Re: 6 DAYS to the other side

[Guest guest]

devon,

gosh you sound like me... am in the middle of a divorce....i was seeing

someone and we just broke up to be friends...oh sure...there goes the support

i was counting on...but my daughter and a few freinds will be around to help

out...i, too am a nervous wreck about the weight loss surgery...only 8 days

for me (july12th nwh)... i am ready, but unprepared...if that makes any

sense?....i am excited about starting a new life in a positive manner,

beginning with a healthy, fit body....just think what we will look like and

feel like 6 months from now...good luck to you...where are you having your

wls?

keep in touch and much luck to you

kim

[Guest guest]

devon,

gosh you sound like me... am in the middle of a divorce....i was seeing

someone and we just broke up to be friends...oh sure...there goes the support

i was counting on...but my daughter and a few freinds will be around to help

out...i, too am a nervous wreck about the weight loss surgery...only 8 days

for me (july12th nwh)... i am ready, but unprepared...if that makes any

sense?....i am excited about starting a new life in a positive manner,

beginning with a healthy, fit body....just think what we will look like and

feel like 6 months from now...good luck to you...where are you having your

wls?

keep in touch and much luck to you

kim

[Guest guest]

DEAR DEVON

LATER ON AFTER SURGERY IF YOU WANT SOME CHIPS WITH A SANDWICH YOU CAN HAVE

IT. YOU CAN HAVE EVERYTHING IN SMALL PORTIONS.

RIGHT NOW I CAN'T EAT SUGER PRODUCTS LIKE ICE CREAM BUT WHY WOULD I PUT

MYSELF IN A POSITON TO START EATING FOODS THAT CAUSE ME TO BE FAT. THIS

SURGERY IS SUCCESSFUL 80 PER CENT. WELL I DO NOT WANT TO BE IN THAT OTHER 20

PER CENT. MY OLD HABITS WOULD PUT ME IN THAT 20 PER CENT. I WANT TO STAY

IN THE 80 PER CENT SIDE.

GOOD LUCK WITH THE SURGERY AND ENJOY YOUR MOM. SINCERELY RAYNA

[Guest guest]

Devon,

Trust me, the majority of us were not so 'calm and sailed right

through' LOL. I personally was a basket case but that is a natural feeling to

have. We all felt that we were going to screw this up somehow because

everything we tried in the past has failed us. You are stepping into a whole

new life and of course you are going to have al these questions. I'm glad

your mother is coming to stay with you and as far as your boyfriend? Well, in

a very short time, it will be his loss. Keep that in mind and try to stay

positive ok? Good luck and keep us posted.

Don

[Guest guest]

Devon,

You will do great! I know you are nervous (cause I am too and I haven't even

had my consultation yet!) but keep thinking positive thoughts! As for your

bf... I know how hard it can be in the beginning of a break up, but there are

plenty more out there and you will be sure to find the right one! You didn't

fail at the relationship. Right now you need time for you.... take it... you

deserve it.

Take Care.....

I'll be thinking of you!

Matina

[Guest guest]

It is isn't it LOL Just kididng ... Devon I'm sorry to hear about the

breakup but I'm glad to hear your mom is coming to visit .. ahhh a whole

summer of pampering just what you deserve!!!

Good luck & all the best.

Lyssa

waving at your from the other side ...

6 DAYS to the other side

Everytime I think the phrase " the other side " I feel like I'm in an episode

of " The Twilight Zone " and the operation is some portal to a parallel

universe.....lol

Anyway, I did pre-op on Monday. The food was pretty bad in the Coffee Shop

but then I realized I didn't have to eat it when I came back!

Got lost a few times, I really have no picture in my head of how the

hospital is connected one part to another, and there was no map, no

floorplan (I kept asking) so I wandered around in circles for awhile. I was

relieved when I finally reached the pre-testing at The Surgical Center and

it seemed to make sense. (I really hate not understanding where I am.)

But I am very very anxious - Mom is flying in Sunday night just to take care

of me for the summer. That's good. But my b/f and I broke up end of May and

I wasn't prepared for that. There's this empty void and feeling like the

ground has been pulled out from me....losing a vital piece of my support

network.

And as I wrote to Lori, I failed at that relationship, what if I fail at

this? What if I can't take the pain, or I can't stop crying, or I decide I

can't live without potato chips?

Anyway, I went from being so sure to this confusion....and I don't know if

it's normal cos everyone else I read about says they were so calm and sailed

right thru. Well, it isn't me right now!

Devon

[Guest guest]

I'm glad you gals are talking about this because even though this will be

such a huge improvement for the better, I feel sureal right now. My husband

and I are on shaky ground at the moment and it's not like I want to ask him

for his help. I will have my son home with me through out August and as soon

as I can I will take us down to the beach to chill out and recoup.

I haven't heard from most of my friends since this all started, my

weightloss surgery journy, several months ago. I guess everyone is very

involved with their own lives. I feel very excited about all of this but at

the same time I'm very alone right now and that has always bothered me.

Knowing that I am self reliant doesn't make me feel better. I'm pretty upset

that my support group is so small because it does seem that I have been there

for many people in my life. I would be nice if some of them returned the

favor. There is nothing I can do to change this other than turn things over

to God and work on improving myself.

What keeps me going is knowing that the new me won't have to work so hard

at being excepted and liked. I will look and feel much better a year from

now, I won't feel sick in the heat and have to stay out of my neighbors pool

due to embarrasment.

I'm due to have my surgery August 9th with Dr. Thayer at NWH.

Take care,

C

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 07/04/2001 9:34:34 AM Pacific Daylight Time,

bettyboop1@... writes:

> , I failed at that relationship, what if I fail at this? What if I can't

> take the pain, or I can't stop crying, or I decide I can't live without

> potato chips?

>

> Devon,

Take a look at this in another way. Maybe the relationship failed you ! The

memory of pain always fades away... If not a lot of woman would never had

more kids LOL

A good cry is good for us all... I think it cleanses the soul. I always feel

better when I am done. Eventually the time will come when if you REALLY

need a potato chip you can probably have one.. You won't croak from it! But

you also won't be able to a bagful! If you truly want to do this you will

NOT fail.....

Cheryl

THE OPTIMIST

Women are not supposed to snore, burp, sweat or pass gas.

Therefore, we must bitch or we will blow up.

[Guest guest]

Devon have you ever had surgery before???? I just thought of it as a life

saving surgery.. no choice left for me... didin't want to sick (like my mom

who is a toothpick) . No one ever said surgery is easy... but do what you

are told..... keep a positive attitude and you will be FINE

Cheryl

Women are not supposed to snore, burp, sweat or pass gas.

Therefore, we must bitch or we will blow up.

[Guest guest]

hang in there devon.. i'm going through the same thing in my

relationship...crying is a good thing.. makes us all human.. doesn't take

away the pain... just makes us feel better..

kim

[Guest guest]

hang in there devon.. i'm going through the same thing in my

relationship...crying is a good thing.. makes us all human.. doesn't take

away the pain... just makes us feel better..

kim

[Guest guest]

hang in there devon.. i'm going through the same thing in my

relationship...crying is a good thing.. makes us all human.. doesn't take

away the pain... just makes us feel better..

kim