Guest guest Posted May 16, 2001 Report Share Posted May 16, 2001 In a message dated 5/16/01 9:36:48 AM Eastern Daylight Time, destocks@... writes: > Should I just give in and put in my two week notice and the heck with > everything, we'll work it out as Dane says, or should I try my best to make > it through? Please give me your thoughts! I can feel my blood pressure is > rising right now as I type this. > D > > You know that stress is horrible for fibro. I say give your notice. Things do work out for themselves. You have to take care of yourself. I miss nursing a lot, but just couldn't do it anymore. We missed the pay for about 6 weeks then out of the blu my husband who is a computer got offered a different position with a 40 thousand dollar raise. You never know what's around the corner. Please take care of YOU! Nurses orders. Kathy D. Diagnosed in 98 Live in Western Massachusetts Married for almost 19yrs, to a sweetheart Mother to 16 and 14 My Rottie dog Shelby Spooky the cat Hobbies: Boating, Learning this computer Arts & Crafts, and a passionate reader Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2001 Report Share Posted May 16, 2001 In a message dated 5/16/01 9:36:48 AM Eastern Daylight Time, destocks@... writes: > Should I just give in and put in my two week notice and the heck with > everything, we'll work it out as Dane says, or should I try my best to make > it through? Please give me your thoughts! I can feel my blood pressure is > rising right now as I type this. > D > > You know that stress is horrible for fibro. I say give your notice. Things do work out for themselves. You have to take care of yourself. I miss nursing a lot, but just couldn't do it anymore. We missed the pay for about 6 weeks then out of the blu my husband who is a computer got offered a different position with a 40 thousand dollar raise. You never know what's around the corner. Please take care of YOU! Nurses orders. Kathy D. Diagnosed in 98 Live in Western Massachusetts Married for almost 19yrs, to a sweetheart Mother to 16 and 14 My Rottie dog Shelby Spooky the cat Hobbies: Boating, Learning this computer Arts & Crafts, and a passionate reader Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2001 Report Share Posted May 16, 2001 OMG Darcy, I totally know how you feel!!! I just had a long conversation with last night about how I can't do my work anymore. I don't think he understands though I don't think he (or I for that matter) want to admit and realize that I might be disabled. Gawd I just don't want to be disabled, I want to be normal! but I haven't made it into work earlier than 10 am in 3 weeks!!!! Then if I stay late to make up time I am so exhausted that I just can't do a thing when I get home. I'm crabby and miserable because I hurt so bad when I walk in the door at home. With 's Navy salary, I actually make a bit more than he does. He made a comment that after we get married we will have a little more BAH (that's housing money) but not enough to make up for my income if I have to quit. I have no idea if I could ever get disability. I keep thinking back to the last really bad flare I had...It was in 1997 right after my Xhusband walked out on me and he filed for divorce. I got so sick, I had bronchitis and near pneumonia, my body hurt, I could not sleep. When the bronchitis cleared up I still could not move or think, the pain was so bad. I never saw a doctor for it, or I should say, I never asked for help for it. I just thought it was in my mind because I just wanted to die. I didn't know how I was going to survive, I made 1/3 of our joint income. It was a terrible time, stressful and miserable. I had to quit my job because I couldn't make it into work, not to mention the 1 hour drive there and back everyday. I had no support from my family, my parents kicked me out of their home that we were renting because I couldn't afford the rent. I ended up living with a friend of a friend and she let me live there for two months without paying rent. I didn't work for 3 months and I just let my body do what it wanted to do. I slept in till noon if I needed to, went to bed at dawn if I could not fall asleep. I did my gardening when I could, went out and sang Karaoke when I felt good enough. I eventually got better. I can't help but think that maybe if I took a break this time that I might get better, but this " flare " is worse than I've ever had. I'm thinking about maybe asking my boss if I can go part time for a few months. The last few weekends I've been sleeping all day, I go to bed at 10 pm friday, wake up at 9am to go to the bathroom and drink a glass of water, then I sleep until 1-3 pm. I do the same Saturday and Sunday. By Sunday afternoon I start to feel almost normal, like I could do some yard work, or clean the house but I don't because I'll be too exhausted to wake up for work the next day if I do. I'm thinking maybe if I take a friday or monday off every week that the extra day would let me rest more, and finally get some things done at home. Gosh when I can't do ANYTHING at home, I can't clean, cook, unpack! (we moved 3 months ago, still living in