Guest guest Posted April 30, 2003 Report Share Posted April 30, 2003 Good morning ladies. I'm brand new here. I will most likely just lurk for a while, but wanted to introduce myself. My name is Debbi and I'm from Michigan. I'm 39 (40 in September) and had my TL in 1988. I have 3 kids from my first marriage, JD will be 20 in July, nne is 18 and Dallas will be 16 in July. (We have 3 kitties too.) DH and I were married in 1999; he was never married before & has no kids. He was certain he never wanted any kids, and we discussed it at length before we got married. We talked about a TR once before, about 3 years ago. I really feel that he's missing out on the greatest joy there is, and he doesn't KNOW what he's missing because he's never experienced it. He was all for it if I wanted to go through with it 3 years ago, but we sort of let the subject drop and never pursued it. He's thinking about it again, and I told him he better hurry and decide as I'm not getting any younger! I'm not CERTAIN that I want to do this. The TR doesn't scare me, but my kids are so grown, and the selfish part of me is happy with that. Also, I'm not certain I want to be 60 (or more) when my child graduates from HS. I'm really looking forward to grandkids and hope that is not in to the too distant future, and I don't know that I want children & grandchildren who are the same age. Plus, my kids would freak out, as they are convinced that DH and I don't do " that " anyway! LOL. My mom would absolutely freak, but I could deal with all that. I'm afraid of being tired & achy, etc., but I would get over that too. I'm just not certain that this is the right thing for me right now. Having said all that, if DH came to me today and said he wanted to do this, I would definitely do it in a second for him. I just have many pros & cons running through my head and thought this may be a good place to share them, hear other women's stories, get advice, learn, etc. Thanks for having me. Debbi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2003 Report Share Posted April 30, 2003 Hi Debbi. I am from Michigan too(the U.P) and just had my first TR baby .. he turned 2 months a couple of days ago. Newbie Good morning ladies. I'm brand new here. I will most likely just lurk for a while, but wanted to introduce myself. My name is Debbi and I'm from Michigan. I'm 39 (40 in September) and had my TL in 1988. I have 3 kids from my first marriage, JD will be 20 in July, nne is 18 and Dallas will be 16 in July. (We have 3 kitties too.) DH and I were married in 1999; he was never married before & has no kids. He was certain he never wanted any kids, and we discussed it at length before we got married. We talked about a TR once before, about 3 years ago. I really feel that he's missing out on the greatest joy there is, and he doesn't KNOW what he's missing because he's never experienced it. He was all for it if I wanted to go through with it 3 years ago, but we sort of let the subject drop and never pursued it. He's thinking about it again, and I told him he better hurry and decide as I'm not getting any younger! I'm not CERTAIN that I want to do this. The TR doesn't scare me, but my kids are so grown, and the selfish part of me is happy with that. Also, I'm not certain I want to be 60 (or more) when my child graduates from HS. I'm really looking forward to grandkids and hope that is not in to the too distant future, and I don't know that I want children & grandchildren who are the same age. Plus, my kids would freak out, as they are convinced that DH and I don't do " that " anyway! LOL. My mom would absolutely freak, but I could deal with all that. I'm afraid of being tired & achy, etc., but I would get over that too. I'm just not certain that this is the right thing for me right now. Having said all that, if DH came to me today and said he wanted to do this, I would definitely do it in a second for him. I just have many pros & cons running through my head and thought this may be a good place to share them, hear other women's stories, get advice, learn, etc. Thanks for having me. Debbi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2003 Report Share Posted April 30, 2003 Hi Debbi. I am from Michigan too(the U.P) and just had my first TR baby .. he turned 2 months a couple of days ago. Newbie Good morning ladies. I'm brand new here. I will most likely just lurk for a while, but wanted to introduce myself. My name is Debbi and I'm from Michigan. I'm 39 (40 in September) and had my TL in 1988. I have 3 kids from my first marriage, JD will be 20 in July, nne is 18 and Dallas will be 16 in July. (We have 3 kitties too.) DH and I were married in 1999; he was never married before & has no kids. He was certain he never wanted any kids, and we discussed it at length before we got married. We talked about a TR once before, about 3 years ago. I really feel that he's missing out on the greatest joy there is, and he doesn't KNOW what he's missing because he's never experienced it. He was all for it if I wanted to go through with it 3 years ago, but we sort of let the subject drop and never pursued it. He's thinking about it again, and I told him he better hurry and decide as I'm not getting any younger! I'm not CERTAIN that I want to do this. The TR doesn't scare me, but my kids are so grown, and the selfish part of me is happy with that. Also, I'm not certain I want to be 60 (or more) when my child graduates from HS. I'm really looking forward to grandkids and hope that is not in to the too distant future, and I don't know that I want children & grandchildren who are the same age. Plus, my kids would freak out, as they are convinced that DH and I don't do " that " anyway! LOL. My mom would absolutely freak, but I could deal with all that. I'm afraid of being tired & achy, etc., but I would get over that too. I'm just not certain that this is the right thing for me right now. Having said all that, if DH came to me today and said he wanted to do this, I would definitely do it in a second for him. I just have many pros & cons running through my head and thought this may be a good place to share them, hear other women's stories, get advice, learn, etc. Thanks for having me. Debbi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2003 Report Share Posted April 30, 2003 Hi Debbi. I am from Michigan too(the U.P) and just had my first TR baby .. he turned 2 months a couple of days ago. Newbie Good morning ladies. I'm brand new here. I will most likely just lurk for a while, but wanted to introduce myself. My name is Debbi and I'm from Michigan. I'm 39 (40 in September) and had my TL in 1988. I have 3 kids from my first marriage, JD will be 20 in July, nne is 18 and Dallas will be 16 in July. (We