Re: heck of a year

[Guest guest]

Nickie: Nobody wants to let go of a loved parent. Sometimes decisions are

crucial,

and your own wishes(sincere and loving) should not take precedence over what

is

the best.most comfortable thing for your dad. I oo,want to scream,rant and

rave,and if

there were any way to turn back the clock(not daylight savings time) I would

be

first in line. My husband never had radiation,nver had resection,his

cancer(s) spread

fast and furious and after a trip to the E/R and an admission into the

hospital,he was

told point blank,there is nothing that can be done and we recommend Hospice

Care.

He fell between the cracks,and he was not even treated courteously or fairly

for almost six months. Thinhs happen. In the end,he himself accepted the

hospice,

and for the last 5 weeks of his life ,he spent most of it at home,wih family

and friendsand with as few meds as possible to help him be comfortable. He has

suffered

pain,was dehydrated and we had asked for help and were told no one was

available to

assist him. Life takes many strange twists and turns. You have to cherish the

good

days,remember the best times and when it's time you have to let go. If he is

suffering,

ease his pain, if chemo is making him sick, and there is little or no hope of

recovery,

stop him. Prepare things he can enjoy,and let him set the tone. It's not

easy,it

never is,but the memories will be better if you know that in his final

phase,he was

not pain ridden,nauseaous or uncomfortable. If all you do is hold his

hand,remembering the best times,that's fine. There comes a moment when we have

to let

go and set the soul free..This may be that moment. Only God knows...So smile

girl,put on that happy face,take him somewhere,take them somewhere,God Bless

you all,hugs prayers and best of luck Been there,done that and the tears are

still to close to the top.