Guest guest Posted January 9, 2003 Report Share Posted January 9, 2003 >You were strong. I do NOT get too upset too easily, but by golly I'd have started yelling at that man and giving him a thing or two. It would have taken everything in my NOT to just slap him, ha ha ha. Seriously..just reading your e-mail made me so angry. Bless YOUR HEART!! > Naw, I wasn't strong. If I'd been strong, I'd have stayed there and ignored him. But autism was so new to me and I felt so helpless and persecuted... It WAS awful. I've never had another experience like it since, thank goodness! Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2003 Report Share Posted January 9, 2003 >You were strong. I do NOT get too upset too easily, but by golly I'd have started yelling at that man and giving him a thing or two. It would have taken everything in my NOT to just slap him, ha ha ha. Seriously..just reading your e-mail made me so angry. Bless YOUR HEART!! > Naw, I wasn't strong. If I'd been strong, I'd have stayed there and ignored him. But autism was so new to me and I felt so helpless and persecuted... It WAS awful. I've never had another experience like it since, thank goodness! Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2003 Report Share Posted January 9, 2003 > I'm very glad Marc remembers and already handled it for you. You really got > yourself a winner when you two got together! I sure did. :-) Have I ever told you guys what we used to say when people asked us how we knew we were right for each other? I think this is probably a very aspie take on love and marriage: " Of all the people in the world we've ever met, we hate each other the least. " LOL We live a VERY isolated life and we know each other VERY well. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2003 Report Share Posted January 9, 2003 > Have I ever told you guys what we used to say when people asked us how we > knew we were right for each other? I think this is probably a very aspie > take on love and marriage: " Of all the people in the world we've ever met, > we hate each other the least. " Replying to myself: This got me thinking about Marc and I. Feel free to ignore this, I'm just writing it out because it twigged for me. Years before we married, we broke up for a year. During that year, I dated about a million people, but always ended up standing on the dock to meet Marc's boat. I dated sensitive guys, and artistic guys, musicians, poets, writers, photographers. All VERY different from Marc. In the end, I knew that HE was the one I wanted. My best friend asked me why. Now this was YEARS before I knew what autism was; years before I suspected either Marc or I could be aspies. I told her that it was Marc, no one else, because " he doesn't try to get in my head. He doesn't invade my private space. He doesn't want to know what I'm thinking all the time. He's not invasive; he doesn't want to know everything about me and own my thoughts. He just wants to share my time and my space. " Looking back, I'm thinking...doesn't that sound like an aspie finding true love with an aspie??? Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2003 Report Share Posted January 9, 2003 > Have I ever told you guys what we used to say when people asked us how we > knew we were right for each other? I think this is probably a very aspie > take on love and marriage: " Of all the people in the world we've ever met, > we hate each other the least. " Replying to myself: This got me thinking about Marc and I. Feel free to ignore this, I'm just writing it out because it twigged for me. Years before we married, we broke up for a year. During that year, I dated about a million people, but always ended up standing on the dock to meet Marc's boat. I dated sensitive guys, and artistic guys, musicians, poets, writers, photographers. All VERY different from Marc. In the end, I knew that HE was the one I wanted. My best friend asked me why. Now this was YEARS before I knew what autism was; years before I suspected either Marc or I could be aspies. I told her that it was Marc, no one else, because " he doesn't try to get in my head. He doesn't invade my private space. He doesn't want to know what I'm thinking all the time. He's not invasive; he doesn't want to know everything about me and own my thoughts. He just wants to share my time and my space. " Looking back, I'm thinking...doesn't that sound like an aspie finding true love with an aspie??? Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2003 Report Share Posted January 9, 2003 > we both learned to use the phrase, " You're not reading my mind. " That > means, " I have this plan in my head that I thought you knew about, but > apparently you don't, and I need to assume that's because I never told you. " > Another one is, " Did I say that, or just think about it really loud? " (Did > I already tell you what I'm thinking, or did I just think about it?) WE NEED TO USE THESE!!!!!! That is the HARDEST. Marc is worse than me at thinking he's told me something that he absolutely has NOT, but we both do it. And yes, it causes huge fights. I'm going to get him to read your post, we'll laugh, and maybe we can agree to use these handy phrases! Neato. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2003 Report Share Posted January 9, 2003 > we both learned to use the phrase, " You're not reading my mind. " That > means, " I have this plan in my head that I thought you knew about, but > apparently you don't, and I need to assume that's because I never told you. " > Another one is, " Did I say that, or just think about it really loud? " (Did > I already tell you what I'm thinking, or did I just think about it?) WE NEED TO USE THESE!!!!!! That is the HARDEST. Marc is worse than me at thinking he's told me something that he absolutely has NOT, but we both do it. And yes, it causes huge fights. I'm going to get him to read your post, we'll laugh, and maybe we can agree to use these handy phrases! Neato. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2003 Report Share Posted January 9, 2003 > we both learned to use the phrase, " You're not reading my mind. " That > means, " I have this plan in my head that I thought you knew about, but > apparently you don't, and I need to assume that's because I never told you. " > Another one is, " Did I say that, or just think about it really loud? " (Did > I already tell you what I'm thinking, or did I just think about it?) WE NEED TO USE THESE!!!!!! That is the HARDEST. Marc is worse than me at thinking he's told me something that he absolutely has NOT, but we both do it. And yes, it causes huge fights. I'm going to get him to read your post, we'll laugh, and maybe we can agree to use these handy phrases! Neato. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2003 Report Share Posted January 9, 2003 > You don't understand, I would have gotten very nasty with the guy. > > Georga Hackworth I'm not really good at nasty. I'm good at planned confrontation, and with blatant honesty, but in a situation where I have to think fast, I CAN'T. In a situation like that, when I suddenly get really angry, I cry. I can't help it. It just happens. My mind goes blank and I cry. :-( Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2003 Report Share Posted January 9, 2003 > You don't understand, I would have gotten very nasty with the guy. > > Georga Hackworth I'm not really good at nasty. I'm good at planned confrontation, and with blatant honesty, but in a situation where I have to think fast, I CAN'T. In a situation like that, when I suddenly get really angry, I cry. I can't help it. It just happens. My mind goes blank and I cry. :-( Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2003 Report Share Posted January 9, 2003 > You don't understand, I would have gotten very nasty with the guy. > > Georga Hackworth I'm not really good at nasty. I'm good at planned confrontation, and with blatant honesty, but in a situation where I have to think fast, I CAN'T. In a situation like that, when I suddenly get really angry, I cry. I can't help it. It just happens. My mind goes blank and I cry. :-( Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2003 Report Share Posted January 9, 2003 > yes, i suppose it is. forgive me for sounding as if i doubted marc, no need to apologize for that -- didn't I write to the list two weeks ago how he reverts to idiot around his family? Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2003 Report Share Posted January 9, 2003 > yes, i suppose it is. forgive me for sounding as if i doubted marc, no need to apologize for that -- didn't I write to the list two weeks ago how he reverts to idiot around his family? Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2003 Report Share Posted January 9, 2003 > yes, i suppose it is. forgive me for sounding as if i doubted marc, no need to apologize for that -- didn't I write to the list two weeks ago how he reverts to idiot around his family? Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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