Guest guest Posted April 30, 2005 Report Share Posted April 30, 2005 , that is a great analogy!! Lauri > Hello There, I am feeling the same way as you are. I have a lot of > friends and family judging my decision to get a DOC band for my son > too. I hear the same things you do: " How could you do that to > him " , " won't that hurt him " , " it will go away in time " , " you are > over reacting " , " It's not that bad " , so I know what you are going > through as I am having the same trouble right now. I am second > guessing myself too. My son is 4.5 months old, and I wanted to do > something about it now before he gets older. He has been getting > progressively worse and was finally diagnosed Brachy/Plagio. I am > sometimes offended that people would judge my actions as a mother, > and say those things, because they are giving me cold feet too. I > think I will second guess myself until the day his band comes off, > or the results start to appear. I will probably cry more than he > will during his time with the band on, but I feel if I wait too > long, it may bee harder to fix, and bother him more. I even have the > doctors telling me to keep repositioning him, but it is not working, > and I am losing my mind trying to stay up all night worrying if he > has rolled back to the flat spot. I even bought a BUMBO chair, > refused to put him back in his swing or bouncy seat and try to hold > him upright (and on his tummy) 12 hours a day, and that is not > working. I have been doing that for 2 months now. I wish I could > tell you to it is the best thing for your child, but only you know > that. I know what it is like not to have the support from the family > to reassure you that you are making the right choice. I lack that > option as well. I find that the women on this site are very helpful, > and experienced. I have really researched and learned a lot from > this group site, and it's members. The choice is still yours. I > am > still in your boat, looking for reassurance, and second guessing > myself at every turn, but I feel I have to give it a try for my son. > The only advice I can muster up is: As his mother, YOU know what is > best for your son, and you would never do anything you thought would > not be to his benefit. Throughout his life you will always act in > his best interest in every situation, even if it is not to yours. > That is the way I feel anyway, and how I am able to convince myself > that I am doing the right thing, or attempting to anyway. If I can > help In any way, or tell you more about my journey, just email me > and I will send you some pictures of my son, or keep you posted on > our DOC band journey. It all starts for me next week. I finally got > off the fence and started to listen to myself. (Hopefully I will go > through with it!) All the best to you, and good luck, I know it is > hard when you feel like you are alone in your decision. Take care, > Pam > > > > > > For more plagio info Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2005 Report Share Posted April 30, 2005 , that is a great analogy!! Lauri > Hello There, I am feeling the same way as you are. I have a lot of > friends and family judging my decision to get a DOC band for my son > too. I hear the same things you do: " How could you do that to > him " , " won't that hurt him " , " it will go away in time " , " you are > over reacting " , " It's not that bad " , so I know what you are going > through as I am having the same trouble right now. I am second > guessing myself too. My son is 4.5 months old, and I wanted to do > something about it now before he gets older. He has been getting > progressively worse and was finally diagnosed Brachy/Plagio. I am > sometimes offended that people would judge my actions as a mother, > and say those things, because they are giving me cold feet too. I > think I will second guess myself until the day his band comes off, > or the results start to appear. I will probably cry more than he > will during his time with the band on, but I feel if I wait too > long, it may bee harder to fix, and bother him more. I even have the > doctors telling me to keep repositioning him, but it is not working, > and I am losing my mind trying to stay up all night worrying if he > has rolled back to the flat spot. I even bought a BUMBO chair, > refused to put him back in his swing or bouncy seat and try to hold > him upright (and on his tummy) 12 hours a day, and that is not > working. I have been doing that for 2 months now. I wish I could > tell you to it is the best thing for your child, but only you know > that. I know what it is like not to have the support from the family > to reassure you that you are making the right choice. I lack that > option as well. I find that the women on this site are very helpful, > and experienced. I have really researched and learned a lot from > this group site, and it's members. The choice is still yours. I > am > still in your boat, looking for reassurance, and second guessing > myself at every turn, but I feel I have to give it a try for my son. > The only advice I can muster up is: As his mother, YOU know what is > best for your son, and you would never do anything you thought would > not be to his benefit. Throughout his life you will always act in > his best interest in every situation, even if it is not to yours. > That is the way I feel anyway, and how I am able to convince myself > that I am doing the right thing, or attempting to anyway. If I can > help In any way, or tell you more about my journey, just email me > and I will send you some pictures of my son, or keep you posted on > our DOC band journey. It all starts for me next week. I finally got > off the fence and started to listen to myself. (Hopefully I will go > through with it!) All the best to you, and good luck, I know it is > hard when you feel like you are alone in your decision. Take care, > Pam > > > > > > For more plagio info Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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