Guest guest Posted January 5, 2003 Report Share Posted January 5, 2003 > > I think it was just the phrasing: " Fat Girl. " I think it's because when I > use that phrasing to someone, I'm being teasingly demeaning, yeah, but our kids don't know how to do that. If did, he'd really be ahead of the rest of our kids!! > So it was my interpretation of it that caused it to feel so icky. Sorry it made you feel bad anyway. I know if he's like my guys at all, you could ask him why he said it, but he wouldn't be able to explain it to you at all. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2003 Report Share Posted January 5, 2003 > Jacquie, > Don't forget that for , it's a statement, not a case of name calling. > You know, the black and white concrete things our kids see. (I hope this > isn't making you feel worse.). I doubt that he has any idea that saying > that is hurtful or cruel....more of just an observation of big and little > with a different word. Oh absolutely, Sue! And I've never made a deal over me being fat, because it IS just a straight observable fact. I'm fat. He's said, " You're fat and I'm skinny, mom " to me about a zillion times, and it's never bothered me at all. So he had NO REASON to think I would react any differently. I think it was just the phrasing: " Fat Girl. " I think it's because when I use that phrasing to someone, I'm being teasingly demeaning, like calling Marc " food boy " if he's stuffing his face, or my mom " internet girl " when she's been online 6 hours straight. So it was my interpretation of it that caused it to feel so icky. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2003 Report Share Posted January 5, 2003 > Jacquie, > Don't forget that for , it's a statement, not a case of name calling. > You know, the black and white concrete things our kids see. (I hope this > isn't making you feel worse.). I doubt that he has any idea that saying > that is hurtful or cruel....more of just an observation of big and little > with a different word. Oh absolutely, Sue! And I've never made a deal over me being fat, because it IS just a straight observable fact. I'm fat. He's said, " You're fat and I'm skinny, mom " to me about a zillion times, and it's never bothered me at all. So he had NO REASON to think I would react any differently. I think it was just the phrasing: " Fat Girl. " I think it's because when I use that phrasing to someone, I'm being teasingly demeaning, like calling Marc " food boy " if he's stuffing his face, or my mom " internet girl " when she's been online 6 hours straight. So it was my interpretation of it that caused it to feel so icky. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2003 Report Share Posted January 5, 2003 > Jacquie, > Don't forget that for , it's a statement, not a case of name calling. > You know, the black and white concrete things our kids see. (I hope this > isn't making you feel worse.). I doubt that he has any idea that saying > that is hurtful or cruel....more of just an observation of big and little > with a different word. Oh absolutely, Sue! And I've never made a deal over me being fat, because it IS just a straight observable fact. I'm fat. He's said, " You're fat and I'm skinny, mom " to me about a zillion times, and it's never bothered me at all. So he had NO REASON to think I would react any differently. I think it was just the phrasing: " Fat Girl. " I think it's because when I use that phrasing to someone, I'm being teasingly demeaning, like calling Marc " food boy " if he's stuffing his face, or my mom " internet girl " when she's been online 6 hours straight. So it was my interpretation of it that caused it to feel so icky. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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