School Box??

[Guest guest]

legally the school does have to work with you, but for the most part it is not worth the risk. Some lunches will be ok, but just work with the cafeteria workers about ingredients lists, brands, etc...

My son is 3 1/2 and in daycare too, and I provide his stuff. He gets pudding cups, jello cups, chips, crackers, fruit, cheese sticks, popcorn (he LOVES Smartfood), his cookies (see the pudding cookie postings for the recipe), and once a week the ice cream man comes around so that's what he gets that day.

From: SillyYaks [mailto:SillyYaks ] On Behalf Of niecee222Sent: Wednesday, August 17, 2005 1:06 PMTo: SillyYaks Subject: School Box??

I have heard some of you mention that you send a box of "goodies" to school for the teacher to keep in case of a "emergency". I am wondering what you put in the box. My 3 year old is starting pre-school/daycare on Monday and I am trying to get prepared. Out local highschool offers a daycare for the teachers in the school, but they also use it as a lab for the students during their child development classes. Anyway, they didn't have enough teachers use it this year so I got my 2 kids in. I am so excited! They only have 15 kids, and they have 3 full time adults so it is better than any day care I could find. Plus the students are in there alot so it is usually 1 to 1. Anyway, when I was talking to them about celiac they got so exicted and said, "we love food allergies". I was so confused until they told me it was a great learning experience for the students. They are going to have me come in and teach all of the students who will be working with my daughter and then someone will be assigned whenever there is food in the room to watch my daughter constantly.Anyway, I have Danna Korn's book and a list of forbidden foods, a note from the doctor, and I want to put togther a snack box. Does anyone have any great ideas, or ideas for something I am missing?Also, has anyone had any luck with school lunch? I told the teachers that I would jsut bring her own, but they told me that legally the school would have to work with me; I just don't know if it is worth the risk. All of the other kids will be eating school lunch, and I don't want her to feel left out, but I don't want her sick more....ThanksJonyceThanks

[Guest guest]

legally the school does have to work with you, but for the most part it is not worth the risk. Some lunches will be ok, but just work with the cafeteria workers about ingredients lists, brands, etc...

My son is 3 1/2 and in daycare too, and I provide his stuff. He gets pudding cups, jello cups, chips, crackers, fruit, cheese sticks, popcorn (he LOVES Smartfood), his cookies (see the pudding cookie postings for the recipe), and once a week the ice cream man comes around so that's what he gets that day.

From: SillyYaks [mailto:SillyYaks ] On Behalf Of niecee222Sent: Wednesday, August 17, 2005 1:06 PMTo: SillyYaks Subject: School Box??

I have heard some of you mention that you send a box of "goodies" to school for the teacher to keep in case of a "emergency". I am wondering what you put in the box. My 3 year old is starting pre-school/daycare on Monday and I am trying to get prepared. Out local highschool offers a daycare for the teachers in the school, but they also use it as a lab for the students during their child development classes. Anyway, they didn't have enough teachers use it this year so I got my 2 kids in. I am so excited! They only have 15 kids, and they have 3 full time adults so it is better than any day care I could find. Plus the students are in there alot so it is usually 1 to 1. Anyway, when I was talking to them about celiac they got so exicted and said, "we love food allergies". I was so confused until they told me it was a great learning experience for the students. They are going to have me come in and teach all of the students who will be working with my daughter and then someone will be assigned whenever there is food in the room to watch my daughter constantly.Anyway, I have Danna Korn's book and a list of forbidden foods, a note from the doctor, and I want to put togther a snack box. Does anyone have any great ideas, or ideas for something I am missing?Also, has anyone had any luck with school lunch? I told the teachers that I would jsut bring her own, but they told me that legally the school would have to work with me; I just don't know if it is worth the risk. All of the other kids will be eating school lunch, and I don't want her to feel left out, but I don't want her sick more....ThanksJonyceThanks

[Guest guest]

legally the school does have to work with you, but for the most part it is not worth the risk. Some lunches will be ok, but just work with the cafeteria workers about ingredients lists, brands, etc...

