Re: childcare after bypass

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/12/2002 11:20:41 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

tyrolsharp@... writes:

> What I

> want to know is will I be able to care for my 20 month old

When I had my WLS (@ 491lbs with a lap rny) I was able to care for my then 25

& 14mo old toddlers by myself @ 3wks post op. I was still a bit sore but was

able to function and was grateful they still napped (as I tired easily the

first 6wks) Are you having a Lap or Open?

*~Joy~*

Lap RNY @ 491lbs

2/26/01

Dr. Bertha

town Memorial Hospital

Mommy to:

1-9-99

&

Saralyn

12-15-99

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/12/2002 11:20:41 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

tyrolsharp@... writes:

> What I

> want to know is will I be able to care for my 20 month old

When I had my WLS (@ 491lbs with a lap rny) I was able to care for my then 25

& 14mo old toddlers by myself @ 3wks post op. I was still a bit sore but was

able to function and was grateful they still napped (as I tired easily the

first 6wks) Are you having a Lap or Open?

*~Joy~*

Lap RNY @ 491lbs

2/26/01

Dr. Bertha

town Memorial Hospital

Mommy to:

1-9-99

&

Saralyn

12-15-99

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/12/2002 11:20:41 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

tyrolsharp@... writes:

> What I

> want to know is will I be able to care for my 20 month old

When I had my WLS (@ 491lbs with a lap rny) I was able to care for my then 25

& 14mo old toddlers by myself @ 3wks post op. I was still a bit sore but was

able to function and was grateful they still napped (as I tired easily the

first 6wks) Are you having a Lap or Open?

*~Joy~*

Lap RNY @ 491lbs

2/26/01

Dr. Bertha

town Memorial Hospital

Mommy to:

1-9-99

&

Saralyn

12-15-99

[Guest guest]

you should ask people to come over and help you. you really aren't supposed

to lift more than 5 pounds for 8 weeks. you increase your chances of getting

an incisional hernia by doing so. but if you have no choice...try to get her

to climb up to you somehow.

kelly m

[Guest guest]

you should ask people to come over and help you. you really aren't supposed

to lift more than 5 pounds for 8 weeks. you increase your chances of getting

an incisional hernia by doing so. but if you have no choice...try to get her

to climb up to you somehow.

kelly m

[Guest guest]

you should ask people to come over and help you. you really aren't supposed

to lift more than 5 pounds for 8 weeks. you increase your chances of getting

an incisional hernia by doing so. but if you have no choice...try to get her

to climb up to you somehow.

kelly m

[Guest guest]

If there is any possible way you can have help, you'd better get it. You are

not going to be able to lift your daughter for several weeks, more than

likely. Bariatric surgery is MAJOR and was quite debilitating for me. My

mother (who lives ten hours away from me) took my two girls home with her

for two weeks (after I got out of the hospital) while I recovered, and even

when the two weeks was up, I didn't feel exactly like jumping back into the

swing of things. If there really, truly isn't a way to get help, then begin

now to teach your daughter how to " help " you by climbing into her bed, lying

on the floor for diaper changes, climbing into her high chair, etc. I can't

speak for the Laparoscopic crowd, but having the Open-type really kicked my

rear-end. I had never really had surgery of any kind before, so I had no

idea just how weak, fatigued and sore it would make me.

I would encourage you to do whatever you can to try to get some help!

Barring all else, put the television in your room and lie on your bed with

her and let her watch videos all day for a week. That way you're right there

with her (not just letting the TV babysit her) but you're still resting.

