Re: Families (formerly: Reply to & Debby)

[Guest guest]

,

Your note just made me laugh! Are we related? My mother once said that if I

didn't have kids soon, my " plumbing would dry up. " We were married for

almost 10 years before deciding to have kids, so she claimed to be giving up

hope

for grandkids. I told her I'd call a plummer for a consultation.

At least you made it home before a doctor laughed her out of a room. My

mother was banned from the parent/grandparent room of the hosptial nursery on

Day

2 because of feeding issues. She tried to stop the nurses from feeding him

anything because I " had to nurse him. " They were giving him sugar water and

whatever else the doctors felt he needed. Plus my milk was not in. We had a

bunch of specialist caring for both of us because it was a very high risk

pregnancy. Anyway, the nurses kicked her out permanently -- and I gave them

permission. LOL

Our Ian arrived by emergency c-section about 4½ weeks early. He was 6 lb 7

oz. Not a premie in most ways, but he did have issues. He did not gain much

weight until he hit his official due date, then he grew so fast we were amazed.

So, he was nursed plus on formula -- we were trying to get him to gain

weight. He was borderline failure-to-thrive and we were doing everything right.

We

were nervous, scared and trying our best.

Fast forward to the end of this story. My mother informed my husband that we

should put cereal into his formula. (The kid's digestive system was not up to

snuff and she wanted to do that!) The doctor told her NO, it was absolutely

the wrong thing to do to any premie. (the exchange: " In my day, that was what

we did. " Doctor: " Madame, in your day this baby and your daughter would not

have survived. " )

So, she grumbles to my husband that one day soon, when she is alone

babysitting Ian, she'll give him cereal and prove that she's right. He

immediately

informed her that from that day forward she would never be left alone with his

son. If being right was more important than Ian's health, then she couldn't

be trusted. She simply could not understand why he'd say such a thing. (sheez)

Life's always been like that with her. Nevermind that we had some of the

best doctor in the county caring for us. Or that we're currently taking him to

two of the best ENT/hospitals in the Northeast. She knows best -- just ask

her. LOL

Just so everyone knows ... this isn't meant to be read as an angry rant. She

truly is an odd, eccentric lady. I actually laugh about all of this now.

I've adopted an attitude of bewilderment about her. Works far better than

bothering to get angry or defensive.

Best to all

Jill

In a message dated 10/16/2004 3:49:45 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

s_lynne_flores@... writes:

Jill, I have a habit of crossing my legs and my mil came to live with us for

2 weeks while she waited for her apartment to be ready. Everytime she saw

me crossing my legs, she'd say " don't cross your legs, the baby can't

breathe " . And she was deathly serious. I about laughed my head off. Well, we

had

a doc appointment 3 days before Christian surprised us and she came with us

to hear his heartbeat. She actually asked the doc the above. Doc about

laughed her out of the office. Then, after he was born, mil said that I had to

get a girdle (sp) so my insides would " return to normal " . Excuse me, I had a

c-section with 17 staples. You won't see me anywhere near a girdle. I told

her that if I needed one, my doc would have told me about it. She's a qwack

too! She always is giving advice. The other day, she asked when I was going

to start giving Christian water. He's 8 months old. (4 1/2 months adjusted)

I said he has no reason to have water. He's not even taking 30oz a day of

formula a day. He's got the body of about a 3 month old (he's only 10lb

12oz). I told her it'd be awhile b/4 he got water. " But it's good for his

liver " . Blah blah blah! And two weeks ago, he had bronchitis and wouldn't

take

milk, so we'd been giving him juice just so that he wouldn't get dehydrated.

Well, now she thinks he can have juice whenever. What a nut! UGH! She

treats him like he's a normal 8 month old, but he's far from that, let me tell

you! She's always giving unwanted advice and I've talked to her several times

about this. I could go on, but I think thats enough!

[Guest guest]

Jill, we must be b/c your note made me laugh too! These women truely are crazy.

My mil was also bugging us as soon as we were married to have kids. She has two

sons. One is my dh. She bugged the other one too. They weren't even married

yet (not that theres anything wrong with that, but why bug them when they aren't

even sure they want to be married). As soon as she quite bugging us, we both

became pg (they still weren't married). They became pg one month before us

(they weren't trying and we were. We decided that we were ready). Christian

was born 2 1/2 months before their baby. LOL! We'd wanted the first grandchild

and got it, but not how we wanted too. LOL!

I can't believe she said that about the cereal. Why would you even do

that?!?!?! That doesn't even make sense. Thats only asking for you to never

even see your grandbaby. Let alone still being alive. I'm surprised you or you

husband didn't strangle her for saying that. Sounds like you're doing the right

thing though (not that you need someone to tell you that). LOL!

