Re: Hubby is at peace/Thankyou

August 31, 2004

Thank you to everyone of you who have written to express your

condolences and support.I really appreciate all of your thoughts and

prayers.I printed some of the messages to add to the book of

greeting cards we have received as I found much comfort in reading

them.Also,to whomever posted the two versions of the poem'In His

Garden',I offer a special thanks,we combined the two versions and

one of my co-workers read it at the funeral,it was the perfect poem.

I'm doing 'okay'I guess,one day at a time.I draw a lot of strength

from my faith,family,friends & the many years of wonderful memories

we shared.I consider myself so fortunate to have been able to share

his life always knowing how much he loved me.Our last day together

was very special and I will cherish it forever.All 4 of our children

had made it home and our pastor came to serve communion as Lynn

(Hubby)had requested and he was aware of what was happening,able to

take part.(though he was 'in & out'by this time)After,I cuddled in

bed next to him and slept for a couple of hours.When I awoke,he

looked at me and said " I love you " ,those were his last words as he

did not regain consciousness again and died a few hours later.

If I may give any advice to any others on this board it is:Enjoy

every last minute that you are given,everything and everyone else

will wait.When we entered into the hospice care we thought we had 1

to 2 months,instead it was less than 1 week.My only regret is that

we did not choose this option earlier because it allowed us to focus

our energies on the things that really mattered instead of running

to more appointments and more 'treatments'when we knew the end

result was not going to change in either time or quality as it had

been a long time since any significant benefit had been obtained

from the various chemos.I don't mean that one should just " give up "

when there is a real chance of gaining good quality time but I also

believe that when that chance is no longer viable we should not be

afraid to choose hospice and make the most of the remaining time,how

ever long it is.

Thank you again for all of your kind words,prayers & support,I will

be forever grateful to this board.

Hugs & Prayers to All,

H--

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