Kris

[Guest guest]

If there is any possible way you can have help, you'd better get it. You are

not going to be able to lift your daughter for several weeks, more than

likely. Bariatric surgery is MAJOR and was quite debilitating for me. My

mother (who lives ten hours away from me) took my two girls home with her

for two weeks (after I got out of the hospital) while I recovered, and even

when the two weeks was up, I didn't feel exactly like jumping back into the

swing of things. If there really, truly isn't a way to get help, then begin

now to teach your daughter how to " help " you by climbing into her bed, lying

on the floor for diaper changes, climbing into her high chair, etc. I can't

speak for the Laparoscopic crowd, but having the Open-type really kicked my

rear-end. I had never really had surgery of any kind before, so I had no

idea just how weak, fatigued and sore it would make me.

I would encourage you to do whatever you can to try to get some help!

Barring all else, put the television in your room and lie on your bed with

her and let her watch videos all day for a week. That way you're right there

with her (not just letting the TV babysit her) but you're still resting.

Kris

[Guest guest]

If there is any possible way you can have help, you'd better get it. You are

not going to be able to lift your daughter for several weeks, more than

likely. Bariatric surgery is MAJOR and was quite debilitating for me. My

mother (who lives ten hours away from me) took my two girls home with her

for two weeks (after I got out of the hospital) while I recovered, and even

when the two weeks was up, I didn't feel exactly like jumping back into the

swing of things. If there really, truly isn't a way to get help, then begin

now to teach your daughter how to " help " you by climbing into her bed, lying

on the floor for diaper changes, climbing into her high chair, etc. I can't

speak for the Laparoscopic crowd, but having the Open-type really kicked my

rear-end. I had never really had surgery of any kind before, so I had no

idea just how weak, fatigued and sore it would make me.

I would encourage you to do whatever you can to try to get some help!

Barring all else, put the television in your room and lie on your bed with

her and let her watch videos all day for a week. That way you're right there

with her (not just letting the TV babysit her) but you're still resting.

Kris

[Guest guest]

I was lap...although, didn't have my first baby until post-op. I'd have

to agree with Kris...this is major surgery...either way-lap or open. I

was off work for 7 days...and was ok. But, I had a desk job...no

lifting of any kind. I can't imagine having a toddler to care for right

after surgery. You might be ok...but, I'd don't know that I'd risk it

without a backup plan. Is is possible for you to get a family member to

come stay with you for a few weeks? Or, maybe you could have your

surgery near your family and stay with them while you recuperate.

I bet you'll be able to come up with a solution that works for you.

Blessings,

) Jordan's SAHMommy

( in California)

Re: childcare after bypass

(snip)

I would encourage you to do whatever you can to try to get some help!

Barring all else, put the television in your room and lie on your bed

with

her and let her watch videos all day for a week. That way you're right

there

with her (not just letting the TV babysit her) but you're still resting.

Kris

[Guest guest]

I was lap...although, didn't have my first baby until post-op. I'd have

to agree with Kris...this is major surgery...either way-lap or open. I

was off work for 7 days...and was ok. But, I had a desk job...no

lifting of any kind. I can't imagine having a toddler to care for right

after surgery. You might be ok...but, I'd don't know that I'd risk it

without a backup plan. Is is possible for you to get a family member to

come stay with you for a few weeks? Or, maybe you could have your

surgery near your family and stay with them while you recuperate.

I bet you'll be able to come up with a solution that works for you.

Blessings,

) Jordan's SAHMommy

( in California)

Re: childcare after bypass

(snip)

I would encourage you to do whatever you can to try to get some help!

Barring all else, put the television in your room and lie on your bed

with

her and let her watch videos all day for a week. That way you're right

there

with her (not just letting the TV babysit her) but you're still resting.

Kris

[Guest guest]

I was lap...although, didn't have my first baby until post-op. I'd have

to agree with Kris...this is major surgery...either way-lap or open. I

was off work for 7 days...and was ok. But, I had a desk job...no

lifting of any kind. I can't imagine having a toddler to care for right

after surgery. You might be ok...but, I'd don't know that I'd risk it

without a backup plan. Is is possible for you to get a family member to

come stay with you for a few weeks? Or, maybe you could have your

surgery near your family and stay with them while you recuperate.

