Guest guest Posted July 18, 2002 Report Share Posted July 18, 2002 I have no idea, Vicki. I really don't. I'm just so freaking scared to rock the boat and I'm so intimidated by my Rheummy. My GP is away in Ireland and when I asked her before she left, who I should contact if I had a flare or any concerns, she told me to contact the Dr. who's filling in for her at her office and not my Rheummy. I presume it's because she knows him well and knows the kind of personality he has. I dunno. Honestly, Vicki, I could just sit and cry for days. I'm feeling soooooo drained and worn out from all of this and feel as if I have no help or support, other than my hubby and all of my friends here. Yesterday when I posted my " ouch, ouch, ouch " post, I was at my wits end from the pain and had no help with my kids and didn't know what I was going to do. I almost called hubby to come home but knew we couldn't afford that, as his is our only income. So, I laid on the couch for 3 hours with Marlee sitting next to my head on her little chair and Emma laying on my chest and napping herself. Thank God when I got up, the pain was much better. I'm sorry for complaining and whining so much. I know you all have your days too. Love, Dawn anzavic@... wrote: > Hi Dawn > > I would like to ask why you're willing to wait two weeks to talk with > your doctor about the pain you're in? > > Take care, > Vicki > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2002 Report Share Posted July 18, 2002 I have no idea, Vicki. I really don't. I'm just so freaking scared to rock the boat and I'm so intimidated by my Rheummy. My GP is away in Ireland and when I asked her before she left, who I should contact if I had a flare or any concerns, she told me to contact the Dr. who's filling in for her at her office and not my Rheummy. I presume it's because she knows him well and knows the kind of personality he has. I dunno. Honestly, Vicki, I could just sit and cry for days. I'm feeling soooooo drained and worn out from all of this and feel as if I have no help or support, other than my hubby and all of my friends here. Yesterday when I posted my " ouch, ouch, ouch " post, I was at my wits end from the pain and had no help with my kids and didn't know what I was going to do. I almost called hubby to come home but knew we couldn't afford that, as his is our only income. So, I laid on the couch for 3 hours with Marlee sitting next to my head on her little chair and Emma laying on my chest and napping herself. Thank God when I got up, the pain was much better. I'm sorry for complaining and whining so much. I know you all have your days too. Love, Dawn anzavic@... wrote: > Hi Dawn > > I would like to ask why you're willing to wait two weeks to talk with > your doctor about the pain you're in? > > Take care, > Vicki > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2002 Report Share Posted July 18, 2002 So, you can endure the pain but not the pain of being humiliated, eh? I know exactly where you are coming from, Dawn...and it takes some serious attitude changing from within to deal with this, but I think it's time. Why are you so scared of this man? All he can say is no. If he does it in a rude manner, well, that's no reflection on you at all!!! He's a poor slob, and that's the way you should view him. Y'know, this would be hard to do...but I would just tell him how you feel. Tell him he scares you and you wish you had a better rapport with him. Maybe if you present it to him front and center, you might see some changes. And then, maybe not...having no expectations going in is the best approach. But at least you have honored yourself and spoken your truth. And here's something for you to think about...you said you didn't want to get upset in front of your kids when those women spoke so rudely...your kids know pretty well when you're upset. How you handle yourself is teaching them how to handle things, too. It was a hard lesson for me to grasp, too...and I think I did too late. So, call the doc...tell the nurse (chances are that's who you'll talk to at first anyway) how you feel and what you need. Write down a script if it helps. But please, Dawn, do something for yourself...the longer you take no action, the longer you'll stew about it, create stress and the longer a bad situation goes on. I hate hearing you are in such pain...not a good situation, Dawn, not good at all! I want the best for you!! Please! Hugs, Lynn --- Dawn