Re: Venting (not the Gtube kind!)

[Guest guest]

Amy,

I am glad you have more coping skills than my son Tyler. He was in

6th grade and Dylan was three or four and kids were making fun of deaf

kids on the bus. He got in a fist fight to defend his brother's

honor.

Kim

> I am getting more and more frustrated with those around me and how much they

just don't " get it " and I must vent a little...

>

> We are organizing a fundraiser for the MIGHTY MAX Guild to benefit

Children's Hospital (where Max was treated/lived for 6 months) and last night we

had some people over for our weekly planning meeting.

>

> Well there was a lot of noisy talking and one of the girls said to my sister

something joking about sign language so they could communicate over the noise.

Then another girl took it a step further (the first didn't offend me at all) and

made a funny speaking noise, basically imitating the hearing impaired. Of

course my jaw just dropped and so did many others in the room but nothing was

said. What could you say???

>

> Anyway later I talked to my sister about it and said how hurt and surprised

I was by that comment and she said yea I know, but she is a really nice girl and

didn't mean it that way. She's right BUT what irritates me to no end is when

she and others defend people instead of being with you in the moment and

understanding why you are so hurt, angry, disappointed, etc. You know what I

mean? I think I took this girl's careless remark (what is more frustrating is

that this girl is indeed very nice and pretty understanding) as a sign for the

future and how many ignorant people there are in this world and how I would

always want to defend Maxwell and any other human being with special needs.

>

> Does any of this make sense? I know that this girl meant no harm by it, but

1) she should have come to me afterwards and apologized and 2) I wish my sister

and friend could understand how painful that was and just empathize with me

first and foremost rather than be so quick to defend the person.

>

> I just want people to be more understanding and empathetic to the challenges

of our amazing children...and I get pretty frustrated when those that I think

should " get it " simply do not.

>

> I could write a zillion more things right now, but I best go...Max needs

loving and I just needed to at least get this off of my chest.

>

>

> Amy McKinley

> Mom to MIGHTY MAX (CHARGE, 8 months old, 6 months corrected)

> maxupdate.blogspot.com

>

> ---------------------------------

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>

>

[Guest guest]

good on him lol

>

> Amy,

>

> I am glad you have more coping skills than my son Tyler. He was in

> 6th grade and Dylan was three or four and kids were making fun of deaf

> kids on the bus. He got in a fist fight to defend his brother's

> honor.

>

> Kim

>

>

> > I am getting more and more frustrated with those around me and how much

> they just don't " get it " and I must vent a little...

> >

> > We are organizing a fundraiser for the MIGHTY MAX Guild to benefit

> Children's Hospital (where Max was treated/lived for 6 months) and last

> night we had some people over for our weekly planning meeting.

> >

> > Well there was a lot of noisy talking and one of the girls said to my

> sister something joking about sign language so they could communicate over

> the noise. Then another girl took it a step further (the first didn't

> offend me at all) and made a funny speaking noise, basically imitating the

> hearing impaired. Of course my jaw just dropped and so did many others in

> the room but nothing was said. What could you say???

> >

> > Anyway later I talked to my sister about it and said how hurt and

> surprised I was by that comment and she said yea I know, but she is a really

> nice girl and didn't mean it that way. She's right BUT what irritates me to

> no end is when she and others defend people instead of being with you in the

> moment and understanding why you are so hurt, angry, disappointed, etc. You

> know what I mean? I think I took this girl's careless remark (what is more

> frustrating is that this girl is indeed very nice and pretty understanding)

> as a sign for the future and how many ignorant people there are in this

> world and how I would always want to defend Maxwell and any other human

> being with special needs.

> >

> > Does any of this make sense? I know that this girl meant no harm by it,

> but 1) she should have come to me afterwards and apologized and 2) I wish my

> sister and friend could understand how painful that was and just empathize

> with me first and foremost rather than be so quick to defend the person.

> >

> > I just want people to be more understanding and empathetic to the

> challenges of our amazing children...and I get pretty frustrated when those

> that I think should " get it " simply do not.

