Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > > I have been viewing this as a positive sign, although his choice of objects > has slightly nagged at me, because it is the The Tank Engine cars > that he is constantly carrying around. > Sara: I really have no idea. But is not an NT choice on the whole. But who I swear is NT loved . As did ASD Putter. So what do I know? Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > > I have been viewing this as a positive sign, although his choice of objects > has slightly nagged at me, because it is the The Tank Engine cars > that he is constantly carrying around. > Sara: I really have no idea. But is not an NT choice on the whole. But who I swear is NT loved . As did ASD Putter. So what do I know? Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > > I have been viewing this as a positive sign, although his choice of objects > has slightly nagged at me, because it is the The Tank Engine cars > that he is constantly carrying around. > Sara: I really have no idea. But is not an NT choice on the whole. But who I swear is NT loved . As did ASD Putter. So what do I know? Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 i don't know what's normal either (obviously) but kailey did this for years when she was little. she always HAD to have something in her hand. that's all i can say about it, sorry " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 i don't know what's normal either (obviously) but kailey did this for years when she was little. she always HAD to have something in her hand. that's all i can say about it, sorry " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 i don't know what's normal either (obviously) but kailey did this for years when she was little. she always HAD to have something in her hand. that's all i can say about it, sorry " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 Well, I don't consider myself as experienced as you at parenting Sara, but I will tell you about Jake and " security objects " . First of all, I didn't know it was called a " security object " . See what I mean about experience? Anyway, since about Gabe's age or maybe younger, Jake always had a toy or two in one or both of his hands. He would run around all day long with that toy. It went with us wherever we went and yes it had to change hands when he was being dressed or undressed. Sometimes putting it down was almost traumatic. (now I'm starting to understand the term " security object " ) With Jake, the toy sometimes changed from day to day. Sometimes I think it changed because his favorite was missing (or I would do a toy " change-out " ) but then if he would come across it again, his favorite would be picked up again and the substitute discarded. Most often it was his " Woody " or his " Buzz " (small ones, not the huge ones), but it could also be an airplane, car, ball, or something else. It was always a small-ish, hard toy, not anything like a stuffed animal. He liked to play a game where he would climb up on the couch or bed and throw the toy and then jump down and go get it and then repeat. He doesn't do that too much anymore thank goodness. He also took the toy to bed but during the night he would let go of it and usually by the next morning it had been kicked out of the bed by his Dad or me. He is starting to let go of this behavior now at 3 1/2. He still does this some days but not nearly as much as he used to. And he can be convinced to leave the toy at home if necessary. (I try not to let him take toys to school for instance) So, I know this doesn't really help with " what's normal " since Jake is not NT, but it may give you somewhat of a guide of what it's been like for us. ~ Karin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 Well, I don't consider myself as experienced as you at parenting Sara, but I will tell you about Jake and " security objects " . First of all, I didn't know it was called a " security object " . See what I mean about experience? Anyway, since about Gabe's age or maybe younger, Jake always had a toy or two in one or both of his hands. He would run around all day long with that toy. It went with us wherever we went and yes it had to change hands when he was being dressed or undressed. Sometimes putting it down was almost traumatic. (now I'm starting to understand the term " security object " ) With Jake, the toy sometimes changed from day to day. Sometimes I think it changed because his favorite was missing (or I would do a toy " change-out " ) but then if he would come across it again, his favorite would be picked up again and the substitute discarded. Most often it was his " Woody " or his " Buzz " (small ones, not the huge ones), but it could also be an airplane, car, ball, or something else. It was always a small-ish, hard toy, not anything like a stuffed animal. He liked to play a game where he would climb up on the couch or bed and throw the toy and then jump down and go get it and then repeat. He doesn't do that too much anymore thank goodness. He also took the toy to bed but during the night he would let go of it and usually by the next morning it had been kicked out of the bed by his Dad or me. He is starting to let go of this behavior now at 3 1/2. He still does this some days but not nearly as much as he used to. And he can be convinced to leave the toy at home if necessary. (I try not to let him take toys to school for instance) So, I know this doesn't really help with " what's normal " since Jake is not NT, but it may give you somewhat of a guide of what it's been like for us. ~ Karin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 Was it always the SAME object or the same TYPE of object, or