Guest guest Posted January 15, 2003 Report Share Posted January 15, 2003 Have you tried a token system? You take a picture of something he wants and cut the picture into four parts. Every fifteen minutes he gets praise and a piece of the picture. When they are all put together then he gets whatever it is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2003 Report Share Posted January 15, 2003 Have you tried a token system? You take a picture of something he wants and cut the picture into four parts. Every fifteen minutes he gets praise and a piece of the picture. When they are all put together then he gets whatever it is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2003 Report Share Posted January 15, 2003 Have you tried a token system? You take a picture of something he wants and cut the picture into four parts. Every fifteen minutes he gets praise and a piece of the picture. When they are all put together then he gets whatever it is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2003 Report Share Posted January 15, 2003 Oh Jacquie, I'm sorry but i don't have any great ideas (excepy maybe duct tape ;-) ). But i do sympathise. Lyndsey is the most afwul singer and she doesn't know when to give it a rest either and she is NT !! Ali > > I need to extingish a behaviour, and I am well and truly stumped. > > I need to extinguish it because it assaults me auditorially, it is disrupting in public, and it draws negative attention to him. > > He SINGS. Everywhere. Any place, any time. Every place, all the time. That wouldn't be so bad, but his singing consists of grunting, moaning, buzzing, and humming the music, off-key, and monotonously. He does this at a normal singing volume. He KNOWS the words and melodies, but prefers it this way instead. > > Telling him to only sing at home does not help. Correcting him and distracting him in public does not help. SCREAMING at him in the car doesn't help. Removing treats or valued things does not help. Setting up a designated singing time at home does not help. > > I need to get this singing to stop. It hurts my head and gives me a painful headache, partly because of the noise and partly because it aggravates me with its flashing 'I'm different' sign. > > It is not a 'cute' singing. It's not, " awwww, look at that little boy " type singing. It is " what the hell is wrong with that kid and why doesn't he just shut up, " singing. > > It's starting to make me on edge every time we leave the house. > > Ideas? Please? > > Jacquie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2003 Report Share Posted January 15, 2003 Oh Jacquie, I'm sorry but i don't have any great ideas (excepy maybe duct tape ;-) ). But i do sympathise. Lyndsey is the most afwul singer and she doesn't know when to give it a rest either and she is NT !! Ali > > I need to extingish a behaviour, and I am well and truly stumped. > > I need to extinguish it because it assaults me auditorially, it is disrupting in public, and it draws negative attention to him. > > He SINGS. Everywhere. Any place, any time. Every place, all the time. That wouldn't be so bad, but his singing consists of grunting, moaning, buzzing, and humming the music, off-key, and monotonously. He does this at a normal singing volume. He KNOWS the words and melodies, but prefers it this way instead. > > Telling him to only sing at home does not help. Correcting him and distracting him in public does not help. SCREAMING at him in the car doesn't help. Removing treats or valued things does not help. Setting up a designated singing time at home does not help. > > I need to get this singing to stop. It hurts my head and gives me a painful headache, partly because of the noise and partly because it aggravates me with its flashing 'I'm different' sign. > > It is not a 'cute' singing. It's not, " awwww, look at that little boy " type singing. It is " what the hell is wrong with that kid and why doesn't he just shut up, " singing. > > It's starting to make me on edge every time we leave the house. > > Ideas? Please? > > Jacquie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2003 Report Share Posted January 15, 2003 Oh Jacquie, I'm sorry but i don't have any great ideas (excepy maybe duct tape ;-) ). But i do sympathise. Lyndsey is the most afwul singer and she doesn't know when to give it a rest either and she is NT !! Ali > > I need to extingish a behaviour, and I am well and truly stumped. > > I need to extinguish it because it assaults me auditorially, it is disrupting in public, and it draws negative attention to him. > > He SINGS. Everywhere. Any place, any time. Every place, all the time. That wouldn't be so bad, but his singing consists of grunting, moaning, buzzing, and humming the music, off-key, and monotonously. He does this at a normal singing volume. He KNOWS the words and melodies, but prefers it this way instead. > > Telling him to only sing at home does not help. Correcting him and distracting him in public does not help. SCREAMING at him in the car doesn't help. Removing treats or valued things does not help. Setting up a designated singing time at home does not help. > > I need to get this singing to stop. It hurts my head and gives me a painful headache, partly because of the noise and partly because it aggravates me with its flashing 'I'm different' sign. > > It is not a 'cute' singing. It's not, " awwww, look at that little boy " type singing. It is " what the hell is wrong with that kid and why doesn't he just shut up, " singing. > > It's starting to make me on edge every time we leave the house. > > Ideas? Please? > > Jacquie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2003 Report Share Posted January 15, 2003 >>>>> He SINGS. Everywhere. Any place, any time. Every place, all the time. That wouldn't be so bad, but his singing consists of grunting, moaning, buzzing, and humming the music, off-key, and monotonously. He does this at a normal singing volume. He KNOWS the words and melodies, but prefers it this way instead. