Guest guest Posted April 12, 2001 Report Share Posted April 12, 2001 It sure is a good thing that I am 12-step free, because I am really mad. In AA, and in the religious environment I grew up in, I was told that I wasn't supposed to get angry. I have realized for a long time now how ridiculous that idea is. One sort of has to see it coming in order to prevent it, and I don't recall ever having had an "about to get angry" emotion. There are very few times I can recall being as pissed off as I am right now, and in feeling so intensely this way, I realize that I have absolutely no idea what to do with it. What do you do when "Let Go and Let God" loses its luster? All sorts of questions go through my mind when I feel this way. Am I justified in being angry at this person? Should I feel like I have to be justified? Is he really screwing up, or is it my own expectaion of him that is the problem? Is he acting this way because he can't be any different or because he won't be any different? The next time he excuses his complete inability/unwillingness to complete the simplest of tasks on ADD even though in the 12 years I have known him I have never once seen him make even the tiniest effort to control his behavior or focus, am I going to completely go off on him or am I going to bite my tongue only to have my head explode? Anyone out there have any words of wisdom on the subject? What are we to do now that we're allowed to be mad? There is one bit of "prevention" advice I can offer to others. If anyone ever says to you, "don't go into business with a friend," listen to them. After AA, I was a little suspicious of cliches and truisms. This is one to pay attention to, though Joan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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