Green wrote: > I have no idea, Vicki. I really don't. I'm just so > freaking scared to rock > the boat and I'm so intimidated by my Rheummy. My > GP is away in Ireland and > when I asked her before she left, who I should > contact if I had a flare or > any concerns, she told me to contact the Dr. who's > filling in for her at her > office and not my Rheummy. I presume it's because > she knows him well and > knows the kind of personality he has. I dunno. > Honestly, Vicki, I could > just sit and cry for days. I'm feeling soooooo > drained and worn out from all > of this and feel as if I have no help or support, > other than my hubby and all > of my friends here. Yesterday when I posted my > " ouch, ouch, ouch " post, I > was at my wits end from the pain and had no help > with my kids and didn't know > what I was going to do. I almost called hubby to > come home but knew we > couldn't afford that, as his is our only income. > So, I laid on the couch for > 3 hours with Marlee sitting next to my head on her > little chair and Emma > laying on my chest and napping herself. Thank God > when I got up, the pain > was much better. I'm sorry for complaining and > whining so much. I know you > all have your days too. > > Love, > Dawn > > anzavic@... wrote: > > > Hi Dawn > > > > I would like to ask why you're willing to wait two > weeks to talk with > > your doctor about the pain you're in? > > > > Take care, > > Vicki > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2002 Report Share Posted July 18, 2002 So, you can endure the pain but not the pain of being humiliated, eh? I know exactly where you are coming from, Dawn...and it takes some serious attitude changing from within to deal with this, but I think it's time. Why are you so scared of this man? All he can say is no. If he does it in a rude manner, well, that's no reflection on you at all!!! He's a poor slob, and that's the way you should view him. Y'know, this would be hard to do...but I would just tell him how you feel. Tell him he scares you and you wish you had a better rapport with him. Maybe if you present it to him front and center, you might see some changes. And then, maybe not...having no expectations going in is the best approach. But at least you have honored yourself and spoken your truth. And here's something for you to think about...you said you didn't want to get upset in front of your kids when those women spoke so rudely...your kids know pretty well when you're upset. How you handle yourself is teaching them how to handle things, too. It was a hard lesson for me to grasp, too...and I think I did too late. So, call the doc...tell the nurse (chances are that's who you'll talk to at first anyway) how you feel and what you need. Write down a script if it helps. But please, Dawn, do something for yourself...the longer you take no action, the longer you'll stew about it, create stress and the longer a bad situation goes on. I hate hearing you are in such pain...not a good situation, Dawn, not good at all! I want the best for you!! Please! Hugs, Lynn --- Dawn Green wrote: > I have no idea, Vicki. I really don't. I'm just so > freaking scared to rock > the boat and I'm so intimidated by my Rheummy. My > GP is away in Ireland and > when I asked her before she left, who I should > contact if I had a flare or > any concerns, she told me to contact the Dr. who's > filling in for her at her > office and not my Rheummy. I presume it's because > she knows him well and > knows the kind of personality he has. I dunno. > Honestly, Vicki, I could > just sit and cry for days. I'm feeling soooooo > drained and worn out from all > of this and feel as if I have no help or support, > other than my hubby and all > of my friends here. Yesterday when I posted my > " ouch, ouch, ouch " post, I > was at my wits end from the pain and had no help > with my kids and didn't know > what I was going to do. I almost called hubby to > come home but knew we > couldn't afford that, as his is our only income. > So, I laid on the couch for > 3 hours with Marlee sitting next to my head on her > little chair and Emma > laying on my chest and napping herself. Thank God > when I got up, the pain > was much better. I'm sorry for complaining and > whining so much. I know you > all have your days too. > > Love, > Dawn > > anzavic@... wrote: > > > Hi Dawn > > > > I would like to ask why you're willing to wait two > weeks to talk with > > your doctor about the pain