Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 I just laughed at him! LOL New to the Group Hello Everyone! I'm new to this group and I'm not really sure where to start! I have my paperwork from my doctor and I need to set up my phone consultation. I posted (twice) to the Database for a partner in August of 2003. Our anniversary is the 11th, hoping to do it around then. How do I get messages to the other party? Had a tubal in 1998, we've been checking into to having this reversed for two years. I'm so afraid that it can't be done. I dare to dream of another child. I know of someone whose tubes where so damaged that they couldn't be repaired, that side-lined us for awhile. My husband is afraid to get his hopes up. Any tips or words of encouragement would be wonderful! Thanks! Vicki DH - Doug, 39 DS - , 16 DD - Caitlyn, 14 DS - Josh, 9 DS - Brady, 7 TL - 1998 TR - Hopefully 8-03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 I just laughed at him! LOL New to the Group Hello Everyone! I'm new to this group and I'm not really sure where to start! I have my paperwork from my doctor and I need to set up my phone consultation. I posted (twice) to the Database for a partner in August of 2003. Our anniversary is the 11th, hoping to do it around then. How do I get messages to the other party? Had a tubal in 1998, we've been checking into to having this reversed for two years. I'm so afraid that it can't be done. I dare to dream of another child. I know of someone whose tubes where so damaged that they couldn't be repaired, that side-lined us for awhile. My husband is afraid to get his hopes up. Any tips or words of encouragement would be wonderful! Thanks! Vicki DH - Doug, 39 DS - , 16 DD - Caitlyn, 14 DS - Josh, 9 DS - Brady, 7 TL - 1998 TR - Hopefully 8-03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 I just laughed at him! LOL New to the Group Hello Everyone! I'm new to this group and I'm not really sure where to start! I have my paperwork from my doctor and I need to set up my phone consultation. I posted (twice) to the Database for a partner in August of 2003. Our anniversary is the 11th, hoping to do it around then. How do I get messages to the other party? Had a tubal in 1998, we've been checking into to having this reversed for two years. I'm so afraid that it can't be done. I dare to dream of another child. I know of someone whose tubes where so damaged that they couldn't be repaired, that side-lined us for awhile. My husband is afraid to get his hopes up. Any tips or words of encouragement would be wonderful! Thanks! Vicki DH - Doug, 39 DS - , 16 DD - Caitlyn, 14 DS - Josh, 9 DS - Brady, 7 TL - 1998 TR - Hopefully 8-03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 Hi Vicki - I know exactly how you feel. I went for a TR and was sent home after lapo didn't look good. It took us almost two years to revisit the issue. Now I'm searching for a very experience DR. Keep us posted. > Hello Everyone! > > I'm new to this group and I'm not really sure where to start! I have > my paperwork from my doctor and I need to set up my phone > consultation. I posted (twice) to the Database for a partner in > August of 2003. Our anniversary is the 11th, hoping to do it around > then. How do I get messages to the other party? > > Had a tubal in 1998, we've been checking into to having this reversed > for two years. I'm so afraid that it can't be done. I dare to dream > of another child. I know of someone whose tubes where so damaged > that they couldn't be repaired, that side-lined us for awhile. My > husband is afraid to get his hopes up. > > Any tips or words of encouragement would be wonderful! Thanks! > > Vicki > > DH - Doug, 39 > DS - , 16 > DD - Caitlyn, 14 > DS - Josh, 9 > DS - Brady, 7 > TL - 1998 > TR - Hopefully 8-03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 Hi Vicki - I know exactly how you feel. I went for a TR and was sent home after lapo didn't look good. It took us almost two years to revisit the issue. Now I'm searching for a very experience DR. Keep us posted. > Hello Everyone! > > I'm new to this group and I'm not really sure where to start! I have > my paperwork from my doctor and I need to set up my phone > consultation. I posted (twice) to the Database for a partner in > August of 2003. Our anniversary is the 11th, hoping to do it around > then. How do I get messages to the other party? > > Had a tubal in 1998, we've been checking into to having this reversed > for two years. I'm so afraid that it can't be done. I dare to dream > of another child. I know of someone whose tubes where so damaged > that they couldn't be repaired, that side-lined us for awhile. My > husband is afraid to get his hopes up. > > Any tips or words of encouragement would be wonderful! Thanks! > > Vicki > > DH - Doug, 39 > DS - , 16 > DD - Caitlyn, 14 > DS - Josh, 9 > DS - Brady, 7 > TL - 1998 > TR - Hopefully 