Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 , Make sure you chose a guardian who is going to be very capable of understanding and providing for him. This covers you in the event of an untimely demise... As to far in the future when we are old, all we can do is work to prepare our kids to be as independent as possible. Once we are old, we can put our kids on waiting lists for group homes, etc., IF they aren't going to be able to be independent. However, this is so far off, we really can't predict where they will be at that time. Try to live now by the AA credo: One day at a time. That's the best we all can do for now. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 , Make sure you chose a guardian who is going to be very capable of understanding and providing for him. This covers you in the event of an untimely demise... As to far in the future when we are old, all we can do is work to prepare our kids to be as independent as possible. Once we are old, we can put our kids on waiting lists for group homes, etc., IF they aren't going to be able to be independent. However, this is so far off, we really can't predict where they will be at that time. Try to live now by the AA credo: One day at a time. That's the best we all can do for now. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 , Make sure you chose a guardian who is going to be very capable of understanding and providing for him. This covers you in the event of an untimely demise... As to far in the future when we are old, all we can do is work to prepare our kids to be as independent as possible. Once we are old, we can put our kids on waiting lists for group homes, etc., IF they aren't going to be able to be independent. However, this is so far off, we really can't predict where they will be at that time. Try to live now by the AA credo: One day at a time. That's the best we all can do for now. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 > over my son being autistic. I just can't comprehend my child ever > living without me to watch over him ...and I really feel he's going > to be dx as mild because of all he can do but still that nagging I don't think about it. 's only 3. Will is also very young. Who knows what they're going to accomplish? I would never have believed it if you'd told me all the progress would make in the last year. What will another year bring? 3? 5? I don't think about it. Maybe not the best approach, but mine own. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 uestion for all... > In the big scheme of things ...how do you live with the possibility > of your child living on without you ? I am with Sara. At this point I am not thinking about it. And I hope that Putter and Enrique will be independent. Putter would love to be independent. He'd like to say good-bye to the whole human race. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 > > over my son being autistic. I just can't comprehend my child ever > > living without me to watch over him ...and I really feel he's going > > to be dx as mild because of all he can do but still that nagging > > I don't think about it. > > 's only 3. Will is also very young. Who knows what they're going to > accomplish? I would never have believed it if you'd told me all the > progress would make in the last year. What will another year bring? > 3? 5? > > I don't think about it. > > Maybe not the best approach, but mine own. > Thank you Sara ...its good advice ... > -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 > , > Make sure you chose a guardian who is going to be very capable of > understanding and providing for him. This covers you in the event of an > untimely demise... As to far in the future when we are old, all we can do > is work to prepare our kids to be as independent as possible. Once we are > old, we can put our kids on waiting lists for group homes, etc., IF they > aren't going to be able to be independent. However, this is so far off, we > really can't predict where they will be at that time. > Try to live now by the AA credo: One day at a time. > That's the best we all can do for now. > > Sue Thank you Sue...I appreciate your advice... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 Well, my long term hope is that once Jordan is an adult he will live on his own ... whether it be in a group home, on his own with support or ideally, be able to support himself fully. I definitely do not intend for him to live with me for the rest of my life. On a practical side, I'd rather be around to help him transition to living on his own ... instead of having his whole world jerked around because I died or became incapacitated. On a personal side, Jordan should enjoy the independence that comes with adulthood ... to the fullest extent that he can. All that said, it's a very long time in the future, so I haven't worried much about details or what might happen to alter that little plan in my head. Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 > It would make me very happy if she and Dillon both would stay in touch with him, visit him or allow him to visit them and be available if he needs them. < awww, sissi. i think you have raised your kids well enough that this will NOT be a problem. ((((sissi)))) " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 > It would make me very happy if she and Dillon both would stay in touch with him, visit him or allow him to visit them and be available if he needs them. < awww, sissi. i think you have raised your kids well enough that this will NOT be a problem. ((((sissi)))) " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 > It would make me very happy if she and Dillon both would stay in touch with him, visit him or allow him to visit them and be available if he needs them. < awww, sissi. i think you have raised your kids well enough that this will NOT be a problem. ((((sissi)))) " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 > In the big scheme of things ...how do you live with the possibility > of your child