> >

> > I could write a zillion more things right now, but I best go...Max

> needs loving and I just needed to at least get this off of my chest.

> >

> >

> > Amy McKinley

> > Mom to MIGHTY MAX (CHARGE, 8 months old, 6 months corrected)

> > maxupdate.blogspot.com

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > New Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Call regular phones from your PC and

> save big.

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

good on him lol

>

> Amy,

>

> I am glad you have more coping skills than my son Tyler. He was in

> 6th grade and Dylan was three or four and kids were making fun of deaf

> kids on the bus. He got in a fist fight to defend his brother's

> honor.

>

> Kim

>

>

> > I am getting more and more frustrated with those around me and how much

> they just don't " get it " and I must vent a little...

> >

> > We are organizing a fundraiser for the MIGHTY MAX Guild to benefit

> Children's Hospital (where Max was treated/lived for 6 months) and last

> night we had some people over for our weekly planning meeting.

> >

> > Well there was a lot of noisy talking and one of the girls said to my

> sister something joking about sign language so they could communicate over

> the noise. Then another girl took it a step further (the first didn't

> offend me at all) and made a funny speaking noise, basically imitating the

> hearing impaired. Of course my jaw just dropped and so did many others in

> the room but nothing was said. What could you say???

> >

> > Anyway later I talked to my sister about it and said how hurt and

> surprised I was by that comment and she said yea I know, but she is a really

> nice girl and didn't mean it that way. She's right BUT what irritates me to

> no end is when she and others defend people instead of being with you in the

> moment and understanding why you are so hurt, angry, disappointed, etc. You

> know what I mean? I think I took this girl's careless remark (what is more

> frustrating is that this girl is indeed very nice and pretty understanding)

> as a sign for the future and how many ignorant people there are in this

> world and how I would always want to defend Maxwell and any other human

> being with special needs.

> >

> > Does any of this make sense? I know that this girl meant no harm by it,

> but 1) she should have come to me afterwards and apologized and 2) I wish my

> sister and friend could understand how painful that was and just empathize

> with me first and foremost rather than be so quick to defend the person.

> >

> > I just want people to be more understanding and empathetic to the

> challenges of our amazing children...and I get pretty frustrated when those

> that I think should " get it " simply do not.

> >

> > I could write a zillion more things right now, but I best go...Max

> needs loving and I just needed to at least get this off of my chest.

> >

> >

> > Amy McKinley

> > Mom to MIGHTY MAX (CHARGE, 8 months old, 6 months corrected)

> > maxupdate.blogspot.com

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > New Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Call regular phones from your PC and

> save big.

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

good on him lol

>

> Amy,

>

> I am glad you have more coping skills than my son Tyler. He was in

> 6th grade and Dylan was three or four and kids were making fun of deaf

> kids on the bus. He got in a fist fight to defend his brother's

> honor.

>

> Kim

>

>

> > I am getting more and more frustrated with those around me and how much

> they just don't " get it " and I must vent a little...

> >

> > We are organizing a fundraiser for the MIGHTY MAX Guild to benefit

> Children's Hospital (where Max was treated/lived for 6 months) and last

> night we had some people over for our weekly planning meeting.

> >

> > Well there was a lot of noisy talking and one of the girls said to my

> sister something joking about sign language so they could communicate over

> the noise. Then another girl took it a step further (the first didn't

> offend me at all) and made a funny speaking noise, basically imitating the

> hearing impaired. Of course my jaw just dropped and so did many others in

> the room but nothing was said. What could you say???

> >

> > Anyway later I talked to my sister about it and said how hurt and

> surprised I was by that comment and she said yea I know, but she is a really

> nice girl and didn't mean it that way. She's right BUT what irritates me to

> no end is when she and others defend people instead of being with you in the

> moment and understanding why you are so hurt, angry, disappointed, etc. You

> know what I mean? I think I took this girl's careless remark (what is more

> frustrating is that this girl is indeed very nice and pretty understanding)

> as a sign for the future and how many ignorant people there are in this

> world and how I would always want to defend Maxwell and any other human

> being with special needs.

