I gave birth to my beautiful daughter in San , CA and when they laid her on my chest, I could not imagine that today I would be calling her a brat, and worse yet that we would be enabling that behavior. This girl is going to have a rude awakening someday that there are other people on the planet besides herself. Last week she did about $800.00 worth of damage to Bob's car by slamming into the curb (it has a low front end that she "forgot" about). We are making her "pay for half of it" Our budget was already tight but she needed tires on her car and we agreed to buy them as we knew the tires weren't that great when we bought the car in May, but that would have to be her birthday present from us. Ring up another $200 for two tires and a front end alignment. We had plans for the beach this week and even today but cancelled them due to the car repair bill and the fact that the weather up here is miserable (cold and rainy)--very unusual for August. So Bob decides that after several years of her begging to paint her room purple, he would do that for her, plus repair and paint the bathroom ceiling that fell down while I was gone. Ring up another $75 and she is going around moping saying this isn't a very good birthday. (She doesn't want practical gifts) Well tough SH**, little lady. So then I go to the grocery and get her a cake mix and some fresh crab that we will be enjoying when she gets home in an hour or so. Mom the enabler strikes again!! Tomorrow we meet with the school counselor to try to pull off her senior year. Good chance she will not graduate. I am not surprised but it still hurts--its not even the walking across the stage part as I didn't want to go to mine but my mom made me, but the fact that she chose to bomb out and didn't make more effort. We provided the counseling, medicine, meetings etc but she is the one who has to go to class. I can't do that for her. It is amazing that she has managed to get out of bed to be at work on time all the summer and we told her that we expect that same behavior for school and that I won't be the one to drag her ass out of bed or make her lunch unless I am up and choose to do so. God, I am b*itchy. Chalk it up to stress, increased Pred, perimenopause, grief,the weather and yes, another MRSA infection--this time in my right great toe and I can't get a doc to make a decision on whether or not I need Vanco. The ortho says yes but told me to see the internist in the am and if she doesn't send me straight to infectious diseases, call him. So far they are treating it with augmentin and tetracycline and it still hurts like hell and I don't feel good--no big fever but I ache all over. Not to mention what two weeks of Augmentin at 4 gms a day will due to your IBS--yes I am eating a lot of yogurt. I had started it in Norman because I had a sinus and ear infection and fever while I was there so I went to urgent care. No birthday calls or cards from any family for Sara and that stings. They will probably come late but still just because they hate my guts they don't have to ignore my kids, but I guess that is the way it works. I take it back--the sister that says I don't contribute to society sent a purse home for her with a couple of tshirts. Did I tell you about that? In case I didn't here is a copy of what said sister sent to my mom: (Mom doesn't realize she forwarded it to me and neither one of them know that I know.)Hi Mama -The game was fun - it was a beautiful night to sit outside! The Redhawks were playing Portland, so Mark had a good time assuming he was the only Oregon fan in the crowd!He laughed a lot, and I think it did him good. He said he was so bored when they went to Tulsa because there was nothing for him to do, and he said all he did was listen to Lindy talk. I am sure it was not fun for him.I agree that Lindy is missing so much of life. She is so self centered, and I don't know why she became that way. There is definitely something wrong mentally with her. I can't see any way she is contributing to society. I do believe that deep down she has a good heart. Let me know what time you want to eat - we can be there whenever it is good for you!Love you!Melis On that happy note, I will close, go take a xanax and start dinner. I know brighter tomorrows are ahead. Thanks for letting me vent. I feel better already. I love you all--and hopefully can get back to posting after school starts (the ninth). I am catching up on the web site and trying to stay currents. All of you all have much worse situations that you are trying to deal with, too, and please know that everyone is in my thoughts and prayers.Love,Melinda Please visit our website at:http://ACES_Autoimmune.tripod.com