I bet you'll be able to come up with a solution that works for you.

Blessings,

) Jordan's SAHMommy

( in California)

Re: childcare after bypass

(snip)

I would encourage you to do whatever you can to try to get some help!

Barring all else, put the television in your room and lie on your bed

with

her and let her watch videos all day for a week. That way you're right

there

with her (not just letting the TV babysit her) but you're still resting.

Kris

[Guest guest]

,

It helps significantly if you will have laproscopic RNY, otherwise lifting your

daughter will likely give you a hernia. You should wait 6 weeks before lifting

anything heavy.

~Nahla

childcare after bypass

Okay this question is for those of you who had a child before the

bypass surgery. If all goes as I hope, my daughter will be about 20

months old when I have this surgery. my husband will be able to take

about a week off work, but that would include the time I was in the

hospital. So I am wondering will I be okay to take care of my

daughter on my own after only one week out from surgery. She will

still need diaper changes and I would have to lift her if needed. My

husband works two jobs, so he is gone almost 80 hours a week. What I

want to know is will I be able to care for my 20 month old daughter

after the surgery and how soon can I do it on my own? Please help if

you have been through this. We moved to PA and I have no family in

anywhere nearby. Being new here, we only have a few friends and we

do have the members of our church, but I don't know them as well and

that makes it hard to ask them for help. Any advice?

Thanks

in PA

[Guest guest]

,

It helps significantly if you will have laproscopic RNY, otherwise lifting your

daughter will likely give you a hernia. You should wait 6 weeks before lifting

anything heavy.

~Nahla

childcare after bypass

Okay this question is for those of you who had a child before the

bypass surgery. If all goes as I hope, my daughter will be about 20

months old when I have this surgery. my husband will be able to take

about a week off work, but that would include the time I was in the

hospital. So I am wondering will I be okay to take care of my

daughter on my own after only one week out from surgery. She will

still need diaper changes and I would have to lift her if needed. My

husband works two jobs, so he is gone almost 80 hours a week. What I

want to know is will I be able to care for my 20 month old daughter

after the surgery and how soon can I do it on my own? Please help if

you have been through this. We moved to PA and I have no family in

anywhere nearby. Being new here, we only have a few friends and we

do have the members of our church, but I don't know them as well and

that makes it hard to ask them for help. Any advice?

Thanks

in PA

[Guest guest]

,

It helps significantly if you will have laproscopic RNY, otherwise lifting your

daughter will likely give you a hernia. You should wait 6 weeks before lifting

anything heavy.

~Nahla

childcare after bypass

Okay this question is for those of you who had a child before the

bypass surgery. If all goes as I hope, my daughter will be about 20

months old when I have this surgery. my husband will be able to take

about a week off work, but that would include the time I was in the

hospital. So I am wondering will I be okay to take care of my

daughter on my own after only one week out from surgery. She will

still need diaper changes and I would have to lift her if needed. My

husband works two jobs, so he is gone almost 80 hours a week. What I

want to know is will I be able to care for my 20 month old daughter

after the surgery and how soon can I do it on my own? Please help if

you have been through this. We moved to PA and I have no family in

anywhere nearby. Being new here, we only have a few friends and we

do have the members of our church, but I don't know them as well and

that makes it hard to ask them for help. Any advice?

Thanks

in PA

[Guest guest]

,

I'm not sure what you meant about not all hernias being bad...could you

explain?

Thanks!

) Jordan's SAHMommy

( in California)

Re: childcare after bypass

...I beiieve that you can take care of your daughter , but you

will have to make some changes...I would'nt pick her up, but rather

change her on the floor, when she needs to snuggle let her climb up on

the couch and then into your arms...I think lifting her may cause you to

get a hernia...which are not all bad..lol...but to keep yourself well

and pain free I would'nt do any lifting...hope this helps..gina

[Guest guest]

Hey......I'm not positive about what she meant either.....but I DO know,

that if a hernia allows for a free(insurance paid) tummy tuck, then it would

be good for me! LOL! Come oooooon HERNIA!(sick I know)

Dee P.G. in MD(....peek'n in from time to time.)

