Re: Abused women at risk for Fibro

[Guest guest]

Hi,

Oh, yes, I totally agree the child abuse probably

caused your FM. I was just saying that child

abuse alone wasn't the cause but the great stress

your mother caused you, which in your case was

child abuse. That's what I meant. The stress

can be a bad marriage, a horrible boss, your

child dying or going bad, etc. That's what I

meant. My main abuse was being married 12 years

to a violent alcoholic who emotionally and

physically abused me. I got better after leaving

him, but not that much better because I had two

kids to take care of on my own. My ex, by the

way, murdered his second wife and her son. No

wonder my daughter is messed up. Anyway, once my

kids were on their own and doing okay, I got

better.

Joanne

--- Grammie wrote:

> Don't you think that being abused as a child

> would be stressful?

> I was sexually abused by my mother. I was

> physically and emotionally abused by her also.

> I have

> been emotionally abused by my husband for many

> years

> When I heard about all this I wasn't surprised

> that I

> had FM. It wasn't until I went to a very high

> stressed

> job that all the symptoms started.

>

> Joanne wrote:

>

> > Hi Em,

> >

> > I don't believe childhood abuse causes FM. I

> was

> > never abused as a child. But, I do believe

> that

> > " stress, " however caused, over time does

> cause

> > the FM. It might be that there is some

> chemical

> > thing in us that causes us to react that way

> to

> > stress. But, and I mean, but, I'm talking

> about

> > a LOT of stress over a pretty long period of

> > time, at least for me.

>

> Soft Hugs

> Aria

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[Guest guest]

At the age of 17 I had a baby that died shortly after birth.

I had no one to talk to. During all the abuse from my mom

there wasn't anyone to go to. I thought it was normal. That

it was what everyone's family did. I am in counseling to

deal with all this and issues today. She is helping me

tremendously. Finally getting the right combination of

meds I actually feel a bit human. Even talking about this

to others has helped me to release a lot of it. I didn't even

talk to anyone about my baby for over 10 years. We would

go every year and put flowers on his grave, we just never

talked about it. I do have 2 fantastic children. is

27, married and has 2 beautiful daughters. Greg is almost

23, married and has 1 beautiful daughter. I thank God

everyday for them.

I better stop.

Joanne wrote:

> Hi,

>

> Oh, yes, I totally agree the child abuse probably

> caused your FM. I was just saying that child

> abuse alone wasn't the cause but the great stress

> your mother caused you, which in your case was

> child abuse. That's what I meant. The stress

> can be a bad marriage, a horrible boss, your

> child dying or going bad, etc. That's what I

> meant. My main abuse was being married 12 years

> to a violent alcoholic who emotionally and

> physically abused me. I got better after leaving

> him, but not that much better because I had two

> kids to take care of on my own. My ex, by the

> way, murdered his second wife and her son. No

> wonder my daughter is messed up. Anyway, once my

> kids were on their own and doing okay, I got

> better.

>

> Joanne

> --- Grammie wrote:

> > Don't you think that being abused as a child

> > would be stressful?

> > I was sexually abused by my mother. I was

> > physically and emotionally abused by her also.

> >

Soft Hugs

Aria

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[Guest guest]

At the age of 17 I had a baby that died shortly after birth.

I had no one to talk to. During all the abuse from my mom

there wasn't anyone to go to. I thought it was normal. That

it was what everyone's family did. I am in counseling to

deal with all this and issues today. She is helping me

tremendously. Finally getting the right combination of

meds I actually feel a bit human. Even talking about this

to others has helped me to release a lot of it. I didn't even

talk to anyone about my baby for over 10 years. We would

go every year and put flowers on his grave, we just never

talked about it. I do have 2 fantastic children. is

27, married and has 2 beautiful daughters. Greg is almost

23, married and has 1 beautiful daughter. I thank God

everyday for them.

I better stop.

Joanne wrote:

> Hi,

>

> Oh, yes, I totally agree the child abuse probably

> caused your FM. I was just saying that child

> abuse alone wasn't the cause but the great stress

> your mother caused you, which in your case was

> child abuse. That's what I meant. The stress

> can be a bad marriage, a horrible boss, your

> child dying or going bad, etc. That's what I

> meant. My main abuse was being married 12 years

> to a violent alcoholic who emotionally and

> physically abused me. I got better after leaving

> him, but not that much better because I had two

> kids to take care of on my own. My ex, by the

> way, murdered his second wife and her son. No

> wonder my daughter is messed up. Anyway, once my

> kids were on their own and doing okay, I got

> better.

