Regarding surrogacy

[Guest guest]

I've taken a break from learning about surrogacy - gestational and

otherwise. I guess I know just enough to be dangerous now. Someone

mentioned in one of the posted I read tonight (Alma perhaps?) legal

issues with surrogacy in Texas. My state - Washington - has some

laws on the books that in effect " criminalize " surrogacy, but this

doesn't mean that it's not happening here and it doesn't mean that

it's illegal. It just means that you can't contract to pay a

surrogate a fee. I too don't have a family member or friend who is

able to offer to carry a child for us which does make a humungous

difference, but I certainly don't rule it out. Having your own

surrogate in mind sure seems like it could make a significant

difference financially. In any case, it's an expensive option, but

those of you who have gone through IVF no that that's not at all

cheap. I am completely prepared to pursue adoption - with the hope

of someday have a second child as well by whatever means possible -

but my DH is not comfortable with adoption. I don't have a legal

background (just some lawyer relatives I run things by) so my

understanding of surrogacy in that states that are " less supportive "

is largely my own interpretation. Just don't give it up too quickly

if you think that's the course that best suits your dreams.

- J.