Re: what eases a bad day for you as a parent? **OT**

[Guest guest]

My 80 pound 6 year old was in a major tantrum today so I got down on

my knees and engaged him in a wrestling match. This gave me the

opportunity to use joint compressions to calm him down. This was

easily accomplished when he was 3 but I really have to fight him

now. When he starts growling, I growl back at him and seek pressure

points on the back and shoulders to force him to fight as hard as he

can to get me off of him. When he starts using his legs, I let him

stick his feet into my chest and I just lay on him so he gets a good

effect of using his muscles. If this doesn't help, try seeing a

shrink and getting an anti-psychotic like seroquel prescribed. OT:

to answer your topic of what eases a bad day, I just watched the Red

Sox wallop the Tigers while the Yankees were losing. If it wasn't

for baseball, autism would have me in a padded room .--- In Autism-

Mercury , " crazeladyshopper " <crazeladyshopper@c...>

wrote:

> Today was just a terrible day for my 3 yr old. I started him on

> Nordic Naturals 4 days ago. He loves them and asks for them all

day.

> I had been only giving him 2 a day and trying to work to 3 a day.

> Each day he has gotten a little more hyper but this afternoon and

> evening he was HORRIBLE.

> Screaming, crying just miserable.

> Right now I am exhausted but wanted to know what you as parents do

on

> days like this. I feel bad dreading when he wakes up and can only

> pray he will be better tomorrow.

> I feel like I should give Nordic one more day and see if he does

> better tomorrow.

> Do you ever feel like a bad mom or dad because you dread the

> confrontation with them?

> Maybe I am just to tired and need to go to bed.

> thanks for listening to me vent

> Sherry

[Guest guest]

Sherry, you aren't a bad mom, you are a human mom! Sometimes as soon

as Craig hits the door I leave to go workout. Often times I'm

leaving with my 6 yr asking why she can't go workout with me for the

100th time, my 4 yr ASD crying after me, and the 9 mo old crying for

me to nurse her. I leave with very little guilt because I know I

will return happier and more relaxed. And, if I don't feel like

working out, I take my alternative workout at Walmart, working out

hubby's checkcard, lol.

Don't feel guilty for needing a break! Go find a buddy and do lunch

or a supper date!

Debi

> Today was just a terrible day for my 3 yr old. I started him on

> Nordic Naturals 4 days ago. He loves them and asks for them all

day.

> I had been only giving him 2 a day and trying to work to 3 a day.

> Each day he has gotten a little more hyper but this afternoon and

> evening he was HORRIBLE.

> Screaming, crying just miserable.

> Right now I am exhausted but wanted to know what you as parents do

on

> days like this. I feel bad dreading when he wakes up and can only

> pray he will be better tomorrow.

> I feel like I should give Nordic one more day and see if he does

> better tomorrow.

> Do you ever feel like a bad mom or dad because you dread the

> confrontation with them?

> Maybe I am just to tired and need to go to bed.

> thanks for listening to me vent

> Sherry

[Guest guest]

Oh Sherry, please don't give up this fast. Maybe just try giving him one per

day for starters. Let me tell you, my son was so crazy hyper and aggressive I

almost stopped giving it to him too and I'm soooo glad I hung in there. I

started him on one Pro-EFA per day on April 10th of this year. At that time he

had about 80 words and a hand full of two word phrases. The day after his first

fish oil capsule (I poke a hole in the capsule with a needle and squirt the

contents in orange juice and he drinks it - no problem at all) he said to me

clear as a bell, " Mommy, more juice. Catch! " and tossed me his sippy cup! I

almost fainted! Ofcourse the hyperness, aggression, screaming, tantrums,

throwing toys, inability to transition, etc... just seemed more and more

unbearable by the day. He was hyper to begin with so I was hoping the fish oil

would calm him down. You read all the things about more focused, better

attention, easier to teach, etc... but I saw none of that. His speech however

took off from day one. So I posted what I was seeing behavior-wise on another

group and I got several replies telling me it was to be expected, don't give up,

hang in there... it takes 2-3 weeks. Everyone described it like parts of the

brain had never been turned on (like a room kept in the dark) and now all of

these light switches were being flipped on all of a sudden and it was like WOW!

Sensory overload... like taking a bunch of cold medicine and drinking a pot of

coffee! So, it is crazy and I know you want to stop, but please don't,

especially after only 4 or 5 days. Not only did all of the

" bouncing-off-the-wall behavior stop after the 3 weeks, he did start to get

calmer, more focused, better eye contact, easier to teach, etc... I now give my

son 2 Pro-EFA and one Pro-DHA (thinking of changing this to Pro-EPA) and he says

300+ words and speaks in 3-5 word phrases!!! He just turned 3 on 7/13 and

speaks at the level of a 2 1/2 year old. This is a boy who had 12-15 words at

27 months of age and mainly said Moma. He's having a language spurt right now.