> >

> > Does any of this make sense? I know that this girl meant no harm by it,

> but 1) she should have come to me afterwards and apologized and 2) I wish my

> sister and friend could understand how painful that was and just empathize

> with me first and foremost rather than be so quick to defend the person.

> >

> > I just want people to be more understanding and empathetic to the

> challenges of our amazing children...and I get pretty frustrated when those

> that I think should " get it " simply do not.

> >

> > I could write a zillion more things right now, but I best go...Max

> needs loving and I just needed to at least get this off of my chest.

> >

> >

> > Amy McKinley

> > Mom to MIGHTY MAX (CHARGE, 8 months old, 6 months corrected)

> > maxupdate.blogspot.com

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > New Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Call regular phones from your PC and

> save big.

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

GO TYLER GO!!!

This woman who was doing the " imitation " is such a kind person, I know she was

completely unaware of how she came across and I know she would be heartbroken to

learn how it made me feel on behalf of Max and others with hearing loss. I

haven't yet said anything to her...haven't figured out how. Want to educate but

not insult/hurt her.

Kim Lauger wrote:

Amy,

I am glad you have more coping skills than my son Tyler. He was in

6th grade and Dylan was three or four and kids were making fun of deaf

kids on the bus. He got in a fist fight to defend his brother's

honor.

Kim

> I am getting more and more frustrated with those around me and how much they

just don't " get it " and I must vent a little...

>

> We are organizing a fundraiser for the MIGHTY MAX Guild to benefit

Children's Hospital (where Max was treated/lived for 6 months) and last night we

had some people over for our weekly planning meeting.

>

> Well there was a lot of noisy talking and one of the girls said to my sister

something joking about sign language so they could communicate over the noise.

Then another girl took it a step further (the first didn't offend me at all) and

made a funny speaking noise, basically imitating the hearing impaired. Of

course my jaw just dropped and so did many others in the room but nothing was

said. What could you say???

>

> Anyway later I talked to my sister about it and said how hurt and surprised

I was by that comment and she said yea I know, but she is a really nice girl and

didn't mean it that way. She's right BUT what irritates me to no end is when

she and others defend people instead of being with you in the moment and

understanding why you are so hurt, angry, disappointed, etc. You know what I

mean? I think I took this girl's careless remark (what is more frustrating is

that this girl is indeed very nice and pretty understanding) as a sign for the

future and how many ignorant people there are in this world and how I would

always want to defend Maxwell and any other human being with special needs.

>

> Does any of this make sense? I know that this girl meant no harm by it, but

1) she should have come to me afterwards and apologized and 2) I wish my sister

and friend could understand how painful that was and just empathize with me

first and foremost rather than be so quick to defend the person.

>

> I just want people to be more understanding and empathetic to the challenges

of our amazing children...and I get pretty frustrated when those that I think

should " get it " simply do not.

>

> I could write a zillion more things right now, but I best go...Max needs

loving and I just needed to at least get this off of my chest.

>

>

> Amy McKinley

> Mom to MIGHTY MAX (CHARGE, 8 months old, 6 months corrected)

> maxupdate.blogspot.com

>

> ---------------------------------

> New Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Call regular phones from your PC and save

big.

>

>

[Guest guest]

GO TYLER GO!!!

This woman who was doing the " imitation " is such a kind person, I know she was

completely unaware of how she came across and I know she would be heartbroken to

learn how it made me feel on behalf of Max and others with hearing loss. I

haven't yet said anything to her...haven't figured out how. Want to educate but

not insult/hurt her.

Kim Lauger wrote:

Amy,

I am glad you have more coping skills than my son Tyler. He was in

6th grade and Dylan was three or four and kids were making fun of deaf

kids on the bus. He got in a fist fight to defend his brother's

honor.

Kim

> I am getting more and more frustrated with those around me and how much they

just don't " get it " and I must vent a little...

>

> We are organizing a fundraiser for the MIGHTY MAX Guild to benefit

Children's Hospital (where Max was treated/lived for 6 months) and last night we

had some people over for our weekly planning meeting.