living on without you ? Afterall, most of us will > outlive our children. Amber says she'll take care of Boone after we're gone. It's not fair to ask her to take on such a burden, so I hope he will be living as independently as possible by then. It would make me very happy if she and Dillon both would stay in touch with him, visit him or allow him to visit them and be available if he needs them. Just to make sure he's cared for and happy. I want all of my children to be happy. Now you've got me crying. Sissi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 > In the big scheme of things ...how do you live with the possibility > of your child living on without you ? Afterall, most of us will > outlive our children. Amber says she'll take care of Boone after we're gone. It's not fair to ask her to take on such a burden, so I hope he will be living as independently as possible by then. It would make me very happy if she and Dillon both would stay in touch with him, visit him or allow him to visit them and be available if he needs them. Just to make sure he's cared for and happy. I want all of my children to be happy. Now you've got me crying. Sissi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 > In the big scheme of things ...how do you live with the possibility > of your child living on without you ? Afterall, most of us will > outlive our children. Amber says she'll take care of Boone after we're gone. It's not fair to ask her to take on such a burden, so I hope he will be living as independently as possible by then. It would make me very happy if she and Dillon both would stay in touch with him, visit him or allow him to visit them and be available if he needs them. Just to make sure he's cared for and happy. I want all of my children to be happy. Now you've got me crying. Sissi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 Thanks, . That means a lot. Sissi Re: Question for all... > > It would make me very happy if she and Dillon both would stay in touch with him, visit him or allow him to visit them and be available if he needs them. < > > > awww, sissi. i think you have raised your kids well enough that this will NOT be a problem. ((((sissi)))) > > > " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 Thanks, . That means a lot. Sissi Re: Question for all... > > It would make me very happy if she and Dillon both would stay in touch with him, visit him or allow him to visit them and be available if he needs them. < > > > awww, sissi. i think you have raised your kids well enough that this will NOT be a problem. ((((sissi)))) > > > " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 Thanks, . That means a lot. Sissi Re: Question for all... > > It would make me very happy if she and Dillon both would stay in touch with him, visit him or allow him to visit them and be available if he needs them. < > > > awww, sissi. i think you have raised your kids well enough that this will NOT be a problem. ((((sissi)))) > > > " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2003 Report Share Posted January 8, 2003 > > It would make me very happy if she and Dillon both would stay > in touch with him, visit him or allow him to visit them and be > available if he needs them. < > > > awww, sissi. i think you have raised your kids well enough that > this will NOT be a problem. ((((sissi)))) I agree. Amber sounds like such a kind, caring young lady. For her to offer that at her young age! Amazing. I don't know that much about Dillon, and I know he has his own problems, but I'm positive he loves Boone very much and wants him to be happy. You're a great mom, Sissi. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2003 Report Share Posted January 8, 2003 > > It would make me very happy if she and Dillon both would stay > in touch with him, visit him or allow him to visit them and be > available if he needs them. < > > > awww, sissi. i think you have raised your kids well enough that > this will NOT be a problem. ((((sissi)))) I agree. Amber sounds like such a kind, caring young lady. For her to offer that at her young age! Amazing. I don't know that much about Dillon, and I know he has his own problems, but I'm positive he loves Boone very much and wants him to be happy. You're a great mom, Sissi. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2003 Report Share Posted January 8, 2003 > > It would make me very happy if she and Dillon both would stay > in touch with him, visit him or allow him to visit them and be > available if he needs them. < > > > awww, sissi. i think you have raised your kids well enough that > this will NOT be a problem. ((((sissi)))) I agree. Amber sounds like such a kind, caring young lady. For her to offer that at her young age! Amazing. I don't know that much about Dillon, and I know he has his own problems, but I'm positive he loves Boone very much and wants him to be happy. You're a great mom, Sissi. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2003 Report Share Posted January 8, 2003 > In the big scheme of things ...how do you live with the possibility > of your child living on without you ? I just never never never never never think about it. Seriously. I don't think past the weekend. For me, that's the key to survival. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2003 Report Share Posted January 8, 2003 > In the big scheme of things ...how do you live with the possibility > of your child living on without you ? I just never never never never never think about it. Seriously. I don't think past the weekend. For me, that's the key to survival. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2003 Report Share Posted January 8, 2003 > In the big scheme of things ...how do you live with the possibility > of your child living on without you ? I just never never never never never think about it. Seriously. I don't think past the weekend. For me, that's the key to survival. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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