was it just anything that fit in her hand? -Sara. > i don't know what's normal either (obviously) but kailey did this > for years when she was little. she always HAD to have something > in her hand. that's all i can say about it, sorry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 Was it always the SAME object or the same TYPE of object, or was it just anything that fit in her hand? -Sara. > i don't know what's normal either (obviously) but kailey did this > for years when she was little. she always HAD to have something > in her hand. that's all i can say about it, sorry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 Was it always the SAME object or the same TYPE of object, or was it just anything that fit in her hand? -Sara. > i don't know what's normal either (obviously) but kailey did this > for years when she was little. she always HAD to have something > in her hand. that's all i can say about it, sorry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > Was it always the SAME object or the same TYPE of object, or was it just anything that fit in her hand? -Sara. < she'd go in phases of what it was, but it was always the same thing at a time. does that make sense? " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > Was it always the SAME object or the same TYPE of object, or was it just anything that fit in her hand? -Sara. < she'd go in phases of what it was, but it was always the same thing at a time. does that make sense? " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > Was it always the SAME object or the same TYPE of object, or was it just anything that fit in her hand? -Sara. < she'd go in phases of what it was, but it was always the same thing at a time. does that make sense? " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > Gabe has apparently acquired a security object. never did this. > > I have been viewing this as a positive sign, although his choice of objects > has slightly nagged at me, because it is the The Tank Engine cars > that he is constantly carrying around. > Sara, I know Kris's (cool -mother_of_2) always does this with small metal matchbox cars...and he is almost 3 dx ASD. (mom to Will 4 ASD). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > Gabe has apparently acquired a security object. never did this. > > I have been viewing this as a positive sign, although his choice of objects > has slightly nagged at me, because it is the The Tank Engine cars > that he is constantly carrying around. > Sara, I know Kris's (cool -mother_of_2) always does this with small metal matchbox cars...and he is almost 3 dx ASD. (mom to Will 4 ASD). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > Gabe has apparently acquired a security object. never did this. > > I have been viewing this as a positive sign, although his choice of objects > has slightly nagged at me, because it is the The Tank Engine cars > that he is constantly carrying around. > Sara, I know Kris's (cool -mother_of_2) always does this with small metal matchbox cars...and he is almost 3 dx ASD. (mom to Will 4 ASD). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2003 Report Share Posted January 18, 2003 Sara, Neither of mine had an object they carried around with them, although would pick up stones when he was outside and carry one. At bedtime, had to have a papa smurf, and had to have his diaper in the car and bed, but nothing to just carry around. The fact that it's a train has me a bit concerned, alone with his reaction to looking like he wants it. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2003 Report Share Posted January 18, 2003 Sara, Neither of mine had an object they carried around with them, although would pick up stones when he was outside and carry one. At bedtime, had to have a papa smurf, and had to have his diaper in the car and bed, but nothing to just carry around. The fact that it's a train has me a bit concerned, alone with his reaction to looking like he wants it. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2003 Report Share Posted January 18, 2003 Sara, Neither of mine had an object they carried around with them, although would pick up stones when he was outside and carry one. At bedtime, had to have a papa smurf, and had to have his diaper in the car and bed, but nothing to just carry around. The fact that it's a train has me a bit concerned, alone with his reaction to looking like he wants it. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2003 Report Share Posted January 18, 2003 > bed, but nothing to just carry around. > The fact that it's a train has me a bit concerned, alone with his reaction > to looking like he wants it. Yeah. The web sites I'm reading about security objects are not particularly reassuring me. They are talking about use of such items during time of stress, such as seperation from parents, dr visits, etc. Gabe seems to be taking this to an extreme. Which is what I wanted to find out. As problems go, this is a small one, and is very replacable should he be lost. The fighting is more problematic but I suppose they will work it out. is surprisingly gentle with Gabe, and although he weighs nearly twice as much, it is I worry about Gabe hurting and not the other way 'round. Thanks for the input! -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2003 Report Share Posted January 21, 2003 I have no experience with nt children of my own of course. But that sounds a bit obsessive to me. But I could be wrong. I know lots of children who have to have their blanket and such. I have no idea. Ignore my babbling. Jacquie H What's normal? Gabe has apparently acquired a security object. never did this. I have been viewing this as a