you're in? > > > > Take care, > > Vicki > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2002 Report Share Posted July 18, 2002 So, you can endure the pain but not the pain of being humiliated, eh? I know exactly where you are coming from, Dawn...and it takes some serious attitude changing from within to deal with this, but I think it's time. Why are you so scared of this man? All he can say is no. If he does it in a rude manner, well, that's no reflection on you at all!!! He's a poor slob, and that's the way you should view him. Y'know, this would be hard to do...but I would just tell him how you feel. Tell him he scares you and you wish you had a better rapport with him. Maybe if you present it to him front and center, you might see some changes. And then, maybe not...having no expectations going in is the best approach. But at least you have honored yourself and spoken your truth. And here's something for you to think about...you said you didn't want to get upset in front of your kids when those women spoke so rudely...your kids know pretty well when you're upset. How you handle yourself is teaching them how to handle things, too. It was a hard lesson for me to grasp, too...and I think I did too late. So, call the doc...tell the nurse (chances are that's who you'll talk to at first anyway) how you feel and what you need. Write down a script if it helps. But please, Dawn, do something for yourself...the longer you take no action, the longer you'll stew about it, create stress and the longer a bad situation goes on. I hate hearing you are in such pain...not a good situation, Dawn, not good at all! I want the best for you!! Please! Hugs, Lynn --- Dawn Green wrote: > I have no idea, Vicki. I really don't. I'm just so > freaking scared to rock > the boat and I'm so intimidated by my Rheummy. My > GP is away in Ireland and > when I asked her before she left, who I should > contact if I had a flare or > any concerns, she told me to contact the Dr. who's > filling in for her at her > office and not my Rheummy. I presume it's because > she knows him well and > knows the kind of personality he has. I dunno. > Honestly, Vicki, I could > just sit and cry for days. I'm feeling soooooo > drained and worn out from all > of this and feel as if I have no help or support, > other than my hubby and all > of my friends here. Yesterday when I posted my > " ouch, ouch, ouch " post, I > was at my wits end from the pain and had no help > with my kids and didn't know > what I was going to do. I almost called hubby to > come home but knew we > couldn't afford that, as his is our only income. > So, I laid on the couch for > 3 hours with Marlee sitting next to my head on her > little chair and Emma > laying on my chest and napping herself. Thank God > when I got up, the pain > was much better. I'm sorry for complaining and > whining so much. I know you > all have your days too. > > Love, > Dawn > > anzavic@... wrote: > > > Hi Dawn > > > > I would like to ask why you're willing to wait two > weeks to talk with > > your doctor about the pain you're in? > > > > Take care, > > Vicki > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2002 Report Share Posted July 18, 2002 Geez, if you're in a mind fog now, Vicki...I dunno...I couldn't be more impressed with your response. You are totally right on, and our Dawnie-Pooh had better do some serious soul-searching and get a handle on this now. Remember the Helen Reddy song - " I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar " (that was a song, wasn't it? My memory is gone!) Start roaring, Dawn! Seriously, everything you said is 100% correct and it's time to handle the fear...this man puts his pants on the exact same way we do. I'd confront him even if it meant shaking in my shoes and peeing in my pants, damned if I'd let it go on any longer. Ya get to that point, y'know? And I know it's going to affect the kids cause they don't want mom in pain and crying, that's kinda scary for them. And if that isn't a good reason to send them to Dawn's sis...well, I don't know what would be. Seems like the opportunity to start the healing process and give Dawn some breathing room. The kids won't suffer for it and neither will Dawn...space apart from loved ones isn't necessarily a bad thing. Especially when it is probably in her best interest at this point. Gee, Dawn...I hope you don't feel like we're ganging up on you...quite the contrary...I see myself in your