8-03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 Hi Vicki - I know exactly how you feel. I went for a TR and was sent home after lapo didn't look good. It took us almost two years to revisit the issue. Now I'm searching for a very experience DR. Keep us posted. > Hello Everyone! > > I'm new to this group and I'm not really sure where to start! I have > my paperwork from my doctor and I need to set up my phone > consultation. I posted (twice) to the Database for a partner in > August of 2003. Our anniversary is the 11th, hoping to do it around > then. How do I get messages to the other party? > > Had a tubal in 1998, we've been checking into to having this reversed > for two years. I'm so afraid that it can't be done. I dare to dream > of another child. I know of someone whose tubes where so damaged > that they couldn't be repaired, that side-lined us for awhile. My > husband is afraid to get his hopes up. > > Any tips or words of encouragement would be wonderful! Thanks! > > Vicki > > DH - Doug, 39 > DS - , 16 > DD - Caitlyn, 14 > DS - Josh, 9 > DS - Brady, 7 > TL - 1998 > TR - Hopefully 8-03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 I'm also new to the group, my tubes were on the short side and my srgery was 90% successful on 3/28/03, yes that means I'm only 3 wks post-op. Depending on where you live, some health insurances pay 100% for the surgery, Thank god my DH did. Re: New to the Group Hi Vicki - I know exactly how you feel. I went for a TR and was sent home after lapo didn't look good. It took us almost two years to revisit the issue. Now I'm searching for a very experience DR. Keep us posted. > Hello Everyone! > > I'm new to this group and I'm not really sure where to start! I have > my paperwork from my doctor and I need to set up my phone > consultation. I posted (twice) to the Database for a partner in > August of 2003. Our anniversary is the 11th, hoping to do it around > then. How do I get messages to the other party? > > Had a tubal in 1998, we've been checking into to having this reversed > for two years. I'm so afraid that it can't be done. I dare to dream > of another child. I know of someone whose tubes where so damaged > that they couldn't be repaired, that side-lined us for awhile. My > husband is afraid to get his hopes up. > > Any tips or words of encouragement would be wonderful! Thanks! > > Vicki > > DH - Doug, 39 > DS - , 16 > DD - Caitlyn, 14 > DS - Josh, 9 > DS - Brady, 7 > TL - 1998 > TR - Hopefully 8-03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 I'm also new to the group, my tubes were on the short side and my srgery was 90% successful on 3/28/03, yes that means I'm only 3 wks post-op. Depending on where you live, some health insurances pay 100% for the surgery, Thank god my DH did. Re: New to the Group Hi Vicki - I know exactly how you feel. I went for a TR and was sent home after lapo didn't look good. It took us almost two years to revisit the issue. Now I'm searching for a very experience DR. Keep us posted. > Hello Everyone! > > I'm new to this group and I'm not really sure where to start! I have > my paperwork from my doctor and I need to set up my phone > consultation. I posted (twice) to the Database for a partner in > August of 2003. Our anniversary is the 11th, hoping to do it around > then. How do I get messages to the other party? > > Had a tubal in 1998, we've been checking into to having this reversed > for two years. I'm so afraid that it can't be done. I dare to dream > of another child. I know of someone whose tubes where so damaged > that they couldn't be repaired, that side-lined us for awhile. My > husband is afraid to get his hopes up. > > Any tips or words of encouragement would be wonderful! Thanks! > > Vicki > > DH - Doug, 39 > DS - , 16 > DD - Caitlyn, 14 > DS - Josh, 9 > DS - Brady, 7 > TL - 1998 > TR - Hopefully 8-03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 I'm also new to the group, my tubes were on the short side and my srgery was 90% successful on 3/28/03, yes that means I'm only 3 wks post-op. Depending on where you live, some health insurances pay 100% for the surgery, Thank god my DH did. Re: New to the Group Hi Vicki - I know exactly how you feel. I went for a TR and was sent home after lapo didn't look good. It took us almost two years to revisit the issue. Now I'm searching for a very experience DR. Keep us posted. > Hello Everyone! > > I'm new to this group and I'm not really sure where to start! I have > my paperwork from my doctor and I need to set up my phone > consultation. I posted (twice) to the Database for a partner in > August of 2003. Our anniversary is the 11th, hoping to do it around > then. How do I get messages to the other party? > > Had a tubal in 1998, we've been checking into to having this reversed > for two years. I'm so afraid that it can't be done. I dare to dream > of another child. I know of someone whose tubes where so damaged > that