Re: re: lin woman has new medical challenge PSC

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Although, I am not sure I agree with this woman from lin

and how she is handling the disease and/or transplant I would never judge

her or say she needs a brain transplant for the way she is dealing

with her situation.

The problem I have, (and

why I said she needs a brain tx) is that she refuses to even consider putting

her sons in harms way by donating…..but she is perfectly willing to put

someone else’s son or daughter in harms way.

If she wanted to wait

for a deceased donor, rather then using one of her son’s, I would say OK,

she’s a loving mother who doesn’t want to put her son at risk. But she is asking for a living donor and

that to me, is clearly saying the stranger’s life isn’t as

important as her sons. That’s

a whole different ball game and everyone who read the article came away with

the same bad taste in their mouth.

IMHO one thing transplant teaches us, is that we are all

family! It doesn’t matter if

the donor is living or deceased, that organ came from a person who was greatly

loved by someone. For a lot of

people it changes your whole outlook, we learn to value every

life. It doesn’t sound like the

lin woman has learned that yet. I hope she does and I wish her well.

Guess this discussion is like the one where we debated

someone getting an organ when they themselves weren’t an organ donor. Guess we’ll have to agree to disagree.

Barb in Texas

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Message-----

Although, I am not sure I agree with this woman from lin

and how she is handling the disease and/or transplant I would never judge

her or say she needs a brain transplant for the way she is dealing

with her situation.

The problem I have, (and

why I said she needs a brain tx) is that she refuses to even consider putting

her sons in harms way by donating…..but she is perfectly willing to put

someone else’s son or daughter in harms way.

If she wanted to wait

for a deceased donor, rather then using one of her son’s, I would say OK,

she’s a loving mother who doesn’t want to put her son at risk. But she is asking for a living donor and

that to me, is clearly saying the stranger’s life isn’t as

important as her sons. That’s

a whole different ball game and everyone who read the article came away with

the same bad taste in their mouth.

IMHO one thing transplant teaches us, is that we are all

family! It doesn’t matter if

the donor is living or deceased, that organ came from a person who was greatly

loved by someone. For a lot of

people it changes your whole outlook, we learn to value every

life. It doesn’t sound like the

lin woman has learned that yet. I hope she does and I wish her well.

Guess this discussion is like the one where we debated

someone getting an organ when they themselves weren’t an organ donor. Guess we’ll have to agree to disagree.

Barb in Texas

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I was horrified also about the article. When it became clear that needed a transplant, there was no question in my family (my husband, myself and my two sons) that we would all be tested. I was determined that I would be the donor. As it turns out, only my husband had the same blood type but he was considered too old. My one son cried when he heard he was not a match. One outside person, a youth minister, actually offered to be a donor but I did not pursue it because I just could not bring myself to endanger someone else who was not family. I could have sent a letter to cousins, who are numerous, asking for donors but I felt if they didn't volunteer, I would not pursue it. As got sicker and sicker, we just hoped that she would be one of the lucky ones. By the way, a year and four months after the transplant, is getting ready for her first year of college and has signed up for the marching band. Our fingers are crossed and hoping that there will be no medical problems to interrupt this semester. Ruth

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I was horrified also about the article. When it became clear that needed a transplant, there was no question in my family (my husband, myself and my two sons) that we would all be tested. I was determined that I would be the donor. As it turns out, only my husband had the same blood type but he was considered too old. My one son cried when he heard he was not a match. One outside person, a youth minister, actually offered to be a donor but I did not pursue it because I just could not bring myself to endanger someone else who was not family. I could have sent a letter to cousins, who are numerous, asking for donors but I felt if they didn't volunteer, I would not pursue it. As got sicker and sicker, we just hoped that she would be one of the lucky ones. By the way, a year and four months after the transplant, is getting ready for her first year of college and has signed up for the marching band. Our fingers are crossed and hoping that there will be no medical problems to interrupt this semester. Ruth

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I was horrified also about the article. When it became clear that needed a transplant, there was no question in my family (my husband, myself and my two sons) that we would all be tested. I was determined that I would be the donor. As it turns out, only my husband had the same blood type but he was considered too old. My one son cried when he heard he was not a match. One outside person, a youth minister, actually offered to be a donor but I did not pursue it because I just could not bring myself to endanger someone else who was not family. I could have sent a letter to cousins, who are numerous, asking for donors but I felt if they didn't volunteer, I would not pursue it. As got sicker and sicker, we just hoped that she would be one of the lucky ones. By the way, a year and four months after the transplant, is getting ready for her first year of college and has signed up for the marching band. Our fingers are crossed and hoping that there will be no medical problems to interrupt this semester. Ruth

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I only have to say that I, for one, would not even CONSIDER letting anyone else be evaluated to be 's donor until I was first. The foremost reason being, if I'm not willing to do it myself, how can I expect/ask someone else to go through that kind of surgery when it's to save MY child's life?!?!?!?!? I totally understand what you're saying, Barb!! AmiBarb Henshaw wrote: -----Original Message-----Although, I am not sure I agree with this woman from lin and how she is handling the disease and/or transplant I would never judge her or say she needs a brain transplant for the way she is dealing with her situation. The problem I have, (and why I said she needs a brain tx) is that she refuses to even consider putting her sons in harms way by donating…..but she is perfectly willing to put someone else’s son or daughter in harms way.

If she wanted to wait for a deceased donor, rather then using one of her son’s, I would say OK, she’s a loving mother who doesn’t want to put her son at risk. But she is asking for a living donor and that to me, is clearly saying the stranger’s life isn’t as important as her sons. That’s a whole different ball game and everyone who read the article came away with the same bad taste in their mouth. IMHO one thing transplant teaches us, is that we are all family! It doesn’t matter if the donor is living or deceased, that organ came from a person who was greatly loved by someone. For a lot of people it changes your whole outlook, we learn to value every life. It doesn’t sound like the lin woman has learned that yet. I hope she does and I wish her well. Guess this discussion is like the one where we debated someone getting an organ when they themselves weren’t an organ donor. Guess we’ll have to agree to disagree. Barb in Texas

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The problem I see with judging this woman for not letting her sons

donate is that we know so little about the situation. Maybe they

haven't volunteered and she was doing her best to explain why she

couldn't get then to donate, without making them look cold hearted and

uncaring. In which case she'd be doing a very generous thing, and

risking making herself look bad to keep her kids from looking bad.

Or maybe she is just selfish and doesn't want to risk her own loved

ones. The fact is unless you're part of the situation and know what's

really going on you just can't make these judgments.

Of course, the nice thing is that we don't really need to make the

judgment. I mean, how does it really make us or the world better to

think we know what these people should have done?

Anyhow, that's my 2¢

athan

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The problem I see with judging this woman for not letting her sons

donate is that we know so little about the situation. Maybe they

haven't volunteered and she was doing her best to explain why she

couldn't get then to donate, without making them look cold hearted and

uncaring. In which case she'd be doing a very generous thing, and

risking making herself look bad to keep her kids from looking bad.

Or maybe she is just selfish and doesn't want to risk her own loved

ones. The fact is unless you're part of the situation and know what's

really going on you just can't make these judgments.

Of course, the nice thing is that we don't really need to make the

judgment. I mean, how does it really make us or the world better to

think we know what these people should have done?

Anyhow, that's my 2¢

athan