>

> Well there was a lot of noisy talking and one of the girls said to my sister

something joking about sign language so they could communicate over the noise.

Then another girl took it a step further (the first didn't offend me at all) and

made a funny speaking noise, basically imitating the hearing impaired. Of

course my jaw just dropped and so did many others in the room but nothing was

said. What could you say???

>

> Anyway later I talked to my sister about it and said how hurt and surprised

I was by that comment and she said yea I know, but she is a really nice girl and

didn't mean it that way. She's right BUT what irritates me to no end is when

she and others defend people instead of being with you in the moment and

understanding why you are so hurt, angry, disappointed, etc. You know what I

mean? I think I took this girl's careless remark (what is more frustrating is

that this girl is indeed very nice and pretty understanding) as a sign for the

future and how many ignorant people there are in this world and how I would

always want to defend Maxwell and any other human being with special needs.

>

> Does any of this make sense? I know that this girl meant no harm by it, but

1) she should have come to me afterwards and apologized and 2) I wish my sister

and friend could understand how painful that was and just empathize with me

first and foremost rather than be so quick to defend the person.

>

> I just want people to be more understanding and empathetic to the challenges

of our amazing children...and I get pretty frustrated when those that I think

should " get it " simply do not.

>

> I could write a zillion more things right now, but I best go...Max needs

loving and I just needed to at least get this off of my chest.

>

>

> Amy McKinley

> Mom to MIGHTY MAX (CHARGE, 8 months old, 6 months corrected)

> maxupdate.blogspot.com

>

> ---------------------------------

> New Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Call regular phones from your PC and save

big.

>

>

[Guest guest]

GO TYLER GO!!!

This woman who was doing the " imitation " is such a kind person, I know she was

completely unaware of how she came across and I know she would be heartbroken to

learn how it made me feel on behalf of Max and others with hearing loss. I

haven't yet said anything to her...haven't figured out how. Want to educate but

not insult/hurt her.

Kim Lauger wrote:

Amy,

I am glad you have more coping skills than my son Tyler. He was in

6th grade and Dylan was three or four and kids were making fun of deaf

kids on the bus. He got in a fist fight to defend his brother's

honor.

Kim

> I am getting more and more frustrated with those around me and how much they

just don't " get it " and I must vent a little...

>

> We are organizing a fundraiser for the MIGHTY MAX Guild to benefit

Children's Hospital (where Max was treated/lived for 6 months) and last night we

had some people over for our weekly planning meeting.

>

> Well there was a lot of noisy talking and one of the girls said to my sister

something joking about sign language so they could communicate over the noise.

Then another girl took it a step further (the first didn't offend me at all) and

made a funny speaking noise, basically imitating the hearing impaired. Of

course my jaw just dropped and so did many others in the room but nothing was

said. What could you say???

>

> Anyway later I talked to my sister about it and said how hurt and surprised

I was by that comment and she said yea I know, but she is a really nice girl and

didn't mean it that way. She's right BUT what irritates me to no end is when

she and others defend people instead of being with you in the moment and

understanding why you are so hurt, angry, disappointed, etc. You know what I

mean? I think I took this girl's careless remark (what is more frustrating is

that this girl is indeed very nice and pretty understanding) as a sign for the

future and how many ignorant people there are in this world and how I would

always want to defend Maxwell and any other human being with special needs.

>

> Does any of this make sense? I know that this girl meant no harm by it, but

1) she should have come to me afterwards and apologized and 2) I wish my sister

and friend could understand how painful that was and just empathize with me

first and foremost rather than be so quick to defend the person.

>

> I just want people to be more understanding and empathetic to the challenges

of our amazing children...and I get pretty frustrated when those that I think

should " get it " simply do not.

>

> I could write a zillion more things right now, but I best go...Max needs

loving and I just needed to at least get this off of my chest.

>

>

> Amy McKinley

> Mom to MIGHTY MAX (CHARGE, 8 months old, 6 months corrected)

> maxupdate.blogspot.com

>

> ---------------------------------

> New Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Call regular phones from your PC and save

big.

>

>