marietta

[Guest guest]

Dear Marietta

I was very moved with your message, and wanted to let you know how sorry I

am for all that you and your DH had to go through.

One year ago, I was also told that my first babies (I was 16 weeks pregnant

of twins) were suffering (I had severe TTTS - a disease related to the

placenta and the babies blood supply). We were devastated, and as you and

your DH, we faced a terrible dilemma. On the 5th January 2002, at 17 weeks I

had the birth induced, and delivered two little baby boys which we held and

said goodbye in what was the saddest moment of our lives.

Me and my partner, Mark, changed a lot with all that has happened, but

somehow our relationship got stronger. We now share parenthood in a very

peculiar sense, because our babies are not really here with us. But the

process of deciding what was the best to our babies, and healing the pain of

loosing them, has created a special bond between us, and I feel our love is

much stronger.

I know that at the beginning everything is very difficult. I thought I was

going to be consumed by such an enormous pain, I thought life had no

meaning, and I asked myself so many questions, but as the time goes bye

Marietta, the pain does get a little easier. Time is our friend.

I want you to know that you are not alone. You both were very brave and

certainly great parents in the hard choices you had to make in the name of

your little girl.

Please know that I am thinking of you and your husband, and I am always here

if you need to talk.

Love,

Lucila