My son is 3 1/2 and in daycare too, and I provide his stuff. He gets pudding cups, jello cups, chips, crackers, fruit, cheese sticks, popcorn (he LOVES Smartfood), his cookies (see the pudding cookie postings for the recipe), and once a week the ice cream man comes around so that's what he gets that day.

From: SillyYaks [mailto:SillyYaks ] On Behalf Of niecee222Sent: Wednesday, August 17, 2005 1:06 PMTo: SillyYaks Subject: School Box??

I have heard some of you mention that you send a box of "goodies" to school for the teacher to keep in case of a "emergency". I am wondering what you put in the box. My 3 year old is starting pre-school/daycare on Monday and I am trying to get prepared. Out local highschool offers a daycare for the teachers in the school, but they also use it as a lab for the students during their child development classes. Anyway, they didn't have enough teachers use it this year so I got my 2 kids in. I am so excited! They only have 15 kids, and they have 3 full time adults so it is better than any day care I could find. Plus the students are in there alot so it is usually 1 to 1. Anyway, when I was talking to them about celiac they got so exicted and said, "we love food allergies". I was so confused until they told me it was a great learning experience for the students. They are going to have me come in and teach all of the students who will be working with my daughter and then someone will be assigned whenever there is food in the room to watch my daughter constantly.Anyway, I have Danna Korn's book and a list of forbidden foods, a note from the doctor, and I want to put togther a snack box. Does anyone have any great ideas, or ideas for something I am missing?Also, has anyone had any luck with school lunch? I told the teachers that I would jsut bring her own, but they told me that legally the school would have to work with me; I just don't know if it is worth the risk. All of the other kids will be eating school lunch, and I don't want her to feel left out, but I don't want her sick more....ThanksJonyceThanks

[Guest guest]

Lauretta,

I'm sorry for your poor boy. I think you took every precaution and the poor kid is only 4 - the adults in the situation should be responsible. My only thought is for you to get containers of a unique color. For example, the ziploc and glad containers all look the same with clear bottoms and blue lids. Even with a name sticker the sticker could get wet or removed or not be read by little kids. What about containers with neon tops, for example?

Can you get some funky lunch box/bag that's outside of the norm? Then you could train your son only to eat from THIS bag. Maybe on weekends you could pack his lunches in the box/bag for him to practice? And then role play what can happen when he thinks it's the wrong bag? Who he should talk to and what he should say, etc..? Or maybe use something that's not very standard to hold lunches in - something other kids wouldn't have. Like a small plastic toolbox? Or something cylinder shaped? Something distinctive.

You could also try putting something in his box each day - not a note per se but a picture of a heart or a smiley face or his favorite animal. that way, if he doesn't get his love message from mom he shouldn't eat without talking to the teacher.

The teacher should be told that this was an accident and *should* be the first and only. It's a very powerful, physical reminder of how serious this stuff is. The teacher should also be asked where the bags and kept, etc.., and who hands them out? Is there a reason why your son's lunch bag can't be near his coat or his cubby or some other area with his belongings?

Let us know how it works,

Dawne

[Guest guest]

Lauretta,

I'm sorry for your poor boy. I think you took every precaution and the poor kid is only 4 - the adults in the situation should be responsible. My only thought is for you to get containers of a unique color. For example, the ziploc and glad containers all look the same with clear bottoms and blue lids. Even with a name sticker the sticker could get wet or removed or not be read by little kids. What about containers with neon tops, for example?

Can you get some funky lunch box/bag that's outside of the norm? Then you could train your son only to eat from THIS bag. Maybe on weekends you could pack his lunches in the box/bag for him to practice? And then role play what can happen when he thinks it's the wrong bag? Who he should talk to and what he should say, etc..? Or maybe use something that's not very standard to hold lunches in - something other kids wouldn't have. Like a small plastic toolbox? Or something cylinder shaped? Something distinctive.

