Guest guest Posted March 28, 2001 Report Share Posted March 28, 2001 , Hi. I want to tell you how sorry I am that your HcG was negative. I, speaking from one whose had a zillion HcG tests over the years, do not think it was too early for your body to register HcG. But, I just want to tell you to not be so hard on yourself. You haven't let anyone down at all. It will happen for you sweetie. These things seem to happen on their own time schedule. I don't think you've been TTC for too terrribly long since your EP, just give it some more time sweetie... like I said before, it WILL happen for you. I'll keep you in my prayers!{{{HUGS}}} Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2001 Report Share Posted March 28, 2001 Hi , I'm sorry to hear that your HCG test came up negative. If you are 10 days past ovulation or later, then the HCG test is typically accurate. It can be tricky to tell the difference between early pregnancy and an impending af. My best advice is to learn how to chart. Have you read the book " Taking Charge of Your Fertility? " It explains charting and temping--which are very helpful when trying to ttc. Sorry again for your sad news. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2001 Report Share Posted March 28, 2001 , First you are NOT a fool or a failure... please know this.. these things are out of our hands... I know that lost feeling and it really hurts....and believe me there were more months then I care to remember where I swore I was pg... Waiting is the hardest part...and planning is just so devasting sometimes....when our plans don't work out the way we want them too... Please try to be gentler with yourself.... I am praying for you... lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2001 Report Share Posted March 28, 2001 , First you are NOT a fool or a failure... please know this.. these things are out of our hands... I know that lost feeling and it really hurts....and believe me there were more months then I care to remember where I swore I was pg... Waiting is the hardest part...and planning is just so devasting sometimes....when our plans don't work out the way we want them too... Please try to be gentler with yourself.... I am praying for you... lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2001 Report Share Posted March 28, 2001 , First you are NOT a fool or a failure... please know this.. these things are out of our hands... I know that lost feeling and it really hurts....and believe me there were more months then I care to remember where I swore I was pg... Waiting is the hardest part...and planning is just so devasting sometimes....when our plans don't work out the way we want them too... Please try to be gentler with yourself.... I am praying for you... lisa r T.T.F.N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2001 Report Share Posted March 28, 2001 I wish I could just give you a big, real hug. (((hug))) I am sorry you are feeling so sad, but you definitely have not failed at anything. (I know it is easy to feel like you have, I have felt that way too) You are not crazy, you just want something badly, and there is nothing wrong with that! Talk about crazy, there is " a moment " sometimes that I can forget that the ep happened and feel I am still pg. I can touch my stomach and smile for a minute. I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but allow yourself to feel whatever you feel and try not to be so hard on yourself. (I know that is easier said than done) I am sure your dh doesn't think you let him down and as for other people, who cares what they think!!? You are the one who has a right to feel whatever and whenever you want!! I will send you some +++++++Thoughts for you (I know it's hard to have them all the time for yourself) and know my prayers are with you too. --- spinachgirl2001@... wrote: > Well, I got the results back from my hcg - negative. > I really > thought I was pregnant. I had no problem getting > pregnant this time, > and I thought I did everything right. My sister > says I might still > have hope since I haven't actually missed my period > yet. She thinks > the hormone may just not be high enough to register > on the test. It > is hard hanging on anymore. I really thought I was > pregnant. I am > embarrassed and ashamed for thinking I was. I feel > like either > people think I am crazy or I let them down. I don't > know what to > grasp on to now. I had a plan, and then I had the > ep. So, I made > another plan, and now I have " failed " again. I > don't know what to > do. I know I sound dramatic, but really, I don't > know what to do or > think. I have been nauseas and I have one breast > that has grown a > lot and is very tender. My period is supposed to > come between today > and Saturday. I don't want to set up myself for > another > disappointment. I would have been over 7 months > now. I'm just not > able to find anything right now to hold on to. Do > you think it was > early for an hcg? I think the worse thing is > feeling like a fool and > like I let my husband down. I'm sorry to be > rambling on like this, I > am just hurt. I am hurt that this whole thing has > happened at all to > all of us. I know it is not the end of the world, > but you all are > very sweet and you each deserve a happy, healthy > child- everyone > does. I'll be alright. I just have to figure out > where to go from > here because I'm lost right now - really lost. > > > > > I hope I have not offended anyone with this message. > I can be tough, > but I need a little help right now. > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2001 