>

> Joanne

> --- Grammie wrote:

> > Don't you think that being abused as a child

> > would be stressful?

> > I was sexually abused by my mother. I was

> > physically and emotionally abused by her also.

> >

Soft Hugs

Aria

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[Guest guest]

At the age of 17 I had a baby that died shortly after birth.

I had no one to talk to. During all the abuse from my mom

there wasn't anyone to go to. I thought it was normal. That

it was what everyone's family did. I am in counseling to

deal with all this and issues today. She is helping me

tremendously. Finally getting the right combination of

meds I actually feel a bit human. Even talking about this

to others has helped me to release a lot of it. I didn't even

talk to anyone about my baby for over 10 years. We would

go every year and put flowers on his grave, we just never

talked about it. I do have 2 fantastic children. is

27, married and has 2 beautiful daughters. Greg is almost

23, married and has 1 beautiful daughter. I thank God

everyday for them.

I better stop.

Joanne wrote:

> Hi,

>

> Oh, yes, I totally agree the child abuse probably

> caused your FM. I was just saying that child

> abuse alone wasn't the cause but the great stress

> your mother caused you, which in your case was

> child abuse. That's what I meant. The stress

> can be a bad marriage, a horrible boss, your

> child dying or going bad, etc. That's what I

> meant. My main abuse was being married 12 years

> to a violent alcoholic who emotionally and

> physically abused me. I got better after leaving

> him, but not that much better because I had two

> kids to take care of on my own. My ex, by the

> way, murdered his second wife and her son. No

> wonder my daughter is messed up. Anyway, once my

> kids were on their own and doing okay, I got

> better.

>

> Joanne

> --- Grammie wrote:

> > Don't you think that being abused as a child

> > would be stressful?

> > I was sexually abused by my mother. I was

> > physically and emotionally abused by her also.

> >

Soft Hugs

Aria

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[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/23/2001 2:40:43 PM US Eastern Standard Time,

janissa@... writes:

> I'm not sure how to proceed here, so I'll just bow out for a while. Y'all

> have a good week.

>

Em,

I don't think anyone is mad at you. I know I am not. I think we all

need to remember emails and instant messages are very hard to judge a persons

tone, exact meaning, etc.

I know how ya feel right now I just left a group a month ago because

that group was full of nothing but hatred and nastiness, Thankfully this one

isn't. Everytime I would post something there would always be about 5 people

email me and tell me what an idot I was. So lets all just keep in mind not to

get too offensive because we can't always tell exactly what, or how a person

is saying something on this...

Em don't stop posting because of this little incident. If you need to

vent and do not feel comfy posting I am here if you shall need to talk along

with the rest of you folks. I am here if any of you shall need anything. I

hope everyone is feeling well lots of huggzz

Allicia

[Guest guest]

OK Em,

I will take back my " I am sorry to disagree " if you take back your apology

to the list. :-))

You don't need to apologize for any thing that you have said unless it is

really bad and I don't think that you would ever post anything very bad. You

are to nice a person.

I think we fibros have a tendency to fear hurting any ones feelings. I

wonder if we have all spent a large part of our life worrying about hurting

others. I get very stressed if I feel that I have hurt someone even if it

was not intended.

I could also tell you so many things that still linger with me because of my

abuse but I don't feel that it is something that I want to do right now.

I am also very much in pain today. I wanted to see any messages from this

list but it is back to bed for me. I woke up with pain so bad that I could

hardly walk and it is continuing.

Please take care of yourself and quit worrying about offending anyone.

Irene

<< Again: I apologize for offending anyone on the list; such offense wasn't

intended. I feel so bad today that I think breathing AIR causes

fibromyalgia. I could tell you tons about what I used to do as a result of

my abuse, and much of it would curl your hair, including my being

resuscitated after being strangled. But I still don't think that's the

only factor in my syndrome. It's one of many. >>

[Guest guest]

OK Em,

I will take back my " I am sorry to disagree " if you take back your apology

to the list. :-))

You don't need to apologize for any thing that you have said unless it is

really bad and I don't think that you would ever post anything very bad. You

are to nice a person.

I think we fibros have a tendency to fear hurting any ones feelings. I

wonder if we have all spent a large part of our life worrying about hurting

others. I get very stressed if I feel that I have hurt someone even if it

was not intended.