You could also try putting something in his box each day - not a note per se but a picture of a heart or a smiley face or his favorite animal. that way, if he doesn't get his love message from mom he shouldn't eat without talking to the teacher.

The teacher should be told that this was an accident and *should* be the first and only. It's a very powerful, physical reminder of how serious this stuff is. The teacher should also be asked where the bags and kept, etc.., and who hands them out? Is there a reason why your son's lunch bag can't be near his coat or his cubby or some other area with his belongings?

Let us know how it works,

Dawne

[Guest guest]

Lauretta,

I'm sorry for your poor boy. I think you took every precaution and the poor kid is only 4 - the adults in the situation should be responsible. My only thought is for you to get containers of a unique color. For example, the ziploc and glad containers all look the same with clear bottoms and blue lids. Even with a name sticker the sticker could get wet or removed or not be read by little kids. What about containers with neon tops, for example?

Can you get some funky lunch box/bag that's outside of the norm? Then you could train your son only to eat from THIS bag. Maybe on weekends you could pack his lunches in the box/bag for him to practice? And then role play what can happen when he thinks it's the wrong bag? Who he should talk to and what he should say, etc..? Or maybe use something that's not very standard to hold lunches in - something other kids wouldn't have. Like a small plastic toolbox? Or something cylinder shaped? Something distinctive.

You could also try putting something in his box each day - not a note per se but a picture of a heart or a smiley face or his favorite animal. that way, if he doesn't get his love message from mom he shouldn't eat without talking to the teacher.

The teacher should be told that this was an accident and *should* be the first and only. It's a very powerful, physical reminder of how serious this stuff is. The teacher should also be asked where the bags and kept, etc.., and who hands them out? Is there a reason why your son's lunch bag can't be near his coat or his cubby or some other area with his belongings?

Let us know how it works,

Dawne

[Guest guest]

Lauretta,

You said

they would not allow you to shadow your child in the preschool. Why is that? After a lot of lessons learned I have come to the point

unless there is an absolute good reason for me to not have access to my child

then my child is not going to be there without my being able to stop and check

it out. For me that alone raises

cause for concern.

[Guest guest]

Lauretta,

You said

they would not allow you to shadow your child in the preschool. Why is that? After a lot of lessons learned I have come to the point

unless there is an absolute good reason for me to not have access to my child

then my child is not going to be there without my being able to stop and check

it out. For me that alone raises

cause for concern.

[Guest guest]

Lauretta,

You said

they would not allow you to shadow your child in the preschool. Why is that? After a lot of lessons learned I have come to the point

unless there is an absolute good reason for me to not have access to my child

then my child is not going to be there without my being able to stop and check

it out. For me that alone raises

cause for concern.

[Guest guest]

,

Yes, I am very concerned not to have access to him unless he is in the office. Your point is well taken and I appreciate your concern. I thought we had everything at the school ready for him, but I think that there is a lot lacking. This is a first for everyone there and they do not understand how desperate I can become. It will go without saying that I will talk to someone who will listen in the school system til this works. This may pave the road for other parents whose children may have allergies, etcc...

Thank you,

Lauretta

Lauretta,

You said they would not allow you to shadow your child in the preschool. Why is that? After a lot of lessons learned I have come to the point unless there is an absolute good reason for me to not have access to my child then my child is not going to be there without my being able to stop and check it out.

For me that alone raises cause for concern.

[Guest guest]

,

Yes, I am very concerned not to have access to him unless he is in the office. Your point is well taken and I appreciate your concern. I thought we had everything at the school ready for him, but I think that there is a lot lacking. This is a first for everyone there and they do not understand how desperate I can become. It will go without saying that I will talk to someone who will listen in the school system til this works. This may pave the road for other parents whose children may have allergies, etcc...

Thank you,

Lauretta

Lauretta,

You said they would not allow you to shadow your child in the preschool. Why is that? After a lot of lessons learned I have come to the point unless there is an absolute good reason for me to not have access to my child then my child is not going to be there without my being able to stop and check it out.

