Walking on egg shells with everyone.

[Guest guest]

Hi All,

I just realised after a few situations of late how I walk on egg shells with so

many people. I am in business and with all this growth and self awareness going

on I have noticed how I am even doing it here with the staff. I am so afraid to

set my boundries and be a boss. I am getting better at doing it but then I beat

myself up after and have massive anxiety on how they will respond to me and my

decisions.

I have been attacked in the past by staff members and they have left after I

have tried to set some standards that I have felt very realistic. I know that

the staff I have had for along time struggle with the new me and the changes.

Once the soft walk over boss is now making a stand.

I have been setting boundries everywhere and it has come at some cost.

I just want to be myself and believe in my truth and what is good for me without

questioning it all the time and being afraid of the outcome..

Does anyone else relate to this?

Quote I like:

In order to unify in ourselves or unite with others, we must change, renounce,

give ourselves, and this violence to ourselves patakes of pain.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Kazam x

[Guest guest]

Good quote! That's so wonderful that you are gaining the courage to set the

realistic, normal, rational rules and boundaries you need to set in your life

and at your business. It is hard for us KOs to learn to do that.

It does take several sets of skills to run a business, people skills being one

of them. I admire those who are so well-rounded as to be able to run their own

company that's large enough to have employees!

Some of your employees will be able to adapt to whatever new (and reasonable)

rules you establish, and some won't, and that's OK. That's just business, its

not personal.

Its hard to get past the notion that its your job to be responsible for how your

employees feel, and that you must walk on eggshells to make them like you. As

long as you are a fair, honest, reasonable person to work for (and are as

reliably consistent as possible) that's all any employee can ask, and in my

opinion most employees will either like you or respect you (or both!) if you

have those characteristics and you pay a fair wage for their labor.

More than that, and the employee-boss relationship is in danger of becoming

rather enmeshed and codependent, and that's probably not healthy in a business

situation.

-Annie

>

> Hi All,

> I just realised after a few situations of late how I walk on egg shells with

so many people. I am in business and with all this growth and self awareness

going on I have noticed how I am even doing it here with the staff. I am so

afraid to set my boundries and be a boss. I am getting better at doing it but

then I beat myself up after and have massive anxiety on how they will respond to

me and my decisions.

>

> I have been attacked in the past by staff members and they have left after I

have tried to set some standards that I have felt very realistic. I know that

the staff I have had for along time struggle with the new me and the changes.

Once the soft walk over boss is now making a stand.

>

> I have been setting boundries everywhere and it has come at some cost.

> I just want to be myself and believe in my truth and what is good for me

without questioning it all the time and being afraid of the outcome..

> Does anyone else relate to this?

> Quote I like:

> In order to unify in ourselves or unite with others, we must change, renounce,

give ourselves, and this violence to ourselves patakes of pain.

> Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

>

> Kazam x

>

[Guest guest]

Good quote! That's so wonderful that you are gaining the courage to set the

realistic, normal, rational rules and boundaries you need to set in your life

and at your business. It is hard for us KOs to learn to do that.

It does take several sets of skills to run a business, people skills being one

of them. I admire those who are so well-rounded as to be able to run their own

company that's large enough to have employees!

Some of your employees will be able to adapt to whatever new (and reasonable)

rules you establish, and some won't, and that's OK. That's just business, its

not personal.

Its hard to get past the notion that its your job to be responsible for how your

employees feel, and that you must walk on eggshells to make them like you. As

long as you are a fair, honest, reasonable person to work for (and are as

reliably consistent as possible) that's all any employee can ask, and in my

opinion most employees will either like you or respect you (or both!) if you

have those characteristics and you pay a fair wage for their labor.

More than that, and the employee-boss relationship is in danger of becoming

rather enmeshed and codependent, and that's probably not healthy in a business

situation.

-Annie

>

> Hi All,

> I just realised after a few situations of late how I walk on egg shells with

so many people. I am in business and with all this growth and self awareness

going on I have noticed how I am even doing it here with the staff. I am so

afraid to set my boundries and be a boss. I am getting better at doing it but

then I beat myself up after and have massive anxiety on how they will respond to

me and my decisions.

>

> I have been attacked in the past by staff members and they have left after I

have tried to set some standards that I have felt very realistic. I know that

the staff I have had for along time struggle with the new me and the changes.

Once the soft walk over boss is now making a stand.

>

> I have been setting boundries everywhere and it has come at some cost.

> I just want to be myself and believe in my truth and what is good for me

without questioning it all the time and being afraid of the outcome..