I could also tell you so many things that still linger with me because of my

abuse but I don't feel that it is something that I want to do right now.

I am also very much in pain today. I wanted to see any messages from this

list but it is back to bed for me. I woke up with pain so bad that I could

hardly walk and it is continuing.

Please take care of yourself and quit worrying about offending anyone.

Irene

<< Again: I apologize for offending anyone on the list; such offense wasn't

intended. I feel so bad today that I think breathing AIR causes

fibromyalgia. I could tell you tons about what I used to do as a result of

my abuse, and much of it would curl your hair, including my being

resuscitated after being strangled. But I still don't think that's the

only factor in my syndrome. It's one of many. >>

[Guest guest]

OK Em,

I will take back my " I am sorry to disagree " if you take back your apology

to the list. :-))

You don't need to apologize for any thing that you have said unless it is

really bad and I don't think that you would ever post anything very bad. You

are to nice a person.

I think we fibros have a tendency to fear hurting any ones feelings. I

wonder if we have all spent a large part of our life worrying about hurting

others. I get very stressed if I feel that I have hurt someone even if it

was not intended.

I could also tell you so many things that still linger with me because of my

abuse but I don't feel that it is something that I want to do right now.

I am also very much in pain today. I wanted to see any messages from this

list but it is back to bed for me. I woke up with pain so bad that I could

hardly walk and it is continuing.

Please take care of yourself and quit worrying about offending anyone.

Irene

<< Again: I apologize for offending anyone on the list; such offense wasn't

intended. I feel so bad today that I think breathing AIR causes

fibromyalgia. I could tell you tons about what I used to do as a result of

my abuse, and much of it would curl your hair, including my being

resuscitated after being strangled. But I still don't think that's the

only factor in my syndrome. It's one of many. >>

[Guest guest]

Ok, no apologies. *sheepish grin*

At 01:10 PM 10/24/2001 -0400, patidu@... wrote:

>I think we fibros have a tendency to fear hurting any ones feelings. I

>wonder if we have all spent a large part of our life worrying about

>hurting others. I get very stressed if I feel that I have hurt someone

>even if it was not intended.

I have. I used to be an opera singer, totally fixated on my career, and I

can remember the night that I told myself, , stop talking about

yourself and start listening to other people. But I worry a lot about

being too self-absorbed, and the FM doesn't help any -- I want to tell

people, I want someone to tell me it'll be okay. You know? But I do also

want to hear what other people have to say. We're all in this together.

>I am also very much in pain today.

I'm so sorry to hear this. Can you just go to bed and relax? I don't know

what's in the air, but I was up most of the night because of joint pain,

and today I'm sorta shuffling around like a zombie. I can't figure out why

the joint pain when I don't have arthritis, but thank god for Celebrex!

You take care, and get some good rest today.

*hugs*

Em

~~~~~~~~~~~~~

It is the tale, not he who tells it.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~

[Guest guest]

Ok, no apologies. *sheepish grin*

At 01:10 PM 10/24/2001 -0400, patidu@... wrote:

>I think we fibros have a tendency to fear hurting any ones feelings. I

>wonder if we have all spent a large part of our life worrying about

>hurting others. I get very stressed if I feel that I have hurt someone

>even if it was not intended.

I have. I used to be an opera singer, totally fixated on my career, and I

can remember the night that I told myself, , stop talking about

yourself and start listening to other people. But I worry a lot about

being too self-absorbed, and the FM doesn't help any -- I want to tell

people, I want someone to tell me it'll be okay. You know? But I do also

want to hear what other people have to say. We're all in this together.

>I am also very much in pain today.

I'm so sorry to hear this. Can you just go to bed and relax? I don't know

what's in the air, but I was up most of the night because of joint pain,

and today I'm sorta shuffling around like a zombie. I can't figure out why

the joint pain when I don't have arthritis, but thank god for Celebrex!

You take care, and get some good rest today.

*hugs*

Em

~~~~~~~~~~~~~

It is the tale, not he who tells it.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~

[Guest guest]

Ok, no apologies. *sheepish grin*

At 01:10 PM 10/24/2001 -0400, patidu@... wrote:

>I think we fibros have a tendency to fear hurting any ones feelings. I

>wonder if we have all spent a large part of our life worrying about

>hurting others. I get very stressed if I feel that I have hurt someone

>even if it was not intended.