they couldn't be repaired, that side-lined us for awhile. My > husband is afraid to get his hopes up. > > Any tips or words of encouragement would be wonderful! Thanks! > > Vicki > > DH - Doug, 39 > DS - , 16 > DD - Caitlyn, 14 > DS - Josh, 9 > DS - Brady, 7 > TL - 1998 > TR - Hopefully 8-03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 Oh, goodness, I know there is hope! Dr. Levin has told me multiple times that 4 and above is excellent for conception to occur. I have good hormone levels and regular cycles. Right now the only downfall that we know of, notice I said that we know of???, is that I have one tube and two ovaries. That means that any time that my right ovary releases an ovum I am out of the running, for the most part, for that month. Just have to be patient and keep on keeping on! Janice Re: New to the Group Hi Vicki - I know exactly how you feel. I went for a TR and was sent home after lapo didn't look good. It took us almost two years to revisit the issue. Now I'm searching for a very experience DR. Keep us posted. > Hello Everyone! > > I'm new to this group and I'm not really sure where to start! I have > my paperwork from my doctor and I need to set up my phone > consultation. I posted (twice) to the Database for a partner in > August of 2003. Our anniversary is the 11th, hoping to do it around > then. How do I get messages to the other party? > > Had a tubal in 1998, we've been checking into to having this reversed > for two years. I'm so afraid that it can't be done. I dare to dream > of another child. I know of someone whose tubes where so damaged > that they couldn't be repaired, that side-lined us for awhile. My > husband is afraid to get his hopes up. > > Any tips or words of encouragement would be wonderful! Thanks! > > Vicki > > DH - Doug, 39 > DS - , 16 > DD - Caitlyn, 14 > DS - Josh, 9 > DS - Brady, 7 > TL - 1998 > TR - Hopefully 8-03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 Oh, goodness, I know there is hope! Dr. Levin has told me multiple times that 4 and above is excellent for conception to occur. I have good hormone levels and regular cycles. Right now the only downfall that we know of, notice I said that we know of???, is that I have one tube and two ovaries. That means that any time that my right ovary releases an ovum I am out of the running, for the most part, for that month. Just have to be patient and keep on keeping on! Janice Re: New to the Group Hi Vicki - I know exactly how you feel. I went for a TR and was sent home after lapo didn't look good. It took us almost two years to revisit the issue. Now I'm searching for a very experience DR. Keep us posted. > Hello Everyone! > > I'm new to this group and I'm not really sure where to start! I have > my paperwork from my doctor and I need to set up my phone > consultation. I posted (twice) to the Database for a partner in > August of 2003. Our anniversary is the 11th, hoping to do it around > then. How do I get messages to the other party? > > Had a tubal in 1998, we've been checking into to having this reversed > for two years. I'm so afraid that it can't be done. I dare to dream > of another child. I know of someone whose tubes where so damaged > that they couldn't be repaired, that side-lined us for awhile. My > husband is afraid to get his hopes up. > > Any tips or words of encouragement would be wonderful! Thanks! > > Vicki > > DH - Doug, 39 > DS - , 16 > DD - Caitlyn, 14 > DS - Josh, 9 > DS - Brady, 7 > TL - 1998 > TR - Hopefully 8-03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 Oh, goodness, I know there is hope! Dr. Levin has told me multiple times that 4 and above is excellent for conception to occur. I have good hormone levels and regular cycles. Right now the only downfall that we know of, notice I said that we know of???, is that I have one tube and two ovaries. That means that any time that my right ovary releases an ovum I am out of the running, for the most part, for that month. Just have to be patient and keep on keeping on! Janice Re: New to the Group Hi Vicki - I know exactly how you feel. I went for a TR and was sent home after lapo didn't look good. It took us almost two years to revisit the issue. Now I'm searching for a very experience DR. Keep us posted. > Hello Everyone! > > I'm new to this group and I'm not really sure where to start! I have > my paperwork from my doctor and I need to set up my phone > consultation. I posted (twice) to the Database for a partner in > August of 2003. Our anniversary is the 11th, hoping to do it around > then. How do I get messages to the other party? > > Had a tubal in 1998, we've been checking into to having this reversed > for two years. I'm so afraid that it can't be done. I dare to dream > of another child. I know of someone whose tubes where so damaged > that they couldn't be repaired, that side-lined us for awhile. My > husband is afraid to get his hopes up. > > Any tips