For me that alone raises cause for concern.

[Guest guest]

,

Yes, I am very concerned not to have access to him unless he is in the office. Your point is well taken and I appreciate your concern. I thought we had everything at the school ready for him, but I think that there is a lot lacking. This is a first for everyone there and they do not understand how desperate I can become. It will go without saying that I will talk to someone who will listen in the school system til this works. This may pave the road for other parents whose children may have allergies, etcc...

Thank you,

Lauretta

Lauretta,

You said they would not allow you to shadow your child in the preschool. Why is that? After a lot of lessons learned I have come to the point unless there is an absolute good reason for me to not have access to my child then my child is not going to be there without my being able to stop and check it out.

For me that alone raises cause for concern.

[Guest guest]

I don't want to scare you, but the only school I've had experience with not letting me come there unannounced was mistreating my son. My guard goes up when they say I can't come now. Of course, my son was non-verbal at the time and couldn't tell me. I would make it a point to show up unannounced even if they say you can't. He's your child and you have the right. Just flat out ask them what's going on that they don't want you to see.

Loriann aka Flitter the Christian clown and Celiac DiseaseWife to Dewight, USNavy RetiredMom to , 15, Down Syndrome, PDD-NOS and Celiac Diseaseand , 6 and ADHD

[Guest guest]

I don't want to scare you, but the only school I've had experience with not letting me come there unannounced was mistreating my son. My guard goes up when they say I can't come now. Of course, my son was non-verbal at the time and couldn't tell me. I would make it a point to show up unannounced even if they say you can't. He's your child and you have the right. Just flat out ask them what's going on that they don't want you to see.

Loriann aka Flitter the Christian clown and Celiac DiseaseWife to Dewight, USNavy RetiredMom to , 15, Down Syndrome, PDD-NOS and Celiac Diseaseand , 6 and ADHD

[Guest guest]

I don't want to scare you, but the only school I've had experience with not letting me come there unannounced was mistreating my son. My guard goes up when they say I can't come now. Of course, my son was non-verbal at the time and couldn't tell me. I would make it a point to show up unannounced even if they say you can't. He's your child and you have the right. Just flat out ask them what's going on that they don't want you to see.

Loriann aka Flitter the Christian clown and Celiac DiseaseWife to Dewight, USNavy RetiredMom to , 15, Down Syndrome, PDD-NOS and Celiac Diseaseand , 6 and ADHD

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry for your son. How sad an experience that was! You are right. I will get to go there and see if I can help it. I have been told for 2 days now when I call that the principle is in a meeting. In the meantime, Melvin is still home with me. I would like to get some things settled and him back in school by Monday. You have all given me the encouragement that I need to press on.

Thank you,

Lauretta

On 8/19/05, hs_myangels@... <hs_myangels@...

> wrote:

I don't want to scare you, but the only school I've had experience with not letting me come there unannounced was mistreating my son. My guard goes up when they say I can't come now. Of course, my son was non-verbal at the time and couldn't tell me. I would make it a point to show up unannounced even if they say you can't. He's your child and you have the right. Just flat out ask them what's going on that they don't want you to see.

Loriann aka Flitter the Christian clown and Celiac DiseaseWife to Dewight, USNavy RetiredMom to , 15, Down Syndrome, PDD-NOS and Celiac Diseaseand , 6 and ADHD

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry for your son. How sad an experience that was! You are right. I will get to go there and see if I can help it. I have been told for 2 days now when I call that the principle is in a meeting. In the meantime, Melvin is still home with me. I would like to get some things settled and him back in school by Monday. You have all given me the encouragement that I need to press on.

Thank you,

Lauretta

On 8/19/05, hs_myangels@... <hs_myangels@...

> wrote:

I don't want to scare you, but the only school I've had experience with not letting me come there unannounced was mistreating my son. My guard goes up when they say I can't come now. Of course, my son was non-verbal at the time and couldn't tell me. I would make it a point to show up unannounced even if they say you can't. He's your child and you have the right. Just flat out ask them what's going on that they don't want you to see.