Re: childcare after bypass

>

>

>

> ...I beiieve that you can take care of your daughter , but you

> will have to make some changes...I would'nt pick her up, but rather

> change her on the floor, when she needs to snuggle let her climb up on

> the couch and then into your arms...I think lifting her may cause you to

> get a hernia...which are not all bad..lol...but to keep yourself well

> and pain free I would'nt do any lifting...hope this helps..gina

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

First off, I know how it feels to be away from family! I also live in PA

(outside of Pittsburgh) and all of my family is on the west coast in WA, OR, and

NM.

I had my surgery lap. I was down and out for the first few days and could

absolutely positively not care for my children. At the time my kids were 7, 5,

and 21 months. My husband took 4 days off but had a conference he couldn't get

out of after that. I knew ahead of time that I would be unable to care for my

21 month old during the day so we started her in daycare one day a week for a

month before my surgery so she became familiar with the daycare. She went to

the daycare for the first 2 weeks following my surgery so that during the day

when my older kids were at school I had time to rest so I could handle the

afternoons and evenings.

I taught my toddler how to climb in and out of the van and the car seat. I also

had a folding chair by her changing table so she could climb onto it at night- I

taught her how far in advance of the surgery. Then, we also taught her to climb

into her crib using the folding chair. It worked very well for us. I would

highly recommend teaching your child to climb before surgery. That way, while

your child is figuring it out you will have the strength to catch them as when

they are learning they are quite unstable. After surgery it is a blessing when

you don't have to lift and you also won't have to get up and down from the floor

.... which for me would have been more stressful and painful than having my

daughter climb. The lap surgery left me pretty bloated and crampy so whenever I

had to move my torso I was in pain.

Before surgery I made pasta dishes, pizzas, etc and froze them. That way I

could cook something quickly and easily for them rather than standing on my feet

for long periods in the kitchen. I stocked up on paper plates so cleanup was

really easy too.

I also had a neighbor girl come watch my kids BEFORE surgery so that if I needed

her to help me get the kids ready for bed or to bathe the kids AFTER surgery the

kids would be comfortable enough with her. Fortunately I had trained my kids

well enough that I never needed the additional help.

The one thing I was truly concerned about was taking narcotics while being the

only person to care for my kids. I only took the narcotics for 2 days after

surgery then I switched over to Tylenol because I was then able to stay awake

long enough to be with the kids. The pain meds my surgeon had me on knocked me

out for hours between doses. If I had still needed them there would have been

absolutely no way I could have done this.

I hope I have given you some useful advice.

childcare after bypass

What I

want to know is will I be able to care for my 20 month old daughter

after the surgery and how soon can I do it on my own? Please help if

you have been through this. We moved to PA and I have no family in

anywhere nearby. Being new here, we only have a few friends and we

do have the members of our church, but I don't know them as well and

that makes it hard to ask them for help. Any advice?

Thanks

in PA

[Guest guest]

First off, I know how it feels to be away from family! I also live in PA

(outside of Pittsburgh) and all of my family is on the west coast in WA, OR, and

NM.

I had my surgery lap. I was down and out for the first few days and could

absolutely positively not care for my children. At the time my kids were 7, 5,

and 21 months. My husband took 4 days off but had a conference he couldn't get

out of after that. I knew ahead of time that I would be unable to care for my

21 month old during the day so we started her in daycare one day a week for a

month before my surgery so she became familiar with the daycare. She went to

the daycare for the first 2 weeks following my surgery so that during the day

when my older kids were at school I had time to rest so I could handle the

afternoons and evenings.

