Re: Need support!!!!

May 1, 2005

I just thought I would add this.

I questioned myself whether my son needed the band. My mother on the

onther hand told me that it did not matter what it cost or how far I

had to drive, her grandson was going to get his head fixed. When she

put it that way, they I felt really guilty and never questioned

whether the band was right again.

ellen

Kellen - 9 months old and 3 weeks and counting in the DOC Band

> > Hello There, I am feeling the same way as you are. I have a lot of

> > friends and family judging my decision to get a DOC band for my son

> > too. I hear the same things you do: " How could you do that to

> > him " , " won't that hurt him " , " it will go away in time " , " you are

> > over reacting " , " It's not that bad " , so I know what you are going

> > through as I am having the same trouble right now. I am second

> > guessing myself too. My son is 4.5 months old, and I wanted to do

> > something about it now before he gets older. He has been getting

> > progressively worse and was finally diagnosed Brachy/Plagio. I am

> > sometimes offended that people would judge my actions as a mother,

> > and say those things, because they are giving me cold feet too. I

> > think I will second guess myself until the day his band comes off,

> > or the results start to appear. I will probably cry more than he

> > will during his time with the band on, but I feel if I wait too

> > long, it may bee harder to fix, and bother him more. I even have

> the

> > doctors telling me to keep repositioning him, but it is not

> working,

> > and I am losing my mind trying to stay up all night worrying if he

> > has rolled back to the flat spot. I even bought a BUMBO chair,

> > refused to put him back in his swing or bouncy seat and try to hold

> > him upright (and on his tummy) 12 hours a day, and that is not

> > working. I have been doing that for 2 months now. I wish I could

> > tell you to it is the best thing for your child, but only you know

> > that. I know what it is like not to have the support from the

> family

> > to reassure you that you are making the right choice. I lack that

> > option as well. I find that the women on this site are very

> helpful,

> > and experienced. I have really researched and learned a lot from

> > this group site, and it's members. The choice is still yours. I

> > am

> > still in your boat, looking for reassurance, and second guessing

> > myself at every turn, but I feel I have to give it a try for my

> son.

> > The only advice I can muster up is: As his mother, YOU know what

> is

> > best for your son, and you would never do anything you thought

> would

> > not be to his benefit. Throughout his life you will always act in

> > his best interest in every situation, even if it is not to yours.

> > That is the way I feel anyway, and how I am able to convince myself

> > that I am doing the right thing, or attempting to anyway. If I can

> > help In any way, or tell you more about my journey, just email me

> > and I will send you some pictures of my son, or keep you posted on

> > our DOC band journey. It all starts for me next week. I finally got

> > off the fence and started to listen to myself. (Hopefully I will

> go

> > through with it!) All the best to you, and good luck, I know it is

> > hard when you feel like you are alone in your decision. Take care,

> > Pam

> >

> > For more plagio info

May 1, 2005