JillcWood@... wrote:

,

Your note just made me laugh! Are we related? My mother once said that if I

didn't have kids soon, my " plumbing would dry up. " We were married for

almost 10 years before deciding to have kids, so she claimed to be giving up

hope

for grandkids. I told her I'd call a plummer for a consultation.

At least you made it home before a doctor laughed her out of a room. My

mother was banned from the parent/grandparent room of the hosptial nursery on

Day

2 because of feeding issues. She tried to stop the nurses from feeding him

anything because I " had to nurse him. " They were giving him sugar water and

whatever else the doctors felt he needed. Plus my milk was not in. We had a

bunch of specialist caring for both of us because it was a very high risk

pregnancy. Anyway, the nurses kicked her out permanently -- and I gave them

permission. LOL

Our Ian arrived by emergency c-section about 4½ weeks early. He was 6 lb 7

oz. Not a premie in most ways, but he did have issues. He did not gain much

weight until he hit his official due date, then he grew so fast we were amazed.

So, he was nursed plus on formula -- we were trying to get him to gain

weight. He was borderline failure-to-thrive and we were doing everything right.

We

were nervous, scared and trying our best.

Fast forward to the end of this story. My mother informed my husband that we

should put cereal into his formula. (The kid's digestive system was not up to

snuff and she wanted to do that!) The doctor told her NO, it was absolutely

the wrong thing to do to any premie. (the exchange: " In my day, that was what

we did. " Doctor: " Madame, in your day this baby and your daughter would not

have survived. " )

So, she grumbles to my husband that one day soon, when she is alone

babysitting Ian, she'll give him cereal and prove that she's right. He

immediately

informed her that from that day forward she would never be left alone with his

son. If being right was more important than Ian's health, then she couldn't

be trusted. She simply could not understand why he'd say such a thing. (sheez)

Life's always been like that with her. Nevermind that we had some of the

best doctor in the county caring for us. Or that we're currently taking him to

two of the best ENT/hospitals in the Northeast. She knows best -- just ask

her. LOL

Just so everyone knows ... this isn't meant to be read as an angry rant. She

truly is an odd, eccentric lady. I actually laugh about all of this now.

I've adopted an attitude of bewilderment about her. Works far better than

bothering to get angry or defensive.

Best to all

Jill

In a message dated 10/16/2004 3:49:45 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

s_lynne_flores@... writes:

Jill, I have a habit of crossing my legs and my mil came to live with us for

2 weeks while she waited for her apartment to be ready. Everytime she saw

me crossing my legs, she'd say " don't cross your legs, the baby can't

breathe " . And she was deathly serious. I about laughed my head off. Well, we

had

a doc appointment 3 days before Christian surprised us and she came with us

to hear his heartbeat. She actually asked the doc the above. Doc about

laughed her out of the office. Then, after he was born, mil said that I had to

get a girdle (sp) so my insides would " return to normal " . Excuse me, I had a

c-section with 17 staples. You won't see me anywhere near a girdle. I told

her that if I needed one, my doc would have told me about it. She's a qwack

too! She always is giving advice. The other day, she asked when I was going

to start giving Christian water. He's 8 months old. (4 1/2 months adjusted)

I said he has no reason to have water. He's not even taking 30oz a day of

formula a day. He's got the body of about a 3 month old (he's only 10lb

12oz). I told her it'd be awhile b/4 he got water. " But it's good for his

liver " . Blah blah blah! And two weeks ago, he had bronchitis and wouldn't

take

milk, so we'd been giving him juice just so that he wouldn't get dehydrated.

Well, now she thinks he can have juice whenever. What a nut! UGH! She

treats him like he's a normal 8 month old, but he's far from that, let me tell

you! She's always giving unwanted advice and I've talked to her several times

about this. I could go on, but I think thats enough!

[Guest guest]

Jill, we must be b/c your note made me laugh too! These women truely are crazy.

My mil was also bugging us as soon as we were married to have kids. She has two

sons. One is my dh. She bugged the other one too. They weren't even married

yet (not that theres anything wrong with that, but why bug them when they aren't

even sure they want to be married). As soon as she quite bugging us, we both

became pg (they still weren't married). They became pg one month before us

(they weren't trying and we were. We decided that we were ready). Christian

was born 2 1/2 months before their baby. LOL! We'd wanted the first grandchild

and got it, but not how we wanted too. LOL!

I can't believe she said that about the cereal. Why would you even do

that?!?!?! That doesn't even make sense. Thats only asking for you to never

even see your grandbaby. Let alone still being alive. I'm surprised you or you

husband didn't strangle her for saying that. Sounds like you're doing the right

thing though (not that you need someone to tell you that). LOL!

JillcWood@... wrote:

,

Your note just made me laugh! Are we related? My mother once said that if I

didn't have kids soon, my " plumbing would dry up. " We were married for

almost 10 years before deciding to have kids, so she claimed to be giving up

hope

for grandkids. I told her I'd call a plummer for a consultation.