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Yup, so does . He also likes to jump up and down while singing, which is difficult to deal with if you're at the grocery store or a restaurant or anywhere public. The only thing that seems to help is to keep a small hand held game handy ( likes Tetris and Simon). If I hand him a game, he stops bouncing and his singing is quieter, almost like he's humming to himself, which isn't too bad. Magazines help too, which is why I buy so many Disney Adventures at the check-out. I've also noticed that he does this more towards the end of the day. In the morning he's fairly quiet. Tuna ===== You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance. - lin P. ______________________________________________________________________ Post your free ad now! http://personals.yahoo.ca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2003 Report Share Posted January 15, 2003 >>>>> He SINGS. Everywhere. Any place, any time. Every place, all the time. That wouldn't be so bad, but his singing consists of grunting, moaning, buzzing, and humming the music, off-key, and monotonously. He does this at a normal singing volume. He KNOWS the words and melodies, but prefers it this way instead. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Yup, so does . He also likes to jump up and down while singing, which is difficult to deal with if you're at the grocery store or a restaurant or anywhere public. The only thing that seems to help is to keep a small hand held game handy ( likes Tetris and Simon). If I hand him a game, he stops bouncing and his singing is quieter, almost like he's humming to himself, which isn't too bad. Magazines help too, which is why I buy so many Disney Adventures at the check-out. I've also noticed that he does this more towards the end of the day. In the morning he's fairly quiet. Tuna ===== You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance. - lin P. ______________________________________________________________________ Post your free ad now! http://personals.yahoo.ca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2003 Report Share Posted January 15, 2003 Oh my God, you just described Dillon. It is so freaking annoying, isn't it? Give him an instrument and tell him to sing in the shower. The acoustics are better there. Sissi okay, I need help > > I need to extingish a behaviour, and I am well and truly stumped. > > I need to extinguish it because it assaults me auditorially, it is disrupting in public, and it draws negative attention to him. > > He SINGS. Everywhere. Any place, any time. Every place, all the time. That wouldn't be so bad, but his singing consists of grunting, moaning, buzzing, and humming the music, off-key, and monotonously. He does this at a normal singing volume. He KNOWS the words and melodies, but prefers it this way instead. > > Telling him to only sing at home does not help. Correcting him and distracting him in public does not help. SCREAMING at him in the car doesn't help. Removing treats or valued things does not help. Setting up a designated singing time at home does not help. > > I need to get this singing to stop. It hurts my head and gives me a painful headache, partly because of the noise and partly because it aggravates me with its flashing 'I'm different' sign. > > It is not a 'cute' singing. It's not, " awwww, look at that little boy " type singing. It is " what the hell is wrong with that kid and why doesn't he just shut up, " singing. > > It's starting to make me on edge every time we leave the house. > > Ideas? Please? > > Jacquie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2003 Report Share Posted January 15, 2003 how about a social story? brainstrom a list of the rules for eric's you would put in place in an ideal world and incorporate it into a story about eric. because he is literal and literate it might make a difference. just a thought. michelle mg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2003 Report Share Posted January 15, 2003 how about a social story? brainstrom a list of the rules for eric's you would put in place in an ideal world and incorporate it into a story about eric. because he is literal and literate it might make a difference. just a thought. michelle mg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2003 Report Share Posted January 15, 2003 how about a social story? brainstrom a list of the rules for eric's you would put in place in an ideal world and incorporate it into a story about eric. because he is literal and literate it might make a difference. just a thought. michelle mg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2003 Report Share Posted January 15, 2003 that was meant to say " eric's singing " . Re: okay, I need help how about a social story? brainstrom a list of the rules for eric's you would put in place in an ideal world and incorporate it into a story about eric. because he is literal and literate it might make a difference. just a thought. michelle mg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2003 Report Share Posted January 15, 2003 Hmmm......what about making a story or poster with 's singing rules? Something along the lines of a social story and the rules about singing around other people? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2003 Report Share Posted January 15, 2003 Hmmm......what about making a story or poster with 's singing rules? Something along the lines of a social story and the rules about singing around other people? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2003 Report Share Posted January 15, 2003 Hmmm......what about making a story or poster with 's singing rules? Something along the lines of a social story and the rules about singing around other people? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 16, 2003 Report Share Posted January 16, 2003 > --- Why does he sing? and when? Is it because he is using it to calm > himself or deal with stressful situations? If it is, then has he > been doing it for a long time? If these are the reasons then he will > need something to replace that behavior with so that he still has > something to use when he needs it. > This is pretty much what I was thinking, too...my guess would be that it is either a way to block out auditory garbage that he can't cope with (when we talk/sing/vocalize we activate a protective mechanism in our brains that basically turns down the volume on our auditory system so that we don't make ourselves dear) or is using the process of controlling air to calm down when he is in overload. Choices? Find him other things to calm him...if you think it is air control, maybe try a string pipe (no sound!); if it is overload, maybe some theraputty or flour balloon in his hand; for auditory defensiveness, gum or something crunchy to chew? Sometimes doing some rocking or bouncing right before leaving to get him into a better place to start from. Just experiment...something should work (theoretically...) ;-) Raena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 16, 2003 Report Share Posted January 16, 2003 > --- Why does he sing? and when? Is it because he is using it to calm > himself or deal with stressful situations? If it is, then has he > been doing it for a long time? If these are the reasons then he will > need something to replace that behavior with so that he still has > something to use when he needs it. > This is pretty much what I was thinking, too...my guess would be that it is either a way to block out auditory garbage that he can't cope with (when we talk/sing/vocalize we activate a protective mechanism in our brains that basically turns down the volume on our auditory system so that we don't make ourselves dear) or is using the process of controlling air to calm down when he is in overload. Choices? Find him other things to calm him...if you think it is air control, maybe try a string pipe (no sound!); if it is overload, maybe some theraputty or flour balloon in his hand; for auditory defensiveness, gum or something crunchy to chew? Sometimes doing some rocking or bouncing right before leaving to get him into a better place to start from. Just experiment...something should work (theoretically...) ;-) Raena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 16, 2003 Report Share Posted January 16, 2003 > > You know, these are GREAT thoughts...but not applicable. You'd think that yes, in public this could be a coping mechanism, but he does it at home too. And in the car. And in the bathtub. In bed in the morning before getting up. EVERYWHERE. > > <sigh> > > Oh, and BTW -- he DOES NOT do it during class time. He CHOOSES not to. He told me so. > does the same thing with her humming. It's a lot like 's meltdowns after school though. She's worked so hard not to hum and to behave at school all day that when she gets in the car and home, it's a non-stop hum session for HOURS. I remind her not to do it, and she says " Oops! Sorry! " in a giggling tone, then starts right back up within 2 minutes. I've tried distracting her but it's not working. I can't give her anything to chew on because she hates to chew. She never put things in her mouth as a baby either. The only thing that ever seems to work is a little deep pressure, but she tires of that quickly and is right back to the humming in about 15 minutes. Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > This is pretty much what I was thinking, too...my guess would be that > it is either a way to block out auditory garbage that he can't cope > with (when we talk/sing/vocalize we activate a protective mechanism > in our brains that basically turns down the volume on our auditory > system so that we don't make ourselves dear) or is using the process > of controlling air to calm down when he is in overload. You know, these are GREAT thoughts...but not applicable. You'd think that yes, in public this could be a coping mechanism, but he does it at home too. And in the car. And in the bathtub. In bed in the morning before getting up. EVERYWHERE. <sigh> Oh, and BTW -- he DOES NOT do it during class time. He CHOOSES not to. He told me so. <bigger sigh> Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > This is pretty much what I was thinking, too...my guess would be that > it is either a way to block out auditory garbage that he can't cope > with (when we talk/sing/vocalize we activate a protective mechanism > in our brains that basically turns down the volume on our auditory > system so that we don't make ourselves dear) or is using the process > of controlling air to calm down when he is in overload. You know, these are GREAT thoughts...but not applicable. You'd think that yes, in public this could be a coping mechanism, but he does it at home too. And in the car. And in the bathtub. In bed in the morning before getting up. EVERYWHERE. <sigh> Oh, and BTW -- he DOES NOT do it during class time. He CHOOSES not to. He told me so. <bigger sigh> Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 > This is pretty much what I was thinking, too...my guess would be that > it is either a way to block out auditory garbage that he can't cope > with (when we talk/sing/vocalize we activate a protective mechanism > in our brains that basically turns down the volume on our auditory > system so that we don't make ourselves dear) or is using the process > of controlling air to calm down when he is in overload. You know, these are GREAT thoughts...but not applicable. You'd think that yes, in public this could be a coping mechanism, but he does it at home too. And in the car. And in the bathtub. In bed in the morning before getting up. EVERYWHERE. <sigh> Oh, and BTW -- he DOES NOT do it during class time. He CHOOSES not to. He told me so. <bigger sigh> Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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