Yesterday he said, " No Nite Nite. Go play at park! " ; " No Pooh, want Clues. " ;

" Wake up Daddy. " ; " Good morning Daddy. " ; " fish bubbles " . So, that's our story.

You can do it. Oh, I'll tell you one more phrase since you had a bad Mommy

day... " No phone in tub. " He learned that one after he threw our only telephone

in the bathtub and we had to go out and buy a new telephone. :-) KIM

[ ] what eases a bad day for you as a parent? **OT**

Today was just a terrible day for my 3 yr old. I started him on

Nordic Naturals 4 days ago. He loves them and asks for them all day.

I had been only giving him 2 a day and trying to work to 3 a day.

Each day he has gotten a little more hyper but this afternoon and

evening he was HORRIBLE.

Screaming, crying just miserable.

Right now I am exhausted but wanted to know what you as parents do on

days like this. I feel bad dreading when he wakes up and can only

pray he will be better tomorrow.

I feel like I should give Nordic one more day and see if he does

better tomorrow.

Do you ever feel like a bad mom or dad because you dread the

confrontation with them?

Maybe I am just to tired and need to go to bed.

thanks for listening to me vent

Sherry

[Guest guest]

Sherry,

On a bad day, I shop at the Gap and I always get something for

myself. They always have something on sale and I always feel better

in new clothes.

As for my son, I do an activity that he enjoys, like swimming,

watching TV, A ride in the golf cart. I just do something were I

can watch him have fun and when he falls asleep, I just stare at him.

Another thing I do on a bad day is listen to my tapes, " Anatomy of

the Spirit " , or other tapes By Caroline Myss. This always gives me a

boost to look at the positive side of things.

nne

> Today was just a terrible day for my 3 yr old. I started him on

> Nordic Naturals 4 days ago. He loves them and asks for them all

day.

> I had been only giving him 2 a day and trying to work to 3 a day.

> Each day he has gotten a little more hyper but this afternoon and

> evening he was HORRIBLE.

> Screaming, crying just miserable.

> Right now I am exhausted but wanted to know what you as parents do

on

> days like this. I feel bad dreading when he wakes up and can only

> pray he will be better tomorrow.

> I feel like I should give Nordic one more day and see if he does

> better tomorrow.

> Do you ever feel like a bad mom or dad because you dread the

> confrontation with them?

> Maybe I am just to tired and need to go to bed.

> thanks for listening to me vent

> Sherry

[Guest guest]

Sherry,

There are two things that help me alot. Number one, I look back and

remember the good days that Josh has had. He has lots of good ones now, but

every once in a while he's so bad, I think we are having a total regression.

#2 I have a group of women that I trust pray for and for our family.

Prayer is such a soothing activity.

As far as feeling like a bad mom, I have felt that way many times and I

believe it's natural. I have 5 kids and they all know just how imperfect I

am. There are days when I fall into bed and wonder how I will be able to

face tomorrow... then I remember the progress that Josh is making and how

much I love him. Then I think of my other 4 kids and how they need a Mom

that will be there no matter what happens. Then I remember my faithful spouse

of 20 years and know how blessed I am that he's stayed with me all these

years.

Try to let yourself have a good cry and don't be too hard on your self. If

you can, try to get a sitter and leave your child for a few hours.

Something that I have discovered in 19 years of being a mom.... My kids get

SICK OF ME somtimes and they need a break from ME! We all need time to

get away and take care of ourselves. We won't do our kids any good if we

work ourselves to death. Take a 3 hour vacation from Autism (more if you can

manage it).

Also, try to keep a journal of the good days so you can have something to

look at when you feel like you are just going to explode. Hang in there and

give yourself a break... I'm sure you deserve one right about now.

Prayers and Hugs

Meyer

crazeladyshopper wrote:

> Today was just a terrible day for my 3 yr old. I started him on

> Nordic Naturals 4 days ago. He loves them and asks for them all day.

> I had been only giving him 2 a day and trying to work to 3 a day.

> Each day he has gotten a little more hyper but this afternoon and

> evening he was HORRIBLE.

> Screaming, crying just miserable.

> Right now I am exhausted but wanted to know what you as parents do on

> days like this. I feel bad dreading when he wakes up and can only

> pray he will be better tomorrow.

> I feel like I should give Nordic one more day and see if he does

> better tomorrow.

> Do you ever feel like a bad mom or dad because you dread the

> confrontation with them?

> Maybe I am just to tired and need to go to bed.

> thanks for listening to me vent

> Sherry

>

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[Guest guest]

Sherry, what's in nordic naturals? Obviously something your child is having

a problem with. Is it an omega 3 supp? Sometimes too much omega 3 makes my

son hyper. does it have any fillers?

Here's what I will tell you that may or may not cheer you up: you have a

VERY young son and yet you've started on this road of intervention. He will

get much better, better than you can imagine. My own son wasn't even diagnosed

until after 3 and he was non-verbal, smearing, etc. back then, only a

handful of people were chelating and the GFCF diet was considered NEW.