> Does anyone else relate to this?

> Quote I like:

> In order to unify in ourselves or unite with others, we must change, renounce,

give ourselves, and this violence to ourselves patakes of pain.

> Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

>

> Kazam x

>

[Guest guest]

You asked if anyone else has noticed this about themselves and my answer is OMG

yes! I think it is one of the hardest things to kick. I know I do it in all

kinds of situations, but the one that is most bothersome for me is with my

husband. My T suggested I just ask him about stuff - and tell him the " story in

my head " - the idea being that the more times he assures me the story in my head

isn't real, I'll be able to break the mental habit.

So, it goes something like this. " DH, when I asked you if soup and salad were

good for dinner and you said, 'fine' I thought you were really unhappy about the

soup/salad and the story in my head is that you are mad at me bc I'm not cooking

something that takes more time and care and that you think I don't love you

enough to make a nice meal. " My DH says, " Nope. Just meant that sounded like an

okay dinner. " Me: " Well, now I'm thinking you're thinking I'm nuts. " DH: " Not

nuts, honey, just a strange little bird. " He has the patience of Job, and it is

helping.

Don't think this would fly on the job, but maybe in your private life with those

closest to you. Your safe people.

> >

> > Hi All,

> > I just realised after a few situations of late how I walk on egg shells with

so many people. I am in business and with all this growth and self awareness

going on I have noticed how I am even doing it here with the staff. I am so

afraid to set my boundries and be a boss. I am getting better at doing it but

then I beat myself up after and have massive anxiety on how they will respond to

me and my decisions.

> >

> > I have been attacked in the past by staff members and they have left after I

have tried to set some standards that I have felt very realistic. I know that

the staff I have had for along time struggle with the new me and the changes.

Once the soft walk over boss is now making a stand.

> >

> > I have been setting boundries everywhere and it has come at some cost.

> > I just want to be myself and believe in my truth and what is good for me

without questioning it all the time and being afraid of the outcome..

> > Does anyone else relate to this?

> > Quote I like:

> > In order to unify in ourselves or unite with others, we must change,

renounce, give ourselves, and this violence to ourselves patakes of pain.

> > Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

> >

> > Kazam x

> >

>

[Guest guest]

You asked if anyone else has noticed this about themselves and my answer is OMG

yes! I think it is one of the hardest things to kick. I know I do it in all

kinds of situations, but the one that is most bothersome for me is with my

husband. My T suggested I just ask him about stuff - and tell him the " story in

my head " - the idea being that the more times he assures me the story in my head

isn't real, I'll be able to break the mental habit.

So, it goes something like this. " DH, when I asked you if soup and salad were

good for dinner and you said, 'fine' I thought you were really unhappy about the

soup/salad and the story in my head is that you are mad at me bc I'm not cooking

something that takes more time and care and that you think I don't love you

enough to make a nice meal. " My DH says, " Nope. Just meant that sounded like an

okay dinner. " Me: " Well, now I'm thinking you're thinking I'm nuts. " DH: " Not

nuts, honey, just a strange little bird. " He has the patience of Job, and it is

helping.

Don't think this would fly on the job, but maybe in your private life with those

closest to you. Your safe people.

> >

> > Hi All,

> > I just realised after a few situations of late how I walk on egg shells with

so many people. I am in business and with all this growth and self awareness

going on I have noticed how I am even doing it here with the staff. I am so

afraid to set my boundries and be a boss. I am getting better at doing it but

then I beat myself up after and have massive anxiety on how they will respond to

me and my decisions.

> >

> > I have been attacked in the past by staff members and they have left after I

have tried to set some standards that I have felt very realistic. I know that

the staff I have had for along time struggle with the new me and the changes.

Once the soft walk over boss is now making a stand.

> >

> > I have been setting boundries everywhere and it has come at some cost.

> > I just want to be myself and believe in my truth and what is good for me

without questioning it all the time and being afraid of the outcome..

> > Does anyone else relate to this?

> > Quote I like:

> > In order to unify in ourselves or unite with others, we must change,

renounce, give ourselves, and this violence to ourselves patakes of pain.

> > Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

> >

> > Kazam x

> >

>

[Guest guest]

You asked if anyone else has noticed this about themselves and my answer is OMG

yes! I think it is one of the hardest things to kick. I know I do it in all

kinds of situations, but the one that is most bothersome for me is with my

husband. My T suggested I just ask him about stuff - and tell him the " story in

my head " - the idea being that the more times he assures me the story in my head

isn't real, I'll be able to break the mental habit.

