Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 lisa r - yes, families do suck sometimes ... maybe it is because they dont know how to react or what you need from them ... sometimes you do need to be selfish and concentrate on yourself and DH ... the family will come around .... hang in there! courtney Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 lisa r - yes, families do suck sometimes ... maybe it is because they dont know how to react or what you need from them ... sometimes you do need to be selfish and concentrate on yourself and DH ... the family will come around .... hang in there! courtney Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 , I absolutely now that some families SUCK!! Your sister sounds like such a well not a very nice person. I hate that for you..and i know it has to hurt. Some families are just so dysfunctional that instead of offering comfort they only offer pain. You may have to make a decision at some point how much you are willing to subject yourself to, and draw your boundaries to protect that decision and stick to it. HUGS to you hon xoxoxo Dana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 , I absolutely now that some families SUCK!! Your sister sounds like such a well not a very nice person. I hate that for you..and i know it has to hurt. Some families are just so dysfunctional that instead of offering comfort they only offer pain. You may have to make a decision at some point how much you are willing to subject yourself to, and draw your boundaries to protect that decision and stick to it. HUGS to you hon xoxoxo Dana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 , I absolutely now that some families SUCK!! Your sister sounds like such a well not a very nice person. I hate that for you..and i know it has to hurt. Some families are just so dysfunctional that instead of offering comfort they only offer pain. You may have to make a decision at some point how much you are willing to subject yourself to, and draw your boundaries to protect that decision and stick to it. HUGS to you hon xoxoxo Dana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 thanks courtney!! lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 thanks courtney!! lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 thanks courtney!! lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 ok ,my sister just called and apologized to me. I told her I always listen to her complain and she said she was sorry again, and that I was breaking her illusion of our perfect family with the white picket fence and she needed that illusion. So, if she wants to live in denial, then it is Not my job to try to stop her. Lesson learned today: do not share with sister when upset with family!! Thanks for listening and advising me as always.. I'd be lost without you guys. lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 ok ,my sister just called and apologized to me. I told her I always listen to her complain and she said she was sorry again, and that I was breaking her illusion of our perfect family with the white picket fence and she needed that illusion. So, if she wants to live in denial, then it is Not my job to try to stop her. Lesson learned today: do not share with sister when upset with family!! Thanks for listening and advising me as always.. I'd be lost without you guys. lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 ok ,my sister just called and apologized to me. I told her I always listen to her complain and she said she was sorry again, and that I was breaking her illusion of our perfect family with the white picket fence and she needed that illusion. So, if she wants to live in denial, then it is Not my job to try to stop her. Lesson learned today: do not share with sister when upset with family!! Thanks for listening and advising me as always.. I'd be lost without you guys. lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 , I am sorry you are hurting. Families give us the most pain because they are the ones who are supposed to love us the best. When that doesn't happen it makes the world rotate off kilter. I am glad your husband stands by you...your children will be blessed with a happy home and that will give you peace...until that day gets here, you know you are well-loved right here...KJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 , I am sorry you are hurting. Families give us the most pain because they are the ones who are supposed to love us the best. When that doesn't happen it makes the world rotate off kilter. I am glad your husband stands by you...your children will be blessed with a happy home and that will give you peace...until that day gets here, you know you are well-loved right here...KJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 lisa, i am sorry that you had such a bad day. I hope that you start to feel better soon. MAke sure that you do something nice for yourself. New hair cut, nails, new outfit, something that will make you feel good. That always helps me when i am feeling low. jeanette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 lisa, i am sorry that you had such a bad day. I hope that you start to feel better soon. MAke sure that you do something nice for yourself. New hair cut, nails, new outfit, something that will make you feel good. That always helps me when i am feeling low. jeanette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 lisa, i am sorry that you had such a bad day. I hope that you start to feel better soon. MAke sure that you do something nice for yourself. New hair cut, nails, new outfit, something that will make you feel good. That