If only I knew back then....I tell myself. Well, guess what? You DO know

and your son is really young and things will pick up greatly.

A bad day is a blip, a comma. Ignore it and move on. You are doing great.

marti

[Guest guest]

Certainly, we all have days like this. My son has been acting out due to being

on Strattera. I am weaning him off of it, and yesterday was his first good day

in a few weeks. It's nice to see him returning to his old self.

As far as the Nordic Naturals go, I would probably just give one a day for a

week, than try to increase to two, than three. My son reacted badly to this

stuff, despite a gradual schedule. However, for many this works out well. You

just can't start off with too much.

a

--- " crazeladyshopper " <crazeladyshopper@...> wrote:

Do you ever feel like a bad mom or dad because you dread the

confrontation with them?

Maybe I am just to tired and need to go to bed.

thanks for listening to me vent

Sherry

[Guest guest]

Check the ingredients of the Nordic Naturals. Do they have flavorings or

food colorings? Some kids react to those. Do they contain Cod Liver Oil?

Some kids can take fish oil but not CLO. Do they contain any flax oil? This

agitates some kids. IMO if a new supplement is causing problems, you should

stop giving it. He won't get used to it.

>

> Today was just a terrible day for my 3 yr old. I started him on

> Nordic Naturals 4 days ago. He loves them and asks for them all day.

> I had been only giving him 2 a day and trying to work to 3 a day.

> Each day he has gotten a little more hyper but this afternoon and

> evening he was HORRIBLE.

> Screaming, crying just miserable.

[Guest guest]

Dear Sherry. What sometimes works for me is an e-mail like this. I too had a

very bad day today. Keegan has been screaming non-stop all day. Not angry

screaming just loud, pushing my buttons kind of screaming. Knowing that someone

else is human instead of a super parent makes me feel a little better. Not

every day can be perfect. Give yourself a break. Know that sometimes just

getting through the day is a major accomplishment. -Angie

[ ] what eases a bad day for you as a parent? **OT**

Today was just a terrible day for my 3 yr old. I started him on

Nordic Naturals 4 days ago. He loves them and asks for them all day.

I had been only giving him 2 a day and trying to work to 3 a day.

Each day he has gotten a little more hyper but this afternoon and

evening he was HORRIBLE.

Screaming, crying just miserable.

Right now I am exhausted but wanted to know what you as parents do on

days like this. I feel bad dreading when he wakes up and can only

pray he will be better tomorrow.

I feel like I should give Nordic one more day and see if he does

better tomorrow.

Do you ever feel like a bad mom or dad because you dread the

confrontation with them?

Maybe I am just to tired and need to go to bed.

thanks for listening to me vent

Sherry

[Guest guest]

Sherry - I would slow down. I think you may be moving to fast. My son is

VERY sensitive to any new medications my husband and I take the snail's pace and

my son does MUCH better. Hang in there. I usually play some nice music and

have ONE glass of wine.(ha ha)

[Guest guest]

---Hi Sherry,

My answer is in your post...PRAYER.

I have discovered that when I have the worst of bad days, which is

more often than I'd like... I give it to God. I say, " God,I can't do

this today...I give it all to You! " It really DOES work, and so

simple! Then I go and enjoy my son's beautiful smile.

Lindy

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In , " crazeladyshopper "

<crazeladyshopper@c...> wrote:

> Today was just a terrible day for my 3 yr old. I started him on

> Nordic Naturals 4 days ago. He loves them and asks for them all

day.

> I had been only giving him 2 a day and trying to work to 3 a day.

> Each day he has gotten a little more hyper but this afternoon and

> evening he was HORRIBLE.

> Screaming, crying just miserable.

> Right now I am exhausted but wanted to know what you as parents do

on

> days like this. I feel bad dreading when he wakes up and can only

> pray he will be better tomorrow.

> I feel like I should give Nordic one more day and see if he does

> better tomorrow.

> Do you ever feel like a bad mom or dad because you dread the

> confrontation with them?

> Maybe I am just to tired and need to go to bed.

> thanks for listening to me vent

> Sherry

[Guest guest]

CLO made my son grumpy until I supplemented evening

primrose oil first (omega 6). I learned this trick from one

of the lecturers at a DAN! conference.

[ ] what eases a bad day for you as a parent? **OT**

> Today was just a terrible day for my 3 yr old. I started him on

> Nordic Naturals 4 days ago. He loves them and asks for them all day.

> I had been only giving him 2 a day and trying to work to 3 a day.

> Each day he has gotten a little more hyper but this afternoon and

> evening he was HORRIBLE.

> Screaming, crying just miserable.

> Right now I am exhausted but wanted to know what you as parents do on

> days like this. I feel bad dreading when he wakes up and can only

> pray he will be better tomorrow.

> I feel like I should give Nordic one more day and see if he does

> better tomorrow.

> Do you ever feel like a bad mom or dad because you dread the

> confrontation with them?

> Maybe I am just to tired and need to go to bed.

> thanks for listening to me vent

> Sherry

>

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