Loriann aka Flitter the Christian clown and Celiac DiseaseWife to Dewight, USNavy RetiredMom to , 15, Down Syndrome, PDD-NOS and Celiac Diseaseand , 6 and ADHD

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry for your son. How sad an experience that was! You are right. I will get to go there and see if I can help it. I have been told for 2 days now when I call that the principle is in a meeting. In the meantime, Melvin is still home with me. I would like to get some things settled and him back in school by Monday. You have all given me the encouragement that I need to press on.

Thank you,

Lauretta

On 8/19/05, hs_myangels@... <hs_myangels@...

> wrote:

I don't want to scare you, but the only school I've had experience with not letting me come there unannounced was mistreating my son. My guard goes up when they say I can't come now. Of course, my son was non-verbal at the time and couldn't tell me. I would make it a point to show up unannounced even if they say you can't. He's your child and you have the right. Just flat out ask them what's going on that they don't want you to see.

Loriann aka Flitter the Christian clown and Celiac DiseaseWife to Dewight, USNavy RetiredMom to , 15, Down Syndrome, PDD-NOS and Celiac Diseaseand , 6 and ADHD

[Guest guest]

My suggestion would be to either go to the school right before or

when school starts in the am - I've found that a good time to catch

principals, teachers, etc - or call the office and make an

appointment with the principal. Someone should be able to make the

appointment same day or next am at the latest.

Good luck - Sue in Denver

> >

> > *I don't want to scare you, but the only school I've had

experience with

> > not letting me come there unannounced was mistreating my son. My

guard goes

> > up when they say I can't come now. Of course, my son was non-

verbal at the

> > time and couldn't tell me. I would make it a point to show up

unannounced

> > even if they say you can't. He's your child and you have the

right. Just

> > flat out ask them what's going on that they don't want you to

see.*

> > **

> > **

> > *Loriann aka Flitter the Christian clown and Celiac Disease

> > Wife to Dewight, USNavy Retired

> > Mom to , 15, Down Syndrome, PDD-NOS and Celiac Disease

> > and , 6 and ADHD*

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Thank you, Sue!

My suggestion would be to either go to the school right before or when school starts in the am - I've found that a good time to catch principals, teachers, etc - or call the office and make an appointment with the principal. Someone should be able to make the appointment same day or next am at the latest.Good luck - Sue in Denver

> > > > *I don't want to scare you, but the only school I've had

experience with > > not letting me come there unannounced was mistreating my son. My guard goes > > up when they say I can't come now. Of course, my son was non-verbal at the > > time and couldn't tell me. I would make it a point to show up unannounced > > even if they say you can't. He's your child and you have the right. Just > > flat out ask them what's going on that they don't want you to see.*> > ** > > ** > > *Loriann aka Flitter the Christian clown and Celiac Disease> > Wife to Dewight, USNavy Retired> > Mom to , 15, Down Syndrome, PDD-NOS and Celiac Disease> > and , 6 and ADHD*

> > > > > >

[Guest guest]

Thank you, Sue!

My suggestion would be to either go to the school right before or when school starts in the am - I've found that a good time to catch principals, teachers, etc - or call the office and make an appointment with the principal. Someone should be able to make the appointment same day or next am at the latest.Good luck - Sue in Denver

> > > > *I don't want to scare you, but the only school I've had

experience with > > not letting me come there unannounced was mistreating my son. My guard goes > > up when they say I can't come now. Of course, my son was non-verbal at the > > time and couldn't tell me. I would make it a point to show up unannounced > > even if they say you can't. He's your child and you have the right. Just > > flat out ask them what's going on that they don't want you to see.*> > ** > > ** > > *Loriann aka Flitter the Christian clown and Celiac Disease> > Wife to Dewight, USNavy Retired> > Mom to , 15, Down Syndrome, PDD-NOS and Celiac Disease> > and , 6 and ADHD*

> > > > > >

[Guest guest]

While I agree that the school should be more flexible and far less

doctrinaire, I think it would be better to work with the school for a

mutually acceptable solution to this problem. If it was my child, I'd

be a little concerned about that the other children might respond

negatively if I was following my child around. If the school is not

amenable to finding a mutually agreeable solution, then that is a

different story. Just something to think about... but only you know

what it best for your own circumstances.