or words of encouragement would be wonderful! Thanks! > > Vicki > > DH - Doug, 39 > DS - , 16 > DD - Caitlyn, 14 > DS - Josh, 9 > DS - Brady, 7 > TL - 1998 > TR - Hopefully 8-03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 good thing you have humor, after 2 months I owuld of been like " LOOK HERE HONEY " (LOL) New to the Group Hello Everyone! I'm new to this group and I'm not really sure where to start! I have my paperwork from my doctor and I need to set up my phone consultation. I posted (twice) to the Database for a partner in August of 2003. Our anniversary is the 11th, hoping to do it around then. How do I get messages to the other party? Had a tubal in 1998, we've been checking into to having this reversed for two years. I'm so afraid that it can't be done. I dare to dream of another child. I know of someone whose tubes where so damaged that they couldn't be repaired, that side-lined us for awhile. My husband is afraid to get his hopes up. Any tips or words of encouragement would be wonderful! Thanks! Vicki DH - Doug, 39 DS - , 16 DD - Caitlyn, 14 DS - Josh, 9 DS - Brady, 7 TL - 1998 TR - Hopefully 8-03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 good thing you have humor, after 2 months I owuld of been like " LOOK HERE HONEY " (LOL) New to the Group Hello Everyone! I'm new to this group and I'm not really sure where to start! I have my paperwork from my doctor and I need to set up my phone consultation. I posted (twice) to the Database for a partner in August of 2003. Our anniversary is the 11th, hoping to do it around then. How do I get messages to the other party? Had a tubal in 1998, we've been checking into to having this reversed for two years. I'm so afraid that it can't be done. I dare to dream of another child. I know of someone whose tubes where so damaged that they couldn't be repaired, that side-lined us for awhile. My husband is afraid to get his hopes up. Any tips or words of encouragement would be wonderful! Thanks! Vicki DH - Doug, 39 DS - , 16 DD - Caitlyn, 14 DS - Josh, 9 DS - Brady, 7 TL - 1998 TR - Hopefully 8-03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2003 Report Share Posted April 22, 2003 good thing you have humor, after 2 months I owuld of been like " LOOK HERE HONEY " (LOL) New to the Group Hello Everyone! I'm new to this group and I'm not really sure where to start! I have my paperwork from my doctor and I need to set up my phone consultation. I posted (twice) to the Database for a partner in August of 2003. Our anniversary is the 11th, hoping to do it around then. How do I get messages to the other party? Had a tubal in 1998, we've been checking into to having this reversed for two years. I'm so afraid that it can't be done. I dare to dream of another child. I know of someone whose tubes where so damaged that they couldn't be repaired, that side-lined us for awhile. My husband is afraid to get his hopes up. Any tips or words of encouragement would be wonderful! Thanks! Vicki DH - Doug, 39 DS - , 16 DD - Caitlyn, 14 DS - Josh, 9 DS - Brady, 7 TL - 1998 TR - Hopefully 8-03 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 28, 2010 Report Share Posted December 28, 2010 Welcome to the group. There are lots of other books that will help you too. Also, check out the code words list (I don't remember how you access it) so that you know the secret jargon of being a KO (Kid of a person with BPD). I hope you find lots of hope and healing here. Girlscout > > > I am in the middle of reading Stop Walking on Eggshells, and found info > about this group. I am so thankful to read the messages from everyone, and > realize that I am not alone. I just recently heard about BPD from a family > friend who is a psychologist. For awhile, I thought my mom was Bi-polar, but > I believe now that she definitely has BPD. > > I don't even know where to start about my mom. I've been on this > rollercoaster ride for as long as I can remember. I guess, for now, I can > start with the latest event. My parents live in NJ. I lived with them until > I got married almost 7 years ago, and moved to California right after the > wedding. Going back home for summer visits is always eventful, but this past > July, after another fight about some trivial thing, my mom took a bunch of > pills and ended up in the hospital saying that she wanted to die, and was > trying to kill herself. While on suicide watch, she continued to tell me and > my father that she was going to kill herself as soon as she left the > hospital. I didn't know what to do. I tried to contact the hopsital > psychiatrist, and tell him about my mom. But of course by the time he met > with her, 3 days later, she was back to her " normal " charming self, and > telling everyone that she wasn't trying to kill herself, and wondering what > she was even doing in the hospital at all. After seeing her for a few > minutes, the doctor released her. It was so frustrating for me and my > siblings. We finally thought she would get some help. > > Of course she became angry about the whole situation, and started to take > it out on me. The anxiety and stress for me was so bad, that I lied to her > and told her that I was taking an earlier flight back to LA, and ended up > hiding out in Jersey at friends' houses, until I left. My father told me > that she started crying, because I didn't see her before I left. > > Now I am back in California, and of course, everyone acts as if nothing > happened. I am so tired and frustrated. I am thankful for finding out about > this group. I think it will help me. I hope. