Guest guest Posted January 14, 2004 Report Share Posted January 14, 2004 P.S. It's especially sad to me when I hear about foster parents who end up abusing these poor kids who have already been abused by their own parents. I just don't get it! Oh Donna you are so right! About seven years ago we had a four year old little girl here in town who was black and had been in a white foster family since birth. When they wanted to adopt her they were told that because of the race difference they could not and the case worker also took her without warning and placed her with a foster Mom who was also black, but she had seven SUBSTANTIATED complaints against her. Three weeks later she was killed by this woman when she had an accident in her pants. She was beaten until unrecognizable. Now don't get me wrong, I have met LOTS of sub par foster families and race has NOTHING to do with whether they were good or bad, it's just that in this case, this baby girl had been taken from the only family that she knew and was placed with a stranger and then was terribly abused for what was left of her life. One thing that did come of this case was that the laws were changed within a year allowing black foster families to adopt white foster children and the other way around as well. Thank God that they did because we were able to adopt our that very same year and now are trying for Keyone and Freddie. That's what I love best about our family, is our being multi cultural. We celebrate Luther King for what he accomplished for ALL of us, because we couldn't be a family without changes that are possible because of him, as well as Czar Chavez, not sure of that spelling, for our Bridget. Anyway, my point after this long old post was that you are right, it just kills me to see foster parent who take these kids who have already been through hell and then torment them some more. I think God has a special place in hell saved just for them. At least I hope he does. a C Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2004 Report Share Posted January 14, 2004 a C., You got that right, honey. I sure hope God has a special place in Hell for those foster parents who abuse children in any way, but most especially those who have already suffered from so much abuse in their short lives. My kids are a prime example. My daughter went from one abusive foster home to another until she ended up with me at the age of 14. By then, so much damage had been done to her emotionally and mentally that she will never be a fully functional adult and parent, herself. It is just so sad to watch and know I can't help her any more. My eldest son, also, is now an adult, and is being released from his placement in a mental health facility for disturbed youth. He will be located near the center in a supervised independent living placement, but I have heard nothing about how he is, where he will be, etc. He wants to contact with me or my other children because it would force him to "feel" something and he cannot tolerate that. My two youngest, thank the Lord, are coming along ok. They were not put into the foster system except for being in fragile infant homes until they were healthy enough to be placed for adoption. Of course, if I had had a choice, I would have taken them as fragile infants so we could have been together from the beginning, but they were fortunate to have loving foster homes until they were each two years old. This made it possible for them to form a healthy attachment to me, too. That foster business of dragging children from pillar to post just to satisfy some prejudice in the heart of a social worker is definitely not "in the best interests of the child". So grateful for you and others like you who take on these children and commit to them for life. Loving hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2004 Report Share Posted January 14, 2004 That foster business of dragging children from pillar to post just to satisfy some prejudice in the heart of a social worker is definitely not "in the best interests of the child". So grateful for you and others like you who take on these children and commit to them for life. Loving hugs, MM Thank you mm, we feel that we are honored to have them in our home to care for! a C Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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