Re: Ok - when a guy says.../

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LOL! Problem is...I DIDN'T ASK!!! LOL!

But I know what you meen. My husband generaly refuses to answer

any " catch 22/female " questions. He goes silent. LOL

Ang

>

> > I love you JUST THE WAY YOU ARE, Your perfect for me, I love the

> way

> > you feel....yada, yada, yada. And then goes on to say BUT if you

> > feel like you need to loose wiegh I suport you 100%. Says - stay

> > away from the chocolate ect...

> >

> > Now - he said " I love you the way you are " ....I heard " yes, your

> fat,

> > don't eat that "

> >

> > Am I alone here or do any of you think the same thing along these

> > lines?

> >

> > Ang

>

> Hey Ang.

>

> OK, from the guys POV... it's a no win situation.

>

> Asking a guy about your weight is sort of like asking, " Do you

still

> beat your dog? " There's no good answer. If you ask, then do you

want

> the truth or what you want to hear? As a husband I love my wife

> anyway she is... but if she asks about something I'm going to tell

> the truth, as gently as possible, but I don't want to lie.

>

> Now in our situation it was the other way around... I was big,

she's

> a surfer... so I was the one being told I should lose weight for my

> health... and she waws right. I didn't resent it, I was just upset

> that I couldn't get up the gumption to use the discipline necessary

> to get my life right for her and the kids.

>

> As the former fat partner, I understand. But I also value the

> honesty. Ugly sometimes, but necessary for a good relationship.

>

> Good Luck.

>

> george