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 28, 2010 Report Share Posted December 28, 2010 Welcome to the group. There are lots of other books that will help you too. Also, check out the code words list (I don't remember how you access it) so that you know the secret jargon of being a KO (Kid of a person with BPD). I hope you find lots of hope and healing here. Girlscout > > > I am in the middle of reading Stop Walking on Eggshells, and found info > about this group. I am so thankful to read the messages from everyone, and > realize that I am not alone. I just recently heard about BPD from a family > friend who is a psychologist. For awhile, I thought my mom was Bi-polar, but > I believe now that she definitely has BPD. > > I don't even know where to start about my mom. I've been on this > rollercoaster ride for as long as I can remember. I guess, for now, I can > start with the latest event. My parents live in NJ. I lived with them until > I got married almost 7 years ago, and moved to California right after the > wedding. Going back home for summer visits is always eventful, but this past > July, after another fight about some trivial thing, my mom took a bunch of > pills and ended up in the hospital saying that she wanted to die, and was > trying to kill herself. While on suicide watch, she continued to tell me and > my father that she was going to kill herself as soon as she left the > hospital. I didn't know what to do. I tried to contact the hopsital > psychiatrist, and tell him about my mom. But of course by the time he met > with her, 3 days later, she was back to her " normal " charming self, and > telling everyone that she wasn't trying to kill herself, and wondering what > she was even doing in the hospital at all. After seeing her for a few > minutes, the doctor released her. It was so frustrating for me and my > siblings. We finally thought she would get some help. > > Of course she became angry about the whole situation, and started to take > it out on me. The anxiety and stress for me was so bad, that I lied to her > and told her that I was taking an earlier flight back to LA, and ended up > hiding out in Jersey at friends' houses, until I left. My father told me > that she started crying, because I didn't see her before I left. > > Now I am back in California, and of course, everyone acts as if nothing > happened. I am so tired and frustrated. I am thankful for finding out about > this group. I think it will help me. I hope. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 28, 2010 Report Share Posted December 28, 2010 Welcome to the group. There are lots of other books that will help you too. Also, check out the code words list (I don't remember how you access it) so that you know the secret jargon of being a KO (Kid of a person with BPD). I hope you find lots of hope and healing here. Girlscout > > > I am in the middle of reading Stop Walking on Eggshells, and found info > about this group. I am so thankful to read the messages from everyone, and > realize that I am not alone. I just recently heard about BPD from a family > friend who is a psychologist. For awhile, I thought my mom was Bi-polar, but > I believe now that she definitely has BPD. > > I don't even know where to start about my mom. I've been on this > rollercoaster ride for as long as I can remember. I guess, for now, I can > start with the latest event. My parents live in NJ. I lived with them until > I got married almost 7 years ago, and moved to California right after the > wedding. Going back home for summer visits is always eventful, but this past > July, after another fight about some trivial thing, my mom took a bunch of > pills and ended up in the hospital saying that she wanted to die, and was > trying to kill herself. While on suicide watch, she continued to tell me and > my father that she was going to kill herself as soon as she left the > hospital. I didn't know what to do. I tried to contact the hopsital > psychiatrist, and tell him about my mom. But of course by the time he met > with her, 3 days later, she was back to her " normal " charming self, and > telling everyone that she wasn't trying to kill herself, and wondering what > she was even doing in the hospital at all. After seeing her for a few > minutes, the doctor released her. It was so frustrating for me and my > siblings. We finally thought she would get some help. > > Of course she became angry about the whole situation, and started to take > it out on me. The anxiety and stress for me was so bad, that I lied to her > and told her that I was taking an earlier flight back to LA, and ended up > hiding out in Jersey at friends' houses, until I left. My father told me > that she started crying, because I didn't see her before I left. > > Now I am back in California, and of course, everyone acts as if nothing > happened. I am so tired and frustrated. I am thankful for finding out about > this group. I think it will help me. I hope. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 28, 2010 Report Share Posted December 28, 2010 Welcome to the Group, lex, you and all other new members. Yes, what you are describing sounds all too familiar, unfortunately. Its good to find other people who have experienced similar dysfunctional, frightening, manipulative behaviors from personality-disordered parents. In addition to reading SWOE, I recommend " Surviving A Borderline Parent " and " Understanding The Borderline Mother. " Each of us has both the power and the right to decide how much if any contact we can tolerate having with a personality disordered parent or family of origin, and its a very personal and individual choice, deciding what approach works for you. Its really comforting to have others on that journey with us who " get it. " -Annie > > I am in the middle of reading Stop Walking on Eggshells, and found info about this group. I am so thankful to read the messages from everyone, and realize that I am not alone. I just recently heard about BPD from a family friend who is a psychologist. For awhile, I thought my mom was Bi-polar, but I believe now that she definitely has BPD. > > I don't even know where to start about my mom. I've been on this rollercoaster ride for as long as I can remember. I guess, for now, I can start with the latest event. My parents live in NJ. I lived with them until I got married almost 7 years ago, and moved to California right after the wedding. Going back home for summer visits is always eventful, but this past July, after another fight about some trivial thing, my mom took a bunch of pills and ended up in the hospital saying that she wanted to die, and was trying to kill herself. While on suicide watch, she continued to tell me and my father that she was going to kill herself as soon as she left the hospital. I didn't know what to do. I tried to contact the hopsital psychiatrist, and tell him about my mom. But of course by the time he met with her, 3 days later, she was back to her " normal " charming self, and telling everyone that she wasn't trying to kill herself, and wondering what she was even doing in the hospital at all. After seeing her for a few minutes, the doctor released her. It was so frustrating for me and my siblings. We finally thought she would get some help. > > Of course she became angry about the whole situation, and started to take it out on me. The anxiety and stress for me was so bad, that I lied to her and told her that I was taking an earlier flight back to LA, and ended up hiding out in Jersey at friends' houses, until I left. My father told me that she started crying, because I didn't see her before I left. > > Now I am back in California, and of course, everyone acts as if nothing happened. I am so tired and frustrated. I am thankful for finding out about this group. I think it will help me. I hope. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2011 Report Share Posted January 9, 2011 Hello, My name is and thank you for accepting my group request. My daughter is 10 yrs old and has autism. We started gfcf when my daughter was 7 and saw improvement in behavior. During that year, I visited the ARI site and saw Baxter's story and decided to do the DAN! protocol. For us, it did not work so I swtiched to the AC protocol; we are now on round #76. We saw great gains from #1 -#20 then they became slow and/or steady. When we first started my daughter was diagnosed with severe autism (one specialist was convinced she had " regressed to MR " ???). to look at my daughter today, you would not think she had autism until she started to speak; depending on the skillset, she is between 3yr old to 6 yr old (when we started 3 yrs ago, she was 12 month old with all skillsets). Right now, I believe that I have to do more than chelation and therapy to help my daughter recover because of where we started. Along with chelation, I have done a parasite cleanse which really, really helped with yeast. We are currently in our 3rd month of MB12 shots; I haven't seen anything from this yet but I promised to try for 6 months so will continue until then. I am very interested in the antiviral protocol; when my daughter gets a fever, she becomes very " normal " . I have read some use valtrex, virastop, OLE, etc. I have tried Virastop a couple of times in the past but my daughter gets a fever on just 1/2 cap. I tried to follow the following protocol: http://www.autismpedia.org/wiki/index.php?title=Protocols/Virastop I think this will be beneficial for us and am looking to get information on how to properly do an antiviral protocol, how many diff supps do you use, is it OK that she gets a fever early on, etc. Any help would be appreciated, S. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2011 Report Share Posted January 17, 2011 Hi Janet. Welcome to the Group. Your experiences will sound familiar to a lot of members here; you've found a bunch of fellow adult kids of personality-disordered parents (or step-parents) who " get it. " Many of us here have (or had) domineering, territorial, rejecting, hyper-critical or jealous/paranoid pd mothers and weak, enmeshed, enabling fathers; I'm one of them. One thing to take away with you right off the bat: you didn't cause your dad and step-mom to feel, think, and behave the way they do, and you can't change them. Their negative, rejecting behavior is about them, NOT about you being bad or defective or unworthy. My own opinion is that they both sound rather narcissistic. Nothing you can say or do will " cure " them, but you CAN change your own self: you can change the way you react to their coldness, and you are the author and navigator of your own healing. You might want to read the book, " Will I Ever Be Good Enough? " , for the daughters of narcissistic pd women. And " Understanding The Borderline Mother " , and " Surviving A Borderline Parent " are excellent also. Again, welcome. -Annie > > Hello everyone > My name is Janet, and I just joined the group.  I have been in therapy for a > while now, and my therapist suggested that I read " Stop Walking on Eggshells. "  > I have been dealing with feelings that involve my stepmom. I don't know if she > has BPD, as I know she has never been diagnosed, and I since I am not a > therapist, I don't want to do that. However, as I read the book, she exhibits a > lot of the traits of a BPD. It's a really long story, but ever since she > married my dad 26 years ago, she hasn't been very nice to me. I spent years > thinking it was me, that I had done something wrong, that I had done something > to make her hate me. I am not currently in contact with my dad and stepmom, and > as long as she's in control, I doubt that I will ever talk to my dad again.  I > think he enables her behavior, and, as I have been told, I am the one with the > problem, not them. As I said, it's a really long story, and I have put the > whole thing in God's hands. I am working on myself now, and things work out how > they work out. I hope that I learn things from being in this group. > Janet >  Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own > understanding. >  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. >  Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. >  It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. > Proverbs 3:5-8 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2011 Report Share Posted January 17, 2011 Welcome to the group Janet. Focusing on you is a great focus. We can't fix everyone else but we can fix ourselves. And, by " fix, " I mean - gain understanding, reset expectations and heal! Take care you and welcome. Jaie > > Hello everyone > My name is Janet, and I just joined the group.  I have been in therapy for a > while now, and my therapist suggested that I read " Stop Walking on Eggshells. "  > I have been dealing with feelings that involve my stepmom. I don't know if she > has BPD, as I know she has never been diagnosed, and I since I am not a > therapist, I don't want to do that. However, as I read the book, she exhibits a > lot of the traits of a BPD. It's a really long story, but ever since she > married my dad 26 years ago, she hasn't been very nice to me. I spent years > thinking it was me, that I had done something wrong, that I had done something > to make her hate me. I am not currently in contact with my dad and stepmom, and > as long as she's in control, I doubt that I will ever talk to my dad again.  I > think he enables her behavior, and, as I have been told, I am the one with the > problem, not them. As I said, it's a really long story, and I have put the > whole thing in God's hands. I am working on myself now, and things work out how > they work out. I hope that I learn things from being in this group. > Janet >  Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own > understanding. >  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. >  Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. >  It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. > Proverbs 3:5-8 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2011 Report Share Posted January 17, 2011 Welcome to the group Janet. Focusing on you is a great focus. We can't fix everyone else but we can fix ourselves. And, by " fix, " I mean - gain understanding, reset expectations and heal! Take care you and welcome. Jaie > > Hello everyone > My name is Janet, and I just joined the group.  