Guest guest Posted May 24, 2001 Report Share Posted May 24, 2001 I have read the two postings about your SO and how they will stay with you. I ask my husband how he could put up with me. I am feeling better but there is still a lot of things that I cannot do and today the pain is trying to creep up and I hope that I derail with my pain medication. He said that he loved me and that it was not a matter of putting up with me; it was a matter that I am sick and he wants to help me where he can. He is so much help to me and I don't no what I would do without him as I love him very dearly and I can't imagine life without him. So to all of you that have a SO or husband that loves and helps you, be thankful. You have a good man. Take care, Irene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2001 Report Share Posted May 24, 2001 I have read the two postings about your SO and how they will stay with you. I ask my husband how he could put up with me. I am feeling better but there is still a lot of things that I cannot do and today the pain is trying to creep up and I hope that I derail with my pain medication. He said that he loved me and that it was not a matter of putting up with me; it was a matter that I am sick and he wants to help me where he can. He is so much help to me and I don't no what I would do without him as I love him very dearly and I can't imagine life without him. So to all of you that have a SO or husband that loves and helps you, be thankful. You have a good man. Take care, Irene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2001 Report Share Posted May 24, 2001 I have read the two postings about your SO and how they will stay with you. I ask my husband how he could put up with me. I am feeling better but there is still a lot of things that I cannot do and today the pain is trying to creep up and I hope that I derail with my pain medication. He said that he loved me and that it was not a matter of putting up with me; it was a matter that I am sick and he wants to help me where he can. He is so much help to me and I don't no what I would do without him as I love him very dearly and I can't imagine life without him. So to all of you that have a SO or husband that loves and helps you, be thankful. You have a good man. Take care, Irene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2001 Report Share Posted May 26, 2001 Sue, That is what my husband says that I am being to hard on myself. I thank you for the big hug. Hugs to you and take care of yourself, Irene > It sounds like you're being hard on yourself. I have > this theory...as far as housework goes...it will > always > be there, whether I do it today, tomorrow, or the next > day...it's never-ending, so why worry about it?!! > I'm sending you a bigggggggggggggggggggg hug!!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2001 Report Share Posted May 26, 2001 Sue, That is what my husband says that I am being to hard on myself. I thank you for the big hug. Hugs to you and take care of yourself, Irene > It sounds like you're being hard on yourself. I have > this theory...as far as housework goes...it will > always > be there, whether I do it today, tomorrow, or the next > day...it's never-ending, so why worry about it?!! > I'm sending you a bigggggggggggggggggggg hug!!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2001 Report Share Posted May 26, 2001 In a message dated 5/26/01 10:27:23 AM Eastern Daylight Time, abraxis3@... writes: > So to all of you that have a SO or husband that > > loves and helps you, be > > thankful. You have a good man. > > > > Take care, > > Irene > > > Irene, I'm one of the lucky one's too. I could not have agreed with you more. Kathy D. Diagnosed in 98 Live in Western Massachusetts Married for almost 19yrs, to a sweetheart Mother to 16 and 14 My Rottie dog Shelby Spooky the cat Hobbies: Boating, Learning this computer Arts & Crafts, and a passionate reader Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2001 Report Share Posted May 26, 2001 In a message dated 5/26/01 10:27:23 AM Eastern Daylight Time, abraxis3@... writes: > So to all of you that have a SO or husband that > > loves and helps you, be > > thankful. You have a good man. > > > > Take care, > > Irene > > > Irene, I'm one of the lucky one's too. I could not have agreed with you more. Kathy D. Diagnosed in 98 Live in Western Massachusetts Married for almost 19yrs, to a sweetheart Mother to 16 and 14 My Rottie dog Shelby Spooky the cat Hobbies: Boating, Learning this computer Arts & Crafts, and a passionate reader Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2001 Report Share Posted May 26, 2001 abraxis3@... Hi Irene, Sorry you're having such a difficult time. I hope your feel better soon. You have a wonderful husband there...listen to him. It sounds like you're being hard on yourself. I have this theory...as far as housework goes...it will always be there, whether I do it today, tomorrow, or the next day...it's never-ending, so why worry about it?!! I'm sending you a bigggggggggggggggggggg hug!!! LOL Sue --- patidu@... wrote: > I have read the two postings about your SO and how > they will stay with