have 3 kitties too.) DH and I were married in 1999; he was never married before & has no kids. He was certain he never wanted any kids, and we discussed it at length before we got married. We talked about a TR once before, about 3 years ago. I really feel that he's missing out on the greatest joy there is, and he doesn't KNOW what he's missing because he's never experienced it. He was all for it if I wanted to go through with it 3 years ago, but we sort of let the subject drop and never pursued it. He's thinking about it again, and I told him he better hurry and decide as I'm not getting any younger! I'm not CERTAIN that I want to do this. The TR doesn't scare me, but my kids are so grown, and the selfish part of me is happy with that. Also, I'm not certain I want to be 60 (or more) when my child graduates from HS. I'm really looking forward to grandkids and hope that is not in to the too distant future, and I don't know that I want children & grandchildren who are the same age. Plus, my kids would freak out, as they are convinced that DH and I don't do " that " anyway! LOL. My mom would absolutely freak, but I could deal with all that. I'm afraid of being tired & achy, etc., but I would get over that too. I'm just not certain that this is the right thing for me right now. Having said all that, if DH came to me today and said he wanted to do this, I would definitely do it in a second for him. I just have many pros & cons running through my head and thought this may be a good place to share them, hear other women's stories, get advice, learn, etc. Thanks for having me. Debbi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2003 Report Share Posted April 30, 2003 Dr Levin did my TR on April 1st(April fool's day, I know! LOL) last year and my son was born on February 28th. We were lucky to be able to get PG pretty quickly but I did have to take Clomid(a fertility drug) to start ovulating. My body had quit after I had my tubes ties. The surgery was great and everything that had to do with it was. The biggest problem is usually coming up with the money needed. My other kids are 12 and almost 9 so it is taking a little readjusting. I didn't think it would be as much because I have always done daycare so for over 13 years there has always been a diaper to change! LOL Newbie > > > Good morning ladies. I'm brand new here. I will most likely just > lurk for a while, but wanted to introduce myself. My name is Debbi > and I'm from Michigan. I'm 39 (40 in September) and had my TL in > 1988. I have 3 kids from my first marriage, JD will be 20 in July, > nne is 18 and Dallas will be 16 in July. (We have 3 kitties > too.) DH and I were married in 1999; he was never married before & > has no kids. He was certain he never wanted any kids, and we > discussed it at length before we got married. We talked about a TR > once before, about 3 years ago. I really feel that he's missing out > on the greatest joy there is, and he doesn't KNOW what he's missing > because he's never experienced it. He was all for it if I wanted to > go through with it 3 years ago, but we sort of let the subject drop > and never pursued it. He's thinking about it again, and I told him he > better hurry and decide as I'm not getting any younger! > > I'm not CERTAIN that I want to do this. The TR doesn't scare me, but > my kids are so grown, and the selfish part of me is happy with that. > Also, I'm not certain I want to be 60 (or more) when my child > graduates from HS. I'm really looking forward to grandkids and hope > that is not in to the too distant future, and I don't know that I want > children & grandchildren who are the same age. Plus, my kids would > freak out, as they are convinced that DH and I don't do " that " anyway! > LOL. My mom would absolutely freak, but I could deal with all that. > I'm afraid of being tired & achy, etc., but I would get over that too. > I'm just not certain that this is the right thing for me right now. > > Having said all that, if DH came to me today and said he wanted to do > this, I would definitely do it in a second for him. I just have many > pros & cons running through my head and thought this may be a good > place to share them, hear other women's stories, get advice, learn, etc. > > Thanks for having me. > > Debbi > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 7, 2006 Report Share Posted June 7, 2006 > is feeling well, just very uncertain about his future. He asks questions that I find very difficult to answer. Has your son ever returned a blood test that showed mild neutropenia?... With this group of amazing people, I doubt anyone feels very alone - this is an incredibly supportive group! Keep asking questions, as there is most always someone who responds or directs you in a direction to find more information. If 's neutrophil count has ever been very low, I haven't noticed it. There is lots of reason for variation in the white blood cell differential (or the different types of white cells). I'd still be interested in repeating it, as things could come back to normal. If there was still a low count, I'd ask his doctor for more information or if the doctor felt he needed to see a hematologist or specialist. Joanne (, Ca) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 8, 2006 Report Share Posted June 8, 2006 Hi Joanne, Timmo does have another appointment soon and a blood test due in two weeks, so hopefully the test results will be good, if not I will be asking the doc some questions. I hope that your son is feeling well too. was wondering if your son and he could send emails back and forth given that they are the same age and facing similar challenges. Would like that? We live in , Australia and is in year 10 at school. Penny Mum of 16, UC 04, PSC 2/05. > there was still a low count, I'd ask his doctor for more information > or if the doctor felt he needed to see a hematologist or specialist. > > Joanne > (, Ca) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 8, 2006 Report Share Posted June 8, 2006 Hi Joanne, Timmo does have another appointment soon and a blood test due in two weeks, so hopefully the test results will be good, if not I will be asking the doc some questions. I hope that your son is feeling well too. was wondering if your son and he could send emails back and forth given that they are the same age and facing similar challenges. Would like that? We live in , Australia and is in year 10 at school. Penny Mum of 16, UC 04, PSC 2/05. > there was still a low count, I'd ask his doctor for more information > or if the doctor felt he needed to see a hematologist or specialist. > > Joanne > (, Ca) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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