boxes) I just feel like such a loser, I feel like a lazy waste of human life! I really don't know what the answer is. I just want you to know that I understand, and I'm going through something similar. We also might transfer to WA next year. I sorta hope that maybe I could take 3-6 months off after the move and not work. Then I look at finances and my bills and realize that there is NO WAY we could afford to have me not working. If your husband thinks you can get by financially, I'd say do what you need to do for your health. And most importantly, don't feel guilty afterwards! I don't know if my continuing to work is making me worse or not. All I know is I'm capable of doing only 50% of the work in the amount of time I used to. No one has noticed yet, it's only a matter of time. I can't think straight, I can't make sense of words and sentences sometimes. I'm upset about these medications that seem to be making me feel worse, and making me unable to work. Here I just took your problem and turned it into my own soap box! I'm sorry! I just hope the best for you and I really know how you feel. I find myself wishing everyday that I could stop working and just rest. Joy nickname: Fawn 28 yrs. old dx 1/01, FMS symptoms for 19 yrs. live with Navy SO Baby cat 10 yrs old Hobbies: Cars, Gardening, Tropical Fish, Karaoke San Diego, CA ICQ: 19951984 AOL IM: Fawndles YAHOO: Fawnz73rs quitting work Well, after I called Dane in tears this morning because of how hard it was to drag myself into work today, he told me I can put in my notice anytime I want to, that we'll work things out somehow. I've had a bad last couple of nights, I wake up in the middle of the night with my allergies flaring, and then have to go sleep on the couch for what little sleep I get. Last night when I woke up, my nose was so stuffed shut, I had been breathing through my mouth to the point where my entire throat had dried out. We have been trying to get me to stay working until after the neurologist's follow up visit since she isn't on Dane's insurance which would mean I'd have to pay for her out of pocket. The initial visit was $300 +. And there isn't any guarantee that she wouldn't schedule more tests and then another follow up visit another month and a half away. There is no way I'm going to make another three months of working. I'm not even sure I can make six weeks of working. I told him I am going to try to wait until we talk to the financial planner on Monday and see what he says, but he may not have stuff to tell us on Monday. He may have to do some kind of figuring and get back to us. Hopefully he could get us at least started with some rough figures so we could go looking for insurance and a mortgage company. I've just been going downhill a little more each week. I'm now at missing a day a week on most weeks, and last week with everything going on, I wasn't there almost the entire week. I have less than two sick days, and 8 vacation days left. Am I making myself worse by trying to struggle on for another six weeks? Should I just give in and put in my two week notice and the heck with everything, we'll work it out as Dane says, or should I try my best to make it through? Please give me your thoughts! I can feel my blood pressure is rising right now as I type this. D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2001 Report Share Posted May 16, 2001 OMG Darcy, I totally know how you feel!!! I just had a long conversation with last night about how I can't do my work anymore. I don't think he understands though I don't think he (or I for that matter) want to admit and realize that I might be disabled. Gawd I just don't want to be disabled, I want to be normal! but I haven't made it into work earlier than 10 am in 3 weeks!!!! Then if I stay late to make up time I am so exhausted that I just can't do a thing when I get home. I'm crabby and miserable because I hurt so bad when I walk in the door at home. With 's Navy salary, I actually make a bit more than he does. He made a comment that after we get married we will have a little more BAH (that's housing money) but not enough to make up for my income if I have to quit. I have no idea if I could ever get disability. I keep thinking back to the last really bad flare I had...It was in 1997 right after my Xhusband walked out on me and he filed for divorce. I got so sick, I had bronchitis and near pneumonia, my body hurt, I could not sleep. When the bronchitis cleared up I still could not move or think, the pain was so bad. I never saw a doctor for it, or I should say, I never asked for help for it. I just thought it was in my mind because I just wanted to die. I didn't know how I was going to survive, I made 1/3 of our joint income. It was a terrible time, stressful and miserable. I had to quit my job because I couldn't make it into work, not to mention the 1 hour drive there and back everyday. I had no support from my family, my parents kicked me out of their home that we were renting because I couldn't afford the rent. I ended up living with a friend of a friend and she let me live there for two months without paying rent. I didn't work for 3 