Report Share Posted March 28, 2001 I wish I could just give you a big, real hug. (((hug))) I am sorry you are feeling so sad, but you definitely have not failed at anything. (I know it is easy to feel like you have, I have felt that way too) You are not crazy, you just want something badly, and there is nothing wrong with that! Talk about crazy, there is " a moment " sometimes that I can forget that the ep happened and feel I am still pg. I can touch my stomach and smile for a minute. I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but allow yourself to feel whatever you feel and try not to be so hard on yourself. (I know that is easier said than done) I am sure your dh doesn't think you let him down and as for other people, who cares what they think!!? You are the one who has a right to feel whatever and whenever you want!! I will send you some +++++++Thoughts for you (I know it's hard to have them all the time for yourself) and know my prayers are with you too. --- spinachgirl2001@... wrote: > Well, I got the results back from my hcg - negative. > I really > thought I was pregnant. I had no problem getting > pregnant this time, > and I thought I did everything right. My sister > says I might still > have hope since I haven't actually missed my period > yet. She thinks > the hormone may just not be high enough to register > on the test. It > is hard hanging on anymore. I really thought I was > pregnant. I am > embarrassed and ashamed for thinking I was. I feel > like either > people think I am crazy or I let them down. I don't > know what to > grasp on to now. I had a plan, and then I had the > ep. So, I made > another plan, and now I have " failed " again. I > don't know what to > do. I know I sound dramatic, but really, I don't > know what to do or > think. I have been nauseas and I have one breast > that has grown a > lot and is very tender. My period is supposed to > come between today > and Saturday. I don't want to set up myself for > another > disappointment. I would have been over 7 months > now. I'm just not > able to find anything right now to hold on to. Do > you think it was > early for an hcg? I think the worse thing is > feeling like a fool and > like I let my husband down. I'm sorry to be > rambling on like this, I > am just hurt. I am hurt that this whole thing has > happened at all to > all of us. I know it is not the end of the world, > but you all are > very sweet and you each deserve a happy, healthy > child- everyone > does. I'll be alright. I just have to figure out > where to go from > here because I'm lost right now - really lost. > > > > > I hope I have not offended anyone with this message. > I can be tough, > but I need a little help right now. > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2001 Report Share Posted March 28, 2001 I wish I could just give you a big, real hug. (((hug))) I am sorry you are feeling so sad, but you definitely have not failed at anything. (I know it is easy to feel like you have, I have felt that way too) You are not crazy, you just want something badly, and there is nothing wrong with that! Talk about crazy, there is " a moment " sometimes that I can forget that the ep happened and feel I am still pg. I can touch my stomach and smile for a minute. I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but allow yourself to feel whatever you feel and try not to be so hard on yourself. (I know that is easier said than done) I am sure your dh doesn't think you let him down and as for other people, who cares what they think!!? You are the one who has a right to feel whatever and whenever you want!! I will send you some +++++++Thoughts for you (I know it's hard to have them all the time for yourself) and know my prayers are with you too. --- spinachgirl2001@... wrote: > Well, I got the results back from my hcg - negative. > I really > thought I was pregnant. I had no problem getting > pregnant this time, > and I thought I did everything right. My sister > says I might still > have hope since I haven't actually missed my period > yet. She thinks > the hormone may just not be high enough to register > on the test. It > is hard hanging on anymore. I really thought I was > pregnant. I am > embarrassed and ashamed for thinking I was. I feel > like either > people think I am crazy or I let them down. I don't > know what to > grasp on to now. I had a plan, and then I had the > ep. So, I made > another plan, and now I have " failed " again. I > don't know what to > do. I know I sound dramatic, but really, I don't > know what to do or > think. I have been nauseas and I have one breast > that has grown a > lot and is very tender. My period is supposed to > come between today > and Saturday. I don't want to set up myself for > another > disappointment. I would have been over 7 months > now. I'm just not > able to find anything right now to hold on to. Do > you think it was > early for an hcg? I think the worse thing is > feeling like a fool and > like I let my husband down. I'm sorry to be > rambling on like this, I > am just hurt. I am hurt that this whole thing has > happened at all to > all of us. I know it is not the end of the world, > but you all are > very sweet and you each deserve a happy, healthy > child- everyone > does. I'll be alright. I just have to figure out > where to go from > here because I'm lost right now - really lost. > > > > > I hope I have not offended anyone with this message. > I can be tough, > but I need a little help right now. > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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