So, it goes something like this. " DH, when I asked you if soup and salad were

good for dinner and you said, 'fine' I thought you were really unhappy about the

soup/salad and the story in my head is that you are mad at me bc I'm not cooking

something that takes more time and care and that you think I don't love you

enough to make a nice meal. " My DH says, " Nope. Just meant that sounded like an

okay dinner. " Me: " Well, now I'm thinking you're thinking I'm nuts. " DH: " Not

nuts, honey, just a strange little bird. " He has the patience of Job, and it is

helping.

Don't think this would fly on the job, but maybe in your private life with those

closest to you. Your safe people.

> >

> > Hi All,

> > I just realised after a few situations of late how I walk on egg shells with

so many people. I am in business and with all this growth and self awareness

going on I have noticed how I am even doing it here with the staff. I am so

afraid to set my boundries and be a boss. I am getting better at doing it but

then I beat myself up after and have massive anxiety on how they will respond to

me and my decisions.

> >

> > I have been attacked in the past by staff members and they have left after I

have tried to set some standards that I have felt very realistic. I know that

the staff I have had for along time struggle with the new me and the changes.

Once the soft walk over boss is now making a stand.

> >

> > I have been setting boundries everywhere and it has come at some cost.

> > I just want to be myself and believe in my truth and what is good for me

without questioning it all the time and being afraid of the outcome..

> > Does anyone else relate to this?

> > Quote I like:

> > In order to unify in ourselves or unite with others, we must change,

renounce, give ourselves, and this violence to ourselves patakes of pain.

> > Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

> >

> > Kazam x

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Yes, and my husband is the only " safe " person in my life right now, so I'm

usually so careful with him. Lately, though, things have changed.

I am growing a set of b*lls, according to him. When I started making boundaries

with family and then with him, he said: " Well, I figured it would come around to

me at some point. " And I said: " But you still encouraged me. " He said: " Well

I could use a kick in the pants myself. "

Last night he set things up where he arrived home after kid bedtime. I had

already taken them swimming and to library movie night to give him some time to

rest or whatever. He took advantage of it and left me holding the bag

(breathing treatments for asthma, etc). Later, and not in front of the kids

this time, I calmly said that I had tried to give him some time and he took

advantage of it. He actually just said he was sorry and could see that was

true. And it wouldn't happen again. Apologies from him are as rare as a purple

unicorn.

This is the first time I can remember a conversation like this that didn't erupt

into a fight. I believe it has something to do with the difference in me. I

just didn't care the way I used to and was not very " invested " in his problem.

I think when we carry ourselves differently and truly see our own value, people

respect that.

Reminds me of the old movie " Grease " when the goody two shoes girl gets a

makeover and shows up in black leather for the final song. Everyone just reacts

differently to her BECAUSE SHE IS DIFFERENT.

+Coal Miner's Daughter

>

> You asked if anyone else has noticed this about themselves and my answer is

OMG yes! I think it is one of the hardest things to kick. I know I do it in all

kinds of situations, but the one that is most bothersome for me is with my

husband. My T suggested I just ask him about stuff - and tell him the " story in

my head " - the idea being that the more times he assures me the story in my head

isn't real, I'll be able to break the mental habit.

>

> So, it goes something like this. " DH, when I asked you if soup and salad were

good for dinner and you said, 'fine' I thought you were really unhappy about the

soup/salad and the story in my head is that you are mad at me bc I'm not cooking

something that takes more time and care and that you think I don't love you

enough to make a nice meal. " My DH says, " Nope. Just meant that sounded like an

okay dinner. " Me: " Well, now I'm thinking you're thinking I'm nuts. " DH: " Not

nuts, honey, just a strange little bird. " He has the patience of Job, and it is

helping.

>

> Don't think this would fly on the job, but maybe in your private life with

those closest to you. Your safe people.

>

> ---

[Guest guest]

Yes, and my husband is the only " safe " person in my life right now, so I'm

usually so careful with him. Lately, though, things have changed.

I am growing a set of b*lls, according to him. When I started making boundaries

with family and then with him, he said: " Well, I figured it would come around to

me at some point. " And I said: " But you still encouraged me. " He said: " Well

I could use a kick in the pants myself. "

Last night he set things up where he arrived home after kid bedtime. I had

already taken them swimming and to library movie night to give him some time to

rest or whatever. He took advantage of it and left me holding the bag

(breathing treatments for asthma, etc). Later, and not in front of the kids

this time, I calmly said that I had tried to give him some time and he took

advantage of it. He actually just said he was sorry and could see that was

true. And it wouldn't happen again. Apologies from him are as rare as a purple

unicorn.