months and I just let my body do what it wanted to do. I slept in till noon if I needed to, went to bed at dawn if I could not fall asleep. I did my gardening when I could, went out and sang Karaoke when I felt good enough. I eventually got better. I can't help but think that maybe if I took a break this time that I might get better, but this " flare " is worse than I've ever had. I'm thinking about maybe asking my boss if I can go part time for a few months. The last few weekends I've been sleeping all day, I go to bed at 10 pm friday, wake up at 9am to go to the bathroom and drink a glass of water, then I sleep until 1-3 pm. I do the same Saturday and Sunday. By Sunday afternoon I start to feel almost normal, like I could do some yard work, or clean the house but I don't because I'll be too exhausted to wake up for work the next day if I do. I'm thinking maybe if I take a friday or monday off every week that the extra day would let me rest more, and finally get some things done at home. Gosh when I can't do ANYTHING at home, I can't clean, cook, unpack! (we moved 3 months ago, still living in boxes) I just feel like such a loser, I feel like a lazy waste of human life! I really don't know what the answer is. I just want you to know that I understand, and I'm going through something similar. We also might transfer to WA next year. I sorta hope that maybe I could take 3-6 months off after the move and not work. Then I look at finances and my bills and realize that there is NO WAY we could afford to have me not working. If your husband thinks you can get by financially, I'd say do what you need to do for your health. And most importantly, don't feel guilty afterwards! I don't know if my continuing to work is making me worse or not. All I know is I'm capable of doing only 50% of the work in the amount of time I used to. No one has noticed yet, it's only a matter of time. I can't think straight, I can't make sense of words and sentences sometimes. I'm upset about these medications that seem to be making me feel worse, and making me unable to work. Here I just took your problem and turned it into my own soap box! I'm sorry! I just hope the best for you and I really know how you feel. I find myself wishing everyday that I could stop working and just rest. Joy nickname: Fawn 28 yrs. old dx 1/01, FMS symptoms for 19 yrs. live with Navy SO Baby cat 10 yrs old Hobbies: Cars, Gardening, Tropical Fish, Karaoke San Diego, CA ICQ: 19951984 AOL IM: Fawndles YAHOO: Fawnz73rs quitting work Well, after I called Dane in tears this morning because of how hard it was to drag myself into work today, he told me I can put in my notice anytime I want to, that we'll work things out somehow. I've had a bad last couple of nights, I wake up in the middle of the night with my allergies flaring, and then have to go sleep on the couch for what little sleep I get. Last night when I woke up, my nose was so stuffed shut, I had been breathing through my mouth to the point where my entire throat had dried out. We have been trying to get me to stay working until after the neurologist's follow up visit since she isn't on Dane's insurance which would mean I'd have to pay for her out of pocket. The initial visit was $300 +. And there isn't any guarantee that she wouldn't schedule more tests and then another follow up visit another month and a half away. There is no way I'm going to make another three months of working. I'm not even sure I can make six weeks of working. I told him I am going to try to wait until we talk to the financial planner on Monday and see what he says, but he may not have stuff to tell us on Monday. He may have to do some kind of figuring and get back to us. Hopefully he could get us at least started with some rough figures so we could go looking for insurance and a mortgage company. I've just been going downhill a little more each week. I'm now at missing a day a week on most weeks, and last week with everything going on, I wasn't there almost the entire week. I have less than two sick days, and 8 vacation days left. Am I making myself worse by trying to struggle on for another six weeks? Should I just give in and put in my two week notice and the heck with everything, we'll work it out as Dane says, or should I try my best to make it through? Please give me your thoughts! I can feel my blood pressure is rising right now as I type this. D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2001 Report Share Posted May 16, 2001 OMG Darcy, I totally know how you feel!!! I just had a long conversation with last night about how I can't do my work anymore. I don't think he understands though I don't think he (or I for that matter) want to admit and realize that I might be disabled. Gawd I just don't want to be disabled, I want to be normal! but I haven't made it into work earlier than 10 am in 3 weeks!!!! Then if I stay late to make up time I am so exhausted that I just can't do a thing when I get home. I'm crabby and miserable because I hurt so bad when I walk in the door at home. With 's Navy salary, I actually make a bit more than he does. He made a comment that after we