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[Guest guest]

Yes, , I can see you throwing your blanket at your husband when he

has made a joke about it ......... That would have been my reacting, too,

though, of course, it is an emotional one. But these insensitive jokes

are just the one drop in the bucket full of water that is too much.

Miscarriage is devastating but waking up from it and being faced with

infertility is a lot different. It looks like a blocked road (I am

writing " it looks like " because here in the group we

have a lot of knowledge to try to overcome it).

Why couldn´t your mother just give you a big hug in her kitchen and say

that she gets a glimpse of how difficult this must be????

This is what I would expect my mother to do instead of focusing what

other guests at the party might think ... But

mother-daughter-relationships aren´t always easy .....

I remember one of our members telling us that she went into the woods and

yelled out loudly how unfair this all is and later she told us that it

was a good feeling.

Your husband is not the first husband in this group to make a joke about

our situation. By doing so he is simply saying that he can´t cope

properly. So in the middle of our own struggle we need to teach them how

to cope themselves ... Endangered fertility is a matter for two to deal

with.

Just a few thoughts, hope you already feel a little better today,

((((((((((HUGS)))))))))) Corinna