WILL'S MOM IMPORTANT:Re: I have this sense of guilt

June 30, 2005

First of all I would like to say that I understand how you are

feeling. It can be hard and overwhelming to have to deal with so much

while trying to deal with the regular newborn and infant stuff. I am

glad that you are seeking help for Will, but I am concerned that you

are not seeking enough help for yourself. Postpartum is real and can

sometimes take many many months to get through. It can sometimes take

short term medication to get through it. You must also be aware that

post partum can be caused by other things like thyroid, so be sure

you have everything checked. It can be made worse if you worked

before the pregnancy and are now trying to adjust to being a stay at

home mom. If you are feeling depressed enough to not perform the

necessary medical care for Will then you probably already know

something is not right. Please seek more help. I think a physical

therapist would be a very good option for you, they can get you

started and once you see them doing the stretches and exercises you

will know that it really isn't as bad or scary as you think. This

helped me alot.You are going to have to pull yourself together with

the help of your doc if necessary to do all that you can do for your

baby. You are his mom!!! Please feel free to e-mail me if you need

advice or just want someone to talk to. I mean that! I am sorry to

post this out here for all to see, but this is an important subject

that all new moms can benefit from.

CAROLG

> Hello Everyone,

> I am kind of new and have not posted a whole lot. I do read a

> fair amount of your postings and feel guilty. I hear everyone

trying

> their best to help their children but I don't think I am doing as

> much as I should. My son, Will, has been diagnosed with

plagiocephaly

> and torticollis. I was directed by CT to perform 2 neck stretching

> exercises 3 times each 5 times a day. I was very determined to

> perform them and did in the begining but have not been doing them

for

> a week. Will hates doing them and he cries I mean really cries so

I

> end up crying. I was diagnosed with post-partum depression and

> performing these exercises is not helping my child and making me

feel

> depressed. I know this may sound weird but I don't know what else

to

> say. I spoke to someone at CT and basically said it's really hard

to

> do the exercises and she sounded disappointed. I faxed over a list

> of p.therapists to my peditrician and hope to begin PT before Will

> gets his DOC Band on July 15th. He had a left flat side, now the

back

> of his head is getting flat. He hates tummy time and when I do

tummy

> time I lay with him, play with toys, dance around but he still

cries

> his little head off. I know most people will say that you must do

> lots of tummy time and do the neck stretching exercises but it's

> easier said than done. I wish a had a magic wand that would un-

> stiffen Will's neck. Will needs to wear the DOC Band for 6-8 weeks

> and I was wondering since he is 3 months won't he eventually roll

> over and of course crawl so won't that help with his neck? Any

advice

> would be great so this weight could be lifted from my shoulder.

> Thanks:)

June 30, 2005