My sis.....a carbon copy of NADA

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So I've had to go NC again with nada because she says she doesn't want a

relationship with me unless I stop talking with my dad and his family. My sis,

being so enmeshed with nada, is mad at me too.

We've had minimal interaction lately...we work for the same company. She is

civil and polite to me at work. Although she did turn down some baked goods that

I made and brought in for everyone, reserving some for her only as I always do.

I expected that, though.

I don't want her to think that I don't care about her, even though I've made the

decision to stay away from nada and all of nadas messes, which unfortunately

right now, include my sis.

So I gave her a call today, and left her a message since she didn't answer. Just

said that I hope she was having a good weekend and that I was thinking of her

and love her.

A few minutes later I got a text message from her and this is what she said:

Hey I just got your message. Hope all is well. Things aren't the same and I

don't know how to handle it right now. It's hard for me to just call you up and

act like nothing is wrong. I love you and hope you are having a good weekend " .

Seems like a friendly enough message, but definitely not the sister that I know

and love.

It's bullsh**. She doesn't love me. Neither does my nada.

My nada says she will ALWAYS love me, but wants nothing to do with me UNLESS I

stop talking to my dad. Is that love? When you love someone don't you want to

include them in your life?

I never want to hear those words from either of them ever again. I know they are

meaningless. You can't just get away with saying you love someone while at the

same time telling them they don't want anything to do with you. My sis is just

following my nada's footsteps. Keeping me out because I'm doing something

she/they doesn't like. I'm not doing anything wrong.

I really don't want to ever hear them say they love me. It actually sickens me.

~Sara Jo