This is the first time I can remember a conversation like this that didn't erupt

into a fight. I believe it has something to do with the difference in me. I

just didn't care the way I used to and was not very " invested " in his problem.

I think when we carry ourselves differently and truly see our own value, people

respect that.

Reminds me of the old movie " Grease " when the goody two shoes girl gets a

makeover and shows up in black leather for the final song. Everyone just reacts

differently to her BECAUSE SHE IS DIFFERENT.

+Coal Miner's Daughter

>

> You asked if anyone else has noticed this about themselves and my answer is

OMG yes! I think it is one of the hardest things to kick. I know I do it in all

kinds of situations, but the one that is most bothersome for me is with my

husband. My T suggested I just ask him about stuff - and tell him the " story in

my head " - the idea being that the more times he assures me the story in my head

isn't real, I'll be able to break the mental habit.

>

> So, it goes something like this. " DH, when I asked you if soup and salad were

good for dinner and you said, 'fine' I thought you were really unhappy about the

soup/salad and the story in my head is that you are mad at me bc I'm not cooking

something that takes more time and care and that you think I don't love you

enough to make a nice meal. " My DH says, " Nope. Just meant that sounded like an

okay dinner. " Me: " Well, now I'm thinking you're thinking I'm nuts. " DH: " Not

nuts, honey, just a strange little bird. " He has the patience of Job, and it is

helping.

>

> Don't think this would fly on the job, but maybe in your private life with

those closest to you. Your safe people.

>

> ---

[Guest guest]

Yes, and my husband is the only " safe " person in my life right now, so I'm

usually so careful with him. Lately, though, things have changed.

I am growing a set of b*lls, according to him. When I started making boundaries

with family and then with him, he said: " Well, I figured it would come around to

me at some point. " And I said: " But you still encouraged me. " He said: " Well

I could use a kick in the pants myself. "

Last night he set things up where he arrived home after kid bedtime. I had

already taken them swimming and to library movie night to give him some time to

rest or whatever. He took advantage of it and left me holding the bag

(breathing treatments for asthma, etc). Later, and not in front of the kids

this time, I calmly said that I had tried to give him some time and he took

advantage of it. He actually just said he was sorry and could see that was

true. And it wouldn't happen again. Apologies from him are as rare as a purple

unicorn.

This is the first time I can remember a conversation like this that didn't erupt

into a fight. I believe it has something to do with the difference in me. I

just didn't care the way I used to and was not very " invested " in his problem.

I think when we carry ourselves differently and truly see our own value, people

respect that.

Reminds me of the old movie " Grease " when the goody two shoes girl gets a

makeover and shows up in black leather for the final song. Everyone just reacts

differently to her BECAUSE SHE IS DIFFERENT.

+Coal Miner's Daughter

>

> You asked if anyone else has noticed this about themselves and my answer is

OMG yes! I think it is one of the hardest things to kick. I know I do it in all

kinds of situations, but the one that is most bothersome for me is with my

husband. My T suggested I just ask him about stuff - and tell him the " story in

my head " - the idea being that the more times he assures me the story in my head

isn't real, I'll be able to break the mental habit.

>

> So, it goes something like this. " DH, when I asked you if soup and salad were

good for dinner and you said, 'fine' I thought you were really unhappy about the

soup/salad and the story in my head is that you are mad at me bc I'm not cooking

something that takes more time and care and that you think I don't love you

enough to make a nice meal. " My DH says, " Nope. Just meant that sounded like an

okay dinner. " Me: " Well, now I'm thinking you're thinking I'm nuts. " DH: " Not

nuts, honey, just a strange little bird. " He has the patience of Job, and it is

helping.

>

> Don't think this would fly on the job, but maybe in your private life with

those closest to you. Your safe people.

>

> ---

[Guest guest]

Dear Kazam X and The Group,

I was going to start a topic on this today. Glad you brought it up.

I used to feel so responsible for everyone in the world. For example, at my

exercise club, I tried to welcome everyone and would talk to people I didn't

particularly like - like the goodwill ambassador or something. Last night there

was a lady complaining in the locker room to her daughter. Her leg hurt, she

couldn't do a certain exercise because of her back problem, blah blah blah Real

BPD/KO stuff here. The daughter ignored this and spoke of positive aspects of

things, like: " It's good you started the program. " or whatever

So the complaining lady said hi to me, intending to start a conversation. I

pleasantly said, " hi " and walked out of the locker room. I realized that it is

not my job to make her happy, and the lady in the hall, and the neighbor man,

and the mail carrier's cousin, etc. etc. etc.