you. > I ask my husband how he could put up with me. I am > feeling better but there > is still a lot of things that I cannot do and today > the pain is trying to > creep up and I hope that I derail with my pain > medication. > > He said that he loved me and that it was not a > matter of putting up with me; > it was a matter that I am sick and he wants to help > me where he can. He is > so much help to me and I don't no what I would do > without him as I love him > very dearly and I can't imagine life without him. > > So to all of you that have a SO or husband that > loves and helps you, be > thankful. You have a good man. > > Take care, > Irene > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2001 Report Share Posted May 26, 2001 abraxis3@... Hi Irene, Sorry you're having such a difficult time. I hope your feel better soon. You have a wonderful husband there...listen to him. It sounds like you're being hard on yourself. I have this theory...as far as housework goes...it will always be there, whether I do it today, tomorrow, or the next day...it's never-ending, so why worry about it?!! I'm sending you a bigggggggggggggggggggg hug!!! LOL Sue --- patidu@... wrote: > I have read the two postings about your SO and how > they will stay with you. > I ask my husband how he could put up with me. I am > feeling better but there > is still a lot of things that I cannot do and today > the pain is trying to > creep up and I hope that I derail with my pain > medication. > > He said that he loved me and that it was not a > matter of putting up with me; > it was a matter that I am sick and he wants to help > me where he can. He is > so much help to me and I don't no what I would do > without him as I love him > very dearly and I can't imagine life without him. > > So to all of you that have a SO or husband that > loves and helps you, be > thankful. You have a good man. > > Take care, > Irene > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2001 Report Share Posted May 26, 2001 abraxis3@... Hi Irene, Sorry you're having such a difficult time. I hope your feel better soon. You have a wonderful husband there...listen to him. It sounds like you're being hard on yourself. I have this theory...as far as housework goes...it will always be there, whether I do it today, tomorrow, or the next day...it's never-ending, so why worry about it?!! I'm sending you a bigggggggggggggggggggg hug!!! LOL Sue --- patidu@... wrote: > I have read the two postings about your SO and how > they will stay with you. > I ask my husband how he could put up with me. I am > feeling better but there > is still a lot of things that I cannot do and today > the pain is trying to > creep up and I hope that I derail with my pain > medication. > > He said that he loved me and that it was not a > matter of putting up with me; > it was a matter that I am sick and he wants to help > me where he can. He is > so much help to me and I don't no what I would do > without him as I love him > very dearly and I can't imagine life without him. > > So to all of you that have a SO or husband that > loves and helps you, be > thankful. You have a good man. > > Take care, > Irene > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2001 Report Share Posted May 28, 2001 abraxis3@... Hi Irene, Someone asked me the other day if I ever give myself hugs. I said, " ya, sure, I try to say nice things to myself " , and she said, " no, I mean picture yourself hugging yourself! " I thought, " are you carzy " ? She did that little thing with her finger back and forth.. that thing that mean ah, ah, ah! She knew what I was thinking! So, I thought, " what the heck! " Before I get up, I do it, and when I'm getting ready to go to sleep. It feels kind of strange! But, my first reaction to it was tears! So, I guess I need it! Just thought I'd pass that along to you and anyone else that might give it a try! It seems that I've been more lenient with myself lately! LOL Sue --- patidu@... wrote: > Sue, > > That is what my husband says that I am being to hard > on myself. I thank you > for the big hug. > > Hugs to you and take care of yourself, > Irene > > > > It sounds like you're being hard on yourself. I > have > > this theory...as far as housework goes...it will > > always > > be there, whether I do it today, tomorrow, or the > next > > day...it's never-ending, so why worry about it?!! > > I'm sending you a bigggggggggggggggggggg hug!!! > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2001 Report Share Posted May 28, 2001 abraxis3@... Hi Irene, Someone asked me the other day if I ever give myself hugs. I said, " ya, sure, I try to say nice things to myself " , and she said, " no, I mean picture yourself hugging yourself! " I thought, " are you carzy " ? She did that little thing with her finger back and forth.. that thing that mean ah, ah, ah! She knew what I was thinking! So, I thought, " what the heck! " Before I get up, I do it, and when I'm getting ready to go to sleep. It feels kind of strange! But, my first reaction to it was tears! So, I guess I need it! Just thought I'd pass that along to you and anyone else that might give it a try! It seems