Guest guest Posted March 17, 2006 Report Share Posted March 17, 2006 Chantelle- You had to self-advocate getting all those folks coordinated to help you. Just appealing to them to do whatever it is they did was self-advocating. Don't sell yourself short. If you didn't speak up for your needs and speak up to the right people and do it over and over again til they listened and responded, you wouldn't have what you need. You may think all you did was sit back and whine while everyone else did all the " important " work. I don't think that's exactly right. Pat yourself on the back as you thank all those who supported and helped you. One big lesson I learned when I had Aubrie was how to ask for help and then how to graciously accept it. Heck, just admitting I needed help was a big step! Anyway, I understand you don't want to take all the credit -- go ahead and share it -- but don't sell yourself short. " Self-advocating " doesn't mean doing it all alone. It means being a part of the process. Michele W mom to Aubrie 8 yrs CHARGE, 14 yrs and wife to DJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2006 Report Share Posted March 18, 2006 ....Perhaps the only thing that is important is that it happened at all!!! And now things can change for you. pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2006 Report Share Posted March 18, 2006 ....Perhaps the only thing that is important is that it happened at all!!! And now things can change for you. pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2006 Report Share Posted March 18, 2006 ....Perhaps the only thing that is important is that it happened at all!!! And now things can change for you. pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2006 Report Share Posted March 18, 2006 Chantelle, Congratulations! We are all happy for you. Bonnie, Mom to Kris 23, Patty CHARGE 21 and wife to Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2006 Report Share Posted March 18, 2006 Chantelle, Congratulations! We are all happy for you. Bonnie, Mom to Kris 23, Patty CHARGE 21 and wife to Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Guest guest Posted March 19, 2006 Report Share Posted March 19, 2006 Yah maby i can get on the right meds and stop being so hatefull. Ive forgoten how to look at all the good in life. I get these people who are supposed to help me they want to know all the horrible stuff thats wrong with me so they can better understand me... just to say well we have to send you to the next person and it goes all over again. Im tired of telling people about all the bad stuff. I want to get better why do the professionals always want me to tell them all the bad stuff. They want to know every last detale then they pass me off to the next person. Sigh. My family dosnt want me to talk to them about my problems. Work dosent want to hear about it and I dont want to say it here any more. I just feel like the last couple months im so hatefull that its making me feel worse. I know I will hold on till tuesday but then i will probably spill my beans to 1. be told Oh you want a boyfriend or 2. be passed on to the next person! Maby i better not be pessimistic. I wont feed the bad wolf I will find that good wolf and bring it back to health. Chantelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2006 Report Share Posted March 19, 2006 Chantelle, I'm glad you are trying to bring the good wolf out; I see the good wolf everytime I'm in Kennedy's room and see the butterfly picture you brought her at the hospital.... Lots of love, > > > > Maby i better not be pessimistic. I wont feed the bad wolf I will find > that good wolf and bring it back to health. > > -- > Weir > kawfolks@... > http://ca.geocities.com/weirfamilyrogers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2006 Report Share Posted March 19, 2006 You still have that picture? wow. I feel sad though. I dont know why I want to cry. I love to draw butterflies. It makes me happy. Chantelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2006 Report Share Posted March 19, 2006 Chantelle, You've probably already mentioned but I forget - have you told your doctor about these feelings? There might be something out there than can make you feel better. If it works, I'm all for it - I don't worry about what other people think. Yes, we still have the picture of course! Try not to cry - you look so beautiful when you smile. ~ > > You still have that picture? wow. I feel sad though. I dont know why I > want to cry. > I love to draw butterflies. It makes me happy. > > Chantelle kawfolks@... http://ca.geocities.com/weirfamilyrogers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2006 Report Share Posted March 19, 2006 Chantelle, You've probably already mentioned but I forget - have you told your doctor about these feelings? There might be something out there than can make you feel better. If it works, I'm all for it - I don't worry about what other people think. Yes, we still have the picture of course! Try not to cry - you look so beautiful when you smile. ~ > > You still have that picture? wow. I feel sad though. I dont know why I > want to cry. > I love to draw butterflies. It makes me happy. > > Chantelle kawfolks@... http://ca.geocities.com/weirfamilyrogers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2006 Report Share Posted March 19, 