Re: interesting observation

January 7, 2003

> I'm glad I stood back and watched; after seeing THAT, I certainly

can't be angry with him for taking so long anymore. Poor kid's lost

all ability to plan by the end of the day!

Oh My! You have made a very interesting observation. That is, I

think the core of why so many of our children come home and fall

apart after school. It makes perfectly logical sense in regards to

, Gail (miss disorganized high anxiety, but not spectrum

supposedly), and especially Chris.

Now, if we have indeed identified the problem, what then do we do

about it? That would be the question I think. Hmmmm....

January 7, 2003

> I'm glad I stood back and watched; after seeing THAT, I certainly

can't be angry with him for taking so long anymore. Poor kid's lost

all ability to plan by the end of the day!

Oh My! You have made a very interesting observation. That is, I

think the core of why so many of our children come home and fall

apart after school. It makes perfectly logical sense in regards to

, Gail (miss disorganized high anxiety, but not spectrum

supposedly), and especially Chris.

Now, if we have indeed identified the problem, what then do we do

about it? That would be the question I think. Hmmmm....

January 7, 2003

> I'm glad I stood back and watched; after seeing THAT, I certainly

can't be angry with him for taking so long anymore. Poor kid's lost

all ability to plan by the end of the day!

Oh My! You have made a very interesting observation. That is, I

think the core of why so many of our children come home and fall

apart after school. It makes perfectly logical sense in regards to

, Gail (miss disorganized high anxiety, but not spectrum

supposedly), and especially Chris.

Now, if we have indeed identified the problem, what then do we do

about it? That would be the question I think. Hmmmm....

January 7, 2003

Aww. Poor kid.

How frustrating that must be.

Sissi

January 7, 2003

Aww. Poor kid.

How frustrating that must be.

Sissi

January 7, 2003

Aww. Poor kid.

How frustrating that must be.

Sissi

January 8, 2003

In a message dated 1/8/03 10:26:08 AM Eastern Standard Time,

cvn300565@... writes:

> ? For HER mother to think she's a good mother?

That is so wonderful I can't find the words. And it's really very true.

January 8, 2003

In a message dated 1/8/03 10:26:08 AM Eastern Standard Time,

cvn300565@... writes:

> ? For HER mother to think she's a good mother?

That is so wonderful I can't find the words. And it's really very true.

January 8, 2003

>Jacquie, you are amazing in what you notice!

> Sue

* I think you are amazing to.

*

THANK YOU!

Your comment stuck with me all night and morning, and just now when I

talked

to my mom on the phone I told her the whole story and then what you

said, then said, " Is that true? I mean, the things I notice are

obvious,

aren't they? " (obvious to me, anyway)

And then my mom made me cry. She said I notice EVERYTHING, more than

most

people. She said is lucky to have me because of it. She said I'm

so

in tune with him that it's amazing.

I still don't see it - it all seems self-explanatory to me, and

something

everyone does - but to hear my mom say that was just overwhelming. My

chest

is tight right now writing all this out.

Thank you for saying I'm amazing, and thank you for sparking off a

conversation with my mom where she told me what a good mom I am. :-)

I

think that's all any mother wants, isn't it? For HER mother to think

she's

a good mother?

Jacquie

[+] I am so glad you are now aware that you are a good mother.

[+] I was reading a book an it said that you can help kids use their

strengths to help themselves to do things that are difficult to do for

them. Maybe you can talk to him and try to find out a way for him to

remember. Maybe talking while he is doing it (self verbal cue) or making

a visual help for him to follow. I don’t know if this help, but this

came to my mind.

Cecilia, from Peru (mom to Dessiree 3½ yo, no dx yet some autistic

traits)

Lovely husband

January 8, 2003

> though - because he CAN do it, even if it takes longer, and every time he

> does it he's accomplished something big.

I think I might let him know that.

-Sara.

January 8, 2003

> I still don't see it - it all seems self-explanatory to me, and something

> everyone does - but to hear my mom say that was just

> overwhelming. My chest

> is tight right now writing all this out.

I know exactly what you're saying.

When went on his weird food kicks - only white foods, or only

straight foods, etc. - everyone was amazed that I had figured out what he

would eat and been able to work with that - for example making him meatloaf

sticks so he could get some protein. But I'm the same as you -- well, isn't

it OBVIOUS? It's not like I'm doing anything special here.

Or I will tell someone, " No, he wants... " It is perfectly obvious to me

what he's trying to tell them and I don't understand why they can't see it.

Even Matt finds this amazing and he lives with us.

I'm glad you got to hear how special you are. (And you ARE!)

-Sara.

January 8, 2003

> I still don't see it - it all seems self-explanatory to me, and something

> everyone does - but to hear my mom say that was just

> overwhelming. My chest

> is tight right now writing all this out.

