Guest guest Posted July 7, 2004 Report Share Posted July 7, 2004 Hi Patty, I went through the exact same thing last winter. Two of my friends had babies a month apart and we were having one big baby shower for them. All the people there would have kids and I didn't feel strong enough to go. DH understood and I was going to buy a gift and just send it and make up some excuse at the last minute. The shower didn't happen because everyone's schedules didn't allow for it. Just so you know, it's not selfish. If you don't go through TTC struggles you can never imagine how it feels. Sounds like your friends have no problems as mine don't either. Sometimes I feel alone as well, but this site has really helped me know that I am not alone. If you decide to go, I hope it's not too bad for you. I would make an appearance and if it gets too bad for you and you can't fake smiling anymore I would politely excuse myself. 29 SU rescected 06/25 wrote: Hey guys, I just posted not too long ago and I forgot to mention that I got envited to a babyshower. This is not really the best time to be going to any baby showers but the parents to be are good friends of ours. I don't really feel like going even though I'm very happy for them I can't help but start thinking about my situation. Is that selfish? I hope not because I'm not a selfish person but I hurt seeing all this women having babies and I can't. Oh God, this really sounds horrible. Well, it does not matter how I feel...I guess... I will go because I know I need to be there for my friend. I'm going baby shopping today. Well I needed some encouragement but I guess I alreay made up my mind to go even though after the babyshower I'll feel like Sh..... Lots of baby dust to all of you who are ttc... Patty 34, SU Resected 2x Never been PG TTC again Share bookmarks: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MullerianAnomalies/links/ Share files: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MullerianAnomalies/files/ The Congenital Uterine Anomalies Home Page: http://www.wegrokit.com/uterineanomalies/ es/ The Congenital Uterine Anomalies Home Page: http://www.wegrokit.com/uterineanomalies/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 7, 2004 Report Share Posted July 7, 2004 Hi Patty, I went through the exact same thing last winter. Two of my friends had babies a month apart and we were having one big baby shower for them. All the people there would have kids and I didn't feel strong enough to go. DH understood and I was going to buy a gift and just send it and make up some excuse at the last minute. The shower didn't happen because everyone's schedules didn't allow for it. Just so you know, it's not selfish. If you don't go through TTC struggles you can never imagine how it feels. Sounds like your friends have no problems as mine don't either. Sometimes I feel alone as well, but this site has really helped me know that I am not alone. If you decide to go, I hope it's not too bad for you. I would make an appearance and if it gets too bad for you and you can't fake smiling anymore I would politely excuse myself. 29 SU rescected 06/25 wrote: Hey guys, I just posted not too long ago and I forgot to mention that I got envited to a babyshower. This is not really the best time to be going to any baby showers but the parents to be are good friends of ours. I don't really feel like going even though I'm very happy for them I can't help but start thinking about my situation. Is that selfish? I hope not because I'm not a selfish person but I hurt seeing all this women having babies and I can't. Oh God, this really sounds horrible. Well, it does not matter how I feel...I guess... I will go because I know I need to be there for my friend. I'm going baby shopping today. Well I needed some encouragement but I guess I alreay made up my mind to go even though after the babyshower I'll feel like Sh..... Lots of baby dust to all of you who are ttc... Patty 34, SU Resected 2x Never been PG TTC again Share bookmarks: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MullerianAnomalies/links/ Share files: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MullerianAnomalies/files/ The Congenital Uterine Anomalies Home Page: http://www.wegrokit.com/uterineanomalies/ es/ The Congenital Uterine Anomalies Home Page: http://www.wegrokit.com/uterineanomalies/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 7, 2004 Report Share Posted July 7, 2004 Hi Patty, I went through the exact same thing last winter. Two of my friends had babies a month apart and we were having one big baby shower for them. All the people there would have kids and I didn't feel strong enough to go. DH understood and I was going to buy a gift and just send it and make up some excuse at the last minute. The shower didn't happen because everyone's schedules didn't allow for it. Just so you know, it's not selfish. If you don't go through TTC struggles you can never imagine how it feels. Sounds like your friends have no problems as mine don't either. Sometimes I feel alone as well, but this site has really helped me know that I am not alone. If you decide to go, I hope it's not too bad for you. I would make an appearance and if it gets too bad for you and you can't fake smiling anymore I would politely excuse myself. 29 SU rescected 06/25 wrote: Hey guys, I just posted not too long ago and I forgot to mention that I got envited to a babyshower. This is not really the best time to be going to any baby showers but the parents to be are good friends of ours. I don't really feel like going even though I'm very happy for them I can't help but start thinking about my situation. Is that selfish? I hope not because I'm not a selfish person but I hurt seeing all this women having babies and I can't. Oh God, this really sounds horrible. Well, it does not matter how I feel...I guess... I will go because I know I need to be there for my friend. I'm going baby shopping today. Well I needed some encouragement but I guess I alreay made up my mind to go even though after the babyshower I'll feel like Sh..... Lots of baby dust to all of you who are ttc... Patty 34, SU Resected 2x Never been PG TTC again Share bookmarks: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MullerianAnomalies/links/ Share