RE: people looking your way

[Guest guest]

I couldn't agree more. ;o) When I was younger I couldn't imagine why

anyone would even want to look at me (even then I thought it was

flattering when they did though) Now I look back at pictures and realize

I wasn't so bad looking and I was definitely thin back then. Now that

I'm older I'm a lot more comfortable with who I am and how hard I worked

(and still working) to look good, so I take it as a compliment if men

think I'm good looking enough for a second glance or that my butt is

nice enough to watch as I walk.

Kris

-----Original Message-----

Hi,

You know, i actually like it when other men besides my husband takes a

second look at me.

I mean, I worked my butt off (literally even!) to look good and be happy

with my body.

I don't take the looks any farther than just that, or even tell my

husband

about it. but it makes me feel good and keeps me inspired to stay on

weight

watchers. i have never been happy with my body, this is the first time

ever

in my whole life i actually am starting to like my body.

even in high school i didn't like what i looked like and always thought

i

was overweight.

i look at pictures of myself when I was in high school, and i wasn't

overweight at all! I just thought i was and didn't like myself.

and when others say something about me losing weight and looking good,

that

keeps me inspired too.

[Guest guest]

I have the opposite problem - up until I put on the weight when I left

my nasty x husband 6 yrs ago I had a body that rocked. Men used to

literally howl and gawk, even stop turn around and stare and it used to

crack me up. My x was not good for me - he was abusive and many other

things. I came to hate being even looked at twice, much different than

I had been. I was a beauty queen in HS (crown and all) and a ballerina

- I enjoyed both of those things. I married him at 22 and had a little

girl. The minute we were married - he turned into someone else -

literally over night. He threw out my snug/flattering jeans and

anything that flattered me at all really. Forbid me to wear makeup and

hairspray - he literally changed before my eyes. I had no idea what I

had gotten myself into. Anytime I did " do myself up " I was accused of

" screwing " people. Like you have time with a baby and your own

business! I was working 6 days after I had my dd. He was a total

madman - like something you see in the movies. Unless you have lived

through something like this it is hard to explain. I am a tough girl -

used to even teach karate, but at 23, with a brand new baby and my own

hair salon (in the house of course - I could not leave - ever - my job

on park avenue was another thing he forbid me to return to), I thought I

was doomed to a life of hell. I was no match for him, he was physically

much stronger than me and he is one scary guy when he is pissed - which

is just about all the time. After 3 and a half years of hell with him,

I think I just wanted to hide. I managed to escape with my life and my

little girl and I think that unconsciously I wanted to keep them all

(men) away. I ate myself into a fatsuit and kept most men away. I met

my dh at my heaviest and he thought I was wonderful - go figure. I was

not very nice to him (can you say man-hater - LOL) but he hung in there

and waited.

Now, that my body is changing and I am starting to look good again, I am

feeling better. The men looking I still find uncomfortable though. I

never ever thought I would say that! A few years ago after I met my

current dh I lost almost all of the weight and was in an 8 - I started

freaking out, and the weight came back on almost immediately. He loves

me made up and not made up, heavy or thin, and has never ever accused me

of cheating on him - thank God! I really did not realize the profound

effect my x had on me until about a year ago. I could not figure out

why I was uncomfortable being thin! Time heals a lot of things I guess.

I am blessed to be with DH, he is a wonderful man, who just lets me be

me and loves me no matter what.

TMI or what??? Jenn

I couldn't agree more. ;o) When I was younger I couldn't imagine why

anyone would even want to look at me (even then I thought it was

flattering when they did though) Now I look back at pictures and realize

I wasn't so bad looking and I was definitely thin back then. Now that

I'm older I'm a lot more comfortable with who I am and how hard I worked

(and still working) to look good, so I take it as a compliment if men

think I'm good looking enough for a second glance or that my butt is

nice enough to watch as I walk.

Kris

-----Original Message-----

Hi,

You know, i actually like it when other men besides my husband takes a

second look at me.