2006 Chantelle, You've probably already mentioned but I forget - have you told your doctor about these feelings? There might be something out there than can make you feel better. If it works, I'm all for it - I don't worry about what other people think. Yes, we still have the picture of course! Try not to cry - you look so beautiful when you smile. ~ > > You still have that picture? wow. I feel sad though. I dont know why I > want to cry. > I love to draw butterflies. It makes me happy. > > Chantelle kawfolks@... http://ca.geocities.com/weirfamilyrogers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2006 Report Share Posted March 21, 2006 i made a little list of things I wanted to talk to the psyc doctor about tomorrow. * Going from hyper (thoughts racing) to crying for no reason. * Snapping at people * Yelling or saying stuff out load at innapropreate times. * Talking to myself when frustraited. * Thoughts or words that taunt me, make me feel like I want to hurt myself * Innability to sicuss my problems, I yell or am rude instead. *Innability to deal with coworker and her method of doing her job. (mind you the ignoring the 3 crying babies in favor of walking around with a 14month old who just has to do a pretend whine (and yes i know the difference between a pretend whine and a real cry) to get coworker to run (im not joking or exaggerating) to her and carry her is not really a good thing on coworker's part, but im sure my snaping at coworker isnt the best way of dealing wit the situation... and that was just what happend today) Gosh, i used to like my job. I still love what i do. I just dont like where im working, but I dont feel its really right to leave because coworker is hard to deal with. However I am at a loss. I can talk to the psyc doc tomorrow. Maby he has some insights or usefull suggestions. Chantelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2006 Report Share Posted March 21, 2006 he better > > i made a little list of things I wanted to talk to the psyc doctor > about tomorrow. > > * Going from hyper (thoughts racing) to crying for no reason. > > * Snapping at people > > * Yelling or saying stuff out load at innapropreate times. > > * Talking to myself when frustraited. > > * Thoughts or words that taunt me, make me feel like I want to hurt myself > > * Innability to sicuss my problems, I yell or am rude instead. > > *Innability to deal with coworker and her method of doing her job. (mind > you > the ignoring the 3 crying babies in favor of walking around with a 14month > old who just has to do a pretend whine (and yes i know the difference > between a pretend whine and a real cry) to get coworker to run (im not > joking or exaggerating) to her and carry her is not really a good thing > on coworker's part, but im sure my snaping at coworker isnt the best way > of > dealing wit the situation... and that was just what happend today) > > Gosh, i used to like my job. I still love what i do. I just dont like > where > im working, but I dont feel its really right to leave because coworker is > hard to deal with. However I am at a loss. I can talk to the psyc doc > tomorrow. Maby he has some insights or usefull suggestions. > > Chantelle > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2006 Report Share Posted March 21, 2006 he better > > i made a little list of things I wanted to talk to the psyc doctor > about tomorrow. > > * Going from hyper (thoughts racing) to crying for no reason. > > * Snapping at people > > * Yelling or saying stuff out load at innapropreate times. > > * Talking to myself when frustraited. > > * Thoughts or words that taunt me, make me feel like I want to hurt myself > > * Innability to sicuss my problems, I yell or am rude instead. > > *Innability to deal with coworker and her method of doing her job. (mind > you > the ignoring the 3 crying babies in favor of walking around with a 14month > old who just has to do a pretend whine (and yes i know the difference > between a pretend whine and a real cry) to get coworker to run (im not > joking or exaggerating) to her and carry her is not really a good thing > on coworker's part, but im sure my snaping at coworker isnt the best way > of > dealing wit the situation... and that was just what happend today) > > Gosh, i used to like my job. I still love what i do. I just dont like > where > im working, but I dont feel its really right to leave because coworker is > hard to deal with. However I am at a loss. I can talk to the psyc doc > tomorrow. Maby he has some insights or usefull suggestions. > > Chantelle > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2006 Report Share Posted March 21, 2006 he better > > i made a little list of things I wanted to talk to the psyc doctor > about tomorrow. > > * Going from hyper (thoughts racing) to crying for no reason. > > * Snapping at people > > * Yelling or saying stuff out load at innapropreate times. > > * Talking to myself when frustraited. > > * Thoughts or words that taunt me, make me feel like I want to hurt myself > > * Innability to sicuss my problems, I yell or am rude instead. > > *Innability to deal with coworker and her method of doing her job. (mind > you > the ignoring the 3 crying babies in favor of walking around with a 14month > old who just has to do a pretend whine (and yes i know the difference > between a pretend whine and a real cry) to get coworker to run (im not > joking or exaggerating) to her and carry her is not really a good thing > on coworker's part, but im sure my snaping at coworker isnt the best way > of > dealing wit the situation... and that was just what happend today) > > Gosh, i used to like my job. I still love what i do. I just dont like > where > im working, but I dont feel its really right to leave because coworker is > hard to deal with. However I am at a loss. I can talk to the psyc doc > tomorrow. Maby he has some insights or usefull suggestions. > > Chantelle > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2006 Report Share Posted March 21, 2006 GOod idea CHantelle to make a list; sometimes I forget things when I get to an appointment. Don't let him rush you; take the time you need to fully explain things. Let me know how it goes. > > i made a little list of things I wanted to talk to the psyc doctor > about tomorrow. > > * Going from hyper (thoughts racing) to crying for no reason. > > * Snapping at people > > * Yelling or saying stuff out load at innapropreate times. > > * Talking to myself when frustraited. > > * Thoughts or words that taunt me, make me feel like I want to hurt myself > > * Innability to sicuss my problems, I yell or am rude instead. > > *Innability to deal with coworker and her method of doing her job. (mind > you > the ignoring the 3 crying babies in favor of walking around with a 14month > old who just has to do a pretend whine (and yes i know the difference > between a pretend whine and a real cry) to get coworker to run (im not > joking or exaggerating) to her and carry her is not really a good thing > on coworker's part, but im sure my snaping at coworker isnt the best way > of > dealing wit the situation... and that was just what happend today) > > Gosh, i used to like my job. I still love what i do. I just dont like > where > im working, but I dont feel its really right to leave because coworker is > hard to deal with. However I am at a loss. I can talk to the psyc doc > tomorrow. Maby he has some insights or usefull suggestions. > > Chantelle > > > [-- > Weir > kawfolks@... > http://ca.geocities.com/weirfamilyrogers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2006 Report Share Posted March 21, 2006 GOod idea CHantelle to make a list; sometimes I forget things when I get to an appointment. Don't let him rush you; take the time you need to fully explain things. Let me know how it goes. > > i made a little list of things I wanted to talk to the psyc doctor > about tomorrow. > > * Going from hyper (thoughts racing) to crying for no reason. > > * Snapping at people > > * Yelling or saying stuff out load at innapropreate times. > > * Talking to myself when frustraited. > > * Thoughts or words that taunt me, make me feel like I want to hurt myself > > * Innability to sicuss my problems, I yell or am rude instead. > > *Innability to deal with coworker and her method of doing her job. (mind > you > the ignoring the 3 crying babies in favor of walking around with a 14month > old who just has to do a pretend whine (and yes i know the difference > between a pretend whine and a real cry) to get coworker to run (im not > joking or exaggerating) to her and carry her is not really a good thing > on coworker's part, but im sure my snaping at coworker isnt the best way > of > dealing wit the situation... and that was just what happend today) > > Gosh, i used to like my job. I still love what i do. I just dont like > where > im working, but I dont feel its really right to leave because coworker is > hard to deal with. However I am at a loss. I can talk to the psyc doc > tomorrow. Maby he has some insights or usefull suggestions. > > Chantelle > > > [-- > Weir > kawfolks@... > http://ca.geocities.com/weirfamilyrogers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2006 Report Share Posted March 21, 2006 Chantelle- I hope the dr has some useful solutions for you. I am amazed at your self-awareness. You have such a good handle on the situation as far as knowing what you are doing and what you want to change. So many people can't even get that far. I hope the dr helps. And, if so, let us know what it is that helps. Michele W mom to Aubrie 8 yrs CHARGE, 14 yrs and wife to DJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2006 Report Share Posted March 21, 2006 Chantelle- I hope the dr has some useful solutions for you. I am amazed at your self-awareness. You have such a good handle on the situation as far as knowing what you are doing and what you want to change. So many people can't even get that far. I hope the dr helps. And, if so, let us know what it is that helps. Michele W mom to Aubrie 8 yrs CHARGE, 14 yrs and wife to DJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2006 Report Share Posted March 21, 2006 Chantelle- I hope the dr has some useful solutions for you. I am amazed at your self-awareness. You have such a good handle on the situation as far as knowing what you are doing and what you want to change. So many people can't even get that far. I hope the dr helps. And, if so, let us know what it is that helps. Michele W mom to Aubrie 8 yrs CHARGE, 14 yrs and wife to DJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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