files: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MullerianAnomalies/files/ The Congenital Uterine Anomalies Home Page: http://www.wegrokit.com/uterineanomalies/ es/ The Congenital Uterine Anomalies Home Page: http://www.wegrokit.com/uterineanomalies/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 7, 2004 Report Share Posted July 7, 2004 Patty, We have been ttc for a couple years now and currently it is even more difficult with 3 cousins and 2 friends all being pregnant at the same time. I love all of them to death, but it is heart breaking to see them and listen to them complain about their pregnancy and how they are feeling when I would give anything to be in their position. It is even more frustrating to be around family that are so fertile that if their DH's walk into the room with their zippers down they get pregnant. Sorry to be so blunt. Give yourself the time, most will be understanding if you explain to them how you are feeling about going and you may even get more support from it. Best of Luck, UU, ttc Hi Patty, I went through the exact same thing last winter. Two of my friends had babies a month apart and we were having one big baby shower for them. All the people there would have kids and I didn't feel strong enough to go. DH understood and I was going to buy a gift and just send it and make up some excuse at the last minute. The shower didn't happen because everyone's schedules didn't allow for it. Just so you know, it's not selfish. If you don't go through TTC struggles you can never imagine how it feels. Sounds like your friends have no problems as mine don't either. Sometimes I feel alone as well, but this site has really helped me know that I am not alone. If you decide to go, I hope it's not too bad for you. I would make an appearance and if it gets too bad for you and you can't fake smiling anymore I would politely excuse myself. 29 SU rescected 06/25 & lt;patty_oro@... & gt; wrote: Hey guys, I just posted not too long ago and I forgot to mention that I got envited to a babyshower. This is not really the best time to be going to any baby showers but the parents to be are good friends of ours. I don't really feel like going even though I'm very happy for them I can't help but start thinking about my situation. Is that selfish? I hope not because I'm not a selfish person but I hurt seeing all this women having babies and I can't. Oh God, this really sounds horrible. Well, it does not matter how I feel...I guess... I will go because I know I need to be there for my friend. I'm going baby shopping today. Well I needed some encouragement but I guess I alreay made up my mind to go even though after the babyshower I'll feel like Sh..... Lots of baby dust to all of you who are ttc... Patty 34, SU Resected 2x Never been PG TTC again Share bookmarks: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MullerianAnomalies/links/ Share files: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MullerianAnomalies/files/ The Congenital Uterine Anomalies Home Page: http://www.wegrokit.com/uterineanomalies/ es/ The Congenital Uterine Anomalies Home Page: http://www.wegrokit.com/uterineanomalies/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 7, 2004 Report Share Posted July 7, 2004 Patty, We have been ttc for a couple years now and currently it is even more difficult with 3 cousins and 2 friends all being pregnant at the same time. I love all of them to death, but it is heart breaking to see them and listen to them complain about their pregnancy and how they are feeling when I would give anything to be in their position. It is even more frustrating to be around family that are so fertile that if their DH's walk into the room with their zippers down they get pregnant. Sorry to be so blunt. Give yourself the time, most will be understanding if you explain to them how you are feeling about going and you may even get more support from it. Best of Luck, UU, ttc Hi Patty, I went through the exact same thing last winter. Two of my friends had babies a month apart and we were having one big baby shower for them. All the people there would have kids and I didn't feel strong enough to go. DH understood and I was going to buy a gift and just send it and make up some excuse at the last minute. The shower didn't happen because everyone's schedules didn't allow for it. Just so you know, it's not selfish. If you don't go through TTC struggles you can never imagine how it feels. Sounds like your friends have no problems as mine don't either. Sometimes I feel alone as well, but this site has really helped me know that I am not alone. If you decide to go, I hope it's not too bad for you. I would make an appearance and if it gets too bad for you and you can't fake smiling anymore I would politely excuse myself. 29 SU rescected 06/25 & lt;patty_oro@... & gt; wrote: Hey guys, I just posted not too long ago and I forgot to mention that I got envited to a babyshower. This is not really the best time to be going to any baby showers but the parents to be are good friends of ours. I don't really feel like going even though I'm very happy for them I can't help but start thinking about my situation. Is that selfish? I hope not because I'm not a selfish person but I hurt seeing all this women having babies and I can't. Oh God, this really sounds horrible. Well, it does not matter how I feel...I guess... I will go because I know I need to be there for my friend. I'm going baby shopping today. Well I needed some encouragement but I guess I alreay made up my mind to go even though after the babyshower I'll feel like Sh..... Lots of baby dust to all of you who are ttc... Patty 34, SU Resected 2x Never been PG TTC again Share bookmarks: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MullerianAnomalies/links/ Share files: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MullerianAnomalies/files/ The Congenital Uterine Anomalies Home Page: http://www.wegrokit.com/uterineanomalies/ es/ The Congenital Uterine Anomalies Home Page: http://www.wegrokit.com/uterineanomalies/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 7, 2004 Report Share Posted July 7, 2004 Patty, We have been ttc for a couple years now and currently it is even more difficult with 3 cousins and 2 friends all being pregnant at the same time. I love