Guest guest Posted July 31, 2010 Report Share Posted July 31, 2010 One scene from a movie - There was a comedy starring Gene Wilder, set in a spooky English mansion, with a cast of other comedians. One of these was Dom Dee, who dressed up as a woman for the part. In this one scene, he/she comes down the stairs like Norma Desmond in Sunset Boulevard, pauses dramatically, and in a high falsetto, declares, " This house is CURSED. " My husband started laughing his head off and elbowed me, hissing, " It's your mom! " Thinking about it, Norma Desmond is another character who reminds me of my Nada. Always the drama, always the star. I'm not sure if that makes me Holden, the chauffeur, or the chimp. > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2010 Report Share Posted July 31, 2010 One scene from a movie - There was a comedy starring Gene Wilder, set in a spooky English mansion, with a cast of other comedians. One of these was Dom Dee, who dressed up as a woman for the part. In this one scene, he/she comes down the stairs like Norma Desmond in Sunset Boulevard, pauses dramatically, and in a high falsetto, declares, " This house is CURSED. " My husband started laughing his head off and elbowed me, hissing, " It's your mom! " Thinking about it, Norma Desmond is another character who reminds me of my Nada. Always the drama, always the star. I'm not sure if that makes me Holden, the chauffeur, or the chimp. > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2010 Report Share Posted July 31, 2010 Manque - OMG, every time I find myself becoming overcontrolling or hovering to my teenaged son, one or the other of us will say, " Come back in Mama's bedroom and let me brush your hair " like Kathy Bates in The Waterboy. She was priceless. And the whole fake-coma thing was SO my Nada! > > > > > > Hey Guys, > > > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > > > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > > > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > > > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > > > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > > > > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > > > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > > > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > > > > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > > > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > > > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > > > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > > > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > > > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > > > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > > > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > > > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > > > > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > > > XOXO Girlscout > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2010 Report Share Posted July 31, 2010 I have SO got to watch that movie again! > > > > > > > > Hey Guys, > > > > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > > > > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > > > > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > > > > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > > > > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > > > > > > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > > > > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > > > > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > > > > > > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > > > > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > > > > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > > > > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > > > > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > > > > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > > > > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > > > > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > > > > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > > > > > > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > > > > XOXO Girlscout > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2010 Report Share Posted July 31, 2010 " I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > > load? " This one keeps making me laugh. I am trying to write a novel with BPD characters, and I'm at the stage where it's time to clean up the opening and put in real stuff that I didn't have time to research before, such as police radio dialogue. My story has a BP threatening suicide with a gun, and I had to ask how that would come over across the police radio. My cop answered back with this line: " Unit 125, respond to 1710 Stockton in reference to an armed mental party. " That line is just priceless. So now, after a short prologue, you will turn to Chapter One and read its title: " Armed Mental Party. " I mean, is that the greatest description of BPD you've ever read??? *falling over laughing* --. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2010 Report Share Posted July 31, 2010 " I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > > load? " This one keeps making me laugh. I am trying to write a novel with BPD characters, and I'm at the stage where it's time to clean up the opening and put in real stuff that I didn't have time to research before, such as police radio dialogue. My story has a BP threatening suicide with a gun, and I had to ask how that would come over across the police radio. My cop answered back with this line: " Unit 125, respond to 1710 Stockton in reference to an armed mental party. " That line is just priceless. So now, after a short prologue, you will turn to Chapter One and read its title: " Armed Mental Party. " I mean, is that the greatest description of BPD you've ever read??? *falling over laughing* --. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 1, 2010 Report Share Posted August 1, 2010 Oh, Irene. I am so using that!!! > > > > Ha ha ha, love these! Love the primate, can totally see it. Grumpy Old Men > > ha ha ha. Love the diaper, bonnet, bottle, I've thought of that one for my > > nada many times. > > > > See if you can find others. I know its dumb, but it totally helps! No one > > said Mommy Dearest yet, that one works for me, too. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 1, 2010 Report Share Posted August 1, 2010 Oh, Irene. I am so using that!!! > > > > Ha ha ha, love these! Love the primate, can totally see it. Grumpy Old Men > > ha ha ha. Love the diaper, bonnet, bottle, I've thought of that one for my > > nada many times. > > > > See if you can find others. I know its dumb, but it totally helps! No one > > said Mommy Dearest yet, that one works for me, too. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 1, 2010 Report Share Posted August 1, 2010 Oh, Irene. I am so using that!!! > > > > Ha ha ha, love these! Love the primate, can totally see it. Grumpy Old Men > > ha ha ha. Love the diaper, bonnet, bottle, I've thought of that one for my > > nada many times. > > > > See if you can find others. I know its dumb, but it totally helps! No one > > said Mommy Dearest yet, that one works for me, too. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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