Guest guest Posted October 14, 2003 Report Share Posted October 14, 2003 Sue, thank you for the encouraging words. Truly, though, when you have 100plus pounds to lose, 43 doesn't show very much. I'm only down one size so far, I think... At least I've only been able to wear one size smaller in my " closet shopping " (smaller things I had put away). Anyway, I'm working on my own mind-set to be satisfied within myself... and the words of support here too, of course! Bette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2003 Report Share Posted October 14, 2003 Someone noticed my weight loss on Sunday and made a comment and the other person I was standing with said, " I noticed you had lost weight but I didn't say anything because I didn't want you to think that I thought you were fat before. " So it is probably that they noticed but don't know what to say. Meg 185/154/135 > Terri - I so totally understand your feelings. I've lost 43 pounds and no > one notices but my husband and 22yo son. I keep playing and replaying the > mind-tape that says " I'm not doing this for anyone but me, so it doesn't matter if > no one notices. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2003 Report Share Posted October 14, 2003 Someone noticed my weight loss on Sunday and made a comment and the other person I was standing with said, " I noticed you had lost weight but I didn't say anything because I didn't want you to think that I thought you were fat before. " So it is probably that they noticed but don't know what to say. Meg 185/154/135 > Terri - I so totally understand your feelings. I've lost 43 pounds and no > one notices but my husband and 22yo son. I keep playing and replaying the > mind-tape that says " I'm not doing this for anyone but me, so it doesn't matter if > no one notices. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2003 Report Share Posted October 14, 2003 In a message dated 10/14/2003 1:26:16 PM Pacific Daylight Time, scmoore@... writes: > I had gone from a size 22/24 to a size 8--but silly > me, some people never said a single word. Wow!! I was stunned And rightfully so . . . that's a stunning change and some dang person shoulda noticed!! Sheesh. You lost half (or more) of you!! They had to notice. They had to have been either shy or embarrassed or slow or something!! Bette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2003 Report Share Posted October 14, 2003 Hi Bette, and Terri, I can relate also and keep replaying the same old tape in MY head too, that I'm doing it for me (and also my kids) and for the fact that I didn't want to remain in the obese categoy with regards to BMI and such. I'm now out of that obese category and into the regular overweight group, thank goodness. It's so discourging to be doing all this work, even if it IS only for ourselves and families, and to not have people notice. When I lost 87 pounds and hit goal in May of 2001, I was sure that people would be blown away by that and comment. I know it wasn't overnight (took 15 months) but along the way I thought people that hadn't seen me at a normal weight would notice that I had gone from a size 22/24 to a size 8--but silly me, some people never said a single word. Wow!! I was stunned and it hurt of course but I tried to tell myself that my friends that mattered were supportive and so was my family and since I don't work outside the house I don't have that everyday group to talk about the WW program with. Anyway, I derailed myself and gained alot back and now am on the road to goal again, more than halfway there. This time around I'm trying to just ignore the fact that I wish people would notice and say something and let it go at that, but some days it's hard even if I do tell myself that, etc. Most likely I gained back the weight so recently that maybe people are confused about what I actually look like or did look like--as someone posted earlier today about showing a huge past photo of herself and having people say that she never looked that heavy. GRRRRR!!! It's better this time around because even though I failed and am doing it over again, I've learned alot and also am trying to let go of certain wishes and expectations of other people--or maybe the idea is to not be surprised by what they say or don't say. Right now I go ahead and just tell people that I'm on WW and how much I've lost and I get alot of sputtering and muttering about how they should do it but why they can't or they don't have willpower, etc. so maybe that's one big reason right there why they don't comment. They are jealous or envious that someone else is doing it and succeeding where they are wishing and hoping they could do it too but are making excuses and " buts " about it. Good luck to all of us and this IS a good support board to vent things like that. Re: Vanity?? In a message dated 10/14/2003 7:52:40 AM Pacific Daylight Time, mamaterri22@... writes: > even tho since Jan 1st of this year, I have only lost 24 pounds, > IT IS STILL 24 POUNDS. AND NO ONE EVER NOTICES OR SAYS A WORD ABOUT > IT, EXCEPT FOR MY DH. > Terri - I so totally understand your feelings. I've lost 43 pounds and no one notices but my husband and 22yo son. I keep playing and replaying the mind-tape that says " I'm not doing this for anyone but me, so it doesn't matter if no one notices. " Thank goodness for this group to share our thoughts with! Bette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2003 