post years ago. Things I could have done differently if I had someone to give me this kind of advice and make me think...there's a lot of regrets, maybe you can lessen your load by one if you listen to Vicki and me. I have been in your shoes, sweetie! So...please, consider what we've said and act on your behalf! It won't be as bad as you fear...I promise you! Lynn --- anzavic@... wrote: > > Hi Dawn.... > > I'm sure you've already seen this on the MAA board > but I thought I would > give you the link anyway just in case. > > <a > href= " http://www.myositis.org/myositisBoard/posts/26710.html " > > click > here </a> > > All I can say is that if this rheumy is so > intimidating to you... it's > time to move on even if it means driving further. > Your health is far > more important than the miles it might take to see a > new doctor. > > I have to ask if this were your child going through > this pain and had > the same Rheumy.... would you sit back and say > nothing????? I know you > wouldn't because your children are precious to you > and you wouldn't want > to see her in pain. With that said, I have to > ask... do you think your > loved ones want you in pain? Unable to move around? > Crying? NO!!!!! > They don't..... then why don't you think you deserve > the same treatment > you would want for your kids or husband? > Is " not rocking the boat " with the doctor more > important than you are? > No he's not... so speak up or better yet, get > another doctor. > > Please call the doctor who's taking charge of your > GP's office while > she's gone. Constant pain is not good and will wear > on you..as I'm sure > you already know. To wait two weeks is not good, > for you or your > family. > > ****Thank God when I got up, the pain > was much better.**** > > The answer is right there... your body is telling > you it needs > rest....it's tired. I realize it's very hard when > you have little ones > around so please re-think of sending the girls for a > week to your > sisters. It's not only for you but for them as > well. You need that > time to recoup. > > ****I'm sorry for complaining and whining so > much.**** > > Nonsense... that's what this list is for. How else > am I going to give > you heck for not resting if you won't tell us? > > ****I know you all have your days too.**** > > Yep, that's where I'm at... at the moment. So > you've got company. > > I want all of you to know that I sometimes don't > come across very well > in what I want to say. Currently I'm in a mind fog > and it's hard to > express what I want. I don't mean to sound pushy > only concerned for > your well being. Read Lori's letter again, it says > it all. > > Hugs > Vicki > > ===== Hope sweet, walk light, sleep deep, wake bright __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 2002 Report Share Posted July 19, 2002 No, I won't bet with you because I know you're right. Since GP is in Ireland, I've decided to call his office TODAY. Keep your fingers crossed for me.... Dawn Lynn wrote: > I want to make a bet with you...if you wait two weeks > to tell him you're in all this pain, he's going to get > a pissy attitude with you and think it can't be > hurting you that bad! > > Whaddya say, Dawnie-Pooh? Do we have a bet?? > > Lynn > > --- Dawn Green wrote: > > Hi, Lynn. I know I'm a wuss...I don't deny it. > > LOL. I'm really going to > > try to be braver when I go to see him in a couple > > weeks. In the meantime, if > > my pain gets worse, I'll call my GP. Thanks for > > your advice....I really > > appreciate it. ) > > > > Dawn > > > > Lynn wrote: > > > > > So, you can endure the pain but not the pain of > > being > > > humiliated, eh? I know exactly where you are > > coming > > > from, Dawn...and it takes some serious attitude > > > changing from within to deal with this, but I > > think > > > it's time. > > > > > > Why are you so scared of this man? All he can say > > is > > > no. If he does it in a rude manner, well, that's > > no > > > reflection on you at all!!! He's a poor slob, and > > > that's the way you should view him. Y'know, this > > > would be hard to do...but I would just tell him > > how > > > you feel. Tell him he scares you and you wish you > > had > > > a better rapport with him. > > > > > > Maybe if you present it to him front and center, > > you > > > might see some changes. > > > > > > And then, maybe not...having no expectations going > > in > > > is the best approach. But at least you have > > honored > > > yourself and spoken your truth. > > > > > > And here's something for you to think about...you > > said > > > you didn't want to get upset in front of your kids > > > when those women spoke so rudely...your kids know > > > pretty well when you're upset. How you handle > > > yourself is teaching them how to handle things, > > too. > > > It was a hard lesson for me to grasp, too...and I > > > think I did too late. > > > > > > So, call the doc...tell the nurse (chances are > > that's > > > who you'll talk to at first anyway) how you feel > > and > > > what you need. Write down a script if it helps. > > But > > > please, Dawn, do something for yourself...the > > longer > > > you take no action, the longer you'll stew about > > it, > > > create stress and the longer a bad situation goes > > on. > > > I hate hearing you are in such pain...not a good > > > situation, Dawn, not good at all! I want the best > > for > > > you!! Please! > > > > > > Hugs, > > > Lynn > > > > > > --- Dawn Green wrote: > > > > I have no idea, Vicki. I really don't. I'm > > just so > > > > freaking scared to rock > > > > the boat and I'm so intimidated by my Rheummy. > > My > > > > GP is away in Ireland and > > > > when I asked her before she left, who I should > > > > contact if I had a flare or > > > > any concerns, she told me to contact the Dr. > > who's > > > > filling in for her at her > > > > office and not my Rheummy. I presume it's > > because > > > > she knows him well and > > > > knows the kind of personality he has. I dunno. > > > > Honestly, Vicki, I could > > > > just sit and cry for days. I'm feeling soooooo > > > > drained and worn out from all > > > > of this and feel as if I have no help or > > support, > > > > other than my hubby and all > > > > of my friends here. Yesterday when I posted my > > > > " ouch, ouch, ouch " post, I > > > > was at my wits end from the pain and had no help > > > > with my kids and didn't know > > > > what I was going to do. I almost called hubby > > to > > > > come home but knew we > > > > couldn't afford that, as his is our only income. > > > > So, I laid on the couch for > > > > 3 hours with Marlee sitting next to my head on > > her > > > > little chair and Emma > > > > laying on my chest and napping herself. Thank > > God > > > > when I got up, the pain > > > > was much better. I'm sorry for complaining and > > > > whining so much. I know you > > > > all have your days too. > > > > > > > > Love, > > > > Dawn > > > > > > > > anzavic@... wrote: > > > > > > > > > Hi Dawn > > > > > > > > > > I would like to ask why you're willing to wait > > two > > > > weeks to talk with > > > > > your doctor about the pain you're in? > > > > > > > > > > Take care, > > > > > Vicki > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 2002 Report Share Posted July 19, 2002 Fingers, legs, and eyes are crossed, Dawn...don't make me wait too long...I don't want to get stuck this way! LOL!! Lynn --- Dawn Green wrote: > No, I won't bet with you because I know you're > right. Since GP is in > Ireland, I've decided to call his office TODAY. > Keep your fingers crossed > for me.... > > Dawn > > Lynn wrote: > > > I want to make a bet with you...if you wait two > weeks > > to tell him you're in all this pain, he's going to > get > > a pissy attitude with you and think it can't be > > hurting you that bad! > > > > Whaddya say, Dawnie-Pooh? Do we have a bet?? > > > > Lynn > > > > --- Dawn Green wrote: > > > Hi, Lynn. I know I'm a wuss...I don't deny it. > > > LOL. I'm really going to > > > try to be braver when I go to see him in a > couple > > > weeks. In the meantime, if > > > my pain gets worse, I'll call my GP. Thanks for > > > your advice....I really > > > appreciate it. ) > > > > > > Dawn > > > > > > Lynn wrote: > > > > > > > So, you can endure the pain but not the pain > of > > > being > > > > humiliated, eh? I know exactly where you are > > > coming > > > > from, Dawn...and it takes some serious > attitude > > > > changing from within to deal with this, but I > > > think > > > > it's time. > > > > > > > > Why are you so scared of this man? All he can > say > > > is > > > > no. If he does it in a rude manner, well, > that's > > > no > > > > reflection on you at all!!! He's a poor slob, > and > > > > that's the way you should view him. Y'know, > this > > > > would be hard to do...but I would just tell > him > > > how > > > > you feel. Tell him he scares you and you wish > you > > > had > > > > a better rapport with him. > > > > > > > > Maybe if you present it to him front and > center, > > > you > > > > might see some changes. > > > > > > > > And then, maybe not...having no expectations > going > > > in > > > > is the best approach. But at least you have > > > honored > > > > yourself and spoken your truth. > > > > > > > > And here's something for you to think > about...you > > > said > > > > you didn't want to get upset in front of your > kids > > > > when those women spoke so rudely...your kids > know > > > > pretty well when you're upset. How you handle > > > > yourself is teaching them how to handle > things, > > > too. > > > > It was a hard lesson for me to grasp, > too...and I > > > > think I did too late. > > > > > > > > So, call the doc...tell the nurse (chances are > > > that's > > > > who you'll talk to at first anyway) how you > feel > > > and > > > > what you need. Write down a script if it > helps. > > > But > > > > please, Dawn, do something for yourself...the > > > longer > > > > you take no action, the longer you'll stew > about > > > it, > > > > create stress and the longer a bad situation > goes > > > on. > > > > I hate hearing you are in such pain...not a > good > > > > situation, Dawn, not good at all! I want the > best > > > for > > > > you!! Please! > > > > > > > > Hugs, > > > > Lynn > > > > > > > > --- Dawn Green wrote: > > > > > I have no idea, Vicki. I really don't. I'm > > > just so > > > > > freaking scared to rock > > > > > the boat and I'm so intimidated by my > Rheummy. > > > My > > > > > GP is away in Ireland and > > > > > when I asked her before she left, who I > should > > > > > contact if I had a flare or > > > > > any concerns, she told me to contact the Dr. > > > who's > > > > > filling in for her at her > > > > > office and not my Rheummy. I presume it's > > > because > > > > > she knows him well and > > > > > knows the kind of personality he has. I > dunno. > > > > > Honestly, Vicki, I could > > > > > just sit and cry for days. I'm feeling > soooooo > > > > > drained and worn out from all > > > > > of this and feel as if I have no help or > > > support, > > > > > other than my hubby and all > > > > > of my friends here. Yesterday when I posted > my > > > > > " ouch, ouch, ouch " post, I > > > > > was at my wits end from the pain and had no > help > > > > > with my kids and didn't know > > > > > what I was going to do. I almost called > hubby > > > to > > > > > come home but knew we > > > > > couldn't afford that, as his is our only > income. > > > > > So, I laid on the couch for > > > > > 3 hours with Marlee sitting next to my head > on > > > her > > > > > little chair and Emma > > > > > laying on my chest and napping herself. > Thank > > > God > > > > > when I got up, the pain > > > > > was much better. I'm sorry for complaining > and > > > > > whining so much. I know you > > > > > all have your days too. > > > > > > > > > > Love, > > > > > Dawn > > > > > > > > > > anzavic@... wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > Hi Dawn > > > > > > > > > > > > I would like to ask why you're willing to > wait > > > two > > > > > weeks to talk with > > > > > > your doctor about the pain you're in? > > > > > > > > > > > > Take care, > > > > > > Vicki > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 2002 Report Share Posted July 19, 2002 Fingers, legs, and eyes are crossed, Dawn...don't make me wait too long...I don't want to get stuck this way! LOL!! Lynn --- Dawn Green wrote: > No, I won't bet with you because I know you're > right. Since GP is in > Ireland, I've decided to call his office TODAY. > Keep your fingers crossed > for me.... > > Dawn > > Lynn wrote: > > > I want to make a bet with you...if you wait two > weeks > > to tell him you're in all this pain, he's going to > get > > a pissy attitude with you and think it can't be > > hurting you that bad! > > > > Whaddya say, Dawnie-Pooh? Do we have a bet?? > > > > Lynn > > > > --- Dawn Green wrote: > > > Hi, Lynn. I know I'm a wuss...I don't deny it. > > > LOL. I'm really going to > > > try to be braver when I go to see him in a > couple > > > weeks. In the meantime, if > > > my pain gets worse, I'll call my GP. Thanks for > > > your advice....I really > > > appreciate it. ) > > > > > > Dawn > > > > > > Lynn wrote: > > > > > > > So, you can endure the pain but not the pain > of > > > being > > > > humiliated, eh? I know exactly where you are > > > coming > > > > from, Dawn...and it takes some serious > attitude > > > > changing from within to deal with this, but I > > > think > > > > it's time. > > > > > > > > Why are you so scared of this man? All he can > say > > > is > > > > no. If he does it in a rude manner, well, > that's > > > no > > > > reflection on you at all!!! He's a poor slob, > and > > > > that's the way you should view him. Y'know, > this > > > > would be hard to do...but I would just tell > him > > > how > > > > you feel. Tell him he scares you and you wish > you > > > had > > > > a better rapport with him. > > > > > > > > Maybe if you present it to him front and > center, > > > you > > > > might see some changes. > > > > > > > > And then, maybe not...having no expectations > going > > > in > > > > is the best approach. But at least you have > > > honored > > > > yourself and spoken your truth. > > > > > > > > And here's something for you to think > about...you > > > said > > > > you didn't want to get upset in front of your > kids > > > > when those women spoke so rudely...your kids > know > > > > pretty well when you're upset. How you handle > > > > yourself is teaching them how to handle > things, > > > too. > > > > It was a hard lesson for me to grasp, > too...and I > > > > think I did too late. > > > > > > > > So, call the doc...tell the nurse (chances are > > > that's > > > > who you'll talk to at first anyway) how you > feel > > > and > > > > what you need. Write down a script if it > helps. > > > But > > > > please, Dawn, do something for yourself...the > > > longer > > > > you take no action, the longer you'll stew > about > > > it, > > > > create stress and the longer a bad situation > goes > > > on. > > > > I hate hearing you are in such pain...not a > good > > > > situation, Dawn, not good at all! I want the > best > > > for > > > > you!! Please! > > > > > > > > Hugs, > > > > Lynn > > > > > > > > --- Dawn Green wrote: > > > > > I have no idea, Vicki. I really don't. I'm > > > just so > > > > > freaking scared to rock > > > > > the boat and I'm so intimidated by my > Rheummy. > > > My > > > > > GP is away in Ireland and > > > > > when I asked her before she left, who I > should > > > > > contact if I had a flare or > > > > > any concerns, she told me to contact the Dr. > > > who's > > > > > filling in for her at her > > > > > office and not my Rheummy. I presume it's > > > because > > > > > she knows him well and > > > > > knows the kind of personality he has. I > dunno. > > > > > Honestly, Vicki, I could > > > > > just sit and cry for days. I'm feeling > soooooo > > > > > drained and worn out from all > > > > > of this and feel as if I have no help or > > > support, > > > > > other than my hubby and all > > > > > of my friends here. Yesterday when I posted > my > > > > > " ouch, ouch, ouch " post, I > > > > > was at my wits end from the pain and had no > help > > > > > with my kids and didn't know > > > > > what I was going to do. I almost called > hubby > > > to > > > > > come home but knew we > > > > > couldn't afford that, as his is our only > income. > > > > > So, I laid on the couch for > > > > > 3 hours with Marlee sitting next to my head > on > > > her > > > > > little chair and Emma > > > > > laying on my chest and napping herself. > Thank > > > God > > > > > when I got up, the pain > > > > > was much better. I'm sorry for complaining > and > > > > > whining so much. I know you > > > > > all have your days too. > > > > > > > > > > Love, > > > > > Dawn > > > > > > > > > > anzavic@... wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > Hi Dawn > > > > > > > > > > > > I would like to ask why you're willing to > wait > > > two > > > > > weeks to talk with > > > > > > your doctor about the pain you're in? > > > > > > > > > > > > Take care, > > > > > > Vicki > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 19, 2002 Report Share Posted July 19, 2002 Fingers, legs, and eyes are crossed, Dawn...don't make me wait too long...I don't want to get stuck this way! LOL!! Lynn --- Dawn Green wrote: > No, I won't bet with you because I know you're > right. Since GP is in > Ireland, I've decided to call his office TODAY. > Keep your fingers crossed > for me.... > > Dawn > > Lynn wrote: > > > I want to make a bet with you...if you wait two > weeks > > to tell him you're in all this pain, he's going to > get > > a pissy attitude with you and think it can't be > > hurting you that bad! > > > > Whaddya