get married we will have a little more BAH (that's housing money) but not enough to make up for my income if I have to quit. I have no idea if I could ever get disability. I keep thinking back to the last really bad flare I had...It was in 1997 right after my Xhusband walked out on me and he filed for divorce. I got so sick, I had bronchitis and near pneumonia, my body hurt, I could not sleep. When the bronchitis cleared up I still could not move or think, the pain was so bad. I never saw a doctor for it, or I should say, I never asked for help for it. I just thought it was in my mind because I just wanted to die. I didn't know how I was going to survive, I made 1/3 of our joint income. It was a terrible time, stressful and miserable. I had to quit my job because I couldn't make it into work, not to mention the 1 hour drive there and back everyday. I had no support from my family, my parents kicked me out of their home that we were renting because I couldn't afford the rent. I ended up living with a friend of a friend and she let me live there for two months without paying rent. I didn't work for 3 months and I just let my body do what it wanted to do. I slept in till noon if I needed to, went to bed at dawn if I could not fall asleep. I did my gardening when I could, went out and sang Karaoke when I felt good enough. I eventually got better. I can't help but think that maybe if I took a break this time that I might get better, but this " flare " is worse than I've ever had. I'm thinking about maybe asking my boss if I can go part time for a few months. The last few weekends I've been sleeping all day, I go to bed at 10 pm friday, wake up at 9am to go to the bathroom and drink a glass of water, then I sleep until 1-3 pm. I do the same Saturday and Sunday. By Sunday afternoon I start to feel almost normal, like I could do some yard work, or clean the house but I don't because I'll be too exhausted to wake up for work the next day if I do. I'm thinking maybe if I take a friday or monday off every week that the extra day would let me rest more, and finally get some things done at home. Gosh when I can't do ANYTHING at home, I can't clean, cook, unpack! (we moved 3 months ago, still living in boxes) I just feel like such a loser, I feel like a lazy waste of human life! I really don't know what the answer is. I just want you to know that I understand, and I'm going through something similar. We also might transfer to WA next year. I sorta hope that maybe I could take 3-6 months off after the move and not work. Then I look at finances and my bills and realize that there is NO WAY we could afford to have me not working. If your husband thinks you can get by financially, I'd say do what you need to do for your health. And most importantly, don't feel guilty afterwards! I don't know if my continuing to work is making me worse or not. All I know is I'm capable of doing only 50% of the work in the amount of time I used to. No one has noticed yet, it's only a matter of time. I can't think straight, I can't make sense of words and sentences sometimes. I'm upset about these medications that seem to be making me feel worse, and making me unable to work. Here I just took your problem and turned it into my own soap box! I'm sorry! I just hope the best for you and I really know how you feel. I find myself wishing everyday that I could stop working and just rest. Joy nickname: Fawn 28 yrs. old dx 1/01, FMS symptoms for 19 yrs. live with Navy SO Baby cat 10 yrs old Hobbies: Cars, Gardening, Tropical Fish, Karaoke San Diego, CA ICQ: 19951984 AOL IM: Fawndles YAHOO: Fawnz73rs quitting work Well, after I called Dane in tears this morning because of how hard it was to drag myself into work today, he told me I can put in my notice anytime I want to, that we'll work things out somehow. I've had a bad last couple of nights, I wake up in the middle of the night with my allergies flaring, and then have to go sleep on the couch for what little sleep I get. Last night when I woke up, my nose was so stuffed shut, I had been breathing through my mouth to the point where my entire throat had dried out. We have been trying to get me to stay working until after the neurologist's follow up visit since she isn't on Dane's insurance which would mean I'd have to pay for her out of pocket. The initial visit was $300 +. And there isn't any guarantee that she wouldn't schedule more tests and then another follow up visit another month and a half away. There is no way I'm going to make another three months of working. I'm not even sure I can make six weeks of working. I told him I am going to try to wait until we talk to the financial planner on Monday and see what he says, but he may not have stuff to tell us on Monday. He may have to do some kind of figuring and get back to us. Hopefully he could get us at least started with some rough figures so we could go looking for insurance and a mortgage company. I've just been going downhill a little more each week. I'm now at missing a day a week on most weeks, and last week with everything going on, I wasn't there almost the entire week. I have less