Report Share Posted October 14, 2003 Hi Bette, and Terri, I can relate also and keep replaying the same old tape in MY head too, that I'm doing it for me (and also my kids) and for the fact that I didn't want to remain in the obese categoy with regards to BMI and such. I'm now out of that obese category and into the regular overweight group, thank goodness. It's so discourging to be doing all this work, even if it IS only for ourselves and families, and to not have people notice. When I lost 87 pounds and hit goal in May of 2001, I was sure that people would be blown away by that and comment. I know it wasn't overnight (took 15 months) but along the way I thought people that hadn't seen me at a normal weight would notice that I had gone from a size 22/24 to a size 8--but silly me, some people never said a single word. Wow!! I was stunned and it hurt of course but I tried to tell myself that my friends that mattered were supportive and so was my family and since I don't work outside the house I don't have that everyday group to talk about the WW program with. Anyway, I derailed myself and gained alot back and now am on the road to goal again, more than halfway there. This time around I'm trying to just ignore the fact that I wish people would notice and say something and let it go at that, but some days it's hard even if I do tell myself that, etc. Most likely I gained back the weight so recently that maybe people are confused about what I actually look like or did look like--as someone posted earlier today about showing a huge past photo of herself and having people say that she never looked that heavy. GRRRRR!!! It's better this time around because even though I failed and am doing it over again, I've learned alot and also am trying to let go of certain wishes and expectations of other people--or maybe the idea is to not be surprised by what they say or don't say. Right now I go ahead and just tell people that I'm on WW and how much I've lost and I get alot of sputtering and muttering about how they should do it but why they can't or they don't have willpower, etc. so maybe that's one big reason right there why they don't comment. They are jealous or envious that someone else is doing it and succeeding where they are wishing and hoping they could do it too but are making excuses and " buts " about it. Good luck to all of us and this IS a good support board to vent things like that. Re: Vanity?? In a message dated 10/14/2003 7:52:40 AM Pacific Daylight Time, mamaterri22@... writes: > even tho since Jan 1st of this year, I have only lost 24 pounds, > IT IS STILL 24 POUNDS. AND NO ONE EVER NOTICES OR SAYS A WORD ABOUT > IT, EXCEPT FOR MY DH. > Terri - I so totally understand your feelings. I've lost 43 pounds and no one notices but my husband and 22yo son. I keep playing and replaying the mind-tape that says " I'm not doing this for anyone but me, so it doesn't matter if no one notices. " Thank goodness for this group to share our thoughts with! Bette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 15, 2003 Report Share Posted October 15, 2003 You know what though? I get that ALL the time! Now trust me, at 5'3 " and 222 I was FAT, looked FAT, felt FAT! There was NO mistaking it. However I can't tell you how many people look at old pictures and say " I don't remember you being that heavy. I don't remember thinking of you as fat at all. " That should show us that people who REALLY matter don't see the outside. In a way, it may be frustrating to not have people say things, but it might also be a compliment. It might be that they recognize your value despite the outside packaging. > Re: Vanity?? > > > In a message dated 10/14/2003 8:54:17 AM Pacific Daylight Time, > ckoutqn@... writes: > > I didn't want you to think that I thought you were fat before. > > I have to admit, this gave me a chuckle! If I had only > started out at 185, > that would be true for me... but starting out at 278, if > someone didn't think > I was fat before, they'd need their eyes and head examined!! > LOL I'm not going to let other people's lack of noticing hold > me back. > Bette > 278/235/175 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 15, 2003 Report Share Posted October 15, 2003 You know what though? I get that ALL the time! Now trust me, at 5'3 " and 222 I was FAT, looked FAT, felt FAT! There was NO mistaking it. However I can't tell you how many people look at old pictures and say " I don't remember you being that heavy. I don't remember thinking of you as fat at all. " That should show us that people who REALLY matter don't see the outside. In a way, it may be frustrating to not have people say things, but it might also be a compliment. It might be that they recognize your value despite the outside packaging. > Re: Vanity?? > > > In a message dated 10/14/2003 8:54:17 AM Pacific Daylight Time, > ckoutqn@... writes: > > I didn't want you to think that I thought you were fat before. > > I have to admit, this gave me a chuckle! If I had only > started out at 185, > that would be true for me... but starting out at 278, if > someone didn't think > I was fat before, they'd need their eyes and head examined!! > LOL I'm not going to let other people's lack of noticing hold > me back. > Bette > 278/235/175 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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