I taught my toddler how to climb in and out of the van and the car seat. I also

had a folding chair by her changing table so she could climb onto it at night- I

taught her how far in advance of the surgery. Then, we also taught her to climb

into her crib using the folding chair. It worked very well for us. I would

highly recommend teaching your child to climb before surgery. That way, while

your child is figuring it out you will have the strength to catch them as when

they are learning they are quite unstable. After surgery it is a blessing when

you don't have to lift and you also won't have to get up and down from the floor

.... which for me would have been more stressful and painful than having my

daughter climb. The lap surgery left me pretty bloated and crampy so whenever I

had to move my torso I was in pain.

Before surgery I made pasta dishes, pizzas, etc and froze them. That way I

could cook something quickly and easily for them rather than standing on my feet

for long periods in the kitchen. I stocked up on paper plates so cleanup was

really easy too.

I also had a neighbor girl come watch my kids BEFORE surgery so that if I needed

her to help me get the kids ready for bed or to bathe the kids AFTER surgery the

kids would be comfortable enough with her. Fortunately I had trained my kids

well enough that I never needed the additional help.

The one thing I was truly concerned about was taking narcotics while being the

only person to care for my kids. I only took the narcotics for 2 days after

surgery then I switched over to Tylenol because I was then able to stay awake

long enough to be with the kids. The pain meds my surgeon had me on knocked me

out for hours between doses. If I had still needed them there would have been

absolutely no way I could have done this.

I hope I have given you some useful advice.

childcare after bypass

What I

want to know is will I be able to care for my 20 month old daughter

after the surgery and how soon can I do it on my own? Please help if

you have been through this. We moved to PA and I have no family in

anywhere nearby. Being new here, we only have a few friends and we

do have the members of our church, but I don't know them as well and

that makes it hard to ask them for help. Any advice?

Thanks

in PA

[Guest guest]

First off, I know how it feels to be away from family! I also live in PA

(outside of Pittsburgh) and all of my family is on the west coast in WA, OR, and

NM.

I had my surgery lap. I was down and out for the first few days and could

absolutely positively not care for my children. At the time my kids were 7, 5,

and 21 months. My husband took 4 days off but had a conference he couldn't get

out of after that. I knew ahead of time that I would be unable to care for my

21 month old during the day so we started her in daycare one day a week for a

month before my surgery so she became familiar with the daycare. She went to

the daycare for the first 2 weeks following my surgery so that during the day

when my older kids were at school I had time to rest so I could handle the

afternoons and evenings.

I taught my toddler how to climb in and out of the van and the car seat. I also

had a folding chair by her changing table so she could climb onto it at night- I

taught her how far in advance of the surgery. Then, we also taught her to climb

into her crib using the folding chair. It worked very well for us. I would

highly recommend teaching your child to climb before surgery. That way, while

your child is figuring it out you will have the strength to catch them as when

they are learning they are quite unstable. After surgery it is a blessing when

you don't have to lift and you also won't have to get up and down from the floor

.... which for me would have been more stressful and painful than having my

daughter climb. The lap surgery left me pretty bloated and crampy so whenever I

had to move my torso I was in pain.

Before surgery I made pasta dishes, pizzas, etc and froze them. That way I

could cook something quickly and easily for them rather than standing on my feet

for long periods in the kitchen. I stocked up on paper plates so cleanup was

really easy too.

I also had a neighbor girl come watch my kids BEFORE surgery so that if I needed

her to help me get the kids ready for bed or to bathe the kids AFTER surgery the

kids would be comfortable enough with her. Fortunately I had trained my kids

well enough that I never needed the additional help.

The one thing I was truly concerned about was taking narcotics while being the

only person to care for my kids. I only took the narcotics for 2 days after

surgery then I switched over to Tylenol because I was then able to stay awake

long enough to be with the kids. The pain meds my surgeon had me on knocked me

out for hours between doses. If I had still needed them there would have been

absolutely no way I could have done this.