I have been in therapy for a > while now, and my therapist suggested that I read " Stop Walking on Eggshells. "  > I have been dealing with feelings that involve my stepmom. I don't know if she > has BPD, as I know she has never been diagnosed, and I since I am not a > therapist, I don't want to do that. However, as I read the book, she exhibits a > lot of the traits of a BPD. It's a really long story, but ever since she > married my dad 26 years ago, she hasn't been very nice to me. I spent years > thinking it was me, that I had done something wrong, that I had done something > to make her hate me. I am not currently in contact with my dad and stepmom, and > as long as she's in control, I doubt that I will ever talk to my dad again.  I > think he enables her behavior, and, as I have been told, I am the one with the > problem, not them. As I said, it's a really long story, and I have put the > whole thing in God's hands. I am working on myself now, and things work out how > they work out. I hope that I learn things from being in this group. > Janet >  Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own > understanding. >  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. >  Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. >  It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. > Proverbs 3:5-8 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2011 Report Share Posted January 17, 2011 Welcome Janet, I'm new too, and I have found this group to be very helpful. I hope you do as well. Kay > > Hello everyone > My name is Janet, and I just joined the group.  I have been in therapy for a > while now, and my therapist suggested that I read " Stop Walking on Eggshells. "  > I have been dealing with feelings that involve my stepmom. I don't know if she > has BPD, as I know she has never been diagnosed, and I since I am not a > therapist, I don't want to do that. However, as I read the book, she exhibits a > lot of the traits of a BPD. It's a really long story, but ever since she > married my dad 26 years ago, she hasn't been very nice to me. I spent years > thinking it was me, that I had done something wrong, that I had done something > to make her hate me. I am not currently in contact with my dad and stepmom, and > as long as she's in control, I doubt that I will ever talk to my dad again.  I > think he enables her behavior, and, as I have been told, I am the one with the > problem, not them. As I said, it's a really long story, and I have put the > whole thing in God's hands. I am working on myself now, and things work out how > they work out. I hope that I learn things from being in this group. > Janet >  Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own > understanding. >  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. >  Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. >  It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. > Proverbs 3:5-8 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2011 Report Share Posted January 17, 2011 Welcome Janet, I'm new too, and I have found this group to be very helpful. I hope you do as well. Kay > > Hello everyone > My name is Janet, and I just joined the group.  I have been in therapy for a > while now, and my therapist suggested that I read " Stop Walking on Eggshells. "  > I have been dealing with feelings that involve my stepmom. I don't know if she > has BPD, as I know she has never been diagnosed, and I since I am not a > therapist, I don't want to do that. However, as I read the book, she exhibits a > lot of the traits of a BPD. It's a really long story, but ever since she > married my dad 26 years ago, she hasn't been very nice to me. I spent years > thinking it was me, that I had done something wrong, that I had done something > to make her hate me. I am not currently in contact with my dad and stepmom, and > as long as she's in control, I doubt that I will ever talk to my dad again.  I > think he enables her behavior, and, as I have been told, I am the one with the > problem, not them. As I said, it's a really long story, and I have put the > whole thing in God's hands. I am working on myself now, and things work out how > they work out. I hope that I learn things from being in this group. > Janet >  Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own > understanding. >  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. >  Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. >  It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. > Proverbs 3:5-8 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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