that I've been more lenient with myself lately! LOL Sue --- patidu@... wrote: > Sue, > > That is what my husband says that I am being to hard > on myself. I thank you > for the big hug. > > Hugs to you and take care of yourself, > Irene > > > > It sounds like you're being hard on yourself. I > have > > this theory...as far as housework goes...it will > > always > > be there, whether I do it today, tomorrow, or the > next > > day...it's never-ending, so why worry about it?!! > > I'm sending you a bigggggggggggggggggggg hug!!! > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2001 Report Share Posted May 29, 2001 Deana, Does he not think that you are ill. At least he is helping with the things that are hard for us to do. Does the fact that you are expecting more from him then he feels that he can or wants to do? Is this what is causing problems? I seem to be asking more than helping you but we are trying to help everyone on this list emotionally as well with support. We love you and if you need to talk more, we are here for you. Please take care of yourself, Irene > Mine is here does all manual work but > never supports me emotional infact he thinks I am torturing him. Deana > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2001 Report Share Posted May 29, 2001 Deana, Does he not think that you are ill. At least he is helping with the things that are hard for us to do. Does the fact that you are expecting more from him then he feels that he can or wants to do? Is this what is causing problems? I seem to be asking more than helping you but we are trying to help everyone on this list emotionally as well with support. We love you and if you need to talk more, we are here for you. Please take care of yourself, Irene > Mine is here does all manual work but > never supports me emotional infact he thinks I am torturing him. Deana > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2001 Report Share Posted May 29, 2001 To all my friends here, If you have SO who say they love you and will stand by you, you are blessed and mine is here does all manual work but never supports me emotional infact he thinks I am torturing him. Deana On Sat, 26 May 2001 13:42:30 EDT patidu@... writes: > Sue, > > That is what my husband says that I am being to hard on myself. I > thank you > for the big hug. > > Hugs to you and take care of yourself, > Irene > > > > It sounds like you're being hard on yourself. I have > > this theory...as far as housework goes...it will > > always > > be there, whether I do it today, tomorrow, or the next > > day...it's never-ending, so why worry about it?!! > > I'm sending you a bigggggggggggggggggggg hug!!! > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2001 Report Share Posted May 29, 2001 To all my friends here, If you have SO who say they love you and will stand by you, you are blessed and mine is here does all manual work but never supports me emotional infact he thinks I am torturing him. Deana On Sat, 26 May 2001 13:42:30 EDT patidu@... writes: > Sue, > > That is what my husband says that I am being to hard on myself. I > thank you > for the big hug. > > Hugs to you and take care of yourself, > Irene > > > > It sounds like you're being hard on yourself. I have > > this theory...as far as housework goes...it will > > always > > be there, whether I do it today, tomorrow, or the next > > day...it's never-ending, so why worry about it?!! > > I'm sending you a bigggggggggggggggggggg hug!!! > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2001 Report Share Posted May 29, 2001 To all my friends here, If you have SO who say they love you and will stand by you, you are blessed and mine is here does all manual work but never supports me emotional infact he thinks I am torturing him. Deana On Sat, 26 May 2001 13:42:30 EDT patidu@... writes: > Sue, > > That is what my husband says that I am being to hard on myself. I > thank you > for the big hug. > > Hugs to you and take care of yourself, > Irene > > > > It sounds like you're being hard on yourself. I have > > this theory...as far as housework goes...it will > > always > > be there, whether I do it today, tomorrow, or the next > > day...it's never-ending, so why worry about it?!! > > I'm sending you a bigggggggggggggggggggg hug!!! > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2001 Report Share Posted May 29, 2001 Irene, Here is a big hugggggggggggggg for you from me and I think we all need to do the same. give ourselves hugs. Maybe there are things we did that we can not do but we all have things we can not do. Everyone has limitations ours are tuffer cause God knew we could show others our strength we have. We could be influencing someone everyday and we do not know, infact, I am certain that by listening to each and every letter from all of you that we do have the strength. And with each other just think of the influence we have together. Love, Deana On Mon, 28 May 2001 02:01:16 -0700 (PDT) sue jackson writes: > abraxis3@... > Hi Irene, > Someone asked me the other day if I ever give myself > hugs. I said, " ya, sure, I try to say nice things to > myself " , and she said, " no, I mean picture yourself > hugging yourself! " I thought, " are you carzy " ? She > did that little thing with her finger back and forth.. > that thing that mean ah, ah, ah! She knew what I was > thinking! So, I thought, " what the heck! " Before I > get up, I do it, and when I'm getting ready to go to > sleep. It feels kind of strange! But, my first > reaction to it was tears! So, I guess I need it! > Just thought I'd pass that along to you and anyone > else that might give it a try! > It seems that I've been more lenient with myself > lately! > LOL > Sue > --- patidu@... wrote: > > Sue, > > > > That is what my husband says that I am being to hard > > on myself. I thank you > > for the big hug. > > > > Hugs to you and take care of yourself, > > Irene > > > > > > > It sounds like you're being hard on yourself. I > > have > > > this theory...as far as housework goes...it will > > > always > > > be there, whether I do it today, tomorrow, or the > > next > > > day...it's never-ending, so why worry about it?!! > > > I'm sending you a bigggggggggggggggggggg hug!!! > > > > > > > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > > removed] > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2001 Report Share Posted May 29, 2001 Irene, Here is a big hugggggggggggggg for you from me and I think we all need to do the same. give ourselves hugs. Maybe there are things we did that we can not do but we all have things we can not do. Everyone has limitations ours are tuffer cause God knew we could show others our strength we have. We could be influencing someone everyday and we do not know, infact, I am certain that by listening to each and every letter from all of you that we do have the strength. And with each other just think of the influence we have together. Love, Deana On Mon, 28 May 2001 02:01:16 -0700 (PDT) sue jackson writes: > abraxis3@... > Hi Irene, > Someone asked me the other day if I ever give myself > hugs. I said, " ya, sure, I try to say nice things to > myself " , and she said, " no, I mean picture yourself > hugging yourself! " I thought, " are you carzy " ? She > did that little thing with her finger back and forth.. > that thing that mean ah, ah, ah! She knew what I was > thinking! So, I thought, " what the heck! " Before I > get up, I do it, and when I'm getting ready to go to > sleep. It feels kind of strange! But, my first > reaction to it was tears! So, I guess I need it! > Just thought I'd pass that along to you and anyone > else that might give it a try! > It seems that I've been more lenient with myself > lately! > LOL > Sue > --- patidu@... wrote: > > Sue, > > > > That is what my husband says that I am being to hard > > on myself. I thank you > > for the big hug. > > > > Hugs to you and take care of yourself, > > Irene > > > > > > > It sounds like you're being hard on yourself. I > > have > > > this theory...as far as housework goes...it will > > > always > > > be there, whether I do it today, tomorrow, or the > > next > > > day...it's never-ending, so why worry about it?!! > > > I'm sending you a bigggggggggggggggggggg hug!!! > > > > > > > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > > removed] > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2001 Report Share Posted May 29, 2001 Irene, Here is a big hugggggggggggggg for you from me and I think we all need to do the same. give ourselves hugs. Maybe there are things we did that we can not do but we all have things we can not do. Everyone has limitations ours are tuffer cause God knew we could show others our strength we have. We could be influencing someone everyday and we do not know, infact, I am certain that by listening to each and every letter from all of you that we do have the strength. And with each other just think of the influence we have together. Love, Deana On Mon, 28 May 2001 02:01:16 -0700 (PDT) sue jackson writes: > abraxis3@... > Hi Irene, > Someone asked me the other day if I ever give myself > hugs. I said, " ya, sure, I try to say nice things to > myself " , and she said, " no, I mean picture yourself > hugging yourself! " I thought, " are you carzy " ? She > did that little thing with her finger back and forth.. > that thing that mean ah, ah, ah! She knew what I was > thinking! So, I thought, " what the heck! " Before I > get up, I do it, and when I'm getting ready to go to > sleep. It feels kind of strange! But, my first > reaction to it was tears! So, I guess I need it! > Just thought I'd pass that along to you and anyone > else that might give it a try! > It seems that I've been more lenient with myself > lately! > LOL > Sue > --- patidu@... wrote: > > Sue, > > > > That is what my husband says that I am being to hard > > on myself. I thank you > > for the big hug. > > > > Hugs to you and take care of yourself, > > Irene > > > > > > > It sounds like you're being hard on yourself. I > > have > > > this theory...as far as housework goes...it will > > > always > > > be there, whether I do it today, tomorrow, or the > > next > > > day...it's never-ending, so why worry about it?!! > > > I'm sending you a bigggggggggggggggggggg hug!!! > > > > > > > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > > removed] > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2001 