I have. I used to be an opera singer, totally fixated on my career, and I

can remember the night that I told myself, , stop talking about

yourself and start listening to other people. But I worry a lot about

being too self-absorbed, and the FM doesn't help any -- I want to tell

people, I want someone to tell me it'll be okay. You know? But I do also

want to hear what other people have to say. We're all in this together.

>I am also very much in pain today.

I'm so sorry to hear this. Can you just go to bed and relax? I don't know

what's in the air, but I was up most of the night because of joint pain,

and today I'm sorta shuffling around like a zombie. I can't figure out why

the joint pain when I don't have arthritis, but thank god for Celebrex!

You take care, and get some good rest today.

*hugs*

Em

~~~~~~~~~~~~~

It is the tale, not he who tells it.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/24/2001 12:11:41 PM US Eastern Standard Time,

patidu@... writes:

> I think we fibros have a tendency to fear hurting any ones feelings. I

> wonder if we have all spent a large part of our life worrying about hurting

>

> others. I get very stressed if I feel that I have hurt someone even if it

> was not intended.

>

Irene,

That sounds like me to a " T " I worry weather or not I make alot of

people upset or not and always have. I try to be friends with everyone and if

one person doesn't like me for a warranted reason I get very sick to my tummy

and I stress over it big time. There is a woman at my boyfriends work place

that can not stand the site of me..she cringes everytime she see's me and why

I have not the slightest clue. There has been people ask her and she refuses

to talk to them about it, but I still get very upset about it and to my face

she is very sweet and hi how are you..b.s..lol

but that was a very nice letter you sent to Em....I think we all get

soo stressed out from our disease and this is our only way to really vent

sometimes I know this is my only way because I don't have any friends and I

don't leave the house too much ....but I try not to take it out on innocent

people, but lord knows we all are guilty of attacking innocent people in some

way, shape, or form..lol

Well just wanted to say what a sweet post..and I hope you get to

feeling better..lots of huggzzz

Allicia

[Guest guest]

I will be honest & say that I was sexually abused as a

child for many years by my father. It actually makes

a lot of sense to me. I am quite aware of how this

has affected my life as an adult & it is really

important to deal with the pain of the abuse. I think

that this may just be another example of how major

stress could be the trigger for fms.

Diane

--- Lyndi wrote:

> I read a report about this a while ago and decided

> to check with other people I know who have fibro.

> One of my sisters, one niece, one nephew and myself

> have fibro. None of us were sexually abused as

> kids. We also discussed this in our local fibro

> group. Of the twelve of us at the meeting, only one

> had experienced genuine sexual abuse as a kid. I'm

> quite certain everyone was being honest.

>

> Lyndi

>

> Grammie wrote:

>

> > I received this last November from a news group I

> was on. I

> > thought you gals would like to read it. This is

> possible my case

> > of how my fibro came about.

> >

> > *********************************

> >

> > Monday November 6 12:09 PM ET

> > Abused Women at Risk for Fibromyalgia

> > By Amy Norton

> >

> > SAN FRANCISCO (Reuters Health) - Women who were

> sexually abused as

> > children may face a heightened risk for

> fibromyalgia, a chronic pain syndrome

> > that typically has no obvious explanation.

> >

> > Although researchers say sexual abuse does not

> cause fibromyalgia, it

> > may contribute to the onset of the syndrome, which

> is marked by chronic

> > pain at ``tender points'' in the neck, shoulders,

> spine and other body areas.

> > In a study of 26 women who had been sexually

> abused as children,

> > researchers found these women were more likely to

> report chronic pain compared with 54 women with no

> > history of abuse.

> >

> > Sixty-one percent of abused women said they had

> suffered pain for 3

> > months or more, while 43% of non-abused women did.

> And for abused women, the pain was more

> > widespread. Overall, eight women in the study had

> been diagnosed with fibromyalgia, six of whom had

> > been sexually abused as children.

> >

> > Dr. Hillel M. Finestone, of London Health Sciences

> Centre in London,

> > Ontario, reported the findings here Saturday at

> the annual meeting of the

> > American Academy of Physical Medicine and

> Rehabilitation.

> >

> > Finestone told Reuters Health he decided to

> investigate whether there

> > was a relationship between past sexual abuse and

> fibromyalgia because he

> > noticed a possible connection among his patients.

> Although women who were abused may have emotional

> > scars, Finestone said he has no doubt the women in

> his study were feeling ``real, physical muscle

> > pain.''

> >

> > Exactly why sexual abuse may leave women more