than two sick days, and 8 vacation days left. Am I making myself worse by trying to struggle on for another six weeks? Should I just give in and put in my two week notice and the heck with everything, we'll work it out as Dane says, or should I try my best to make it through? Please give me your thoughts! I can feel my blood pressure is rising right now as I type this. D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2001 Report Share Posted May 16, 2001 If it were me I would put in my notice. You sound like you are in a lot of pain. Your are probably making it worse by all the stress you are having. If, as Dane said, the Y'all will be able to work it out I feel that you should try. From your email it does not sound like you could make it for 3 months. You need to get a lot of rest. We care for you and would like to see you being happier than you are now and I would guess that Dane would too. Please take care of yourself and keep me posted on how things are going. You are in my prayers. Take care, Irene > Should I just give in and put in my two week notice and the heck with > everything, we'll work it out as Dane says, or should I try my best to make > it through? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2001 Report Share Posted May 16, 2001 If it were me I would put in my notice. You sound like you are in a lot of pain. Your are probably making it worse by all the stress you are having. If, as Dane said, the Y'all will be able to work it out I feel that you should try. From your email it does not sound like you could make it for 3 months. You need to get a lot of rest. We care for you and would like to see you being happier than you are now and I would guess that Dane would too. Please take care of yourself and keep me posted on how things are going. You are in my prayers. Take care, Irene > Should I just give in and put in my two week notice and the heck with > everything, we'll work it out as Dane says, or should I try my best to make > it through? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2001 Report Share Posted May 16, 2001 If it were me I would put in my notice. You sound like you are in a lot of pain. Your are probably making it worse by all the stress you are having. If, as Dane said, the Y'all will be able to work it out I feel that you should try. From your email it does not sound like you could make it for 3 months. You need to get a lot of rest. We care for you and would like to see you being happier than you are now and I would guess that Dane would too. Please take care of yourself and keep me posted on how things are going. You are in my prayers. Take care, Irene > Should I just give in and put in my two week notice and the heck with > everything, we'll work it out as Dane says, or should I try my best to make > it through? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2001 Report Share Posted May 17, 2001 Tell them that you would like to go on a medical leave of absence. You don't get paid, but it gives you more freedom to choose your options! Plus, maybe your body just needs a week to drag! Good luck! Missy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 18, 2001 Report Share Posted May 18, 2001 I just had a long conversation with last night about how I can't do my work anymore. I don't think he understands though Dane understands, but I still think he is disappointed that we are going backwards with regards to our financial situation. He is very supportive, but there is an undercurrent there that he isn't saying much about. I feel guilty even though there is not reason I should feel guilty, I didn't pick this disease, I'm not saying " I can't do " when I really can, but still, I feel like I'm letting both of us down. Then if I stay late to make up time I am so exhausted that I just can't do a thing when I get home. I'm crabby and miserable because I hurt so bad when I walk in the door at home. Oh yeah, the couple of times that I've had to stay late, I'm so miserable and cranky when I hit the door, it isn't even funny. With 's Navy salary, I actually make a bit more than he does. Same here, but he gets much better raises than I do, so he'll pass me soon. I have no idea if I could ever get disability. I don't either, but seeing that someone said that their lawyer suggested listing *all* of their illnesses, I certainly ought to get a lot of help there! I had no support from my family, my parents kicked me out of their home that we were renting because I couldn't afford the rent. I ended up living with a friend of a friend and she let me live there for two months without paying rent. Wow, that is so incredible that your parents wouldn't give you any support, but a friend of a friend would. I'm sorry to hear this. I'm thinking about maybe asking my boss if I can go part time for a few months. My boss suggested it to me, so I'm going to try it. I do the same Saturday and Sunday. By Sunday afternoon I start to feel almost normal, like I could do some yard work, or clean the house but I don't because I'll be too exhausted to wake up for work the next day if I do. Boy, does this sound familiar!! If I have a day