Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 Thanks KJ, you brought tears to my eyes... I love you all too and would really be in an insane asylum without you all. I am also blessed to have my husband.. lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 Thanks KJ, you brought tears to my eyes... I love you all too and would really be in an insane asylum without you all. I am also blessed to have my husband.. lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 Thanks KJ, you brought tears to my eyes... I love you all too and would really be in an insane asylum without you all. I am also blessed to have my husband.. lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 , I agree with KJ! Hey, think of the wonderful extended family you have via Internet! maria Re: Re: families > , > I am sorry you are hurting. Families give us the most pain because they are > the ones who are supposed to love us the best. When that doesn't happen it > makes the world rotate off kilter. I am glad your husband stands by > you...your children will be blessed with a happy home and that will give you > peace...until that day gets here, you know you are well-loved right here...KJ > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 , I agree with KJ! Hey, think of the wonderful extended family you have via Internet! maria Re: Re: families > , > I am sorry you are hurting. Families give us the most pain because they are > the ones who are supposed to love us the best. When that doesn't happen it > makes the world rotate off kilter. I am glad your husband stands by > you...your children will be blessed with a happy home and that will give you > peace...until that day gets here, you know you are well-loved right here...KJ > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 , I agree with KJ! Hey, think of the wonderful extended family you have via Internet! maria Re: Re: families > , > I am sorry you are hurting. Families give us the most pain because they are > the ones who are supposed to love us the best. When that doesn't happen it > makes the world rotate off kilter. I am glad your husband stands by > you...your children will be blessed with a happy home and that will give you > peace...until that day gets here, you know you are well-loved right here...KJ > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2001 Report Share Posted February 18, 2001 , I hate that it didn't go well with your family. I know that has had a very difficult time with her family and it's causes her a lot of emotional torment. (((((HUGS)))) to you and maybe it is time that you think about what type of relationship you can realistically have with your family and decide if that's something you can live with. Sometimes our idea of what family should be like doesn't fit for the personalities in our families. It can really suck but I don't think you have to cut off your family if you can be prepared to accept what they have to offer (little as it may be) and not expect things to be different than they are. It hurts to let go of what we want and deserve but in some cases what our family may have to offer may not be worth the price you have to pay to get it. Hang in there girl and know you are loved and cared about here. We care about how you feel, no matter how good or crummy that may be. You have a family of choice of here!! Dana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2001 Report Share Posted February 18, 2001 , I am so sorry...I wish I could take away the pain. I know how painful families can be. I wonder how your family members would feel if they had gone through what you have been through? Unfortunately sometimes it takes going through something to know the pain. Yet, I don't understand their total lack of compassion towards you! You don't deserve that! I'm keeping you in my prayers and wish there was something I could do to make you feel better. elle > Thanks Pam, > I just got back and for the most part it did suck. We walked in and the > only two people who said hello to us was my niece and nephew. Everyone else > was playing a game and couldn't even be bothered to stop, look up and say > hello until the game was over, with the exception of my sister in law who > did say HI. > > My nephew accidetally jumped and landed right on my stitch. Ouch! when I > mentioned it to my sister in law, she didn't even know I had had surgery... > my brother didn't even ask how we were and has never acknowledged this loss. > I don't get it. I know people don't know what to say, but to ignore it > completely.... it just hurts. If it wasn't for the kids , I never would > have gone... We were the last to arrive and first to leave and I know we are > being talked about right now. In fact, at one pt I walked into a room to > show them something and the conversation completely stopped. So what am I > to think?? > > Dh doesn't want me to go there anymore and while I know he is right in a > way, it's still my family and I guess I am not ready to completely walk > away. Dh and I spent the whole night by ourselves or with the kids... > > I am sorry, this is just soo upsetting. I will never treat my kids like > this and what is worse is that in my parent's presence my brother and sister > loss all emotion and act all distant too... > > Thanks for listening. > > lisa r > T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2001 Report Share Posted February 18, 2001 Dana, I couldn't have said it any better. It is really hard to let go of what you want, but realizing it will never be, can be the most freeing and peaceful feeling. It still doesn't make it any easier. elle > , > > I hate that it didn't go well with your family. I know that has had a > very difficult time with her family and it's causes her a lot of emotional > torment. (((((HUGS)))) to you and maybe it is time that you think about what > type of relationship you can realistically have with your family and decide > if that's something you can live with. Sometimes our idea of what family > should be like doesn't fit for the personalities in our families. It can > really suck but I don't think you have to cut off your family if you can be > prepared to accept what they have to offer (little as it may be) and not > expect things to be different than they are. It hurts to let go of what we > want and deserve but in some cases what our family may have to offer may not > be worth the price you have to pay to get it. Hang in there girl and know you > are loved and cared about here. We care about how you feel, no matter how > good or crummy that may be. You have a family of choice of here!! > > Dana > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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