/Re: Help! My daughter is not adjusting to her DOC

February 17, 2006

Hi ,

Thanks for the reply, I really appreciate it. I took the band off

last night to see if anything would change. Yup. She slept her

usual 12.5 hours and woke up smiling. She jsut hates the band and

is VERY vocal about it. Tonight we will be going back to our old

sleep training habits, which does include crying it out a bit. I

feel badly for you and Isabelle with the crying it out. Yes at six

months she may be getting up once a night (accd to the sleep books,

peds etc) but there are ways to help teach her to sleep rather than

jsut crying. The two books I swear by are Healthy Sleep Habits,

Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth and Baby Wise by Ezzo Bucknam. The

Weissbluth is esp helpful. Yes, it will involve them crying but it

will also help you understand where she should be with her sleep

patterns etc. No two kids are the same so maybe Isabelle just needs

a little longer to get there. I hope I'm not offending you as an

uncaring parent just letting your baby cry it out. Hardly. I did

exactly what you did (lying there in the dark praying that she will

stop crying) but it really helped me understand the logic behind why

they sleep the way they do, how much sleep they need, what is

normal/abnormal etc. Also, it helps with how long they should be

crying it out. An hour or more is starting to push it...depending

on her level of crying. If you only buy one book, buy the Weissbluth

one. Olivia has been a great sleeper because of that book and so

was my son after I discovered it. Good luck and thank you so much

for your support. I will letting my little turkey cry a bit more

tonight and hopefully she will just adjust...hopefully!

> > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > Hi,

> > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > My daughter received her DOCband last Wed and none

> of

> > us

> > > > has

> > > > > > > slept a

> > > > > > > > > wink since then. I read the tips on how to adjust

> to

> > the

> > > > > first

> > > > > > > band

> > > > > > > > > etc but nothing seems to be working. She does

have

> a

> > red

> > > > > spot

> > > > > > > on

> > > > > > > > > the back of her head but it is only the size of a

> dime

> > > and

> > > > > > > doesn't

> > > > > > > > > seem to be getting any worse or better (it's also

a

> > med

> > > > pink

> > > > > but

> > > > > > > she

> > > > > > > > > is also very fair). I have tried to dress her

> lightly

> > > and

> > > > > she

> > > > > > > woke

> > > > > > > > > up frozen (I live in Canada) and then I tried to

> dress

> > > her

> > > > > > > heavier.

> > > > > > > > > Nothing is working. Prior to this she had been

> > sleeping

> > > > 12

> > > > > > > hours

> > > > > > > > > straight every night. Since the band went on she

> > sleep

> > > > max 4

> > > > > > > hours.

> > > > > > > > > Last night was every 2 hours; sometimes less! I

> felt

> > > > like I

> > > > > > > had a

> > > > > > > > > newborn. We let her cry a little to see if she

was

> > > > really

> > > > > up

> > > > > > > but

> > > > > > > > > she would end up wailing and I would have to go

in.

> > She

> > > > > didn't

> > > > > > > even

> > > > > > > > > really want to nurse, just cuddle and she fell

back

> > > > asleep. I

> > > > > > > know

> > > > > > > > > we will stick with the band but emotionally I just

> > want

> > > to

> > > > > throw

> > > > > > > in

> > > > > > > > > the towel. It's not just because we are so tired

> > (we'll

> > > > get

> > > > > > > over

> > > > > > > > > that) it's her crying when previously she almost

> never

> > > > cried

> > > > > for

> > > > > > > > > anything. We have an adjustment today so I will

be

> > > > > mentioning

> > > > > > > all

> > > > > > > > > this to the OT but I don't expect too much

> > advice...she

> > > > > doesn't

> > > > > > > have

> > > > > > > > > the best " bed-side " manner. Pretty much all

> > business. I

> > > > > know

> > > > > > > what

> > > > > > > > > she'll say...just wait it out. But I am

desperate.

> > At

> > > > 4:00

> > > > > > > this

> > > > > > > > > morning I sat in my daughter's room in her rocking

> > chair,

> > > > > > > nursing

> > > > > > > > > her and I bawled my eyes out like a baby. I

> couldn't

> > > help

> > > > > it.

> > > > > > > We

> > > > > > > > > had been so looking forward to getting this band

to

> > help

> > > > fix

> > > > > > > things

> > > > > > > > > and I know it will in the long run but right now I

> am

> > > just

> > > > > worn

> > > > > > > > > out. I have a 2 1/2 year old boy who is potty-

> > training

> > > > and

> > > > > > > doing

> > > > > > > > > pretty much everything a toddler does. I am

> > exhausted.

> > > > > FAmily

> > > > > > > is

> > > > > > > > > not the biggest help because t

> > > > > > > > heir advice is " Just take off the

> > > > > > > > > helmet " . This is their advice even though my

> daughter

> > > was

> > > > > > > severe

> > > > > > > > > accd to the STARscanner reports. Any advice would

be

> > > > great.

> > > > > Esp

> > > > > > > on

> > > > > > > > > how to dress them at night. It does get cold

here.

> I

> > > > have

> > > > > put

> > > > > > > her

> > > > > > > > > in long sleeve PJ's with a sleep sack. I have

tried

> > short

> > > > > > > sleeved

> > > > > > > > > PJ's with the sleep sack. I have tried no sleep

> > sack.

> > > > > Either

> > > > > > > she

> > > > > > > > > is freezing or I presume she's hot. The rest of

the

> > > family

> > > > is

> > > > > > > > > freezing so I don't know how she's hot but maybe

she

> > is.

> > > > I

> > > > > took

> > > > > > > her

> > > > > > > > > band off at 4:00 AM but her hair wasn't wet etc.

I

> > just

> > > > > don't

> > > > > > > know

> > > > > > > > > what to do. Heck, maybe she's teething? She's

> almost

> > 6

> > > > mths

> > > > > > > old.

> > > > > > > > > But all this only started when the band went on.

> > > > > > > > > This is definately a really low point for us.

> > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > Thanks,

> > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

February 17, 2006