off, then I feel a tad bit better and I think " oh, I must be getting better " , but I'm not, I'm only doing so " well " because I did absolutely nothing the day before. I can do maybe one errand on Saturday, and Sunday I do nothing, either because I'm already so tired or if I do, I'll never make it through the work week. I'm thinking maybe if I take a friday or monday off every week that the extra day would let me rest more, and finally get some things done at home. Gosh when I can't do ANYTHING at home, I can't clean, cook, unpack! (we moved 3 months ago, still living in boxes) I just feel like such a loser, I feel like a lazy waste of human life! I hear you, I'm so use to running around doing lots of stuff, it kills me to sit and stare at the television. I hate stuff sitting around the house for months, and I hate to ask Dane to do even more since he does everything anyhow. I'm down to missing one day a week, and I'm still not better. Then I look at finances and my bills and realize that there is NO WAY we could afford to have me not working. I'm sorry to hear this. I know what it feels like to drag yourself into work every day. I don't know if my continuing to work is making me worse or not. All I know is I'm capable of doing only 50% of the work in the amount of time I used to. No one has noticed yet, it's only a matter of time. The people at my work have finally noticed. Even the people not working in my building are starting to go " oh, I haven't seen you for a while, Darcy. Where have you been? " If it isn't making you worse, it certainly isn't helping either. I can't think straight, I can't make sense of words and sentences sometimes. I'm upset about these medications that seem to be making me feel worse, and making me unable to work. Yup, my word problem is starting to get worse too. Here I just took your problem and turned it into my own soap box! I'm sorry! No problem at all, Joy, it helps to know that there is someone out there like me. I hope you can work something out for your finances. Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 18, 2001 Report Share Posted May 18, 2001 I just had a long conversation with last night about how I can't do my work anymore. I don't think he understands though Dane understands, but I still think he is disappointed that we are going backwards with regards to our financial situation. He is very supportive, but there is an undercurrent there that he isn't saying much about. I feel guilty even though there is not reason I should feel guilty, I didn't pick this disease, I'm not saying " I can't do " when I really can, but still, I feel like I'm letting both of us down. Then if I stay late to make up time I am so exhausted that I just can't do a thing when I get home. I'm crabby and miserable because I hurt so bad when I walk in the door at home. Oh yeah, the couple of times that I've had to stay late, I'm so miserable and cranky when I hit the door, it isn't even funny. With 's Navy salary, I actually make a bit more than he does. Same here, but he gets much better raises than I do, so he'll pass me soon. I have no idea if I could ever get disability. I don't either, but seeing that someone said that their lawyer suggested listing *all* of their illnesses, I certainly ought to get a lot of help there! I had no support from my family, my parents kicked me out of their home that we were renting because I couldn't afford the rent. I ended up living with a friend of a friend and she let me live there for two months without paying rent. Wow, that is so incredible that your parents wouldn't give you any support, but a friend of a friend would. I'm sorry to hear this. I'm thinking about maybe asking my boss if I can go part time for a few months. My boss suggested it to me, so I'm going to try it. I do the same Saturday and Sunday. By Sunday afternoon I start to feel almost normal, like I could do some yard work, or clean the house but I don't because I'll be too exhausted to wake up for work the next day if I do. Boy, does this sound familiar!! If I have a day off, then I feel a tad bit better and I think " oh, I must be getting better " , but I'm not, I'm only doing so " well " because I did absolutely nothing the day before. I can do maybe one errand on Saturday, and Sunday I do nothing, either because I'm already so tired or if I do, I'll never make it through the work week. I'm thinking maybe if I take a friday or monday off every week that the extra day would let me rest more, and finally get some things done at home. Gosh when I can't do ANYTHING at home, I can't clean, cook, unpack! (we moved 3 months ago, still living in boxes) I just feel like such a loser, I feel like a lazy waste of human life! I hear you, I'm so use to running around doing lots of stuff, it kills me to sit and stare at the television. I hate stuff sitting around the house for months, and I hate to ask Dane to do even more since he does everything anyhow. I'm down to missing one day a week, and I'm still not better. Then I look at finances and my bills and realize that there is NO WAY we could afford to have me not working. I'm sorry