At least you made it home before a doctor laughed her out of a room. My

mother was banned from the parent/grandparent room of the hosptial nursery on

Day

2 because of feeding issues. She tried to stop the nurses from feeding him

anything because I " had to nurse him. " They were giving him sugar water and

whatever else the doctors felt he needed. Plus my milk was not in. We had a

bunch of specialist caring for both of us because it was a very high risk

pregnancy. Anyway, the nurses kicked her out permanently -- and I gave them

permission. LOL

Our Ian arrived by emergency c-section about 4½ weeks early. He was 6 lb 7

oz. Not a premie in most ways, but he did have issues. He did not gain much

weight until he hit his official due date, then he grew so fast we were amazed.

So, he was nursed plus on formula -- we were trying to get him to gain

weight. He was borderline failure-to-thrive and we were doing everything right.

We

were nervous, scared and trying our best.

Fast forward to the end of this story. My mother informed my husband that we

should put cereal into his formula. (The kid's digestive system was not up to

snuff and she wanted to do that!) The doctor told her NO, it was absolutely

the wrong thing to do to any premie. (the exchange: " In my day, that was what

we did. " Doctor: " Madame, in your day this baby and your daughter would not

have survived. " )

So, she grumbles to my husband that one day soon, when she is alone

babysitting Ian, she'll give him cereal and prove that she's right. He

immediately

informed her that from that day forward she would never be left alone with his

son. If being right was more important than Ian's health, then she couldn't

be trusted. She simply could not understand why he'd say such a thing. (sheez)

Life's always been like that with her. Nevermind that we had some of the

best doctor in the county caring for us. Or that we're currently taking him to

two of the best ENT/hospitals in the Northeast. She knows best -- just ask

her. LOL

Just so everyone knows ... this isn't meant to be read as an angry rant. She

truly is an odd, eccentric lady. I actually laugh about all of this now.

I've adopted an attitude of bewilderment about her. Works far better than

bothering to get angry or defensive.

Best to all

Jill

In a message dated 10/16/2004 3:49:45 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

s_lynne_flores@... writes:

Jill, I have a habit of crossing my legs and my mil came to live with us for

2 weeks while she waited for her apartment to be ready. Everytime she saw

me crossing my legs, she'd say " don't cross your legs, the baby can't

breathe " . And she was deathly serious. I about laughed my head off. Well, we

had

a doc appointment 3 days before Christian surprised us and she came with us

to hear his heartbeat. She actually asked the doc the above. Doc about

laughed her out of the office. Then, after he was born, mil said that I had to

get a girdle (sp) so my insides would " return to normal " . Excuse me, I had a

c-section with 17 staples. You won't see me anywhere near a girdle. I told

her that if I needed one, my doc would have told me about it. She's a qwack

too! She always is giving advice. The other day, she asked when I was going

to start giving Christian water. He's 8 months old. (4 1/2 months adjusted)

I said he has no reason to have water. He's not even taking 30oz a day of

formula a day. He's got the body of about a 3 month old (he's only 10lb

12oz). I told her it'd be awhile b/4 he got water. " But it's good for his

liver " . Blah blah blah! And two weeks ago, he had bronchitis and wouldn't

take

milk, so we'd been giving him juice just so that he wouldn't get dehydrated.

Well, now she thinks he can have juice whenever. What a nut! UGH! She

treats him like he's a normal 8 month old, but he's far from that, let me tell

you! She's always giving unwanted advice and I've talked to her several times

about this. I could go on, but I think thats enough!

[Guest guest]

Jill, we must be b/c your note made me laugh too! These women truely are crazy.

My mil was also bugging us as soon as we were married to have kids. She has two

sons. One is my dh. She bugged the other one too. They weren't even married

yet (not that theres anything wrong with that, but why bug them when they aren't

even sure they want to be married). As soon as she quite bugging us, we both

became pg (they still weren't married). They became pg one month before us

(they weren't trying and we were. We decided that we were ready). Christian

was born 2 1/2 months before their baby. LOL! We'd wanted the first grandchild

and got it, but not how we wanted too. LOL!

I can't believe she said that about the cereal. Why would you even do

that?!?!?! That doesn't even make sense. Thats only asking for you to never

even see your grandbaby. Let alone still being alive. I'm surprised you or you

husband didn't strangle her for saying that. Sounds like you're doing the right

thing though (not that you need someone to tell you that). LOL!

JillcWood@... wrote:

,

Your note just made me laugh! Are we related? My mother once said that if I

didn't have kids soon, my " plumbing would dry up. " We were married for

almost 10 years before deciding to have kids, so she claimed to be giving up

hope

for grandkids. I told her I'd call a plummer for a consultation.