> Dawne,

> You are absolutely right! I think it strange about not being able to

> check it all out in the school. I am waiting to hear from the

> principle. I will not let him return until I get a yes, I can follow

> him for a day or two. I also do not think they should be responsible

> for his snack, so I intend to have his snacks for him. I was told it

> is without question that we pay for snack.. Even when they give

> crackers and he cannot have them? What is with this school? I want him

> to be there and whatever it takes, I will get it straight for him.

> Thank you for your support!

> I bet I can find some really garish luch carrier someday. I just have

> not seen anything yet. Another good idea! Thank you.

> Anything else you want to add will certainly be appreciated.

>  

> Lauretta

>

>  

>

>

> Lauretta,

>

>  

>

> You said they would not allow you to shadow your child in the

> preschool.  Why is that?  After a lot of lessons learned I have come

> to the point unless there is an absolute good reason for me to not

> have access to my child then my child is not going to be there without

> my being able to stop and check it out.   For me that alone raises

> cause for concern. 

>

>

>  

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

While I agree that the school should be more flexible and far less

doctrinaire, I think it would be better to work with the school for a

mutually acceptable solution to this problem. If it was my child, I'd

be a little concerned about that the other children might respond

negatively if I was following my child around. If the school is not

amenable to finding a mutually agreeable solution, then that is a

different story. Just something to think about... but only you know

what it best for your own circumstances.

> Dawne,

> You are absolutely right! I think it strange about not being able to

> check it all out in the school. I am waiting to hear from the

> principle. I will not let him return until I get a yes, I can follow

> him for a day or two. I also do not think they should be responsible

> for his snack, so I intend to have his snacks for him. I was told it

> is without question that we pay for snack.. Even when they give

> crackers and he cannot have them? What is with this school? I want him

> to be there and whatever it takes, I will get it straight for him.

> Thank you for your support!

> I bet I can find some really garish luch carrier someday. I just have

> not seen anything yet. Another good idea! Thank you.

> Anything else you want to add will certainly be appreciated.

>  

> Lauretta

>

>  

>

>

> Lauretta,

>

>  

>

> You said they would not allow you to shadow your child in the

> preschool.  Why is that?  After a lot of lessons learned I have come

> to the point unless there is an absolute good reason for me to not

> have access to my child then my child is not going to be there without

> my being able to stop and check it out.   For me that alone raises

> cause for concern. 

>

>

>  

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I bet I can find some really garish luch carrier someday. I just have not seen anything yet. Another good idea! Thank you.

Anything else you want to add will certainly be appreciated.

Lauretta,

Those are dangerous words "anything else you want to add". [evil grin] I now cannot resist adding - "there's always homeschooling"! Take it a bit serious and a bit of cheek! Whatever choice you make will be the best for your son - but you have options and that should give you peace of mind.

And - NO! I wouldn't pay for snack as a matter of principle.

Keep us in the loop,

Dawne

PS - I wasn't thinking 'garish' per se - more like "C O O L" with a capital C.

[Guest guest]

I bet I can find some really garish luch carrier someday. I just have not seen anything yet. Another good idea! Thank you.

Anything else you want to add will certainly be appreciated.

Lauretta,

Those are dangerous words "anything else you want to add". [evil grin] I now cannot resist adding - "there's always homeschooling"! Take it a bit serious and a bit of cheek! Whatever choice you make will be the best for your son - but you have options and that should give you peace of mind.

And - NO! I wouldn't pay for snack as a matter of principle.

Keep us in the loop,

Dawne

PS - I wasn't thinking 'garish' per se - more like "C O O L" with a capital C.