Report Share Posted May 29, 2001 abraxis3@... Hi Deana, Well, we could discuss men all night!!! Men, as a rule, do not like to 'feel' things. They would rather 'fix' it! They think they are doing all they can for you by coming up with a solution to your problem, and you're suppose to just take their advice and quit sniffling! They get upset if you don't, because they then think they are failing you by not coming up with a suitable solution! I've found that this is because they are so closed off to their own emotions, that they honestly do not not even know what they feel most of the time! If you get them to start feeling, they get scared and in turn (cause they don't dare show you that they are afraid...it's an 'ego' thing!), they get angry to protect themselves. You become the enemy, and all you ever wanted was someone to listen to you and give you a hug!!! If I ask my husband what he's feeling, he'll give me some off-the-wall statement that has nothing to do with emotions! I remember saying to him...that's not a feeling! So, I ask him are you mad, sad or glad? He looks at me, like I'm stupid, and I say, " what are you afraid of? " " I'm not afraid " , he'll say, and then I'll say, " Then answer the question! " He'll sit there for a few moments and finally answer. Then he really starts talking to me! Sometimes I feel like his therapist instead of his wife!!! The bottom line, honey, is that he can't give you what he doesn't give himself...permission to 'feel'! That's why it's 'torture' to him! LOL Sue --- Deana L Fick wrote: > To all my friends here, If you have SO who say they > love you and will > stand by you, you are blessed and mine is here does > all manual work but > never supports me emotional infact he thinks I am > torturing him. Deana > > On Sat, 26 May 2001 13:42:30 EDT patidu@... > writes: > > Sue, > > > > That is what my husband says that I am being to > hard on myself. I > > thank you > > for the big hug. > > > > Hugs to you and take care of yourself, > > Irene > > > > > > > It sounds like you're being hard on yourself. I > have > > > this theory...as far as housework goes...it will > > > always > > > be there, whether I do it today, tomorrow, or > the next > > > day...it's never-ending, so why worry about > it?!! > > > I'm sending you a bigggggggggggggggggggg hug!!! > > > > > > > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > > > > > SEND POST TO: fibromyalgia-cfs > > TO > UNSUBSCRIBE:fibromyalgia-cfs-unsubscribe > > > > List owner: Bierman > fibromyalgia-cfs-owner > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2001 Report Share Posted May 29, 2001 abraxis3@... Hi Deana, Well, we could discuss men all night!!! Men, as a rule, do not like to 'feel' things. They would rather 'fix' it! They think they are doing all they can for you by coming up with a solution to your problem, and you're suppose to just take their advice and quit sniffling! They get upset if you don't, because they then think they are failing you by not coming up with a suitable solution! I've found that this is because they are so closed off to their own emotions, that they honestly do not not even know what they feel most of the time! If you get them to start feeling, they get scared and in turn (cause they don't dare show you that they are afraid...it's an 'ego' thing!), they get angry to protect themselves. You become the enemy, and all you ever wanted was someone to listen to you and give you a hug!!! If I ask my husband what he's feeling, he'll give me some off-the-wall statement that has nothing to do with emotions! I remember saying to him...that's not a feeling! So, I ask him are you mad, sad or glad? He looks at me, like I'm stupid, and I say, " what are you afraid of? " " I'm not afraid " , he'll say, and then I'll say, " Then answer the question! " He'll sit there for a few moments and finally answer. Then he really starts talking to me! Sometimes I feel like his therapist instead of his wife!!! The bottom line, honey, is that he can't give you what he doesn't give himself...permission to 'feel'! That's why it's 'torture' to him! LOL Sue --- Deana L Fick wrote: > To all my friends here, If you have SO who say they > love you and will > stand by you, you are blessed and mine is here does > all manual work but > never supports me emotional infact he thinks I am > torturing him. Deana > > On Sat, 26 May 2001 13:42:30 EDT patidu@... > writes: > > Sue, > > > > That is what my husband says that I am being to > hard on myself. I > > thank you > > for the big hug. > > > > Hugs to you and take care of yourself, > > Irene > > > > > > > It sounds like you're being hard on yourself. I > have > > > this theory...as far as housework goes...it will > > > always > > > be there, whether I do it today, tomorrow, or > the next > > > day...it's never-ending, so why worry about > it?!! > > > I'm sending you a bigggggggggggggggggggg hug!!! > > > > > > > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > > > > > SEND POST TO: fibromyalgia-cfs > > TO > UNSUBSCRIBE:fibromyalgia-cfs-unsubscribe > > > > List owner: Bierman > fibromyalgia-cfs-owner > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2001 Report Share Posted May 29, 2001 Dee, I am so sorry to hear this. He doesn't know what you are going through. Would he read information about fibromyalgia? If he would, he might have some indication of what you are going through. Screaming doesn't help but maybe he is afraid of something that he does not understand. As for helping around the house, some days I can get a few things done. Other days I just have to give up and go to bed. I am going to try today to get some of the clutter from the weekend cleared up as not much was done by either my husband or myself. I will stop whenever I feel like I have had enough and the pain is starting to build up. I will take pain pills and go to bed for the rest of the day. Please take care of yourself. That is very important. Do what you have to do to help yourself. We care for you very much. Irene > And if I cry I have to leave the room he just > starts screaming at me, so no I think he does not want to be bothered > because he cannot fix it and that material things are more important to > him. Especially since he won't go for help. And If I sit too long pain > or not he will tell me that is enough get up and help I am not doing > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2001 Report Share Posted May 29, 2001 Irene, I know it is hard on him to but I tell him what I need and who cares if the floor is not swept one more day I need a hug and i need to hear you are hear for me and if I cry I have to leave the room he just starts screaming at me, so no I think he does not want to be bothered because he can not fix it and that material things are more important to him. Especially since he won't go for help. And If I sit too long pain or not he will tell me that is enough get up an help I am not doing everything myself. Well I am sorry to say all these things we had such a good life till I got sick and he says there is no better or worse, no man should put up with what I am putting him through. See I have anxiety attacks too and crying attacks, and especially when the pain is so bad I can not get rid of it, I try to tell him I am tired after 4 years and some days can take it better than other days. Thanks for listening. Have not made no definite plans yet, but thinking very serious, my therapist says I have to do what is best for me. We have to alll learn to take care of our selves cause no one else will. I have rambled enough. Deana On Mon, 28 May 2001 23:52:33 EDT patidu@... writes: > Deana, > Does he not think that you are ill. At least he is helping with the > things > that are hard for us to do. Does the fact that you are expecting > more from > him then he feels that he can or wants to do? Is this what is > causing > problems? I seem to be asking more than helping you but we are > trying to > help everyone on this list emotionally as well with support. We > love you and > if you need to talk more, we are here for you. > > Please take care of yourself, > Irene > > > > > > Mine is here does all manual work but > > never supports me emotional infact he thinks I am torturing him. > Deana > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2001 Report Share Posted May 29, 2001 Irene, I know it is hard on him to but I tell him what I need and who cares if the floor is not swept one more day I need a hug and i need to hear you are hear for me and if I cry I have to leave the room he just starts screaming at me, so no I think he does not want to be bothered because he can not fix it and that material things are more important to him. Especially since he won't go for help. And If I sit too long pain or not he will tell me that is enough get up an help I am not doing everything myself. Well I am sorry to say all these things we had such a good life till I got sick and he says there is no better or worse, no man should put up with what I am putting him through. See I have anxiety attacks too and crying attacks, and especially when the pain is so bad I can not get rid of it, I try to tell him I am tired after 4 years and some days can take it better than other days. Thanks for listening. Have not made no definite plans yet, but thinking very serious, my therapist says I have to do what is best for me. We have to alll learn to take care of our selves cause no one else will. I have rambled enough. Deana On Mon, 28 May 2001 23:52:33 EDT patidu@... writes: > Deana, > Does he not think that you are ill. At least he is helping with the > things > that are hard for us to do. Does the fact that you are expecting > more from > him then he feels that he can or wants to do? Is this what is > causing > problems? I seem to be asking more than helping you but we are > trying to > help everyone on this list emotionally as well with support. We > love you and > if you need to talk more, we are here for you. > > Please take care of yourself, > Irene > > > > > > Mine is here does all manual work but > > never supports me emotional infact he thinks I am torturing him. > Deana > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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