When I stopped trying to fix my mom, I stopped trying to fix the world as well.

Sweet freedom. (And I'm actually nicer and not seething with suppressed anger

under the surface.) Powerful stuff - this support group.

+Coal Miner's Daughter

>

> Hi All,

> I just realised after a few situations of late how I walk on egg shells with

so many people. I am in business and with all this growth and self awareness

going on I have noticed how I am even doing it here with the staff. I am so

afraid to set my boundries and be a boss. I am getting better at doing it but

then I beat myself up after and have massive anxiety on how they will respond to

me and my decisions.

>

> I have been attacked in the past by staff members and they have left after I

have tried to set some standards that I have felt very realistic. I know that

the staff I have had for along time struggle with the new me and the changes.

Once the soft walk over boss is now making a stand.

>

> I have been setting boundries everywhere and it has come at some cost.

> I just want to be myself and believe in my truth and what is good for me

without questioning it all the time and being afraid of the outcome..

> Does anyone else relate to this?

> Quote I like:

> In order to unify in ourselves or unite with others, we must change, renounce,

give ourselves, and this violence to ourselves patakes of pain.

> Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

>

> Kazam x

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Kazam X and The Group,

I was going to start a topic on this today. Glad you brought it up.

I used to feel so responsible for everyone in the world. For example, at my

exercise club, I tried to welcome everyone and would talk to people I didn't

particularly like - like the goodwill ambassador or something. Last night there

was a lady complaining in the locker room to her daughter. Her leg hurt, she

couldn't do a certain exercise because of her back problem, blah blah blah Real

BPD/KO stuff here. The daughter ignored this and spoke of positive aspects of

things, like: " It's good you started the program. " or whatever

So the complaining lady said hi to me, intending to start a conversation. I

pleasantly said, " hi " and walked out of the locker room. I realized that it is

not my job to make her happy, and the lady in the hall, and the neighbor man,

and the mail carrier's cousin, etc. etc. etc.

When I stopped trying to fix my mom, I stopped trying to fix the world as well.

Sweet freedom. (And I'm actually nicer and not seething with suppressed anger

under the surface.) Powerful stuff - this support group.

+Coal Miner's Daughter

>

> Hi All,

> I just realised after a few situations of late how I walk on egg shells with

so many people. I am in business and with all this growth and self awareness

going on I have noticed how I am even doing it here with the staff. I am so

afraid to set my boundries and be a boss. I am getting better at doing it but

then I beat myself up after and have massive anxiety on how they will respond to

me and my decisions.

>

> I have been attacked in the past by staff members and they have left after I

have tried to set some standards that I have felt very realistic. I know that

the staff I have had for along time struggle with the new me and the changes.

Once the soft walk over boss is now making a stand.

>

> I have been setting boundries everywhere and it has come at some cost.

> I just want to be myself and believe in my truth and what is good for me

without questioning it all the time and being afraid of the outcome..

> Does anyone else relate to this?

> Quote I like:

> In order to unify in ourselves or unite with others, we must change, renounce,

give ourselves, and this violence to ourselves patakes of pain.

> Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

>

> Kazam x

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the feedback Annie. Some great advice. Well done Coal Miner's

daughter. I like what you said about " When I stopped trying to fix my Mum I

stopped trying to fix the world as well " .

I stopped trying to fix my Mum then put my energy into my business the staff and

Clients. Been so draining. Funny thing I did it so blindly. Old habits are

hard to break.

Oh well can't be too hard on myself. Least I have realised it now.

Just another lesson learnt. Time to dust myself on and move on to another

chapter yet AGAIN.

Maybe that is why I love the movie Grease. I do feel like Sandy. How is

this????? I was in Sydney airport and across from me in the eatery was Olivia

Newton- having take-away coffee with her partner.

I have adored her from a young girl. I went up and said hello without making

too much fuss so as not to draw attention to her.

Maybe the universe let me meet her as a little reward for all my hard work on

myself.

It will be a highlight of my life forever.

I live in Australia and often wonder if any other members of the group are from

here?

Kazam x

> >

> > Hi All,

> > I just realised after a few situations of late how I walk on egg shells with

so many people. I am in business and with all this growth and self awareness

going on I have noticed how I am even doing it here with the staff. I am so

afraid to set my boundries and be a boss. I am getting better at doing it but

then I beat myself up after and have massive anxiety on how they will respond to

me and my decisions.