always helps me when i am feeling low. jeanette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 glad to know I am not the only one who has a sister like that Pam, sorry too! lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 glad to know I am not the only one who has a sister like that Pam, sorry too! lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 glad to know I am not the only one who has a sister like that Pam, sorry too! lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 thanks maria!! lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 thanks maria!! lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 thanks maria!! lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 , I'm sorry you and Richie had to experience that today, how horrible! Just know that we're all here for you. maria Re: Re: families > Thanks Pam, > I just got back and for the most part it did suck. We walked in and the > only two people who said hello to us was my niece and nephew. Everyone else > was playing a game and couldn't even be bothered to stop, look up and say > hello until the game was over, with the exception of my sister in law who > did say HI. > > My nephew accidetally jumped and landed right on my stitch. Ouch! when I > mentioned it to my sister in law, she didn't even know I had had surgery... > my brother didn't even ask how we were and has never acknowledged this loss. > I don't get it. I know people don't know what to say, but to ignore it > completely.... it just hurts. If it wasn't for the kids , I never would > have gone... We were the last to arrive and first to leave and I know we are > being talked about right now. In fact, at one pt I walked into a room to > show them something and the conversation completely stopped. So what am I > to think?? > > Dh doesn't want me to go there anymore and while I know he is right in a > way, it's still my family and I guess I am not ready to completely walk > away. Dh and I spent the whole night by ourselves or with the kids... > > I am sorry, this is just soo upsetting. I will never treat my kids like > this and what is worse is that in my parent's presence my brother and sister > loss all emotion and act all distant too... > > Thanks for listening. > > lisa r > T.T.F.N. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 , I'm sorry you and Richie had to experience that today, how horrible! Just know that we're all here for you. maria Re: Re: families > Thanks Pam, > I just got back and for the most part it did suck. We walked in and the > only two people who said hello to us was my niece and nephew. Everyone else > was playing a game and couldn't even be bothered to stop, look up and say > hello until the game was over, with the exception of my sister in law who > did say HI. > > My nephew accidetally jumped and landed right on my stitch. Ouch! when I > mentioned it to my sister in law, she didn't even know I had had surgery... > my brother didn't even ask how we were and has never acknowledged this loss. > I don't get it. I know people don't know what to say, but to ignore it > completely.... it just hurts. If it wasn't for the kids , I never would > have gone... We were the last to arrive and first to leave and I know we are > being talked about right now. In fact, at one pt I walked into a room to > show them something and the conversation completely stopped. So what am I > to think?? > > Dh doesn't want me to go there anymore and while I know he is right in a > way, it's still my family and I guess I am not ready to completely walk > away. Dh and I spent the whole night by ourselves or with the kids... > > I am sorry, this is just soo upsetting. I will never treat my kids like > this and what is worse is that in my parent's presence my brother and sister > loss all emotion and act all distant too... > > Thanks for listening. > > lisa r > T.T.F.N. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2001 Report Share Posted February 17, 2001 , I'm sorry you and Richie had to experience that today, how horrible! Just know that we're all here for you. maria Re: Re: families > Thanks Pam, > I just got back and for the most part it did suck. We walked in and the > only two people who said hello to us was my niece and nephew. Everyone else > was playing a game and couldn't even be bothered to stop, look up and say > hello until the game was over, with the exception of my sister in law who > did say HI. > > My nephew accidetally jumped and landed right on my stitch. Ouch! when I > mentioned it to my sister in law, she didn't even know I had had surgery... > my brother didn't even ask how we were and has never acknowledged this loss. > I don't get it. I know people don't know what to say, but to ignore it > completely.... it just hurts. If it wasn't for the kids , I never would > have gone... We were the last to arrive and first to leave and I know we are > being talked about right now. In fact, at one pt I walked into a room to > show them something and the conversation completely stopped. So what am I > to think?? > > Dh doesn't want me to go there anymore and while I know he is right in a > way, it's still my family and I guess I am not ready to completely walk > away. Dh and I spent the whole night by ourselves or with the kids... > > I am sorry, this is just soo upsetting. I will never treat my kids like > this and what is worse is that in my parent's presence my brother and sister > loss all emotion and act all distant too... > > Thanks for listening. > > lisa r > T.T.F.N. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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