I know exactly what you're saying.

When went on his weird food kicks - only white foods, or only

straight foods, etc. - everyone was amazed that I had figured out what he

would eat and been able to work with that - for example making him meatloaf

sticks so he could get some protein. But I'm the same as you -- well, isn't

it OBVIOUS? It's not like I'm doing anything special here.

Or I will tell someone, " No, he wants... " It is perfectly obvious to me

what he's trying to tell them and I don't understand why they can't see it.

Even Matt finds this amazing and he lives with us.

I'm glad you got to hear how special you are. (And you ARE!)

-Sara.

January 8, 2003

> I still don't see it - it all seems self-explanatory to me, and something

> everyone does - but to hear my mom say that was just

> overwhelming. My chest

> is tight right now writing all this out.

I know exactly what you're saying.

When went on his weird food kicks - only white foods, or only

straight foods, etc. - everyone was amazed that I had figured out what he

would eat and been able to work with that - for example making him meatloaf

sticks so he could get some protein. But I'm the same as you -- well, isn't

it OBVIOUS? It's not like I'm doing anything special here.

Or I will tell someone, " No, he wants... " It is perfectly obvious to me

what he's trying to tell them and I don't understand why they can't see it.

Even Matt finds this amazing and he lives with us.

I'm glad you got to hear how special you are. (And you ARE!)

-Sara.

January 8, 2003

Maybe we all seem to be able to tune into our kids like this. I know I can.

Greggory will only eat crunchy foods. I used to say that if you took a piece of

the food and put in between your fingers and rubbed you could know if he would

eat it or not. If it crumbled it was ok and if it got mushy or stuck together

then it was no good! lol

Jacquie H

RE: interesting observation

> I still don't see it - it all seems self-explanatory to me, and something

> everyone does - but to hear my mom say that was just

> overwhelming. My chest

> is tight right now writing all this out.

I know exactly what you're saying.

When went on his weird food kicks - only white foods, or only

straight foods, etc. - everyone was amazed that I had figured out what he

would eat and been able to work with that - for example making him meatloaf

sticks so he could get some protein. But I'm the same as you -- well, isn't

it OBVIOUS? It's not like I'm doing anything special here.

Or I will tell someone, " No, he wants... " It is perfectly obvious to me

what he's trying to tell them and I don't understand why they can't see it.

Even Matt finds this amazing and he lives with us.

I'm glad you got to hear how special you are. (And you ARE!)

-Sara.

January 8, 2003

>

I think that's all any mother wants, isn't it? For HER mother to

think she's a good mother?

>

No, but I'm glad you do and that you had this experience. )

Tina

*who's mother needs serious mental help*

January 8, 2003

>

> > Jacquie, you are amazing in what you notice!

> > Sue

>

> THANK YOU!

>

> Your comment stuck with me all night and morning, and just now when I

talked

> to my mom on the phone I told her the whole story and then what you

> said, then said, " Is that true? I mean, the things I notice are obvious,

> aren't they? " (obvious to me, anyway)

Of course they are obvious to you. You think more like him than most of us

do with our kids. I imagine you are more detail oriented than most of us

are also.

> And then my mom made me cry. She said I notice EVERYTHING, more than most

> people. She said is lucky to have me because of it. She said I'm so

> in tune with him that it's amazing.

Yep. That's what we've been telling you!

> I still don't see it - it all seems self-explanatory to me, and something

> everyone does -

But it's not something we all do. Our brains are wired differently than

yours and our kid's.

but to hear my mom say that was just overwhelming. My chest

> is tight right now writing all this out.

Good. I would take this as meaning you are beginning to understand what

we've been trying to convince you of all along...You are a very special

person and is lucky to have you!

> Thank you for saying I'm amazing, and thank you for sparking off a

> conversation with my mom where she told me what a good mom I am. :-)

You are very welcome.

I think that's all any mother wants, isn't it? For HER mother to think

she's

> a good mother?

Yes it is. And you are also lucky because you have one who can tell you

these things.

Sue

January 8, 2003

>

> > Jacquie, you are amazing in what you notice!

> > Sue

>

> THANK YOU!

>

> Your comment stuck with me all night and morning, and just now when I

talked

> to my mom on the phone I told her the whole story and then what you

> said, then said, " Is that true? I mean, the things I notice are obvious,

> aren't they? " (obvious to me, anyway)

Of course they are obvious to you. You think more like him than most of us

do with our kids. I imagine you are more detail oriented than most of us

are also.

> And then my mom made me cry. She said I notice EVERYTHING, more than most

> people. She said is lucky to have me because of it. She said I'm so

> in tune with him that it's amazing.