I mean, I worked my butt off (literally even!) to look good and be happy

with my body.

I don't take the looks any farther than just that, or even tell my

husband

about it. but it makes me feel good and keeps me inspired to stay on

weight

watchers. i have never been happy with my body, this is the first time

ever

in my whole life i actually am starting to like my body.

even in high school i didn't like what i looked like and always thought

i

was overweight.

i look at pictures of myself when I was in high school, and i wasn't

overweight at all! I just thought i was and didn't like myself.

and when others say something about me losing weight and looking good,

that

keeps me inspired too.

[Guest guest]

I have the opposite problem - up until I put on the weight when I left

my nasty x husband 6 yrs ago I had a body that rocked. Men used to

literally howl and gawk, even stop turn around and stare and it used to

crack me up. My x was not good for me - he was abusive and many other

things. I came to hate being even looked at twice, much different than

I had been. I was a beauty queen in HS (crown and all) and a ballerina

- I enjoyed both of those things. I married him at 22 and had a little

girl. The minute we were married - he turned into someone else -

literally over night. He threw out my snug/flattering jeans and

anything that flattered me at all really. Forbid me to wear makeup and

hairspray - he literally changed before my eyes. I had no idea what I

had gotten myself into. Anytime I did " do myself up " I was accused of

" screwing " people. Like you have time with a baby and your own

business! I was working 6 days after I had my dd. He was a total

madman - like something you see in the movies. Unless you have lived

through something like this it is hard to explain. I am a tough girl -

used to even teach karate, but at 23, with a brand new baby and my own

hair salon (in the house of course - I could not leave - ever - my job

on park avenue was another thing he forbid me to return to), I thought I

was doomed to a life of hell. I was no match for him, he was physically

much stronger than me and he is one scary guy when he is pissed - which

is just about all the time. After 3 and a half years of hell with him,

I think I just wanted to hide. I managed to escape with my life and my

little girl and I think that unconsciously I wanted to keep them all

(men) away. I ate myself into a fatsuit and kept most men away. I met

my dh at my heaviest and he thought I was wonderful - go figure. I was

not very nice to him (can you say man-hater - LOL) but he hung in there

and waited.

Now, that my body is changing and I am starting to look good again, I am

feeling better. The men looking I still find uncomfortable though. I

never ever thought I would say that! A few years ago after I met my

current dh I lost almost all of the weight and was in an 8 - I started

freaking out, and the weight came back on almost immediately. He loves

me made up and not made up, heavy or thin, and has never ever accused me

of cheating on him - thank God! I really did not realize the profound

effect my x had on me until about a year ago. I could not figure out

why I was uncomfortable being thin! Time heals a lot of things I guess.

I am blessed to be with DH, he is a wonderful man, who just lets me be

me and loves me no matter what.

TMI or what??? Jenn

I couldn't agree more. ;o) When I was younger I couldn't imagine why

anyone would even want to look at me (even then I thought it was

flattering when they did though) Now I look back at pictures and realize

I wasn't so bad looking and I was definitely thin back then. Now that

I'm older I'm a lot more comfortable with who I am and how hard I worked

(and still working) to look good, so I take it as a compliment if men

think I'm good looking enough for a second glance or that my butt is

nice enough to watch as I walk.

Kris

-----Original Message-----

Hi,

You know, i actually like it when other men besides my husband takes a

second look at me.

I mean, I worked my butt off (literally even!) to look good and be happy

with my body.

I don't take the looks any farther than just that, or even tell my

husband

about it. but it makes me feel good and keeps me inspired to stay on

weight

watchers. i have never been happy with my body, this is the first time

ever

in my whole life i actually am starting to like my body.

even in high school i didn't like what i looked like and always thought

i

was overweight.

i look at pictures of myself when I was in high school, and i wasn't

overweight at all! I just thought i was and didn't like myself.

and when others say something about me losing weight and looking good,

that

keeps me inspired too.