> >

> > I have been attacked in the past by staff members and they have left after I

have tried to set some standards that I have felt very realistic. I know that

the staff I have had for along time struggle with the new me and the changes.

Once the soft walk over boss is now making a stand.

> >

> > I have been setting boundries everywhere and it has come at some cost.

> > I just want to be myself and believe in my truth and what is good for me

without questioning it all the time and being afraid of the outcome..

> > Does anyone else relate to this?

> > Quote I like:

> > In order to unify in ourselves or unite with others, we must change,

renounce, give ourselves, and this violence to ourselves patakes of pain.

> > Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

> >

> > Kazam x

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the feedback Annie. Some great advice. Well done Coal Miner's

daughter. I like what you said about " When I stopped trying to fix my Mum I

stopped trying to fix the world as well " .

I stopped trying to fix my Mum then put my energy into my business the staff and

Clients. Been so draining. Funny thing I did it so blindly. Old habits are

hard to break.

Oh well can't be too hard on myself. Least I have realised it now.

Just another lesson learnt. Time to dust myself on and move on to another

chapter yet AGAIN.

Maybe that is why I love the movie Grease. I do feel like Sandy. How is

this????? I was in Sydney airport and across from me in the eatery was Olivia

Newton- having take-away coffee with her partner.

I have adored her from a young girl. I went up and said hello without making

too much fuss so as not to draw attention to her.

Maybe the universe let me meet her as a little reward for all my hard work on

myself.

It will be a highlight of my life forever.

I live in Australia and often wonder if any other members of the group are from

here?

Kazam x

> >

> > Hi All,

> > I just realised after a few situations of late how I walk on egg shells with

so many people. I am in business and with all this growth and self awareness

going on I have noticed how I am even doing it here with the staff. I am so

afraid to set my boundries and be a boss. I am getting better at doing it but

then I beat myself up after and have massive anxiety on how they will respond to

me and my decisions.

> >

> > I have been attacked in the past by staff members and they have left after I

have tried to set some standards that I have felt very realistic. I know that

the staff I have had for along time struggle with the new me and the changes.

Once the soft walk over boss is now making a stand.

> >

> > I have been setting boundries everywhere and it has come at some cost.

> > I just want to be myself and believe in my truth and what is good for me

without questioning it all the time and being afraid of the outcome..

> > Does anyone else relate to this?

> > Quote I like:

> > In order to unify in ourselves or unite with others, we must change,

renounce, give ourselves, and this violence to ourselves patakes of pain.

> > Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

> >

> > Kazam x

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the feedback Annie. Some great advice. Well done Coal Miner's

daughter. I like what you said about " When I stopped trying to fix my Mum I

stopped trying to fix the world as well " .

I stopped trying to fix my Mum then put my energy into my business the staff and

Clients. Been so draining. Funny thing I did it so blindly. Old habits are

hard to break.

Oh well can't be too hard on myself. Least I have realised it now.

Just another lesson learnt. Time to dust myself on and move on to another

chapter yet AGAIN.

Maybe that is why I love the movie Grease. I do feel like Sandy. How is

this????? I was in Sydney airport and across from me in the eatery was Olivia

Newton- having take-away coffee with her partner.

I have adored her from a young girl. I went up and said hello without making

too much fuss so as not to draw attention to her.

Maybe the universe let me meet her as a little reward for all my hard work on

myself.

It will be a highlight of my life forever.

I live in Australia and often wonder if any other members of the group are from

here?

Kazam x

> >

> > Hi All,

> > I just realised after a few situations of late how I walk on egg shells with

so many people. I am in business and with all this growth and self awareness

going on I have noticed how I am even doing it here with the staff. I am so

afraid to set my boundries and be a boss. I am getting better at doing it but

then I beat myself up after and have massive anxiety on how they will respond to

me and my decisions.

> >

> > I have been attacked in the past by staff members and they have left after I

have tried to set some standards that I have felt very realistic. I know that

the staff I have had for along time struggle with the new me and the changes.

Once the soft walk over boss is now making a stand.

> >

> > I have been setting boundries everywhere and it has come at some cost.

> > I just want to be myself and believe in my truth and what is good for me

without questioning it all the time and being afraid of the outcome..

> > Does anyone else relate to this?

> > Quote I like:

> > In order to unify in ourselves or unite with others, we must change,

renounce, give ourselves, and this violence to ourselves patakes of pain.

> > Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

> >

> > Kazam x

> >

>