say, Dawnie-Pooh? Do we have a bet?? > > > > Lynn > > > > --- Dawn Green wrote: > > > Hi, Lynn. I know I'm a wuss...I don't deny it. > > > LOL. I'm really going to > > > try to be braver when I go to see him in a > couple > > > weeks. In the meantime, if > > > my pain gets worse, I'll call my GP. Thanks for > > > your advice....I really > > > appreciate it. ) > > > > > > Dawn > > > > > > Lynn wrote: > > > > > > > So, you can endure the pain but not the pain > of > > > being > > > > humiliated, eh? I know exactly where you are > > > coming > > > > from, Dawn...and it takes some serious > attitude > > > > changing from within to deal with this, but I > > > think > > > > it's time. > > > > > > > > Why are you so scared of this man? All he can > say > > > is > > > > no. If he does it in a rude manner, well, > that's > > > no > > > > reflection on you at all!!! He's a poor slob, > and > > > > that's the way you should view him. Y'know, > this > > > > would be hard to do...but I would just tell > him > > > how > > > > you feel. Tell him he scares you and you wish > you > > > had > > > > a better rapport with him. > > > > > > > > Maybe if you present it to him front and > center, > > > you > > > > might see some changes. > > > > > > > > And then, maybe not...having no expectations > going > > > in > > > > is the best approach. But at least you have > > > honored > > > > yourself and spoken your truth. > > > > > > > > And here's something for you to think > about...you > > > said > > > > you didn't want to get upset in front of your > kids > > > > when those women spoke so rudely...your kids > know > > > > pretty well when you're upset. How you handle > > > > yourself is teaching them how to handle > things, > > > too. > > > > It was a hard lesson for me to grasp, > too...and I > > > > think I did too late. > > > > > > > > So, call the doc...tell the nurse (chances are > > > that's > > > > who you'll talk to at first anyway) how you > feel > > > and > > > > what you need. Write down a script if it > helps. > > > But > > > > please, Dawn, do something for yourself...the > > > longer > > > > you take no action, the longer you'll stew > about > > > it, > > > > create stress and the longer a bad situation > goes > > > on. > > > > I hate hearing you are in such pain...not a > good > > > > situation, Dawn, not good at all! I want the > best > > > for > > > > you!! Please! > > > > > > > > Hugs, > > > > Lynn > > > > > > > > --- Dawn Green wrote: > > > > > I have no idea, Vicki. I really don't. I'm > > > just so > > > > > freaking scared to rock > > > > > the boat and I'm so intimidated by my > Rheummy. > > > My > > > > > GP is away in Ireland and > > > > > when I asked her before she left, who I > should > > > > > contact if I had a flare or > > > > > any concerns, she told me to contact the Dr. > > > who's > > > > > filling in for her at her > > > > > office and not my Rheummy. I presume it's > > > because > > > > > she knows him well and > > > > > knows the kind of personality he has. I > dunno. > > > > > Honestly, Vicki, I could > > > > > just sit and cry for days. I'm feeling > soooooo > > > > > drained and worn out from all > > > > > of this and feel as if I have no help or > > > support, > > > > > other than my hubby and all > > > > > of my friends here. Yesterday when I posted > my > > > > > " ouch, ouch, ouch " post, I > > > > > was at my wits end from the pain and had no > help > > > > > with my kids and didn't know > > > > > what I was going to do. I almost called > hubby > > > to > > > > > come home but knew we > > > > > couldn't afford that, as his is our only > income. > > > > > So, I laid on the couch for > > > > > 3 hours with Marlee sitting next to my head > on > > > her > > > > > little chair and Emma > > > > > laying on my chest and napping herself. > Thank > > > God > > > > > when I got up, the pain > > > > > was much better. I'm sorry for complaining > and > > > > > whining so much. I know you > > > > > all have your days too. > > > > > > > > > > Love, > > > > > Dawn > > > > > > > > > > anzavic@... wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > Hi Dawn > > > > > > > > > > > > I would like to ask why you're willing to > wait > > > two > > > > > weeks to talk with > > > > > > your doctor about the pain you're in? > > > > > > > > > > > > Take care, > > > > > > Vicki > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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