> vulnerable to

> > fibromyalgia is unclear. It is possible, according

> to Finestone, that stress had made these women

> > both more susceptible to muscle injury and pain

> and less capable of coping with it.

> >

> > The bottom line, he said, is that when a patient

> has unexplained

> > chronic pain, her doctor should ask whether she

> was ever sexually abused. ``We

> > should ask about it just like we ask about a

> history of heart disease or

> > diabetes,'' Finestone said, although he

> acknowledged it is a tough topic to

> > broach.

> >

> > However, he noted, women who were abused may have

> never realized that

> > what happened to them as children might still be

> affecting their health.

> > Getting psychological help, Finestone said, may

> help ease their physical

> > problems.

> >

> > ****************************

> >

> > Soft Hugs

> > Aria

> > Roanoke, Indiana

>

>

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

I will be honest & say that I was sexually abused as a

child for many years by my father. It actually makes

a lot of sense to me. I am quite aware of how this

has affected my life as an adult & it is really

important to deal with the pain of the abuse. I think

that this may just be another example of how major

stress could be the trigger for fms.

Diane

--- Lyndi wrote:

> I read a report about this a while ago and decided

> to check with other people I know who have fibro.

> One of my sisters, one niece, one nephew and myself

> have fibro. None of us were sexually abused as

> kids. We also discussed this in our local fibro

> group. Of the twelve of us at the meeting, only one

> had experienced genuine sexual abuse as a kid. I'm

> quite certain everyone was being honest.

>

> Lyndi

>

> Grammie wrote:

>

> > I received this last November from a news group I

> was on. I

> > thought you gals would like to read it. This is

> possible my case

> > of how my fibro came about.

> >

> > *********************************

> >

> > Monday November 6 12:09 PM ET

> > Abused Women at Risk for Fibromyalgia

> > By Amy Norton

> >

> > SAN FRANCISCO (Reuters Health) - Women who were

> sexually abused as

> > children may face a heightened risk for

> fibromyalgia, a chronic pain syndrome

> > that typically has no obvious explanation.

> >

> > Although researchers say sexual abuse does not

> cause fibromyalgia, it

> > may contribute to the onset of the syndrome, which

> is marked by chronic

> > pain at ``tender points'' in the neck, shoulders,

> spine and other body areas.

> > In a study of 26 women who had been sexually

> abused as children,

> > researchers found these women were more likely to

> report chronic pain compared with 54 women with no

> > history of abuse.

> >

> > Sixty-one percent of abused women said they had

> suffered pain for 3

> > months or more, while 43% of non-abused women did.

> And for abused women, the pain was more

> > widespread. Overall, eight women in the study had

> been diagnosed with fibromyalgia, six of whom had

> > been sexually abused as children.

> >

> > Dr. Hillel M. Finestone, of London Health Sciences

> Centre in London,

> > Ontario, reported the findings here Saturday at

> the annual meeting of the

> > American Academy of Physical Medicine and

> Rehabilitation.

> >

> > Finestone told Reuters Health he decided to

> investigate whether there

> > was a relationship between past sexual abuse and

> fibromyalgia because he

> > noticed a possible connection among his patients.

> Although women who were abused may have emotional

> > scars, Finestone said he has no doubt the women in

> his study were feeling ``real, physical muscle

> > pain.''

> >

> > Exactly why sexual abuse may leave women more

> vulnerable to

> > fibromyalgia is unclear. It is possible, according

> to Finestone, that stress had made these women

> > both more susceptible to muscle injury and pain

> and less capable of coping with it.

> >

> > The bottom line, he said, is that when a patient

> has unexplained

> > chronic pain, her doctor should ask whether she

> was ever sexually abused. ``We

> > should ask about it just like we ask about a

> history of heart disease or

> > diabetes,'' Finestone said, although he

> acknowledged it is a tough topic to

> > broach.

> >

> > However, he noted, women who were abused may have

> never realized that

> > what happened to them as children might still be

> affecting their health.

> > Getting psychological help, Finestone said, may

> help ease their physical

> > problems.

> >

> > ****************************

> >

> > Soft Hugs

> > Aria

> > Roanoke, Indiana

>

>

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Allicia21@... wrote:

> That sounds like me to a " T " I worry weather or not I make alot of

> people upset or not and always have. I try to be friends with everyone and if

> one person doesn't like me for a warranted reason I get very sick to my tummy

> and I stress over it big time. There is a woman at my boyfriends work place

> that can not stand the site of me..she cringes everytime she see's me and why