Yep. That's what we've been telling you!

> I still don't see it - it all seems self-explanatory to me, and something

> everyone does -

But it's not something we all do. Our brains are wired differently than

yours and our kid's.

but to hear my mom say that was just overwhelming. My chest

> is tight right now writing all this out.

Good. I would take this as meaning you are beginning to understand what

we've been trying to convince you of all along...You are a very special

person and is lucky to have you!

> Thank you for saying I'm amazing, and thank you for sparking off a

> conversation with my mom where she told me what a good mom I am. :-)

You are very welcome.

I think that's all any mother wants, isn't it? For HER mother to think

she's

> a good mother?

Yes it is. And you are also lucky because you have one who can tell you

these things.

Sue

January 8, 2003

>

> > Jacquie, you are amazing in what you notice!

> > Sue

>

> THANK YOU!

>

> Your comment stuck with me all night and morning, and just now when I

talked

> to my mom on the phone I told her the whole story and then what you

> said, then said, " Is that true? I mean, the things I notice are obvious,

> aren't they? " (obvious to me, anyway)

Of course they are obvious to you. You think more like him than most of us

do with our kids. I imagine you are more detail oriented than most of us

are also.

> And then my mom made me cry. She said I notice EVERYTHING, more than most

> people. She said is lucky to have me because of it. She said I'm so

> in tune with him that it's amazing.

Yep. That's what we've been telling you!

> I still don't see it - it all seems self-explanatory to me, and something

> everyone does -

But it's not something we all do. Our brains are wired differently than

yours and our kid's.

but to hear my mom say that was just overwhelming. My chest

> is tight right now writing all this out.

Good. I would take this as meaning you are beginning to understand what

we've been trying to convince you of all along...You are a very special

person and is lucky to have you!

> Thank you for saying I'm amazing, and thank you for sparking off a

> conversation with my mom where she told me what a good mom I am. :-)

You are very welcome.

I think that's all any mother wants, isn't it? For HER mother to think

she's

> a good mother?

Yes it is. And you are also lucky because you have one who can tell you

these things.

Sue

January 8, 2003

I imagine you are more detail oriented than most of us are also.

> I am VERY detail oriented. When I told my boss at the library I wanted to

> do something different than shelve the kids' books, she said, " Good! I

need

> someone who pays attention to little details and is a perfectionist to do

> the A/V processing! You're perfect for it! "

>

> I was surprised that my persnickety-ness was THAT obvious. LOL.

Mark is an annoying perfectionist when it comes to the things that don't

matter a lick to me! However, I can design the room I'm going to re-do in

my head and picture it finished and he can't envision it. He has to

actually see it.

Sue

January 8, 2003

I imagine you are more detail oriented than most of us are also.

> I am VERY detail oriented. When I told my boss at the library I wanted to

> do something different than shelve the kids' books, she said, " Good! I

need

> someone who pays attention to little details and is a perfectionist to do

> the A/V processing! You're perfect for it! "

>

> I was surprised that my persnickety-ness was THAT obvious. LOL.

Mark is an annoying perfectionist when it comes to the things that don't

matter a lick to me! However, I can design the room I'm going to re-do in

my head and picture it finished and he can't envision it. He has to

actually see it.

Sue

January 8, 2003

I imagine you are more detail oriented than most of us are also.

> I am VERY detail oriented. When I told my boss at the library I wanted to

> do something different than shelve the kids' books, she said, " Good! I

need

> someone who pays attention to little details and is a perfectionist to do

> the A/V processing! You're perfect for it! "

>

> I was surprised that my persnickety-ness was THAT obvious. LOL.

Mark is an annoying perfectionist when it comes to the things that don't

matter a lick to me! However, I can design the room I'm going to re-do in

my head and picture it finished and he can't envision it. He has to

actually see it.

Sue

January 8, 2003

> >However, I can design the room I'm going to re-do in

> > my head and picture it finished

> Damn! You can DO that???

>

> I CANNOT do that! I have to call my best friend and ask HER what colour I

That's MATT!!!

I'm the one with the visual/spatial intelligence here. I used to think

entirely in pictures. Once I got into computers I became able to think by

picturing the words being typed across the screen. Before that I had to see

the picture in my head and " translate " it into a word. It is faster to

think in words so that is how I do it most of the time now, although I am

still seeing them in my head. (Does this make any sense at all??)

The plus side of that was I had a photographic memory. well I suppose I

still do but I don't use it like I used to. I used to be able to read a

textbook chapter once, and then for the test, when I needed the answer to a

question, I pictured the book in my head and turned the pages and read the

answer right out of the book. School was very easy for me. I can still do

stuff like that but not nearly so well as I used to.

-Sara.

January 8, 2003