to hear this. I know what it feels like to drag yourself into work every day. I don't know if my continuing to work is making me worse or not. All I know is I'm capable of doing only 50% of the work in the amount of time I used to. No one has noticed yet, it's only a matter of time. The people at my work have finally noticed. Even the people not working in my building are starting to go " oh, I haven't seen you for a while, Darcy. Where have you been? " If it isn't making you worse, it certainly isn't helping either. I can't think straight, I can't make sense of words and sentences sometimes. I'm upset about these medications that seem to be making me feel worse, and making me unable to work. Yup, my word problem is starting to get worse too. Here I just took your problem and turned it into my own soap box! I'm sorry! No problem at all, Joy, it helps to know that there is someone out there like me. I hope you can work something out for your finances. Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 18, 2001 Report Share Posted May 18, 2001 I just had a long conversation with last night about how I can't do my work anymore. I don't think he understands though Dane understands, but I still think he is disappointed that we are going backwards with regards to our financial situation. He is very supportive, but there is an undercurrent there that he isn't saying much about. I feel guilty even though there is not reason I should feel guilty, I didn't pick this disease, I'm not saying " I can't do " when I really can, but still, I feel like I'm letting both of us down. Then if I stay late to make up time I am so exhausted that I just can't do a thing when I get home. I'm crabby and miserable because I hurt so bad when I walk in the door at home. Oh yeah, the couple of times that I've had to stay late, I'm so miserable and cranky when I hit the door, it isn't even funny. With 's Navy salary, I actually make a bit more than he does. Same here, but he gets much better raises than I do, so he'll pass me soon. I have no idea if I could ever get disability. I don't either, but seeing that someone said that their lawyer suggested listing *all* of their illnesses, I certainly ought to get a lot of help there! I had no support from my family, my parents kicked me out of their home that we were renting because I couldn't afford the rent. I ended up living with a friend of a friend and she let me live there for two months without paying rent. Wow, that is so incredible that your parents wouldn't give you any support, but a friend of a friend would. I'm sorry to hear this. I'm thinking about maybe asking my boss if I can go part time for a few months. My boss suggested it to me, so I'm going to try it. I do the same Saturday and Sunday. By Sunday afternoon I start to feel almost normal, like I could do some yard work, or clean the house but I don't because I'll be too exhausted to wake up for work the next day if I do. Boy, does this sound familiar!! If I have a day off, then I feel a tad bit better and I think " oh, I must be getting better " , but I'm not, I'm only doing so " well " because I did absolutely nothing the day before. I can do maybe one errand on Saturday, and Sunday I do nothing, either because I'm already so tired or if I do, I'll never make it through the work week. I'm thinking maybe if I take a friday or monday off every week that the extra day would let me rest more, and finally get some things done at home. Gosh when I can't do ANYTHING at home, I can't clean, cook, unpack! (we moved 3 months ago, still living in boxes) I just feel like such a loser, I feel like a lazy waste of human life! I hear you, I'm so use to running around doing lots of stuff, it kills me to sit and stare at the television. I hate stuff sitting around the house for months, and I hate to ask Dane to do even more since he does everything anyhow. I'm down to missing one day a week, and I'm still not better. Then I look at finances and my bills and realize that there is NO WAY we could afford to have me not working. I'm sorry to hear this. I know what it feels like to drag yourself into work every day. I don't know if my continuing to work is making me worse or not. All I know is I'm capable of doing only 50% of the work in the amount of time I used to. No one has noticed yet, it's only a matter of time. The people at my work have finally noticed. Even the people not working in my building are starting to go " oh, I haven't seen you for a while, Darcy. Where have you been? " If it isn't making you worse, it certainly isn't helping either. I can't think straight, I can't make sense of words and sentences sometimes. I'm upset about these medications that seem to be making me feel worse, and making me unable to work. Yup, my word problem is starting to get worse too. Here I just took your problem and turned it into my own soap box! I'm sorry! No problem at all, Joy, it helps to know that there is someone out there like me. I hope you can work something out for your finances. Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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