> I have not the slightest clue.

Although it isn't quite the same, I try to remember what someone once

said about " why would you care what someone who doesn't like you/you

don't like thinks? " If you think about it, it's true. You obviously

have already lost their respect and friendship, so why should you care

what they think? But, like the rest of you, I tend to stress if someone

doesn't like me and there isn't a reason. I am getting better about it

though.

Darcy

[Guest guest]

Allicia21@... wrote:

> That sounds like me to a " T " I worry weather or not I make alot of

> people upset or not and always have. I try to be friends with everyone and if

> one person doesn't like me for a warranted reason I get very sick to my tummy

> and I stress over it big time. There is a woman at my boyfriends work place

> that can not stand the site of me..she cringes everytime she see's me and why

> I have not the slightest clue.

Although it isn't quite the same, I try to remember what someone once

said about " why would you care what someone who doesn't like you/you

don't like thinks? " If you think about it, it's true. You obviously

have already lost their respect and friendship, so why should you care

what they think? But, like the rest of you, I tend to stress if someone

doesn't like me and there isn't a reason. I am getting better about it

though.

Darcy

[Guest guest]

Allicia21@... wrote:

> That sounds like me to a " T " I worry weather or not I make alot of

> people upset or not and always have. I try to be friends with everyone and if

> one person doesn't like me for a warranted reason I get very sick to my tummy

> and I stress over it big time. There is a woman at my boyfriends work place

> that can not stand the site of me..she cringes everytime she see's me and why

> I have not the slightest clue.

Although it isn't quite the same, I try to remember what someone once

said about " why would you care what someone who doesn't like you/you

don't like thinks? " If you think about it, it's true. You obviously

have already lost their respect and friendship, so why should you care

what they think? But, like the rest of you, I tend to stress if someone

doesn't like me and there isn't a reason. I am getting better about it

though.

Darcy

[Guest guest]

I was also physically abused in my first marriage, very badly. I've often

wondered how much of an effect that has had on my medical history. ~Annette

-----Original Message-----

From: patidu@...

I was not sexually abused but I was physically abused. Very badly. For

almost 12 years. I think that had a lot to do with me having fibro now.

Take care,

Irene

I read a report about this a while ago and decided to check with other

people I know who have fibro.

One of my sisters, one niece, one nephew and myself have fibro. None of

us

were sexually abused as

kids. We also discussed this in our local fibro group. Of the twelve of

us

at the meeting, only one

had experienced genuine sexual abuse as a kid. I'm quite certain everyone

was being honest.

>>

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/25/2001 4:04:12 AM US Eastern Standard Time,

catstamp@... writes:

> why would you care what someone who doesn't like you/you

> don't like thinks? " If you think about it, it's true

Darcy,

yes this is very true...my b/f is all the time yell'n at me because I

let this woman get under my skin so....there are times I just sit and bawl

like a baby about it and then there are other times I just wanna jump right

up in her face and ask her what her problem is...(outspoken most of the time

I am...lol) but I know I can't because that would cause hardships on my

b/f...so I just keep quiet and look right through her like she isn't there...

Allicia

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/25/2001 4:04:12 AM US Eastern Standard Time,

catstamp@... writes:

> why would you care what someone who doesn't like you/you

> don't like thinks? " If you think about it, it's true

Darcy,

yes this is very true...my b/f is all the time yell'n at me because I

let this woman get under my skin so....there are times I just sit and bawl

like a baby about it and then there are other times I just wanna jump right

up in her face and ask her what her problem is...(outspoken most of the time

I am...lol) but I know I can't because that would cause hardships on my

b/f...so I just keep quiet and look right through her like she isn't there...

Allicia

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/25/2001 4:04:12 AM US Eastern Standard Time,

catstamp@... writes:

> why would you care what someone who doesn't like you/you

> don't like thinks? " If you think about it, it's true

Darcy,

yes this is very true...my b/f is all the time yell'n at me because I

let this woman get under my skin so....there are times I just sit and bawl

like a baby about it and then there are other times I just wanna jump right

up in her face and ask her what her problem is...(outspoken most of the time

I am...lol) but I know I can't because that would cause hardships on my

b/f...so I just keep quiet and look right through her like she isn't there...

Allicia