I hope I have given you some useful advice.

childcare after bypass

What I

want to know is will I be able to care for my 20 month old daughter

after the surgery and how soon can I do it on my own? Please help if

you have been through this. We moved to PA and I have no family in

anywhere nearby. Being new here, we only have a few friends and we

do have the members of our church, but I don't know them as well and

that makes it hard to ask them for help. Any advice?

Thanks

in PA

[Guest guest]

,

I have to second what everybody else has said. I had an open RNY but my

son was old enough to take care of himself. My problems came simply

from hauling my butt in and out of bed and on and off the commode. I

had a split in my incision (after the staples were removed) and I also

developed an incisional hernia which did not become apparent until my

pregnancy...all WITHOUT any lifting. So....yes, you will definitely

need help or will need for your daughter to help you with her care for

at least 4 to 6 weeks. I would lean more towards having her climb on to

the bed for diaper changes as even getting up off of the floor can put a

big strain on your abdominal muscles.

Good luck,

Debbie

tyrolsharp wrote:

> Okay this question is for those of you who had a child before the

> bypass surgery. If all goes as I hope, my daughter will be about 20

> months old when I have this surgery. my husband will be able to take

> about a week off work, but that would include the time I was in the

> hospital. So I am wondering will I be okay to take care of my

> daughter on my own after only one week out from surgery. She will

> still need diaper changes and I would have to lift her if needed. My

> husband works two jobs, so he is gone almost 80 hours a week. What I

> want to know is will I be able to care for my 20 month old daughter

> after the surgery and how soon can I do it on my own? Please help if

> you have been through this. We moved to PA and I have no family in

> anywhere nearby. Being new here, we only have a few friends and we

> do have the members of our church, but I don't know them as well and

> that makes it hard to ask them for help. Any advice?

> Thanks

> in PA

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

,

I have to second what everybody else has said. I had an open RNY but my

son was old enough to take care of himself. My problems came simply

from hauling my butt in and out of bed and on and off the commode. I

had a split in my incision (after the staples were removed) and I also

developed an incisional hernia which did not become apparent until my

pregnancy...all WITHOUT any lifting. So....yes, you will definitely

need help or will need for your daughter to help you with her care for

at least 4 to 6 weeks. I would lean more towards having her climb on to

the bed for diaper changes as even getting up off of the floor can put a

big strain on your abdominal muscles.

Good luck,

Debbie

tyrolsharp wrote:

> Okay this question is for those of you who had a child before the

> bypass surgery. If all goes as I hope, my daughter will be about 20

> months old when I have this surgery. my husband will be able to take

> about a week off work, but that would include the time I was in the

> hospital. So I am wondering will I be okay to take care of my

> daughter on my own after only one week out from surgery. She will

> still need diaper changes and I would have to lift her if needed. My

> husband works two jobs, so he is gone almost 80 hours a week. What I

> want to know is will I be able to care for my 20 month old daughter

> after the surgery and how soon can I do it on my own? Please help if

> you have been through this. We moved to PA and I have no family in

> anywhere nearby. Being new here, we only have a few friends and we

> do have the members of our church, but I don't know them as well and

> that makes it hard to ask them for help. Any advice?

> Thanks

> in PA

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

,

Thank you for all the GREAT tips. You have given me peace that I can

make things work out after the surgery and taking care of my daughter. I

love the idea about freezing meals and PAPER PLATES!!!! Thank you so much

for the help.

in PA

[Guest guest]

,

Thank you for all the GREAT tips. You have given me peace that I can

make things work out after the surgery and taking care of my daughter. I

love the idea about freezing meals and PAPER PLATES!!!! Thank you so much

for the help.

in PA

[Guest guest]

,

Thank you for all the GREAT tips. You have given me peace that I can

make things work out after the surgery and taking care of my daughter. I

love the idea about freezing meals and PAPER PLATES!!!! Thank you so much

for the help.

in PA