positive sign, although his choice of objects has slightly nagged at me, because it is the The Tank Engine cars that he is constantly carrying around. We got a " new " rocker-recliner from a co-worker of Matt's. I have been wanting a big cushy one since before was born. Hooray! When we moved the furniture to make a place for it, we found the actual wooden , and Gabe has been holding it pretty much ever since then. That was...monday? He even holds it in his sleep and if it drops out of his hand he wakes up and looks for it. He switches hands to get dressed, put his coat on, put his car seat straps on, etc. If he does forget and put it down, as soon as he realizes he's not holding it, he starts to cry. That *might* happen twice a day. If even looks like he might be thinking about trying to take it, Gabe cries and slaps and kicks at him. So how normal is this? What would you consider excessive? Obsessive? I honestly have NO IDEA what a typical 20 month old acts like with his security object. I am trying to be as objective and honest as I can in describing what he's doing. Please be honest & tell me what you think. I truly don't know if this is typical behavior or not, and nothing you say is going to hurt my feelings. He has the speech delay & the sensory issues; I don't really think he's on the spectrum, but I would not be *surprised* if we have an AS or PDD-NOS dx in our future. But I'm not worried about it. I'm just looking for information from more experienced parents. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2003 Report Share Posted January 21, 2003 I have no experience with nt children of my own of course. But that sounds a bit obsessive to me. But I could be wrong. I know lots of children who have to have their blanket and such. I have no idea. Ignore my babbling. Jacquie H What's normal? Gabe has apparently acquired a security object. never did this. I have been viewing this as a positive sign, although his choice of objects has slightly nagged at me, because it is the The Tank Engine cars that he is constantly carrying around. We got a " new " rocker-recliner from a co-worker of Matt's. I have been wanting a big cushy one since before was born. Hooray! When we moved the furniture to make a place for it, we found the actual wooden , and Gabe has been holding it pretty much ever since then. That was...monday? He even holds it in his sleep and if it drops out of his hand he wakes up and looks for it. He switches hands to get dressed, put his coat on, put his car seat straps on, etc. If he does forget and put it down, as soon as he realizes he's not holding it, he starts to cry. That *might* happen twice a day. If even looks like he might be thinking about trying to take it, Gabe cries and slaps and kicks at him. So how normal is this? What would you consider excessive? Obsessive? I honestly have NO IDEA what a typical 20 month old acts like with his security object. I am trying to be as objective and honest as I can in describing what he's doing. Please be honest & tell me what you think. I truly don't know if this is typical behavior or not, and nothing you say is going to hurt my feelings. He has the speech delay & the sensory issues; I don't really think he's on the spectrum, but I would not be *surprised* if we have an AS or PDD-NOS dx in our future. But I'm not worried about it. I'm just looking for information from more experienced parents. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2003 Report Share Posted January 21, 2003 I have no experience with nt children of my own of course. But that sounds a bit obsessive to me. But I could be wrong. I know lots of children who have to have their blanket and such. I have no idea. Ignore my babbling. Jacquie H What's normal? Gabe has apparently acquired a security object. never did this. I have been viewing this as a positive sign, although his choice of objects has slightly nagged at me, because it is the The Tank Engine cars that he is constantly carrying around. We got a " new " rocker-recliner from a co-worker of Matt's. I have been wanting a big cushy one since before was born. Hooray! When we moved the furniture to make a place for it, we found the actual wooden , and Gabe has been holding it pretty much ever since then. That was...monday? He even holds it in his sleep and if it drops out of his hand he wakes up and looks for it. He switches hands to get dressed, put his coat on, put his car seat straps on, etc. If he does forget and put it down, as soon as he realizes he's not holding it, he starts to cry. That *might* happen twice a day. If even looks like he might be thinking about trying to take it, Gabe cries and slaps and kicks at him. So how normal is this? What would you consider excessive? Obsessive? I honestly have NO IDEA what a typical 20 month old acts like with his security object. I am trying to be as objective and honest as I can in describing what he's doing. Please be honest & tell me what you think. I truly don't know if this is typical behavior or not, and nothing you say is going to hurt my feelings. He has the speech delay & the sensory issues; I don't really think he's on the spectrum, but I would not be *surprised* if we have an AS or PDD-NOS dx in our future. But I'm not worried about it. I'm just looking for information from more experienced parents. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2003 Report Share Posted January 21, 2003 I think this is a bit overboard, my kids never got so possessive but that doesn't mean anything. What happens if it gets lost again? How long does he cry for it? debbi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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