all of them to death, but it is heart breaking to see them and listen to them complain about their pregnancy and how they are feeling when I would give anything to be in their position. It is even more frustrating to be around family that are so fertile that if their DH's walk into the room with their zippers down they get pregnant. Sorry to be so blunt. Give yourself the time, most will be understanding if you explain to them how you are feeling about going and you may even get more support from it. Best of Luck, UU, ttc Hi Patty, I went through the exact same thing last winter. Two of my friends had babies a month apart and we were having one big baby shower for them. All the people there would have kids and I didn't feel strong enough to go. DH understood and I was going to buy a gift and just send it and make up some excuse at the last minute. The shower didn't happen because everyone's schedules didn't allow for it. Just so you know, it's not selfish. If you don't go through TTC struggles you can never imagine how it feels. Sounds like your friends have no problems as mine don't either. Sometimes I feel alone as well, but this site has really helped me know that I am not alone. If you decide to go, I hope it's not too bad for you. I would make an appearance and if it gets too bad for you and you can't fake smiling anymore I would politely excuse myself. 29 SU rescected 06/25 & lt;patty_oro@... & gt; wrote: Hey guys, I just posted not too long ago and I forgot to mention that I got envited to a babyshower. This is not really the best time to be going to any baby showers but the parents to be are good friends of ours. I don't really feel like going even though I'm very happy for them I can't help but start thinking about my situation. Is that selfish? I hope not because I'm not a selfish person but I hurt seeing all this women having babies and I can't. Oh God, this really sounds horrible. Well, it does not matter how I feel...I guess... I will go because I know I need to be there for my friend. I'm going baby shopping today. Well I needed some encouragement but I guess I alreay made up my mind to go even though after the babyshower I'll feel like Sh..... Lots of baby dust to all of you who are ttc... Patty 34, SU Resected 2x Never been PG TTC again Share bookmarks: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MullerianAnomalies/links/ Share files: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MullerianAnomalies/files/ The Congenital Uterine Anomalies Home Page: http://www.wegrokit.com/uterineanomalies/ es/ The Congenital Uterine Anomalies Home Page: http://www.wegrokit.com/uterineanomalies/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 7, 2004 Report Share Posted July 7, 2004 Patty, I know just how you feel. My twin sister's baby shower is this Saturday. I was just seven weeks behind her with my pregnancy. I lost the baby at 14 weeks. She is having a boy, and I just found out that my baby was a boy too. I went shopping and actually had fun, although it did make me think that in a couple of months I would have been having my shower and been the one receiving all these cute little trinkets for my baby. I am looking forward to the shower (I have not been home in a month), but am unsure how it will make me feel. My entire family will be there and they all know about my m/c. I am afraid that they will react to me funny or be afraid to say things around me. We'll see how it goes. Best of luck to you. You are a true friend to go even though you know it will cause you pain. I think that's great. , 24, BU/SU?, 1 m/c 4-04 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 7, 2004 Report Share Posted July 7, 2004 Patty, I know just how you feel. My twin sister's baby shower is this Saturday. I was just seven weeks behind her with my pregnancy. I lost the baby at 14 weeks. She is having a boy, and I just found out that my baby was a boy too. I went shopping and actually had fun, although it did make me think that in a couple of months I would have been having my shower and been the one receiving all these cute little trinkets for my baby. I am looking forward to the shower (I have not been home in a month), but am unsure how it will make me feel. My entire family will be there and they all know about my m/c. I am afraid that they will react to me funny or be afraid to say things around me. We'll see how it goes. Best of luck to you. You are a true friend to go even though you know it will cause you pain. I think that's great. , 24, BU/SU?, 1 m/c 4-04 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 7, 2004 Report Share Posted July 7, 2004 Patty, I know just how you feel. My twin sister's baby shower is this Saturday. I was just seven weeks behind her with my pregnancy. I lost the baby at 14 weeks. She is having a boy, and I just found out that my baby was a boy too. I went shopping and actually had fun, although it did make me think that in a couple of months I would have been having my shower and been the one receiving all these cute little trinkets for my baby. I am looking forward to the shower (I have not been home in a month), but am unsure how it will make me feel. My entire family will be there and they all know about my m/c. I am afraid that they will react to me funny or be afraid to say things around me. We'll see how it goes. Best of luck to you. You are a true friend to go even though you know it will cause you pain. I think that's great. , 24, BU/SU?, 1 m/c 4-04 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2004 Report Share Posted July 8, 2004 Patty, You are in such good company here. I think every one of us has probably felt like that about going to a baby shower at some point in our lives. If you think you can handle it, good for you. I had to decline a few because I knew I would burst out crying and never be able to regain composure. One was shortly after my m/c and the other was just after finding out I needed resection surgery #2. Don't be too hard on yourself for feeling this way. It is really common and not a sign of selfishness but one of self-preservation. A good friend would understand and not expect an explanation. Hugs, Sara SU resected x2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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