At least you made it home before a doctor laughed her out of a room. My

mother was banned from the parent/grandparent room of the hosptial nursery on

Day

2 because of feeding issues. She tried to stop the nurses from feeding him

anything because I " had to nurse him. " They were giving him sugar water and

whatever else the doctors felt he needed. Plus my milk was not in. We had a

bunch of specialist caring for both of us because it was a very high risk

pregnancy. Anyway, the nurses kicked her out permanently -- and I gave them

permission. LOL

Our Ian arrived by emergency c-section about 4½ weeks early. He was 6 lb 7

oz. Not a premie in most ways, but he did have issues. He did not gain much

weight until he hit his official due date, then he grew so fast we were amazed.

So, he was nursed plus on formula -- we were trying to get him to gain

weight. He was borderline failure-to-thrive and we were doing everything right.

We

were nervous, scared and trying our best.

Fast forward to the end of this story. My mother informed my husband that we

should put cereal into his formula. (The kid's digestive system was not up to

snuff and she wanted to do that!) The doctor told her NO, it was absolutely

the wrong thing to do to any premie. (the exchange: " In my day, that was what

we did. " Doctor: " Madame, in your day this baby and your daughter would not

have survived. " )

So, she grumbles to my husband that one day soon, when she is alone

babysitting Ian, she'll give him cereal and prove that she's right. He

immediately

informed her that from that day forward she would never be left alone with his

son. If being right was more important than Ian's health, then she couldn't

be trusted. She simply could not understand why he'd say such a thing. (sheez)

Life's always been like that with her. Nevermind that we had some of the

best doctor in the county caring for us. Or that we're currently taking him to

two of the best ENT/hospitals in the Northeast. She knows best -- just ask

her. LOL

Just so everyone knows ... this isn't meant to be read as an angry rant. She

truly is an odd, eccentric lady. I actually laugh about all of this now.

I've adopted an attitude of bewilderment about her. Works far better than

bothering to get angry or defensive.

Best to all

Jill

In a message dated 10/16/2004 3:49:45 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

s_lynne_flores@... writes:

Jill, I have a habit of crossing my legs and my mil came to live with us for

2 weeks while she waited for her apartment to be ready. Everytime she saw

me crossing my legs, she'd say " don't cross your legs, the baby can't

breathe " . And she was deathly serious. I about laughed my head off. Well, we

had

a doc appointment 3 days before Christian surprised us and she came with us

to hear his heartbeat. She actually asked the doc the above. Doc about

laughed her out of the office. Then, after he was born, mil said that I had to

get a girdle (sp) so my insides would " return to normal " . Excuse me, I had a

c-section with 17 staples. You won't see me anywhere near a girdle. I told

her that if I needed one, my doc would have told me about it. She's a qwack

too! She always is giving advice. The other day, she asked when I was going

to start giving Christian water. He's 8 months old. (4 1/2 months adjusted)

I said he has no reason to have water. He's not even taking 30oz a day of

formula a day. He's got the body of about a 3 month old (he's only 10lb

12oz). I told her it'd be awhile b/4 he got water. " But it's good for his

liver " . Blah blah blah! And two weeks ago, he had bronchitis and wouldn't

take

milk, so we'd been giving him juice just so that he wouldn't get dehydrated.

Well, now she thinks he can have juice whenever. What a nut! UGH! She

treats him like he's a normal 8 month old, but he's far from that, let me tell

you! She's always giving unwanted advice and I've talked to her several times

about this. I could go on, but I think thats enough!

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/16/2004 7:29:46 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

s_lynne_flores@... writes:

Jill, we must be b/c your note made me laugh too! These women truely are

crazy. My mil was also bugging us as soon as we were married to have kids.

She has two sons. One is my dh. She bugged the other one too.

,

My mom also started with the kids talk as soon as we said " I do. " I have to

tell you this and then I promise no more crazy mother stories.

When we'd been married about 3 years my mother bought an " antique " crib,

dresser and high chair set. Beautiful furniture, beautifully made. She put the

crib and dresser in a guest room to show us. She put a teddy bear in the high

chair and put it in the dining room. (honest, I couldn't make this up, it is

to-o-o-o strange)

When we came over one Sunday for dinner she informed us that she had bought

them as a prize. The first of her kids to have grandchildren would get the

furniture. My 2 kid sisters were 11 and 13 at the time. My brother was single

and in college. I'm the oldest, the only married and the only one likely to

have kids in that foreseeable future.

Like I'd ever get pregnant to " win " furniture?! What was this, a game show?

(LOL) As we drove home my hubby said that cinched it for him. He now believed

every crazy mother story I'd ever told (without the grain of salt he usually

used) and he thought I'd been being far too kind. (grin)

That chair and bear sat there for years. Once I did have Ian, she was so

attached to it, she kept it. I have no idea of any of my siblings ever got the

crib and dresser. I didn't ask. Just too funny. I hadn't thought of that in

years.

Best -- Jill