Re: An uncomfortable Moment

[Guest guest]

wow, that is sooo mean.

Tell Bob to take a hike!

you know, when i was thinner.........i almost felt bad for " heavier " people.

knowing i was doing it and feeling so good.

i almost wanted to run up to every large person and tell them how good weight

watchers is.

LOL

of course, I DIDNT DO THAT.

heck, now i have to even TELL MYSELF how good it is..since i have gained back 50

POUNDS

I'm proud of you mitch..and all your hard work is paying off so nicely.

one thing i also noticed is.........EVERYONE ...would comment on

" wow " you look good today.

i like your shirt, hair, shoes...jacket...earrings..whatever the comment would

be.

i almost felt so weird..becasue before..*as in now cuz weight is back*...i seem

invisible.

no one comments on my shirt...blah blah blah.

actually when i was getting all the comments...and it was MANY...in fact, toooo

many....that when people would say something to me...

i would privately think...*dont tick me off*...LOL...and *shud up*

LOL

see, they didnt see my " new " shirt or anything before......didnt have the time

of day for me....

soooooooooooooo right now, dont bother talking to me!!!!

Ohmy gosh, cant believe i just typed all this out.

LOL

A.

[Guest guest]

wow, that is sooo mean.

Tell Bob to take a hike!

you know, when i was thinner.........i almost felt bad for " heavier " people.

knowing i was doing it and feeling so good.

i almost wanted to run up to every large person and tell them how good weight

watchers is.

LOL

of course, I DIDNT DO THAT.

heck, now i have to even TELL MYSELF how good it is..since i have gained back 50

POUNDS

I'm proud of you mitch..and all your hard work is paying off so nicely.

one thing i also noticed is.........EVERYONE ...would comment on

" wow " you look good today.

i like your shirt, hair, shoes...jacket...earrings..whatever the comment would

be.

i almost felt so weird..becasue before..*as in now cuz weight is back*...i seem

invisible.

no one comments on my shirt...blah blah blah.

actually when i was getting all the comments...and it was MANY...in fact, toooo

many....that when people would say something to me...

i would privately think...*dont tick me off*...LOL...and *shud up*

LOL

see, they didnt see my " new " shirt or anything before......didnt have the time

of day for me....

soooooooooooooo right now, dont bother talking to me!!!!

Ohmy gosh, cant believe i just typed all this out.

LOL

A.

[Guest guest]

Now THAT is rude. I am amazed at how many people assume that overweight

people aren't aware that this is unhealthy. DUH... I KNOW it isn't good for

my body. I also KNOW that I need to lose weight. Sometimes it IS easy to

shut that part of the brain off - so I forget all of this, but it is still

lurking around in my brain somewhere....

I wonder... does smoke? Does he have any unhealthy habits that he can

be called on? (Okay, so that would resort to his level....) But that really

irks me.

> An uncomfortable Moment

>

>

> So, as I'm leaving the office yesterday, this real thin guy - call him

>

> - puts

> his arm around this really heavy-set guy - Bob - & then points

> to me.

>

> He says, " See that - what do your notice? "

>

> Bob says, " He's lost a lot of weight "

>

> says, " Take the hint. Its' healthy "

>

> Uncomfortable for Bob. Uncomfortable for me. I

>

> Mitch

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

> So, as I'm leaving the office yesterday, this real thin guy - call him

>

> - puts

> his arm around this really heavy-set guy - Bob - & then points

> to me.

>

> He says, " See that - what do your notice? "

>

> Bob says, " He's lost a lot of weight "

>

> says, " Take the hint. Its' healthy "

>

> Uncomfortable for Bob. Uncomfortable for me. I

Ouch!

I had a job a few months ago where I was leading a class of food stamp

recipients in how to use an electronic debit card to get their food

stamp benefits. A woman sat in the front row with her young daughter.

The little girl was squirming and fussing. The woman finally pointed at

me and said, " If you don't behave, that man is going to get you! "

I hated that. The little girl looked up at me, and I said, " Don't

worry, I would never even think about hurting you. " The mother glared

at me, but she had no right to use me in that way anyway.

--

Slainte,

S. Crawford

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Dean for America: http://www.deanforamerica.com

http://www.mossroot.com http://www.stonegoose.com

" It is only with our heart that we can see clearly. What is essential

is invisible to the eye. " --Antoine de Saint Exupery

[Guest guest]

> So, as I'm leaving the office yesterday, this real thin guy - call him

>

> - puts

> his arm around this really heavy-set guy - Bob - & then points

> to me.

>

> He says, " See that - what do your notice? "

>

> Bob says, " He's lost a lot of weight "

>

> says, " Take the hint. Its' healthy "

>

> Uncomfortable for Bob. Uncomfortable for me. I

Ouch!

I had a job a few months ago where I was leading a class of food stamp

recipients in how to use an electronic debit card to get their food

stamp benefits. A woman sat in the front row with her young daughter.

The little girl was squirming and fussing. The woman finally pointed at

me and said, " If you don't behave, that man is going to get you! "

I hated that. The little girl looked up at me, and I said, " Don't

worry, I would never even think about hurting you. " The mother glared

at me, but she had no right to use me in that way anyway.

--

Slainte,

S. Crawford

AIM: Buffalo2K / Y!: rscrawford / ICQ: 11640404

Dean for America: http://www.deanforamerica.com

http://www.mossroot.com http://www.stonegoose.com

" It is only with our heart that we can see clearly. What is essential

is invisible to the eye. " --Antoine de Saint Exupery

[Guest guest]

GOOD GRIEF!

where I work, you'd be dragged to human resources & shown the way

out. How Rude!!!

Bev

> So, as I'm leaving the office yesterday, this real thin guy - call

him

>

> - puts

> his arm around this really heavy-set guy - Bob - & then points

> to me.

>

> He says, " See that - what do your notice? "

>

> Bob says, " He's lost a lot of weight "

>

> says, " Take the hint. Its' healthy "

>

> Uncomfortable for Bob. Uncomfortable for me. I

>

> Mitch

[Guest guest]

>So, as I'm leaving the office yesterday, this real thin guy - call him

> - puts

>his arm around this really heavy-set guy - Bob - & then points

>to me.

[...]

>Uncomfortable for Bob. Uncomfortable for me. I

>Mitch

's a well-meaning goober. Poor Bob. Poor you.

What do the s of the world think? That Bob doesn't realize that he's

overweight? That he's going to say something like " Well gosh! I never

realized that. Thank-you for sharing your shining wisdom, . I owe my

life to you! "

Sheesh.

Using WW techniques... I visualize myself in Mitch's position. is

rude to me and Bob, and I say to .... what?

" Hey , that was really rude and none of your business. "

" What I've done isn't for everyone. "

What else?

Donna

Donna.Hrynkiw@...

Sept. 19: Talk Like a Pirate Day, matey!

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[Guest guest]

>one thing i also noticed is.........EVERYONE ...would comment on

> " wow " you look good today.

>i like your shirt, hair, shoes...jacket...earrings..whatever the comment

would

>be.

>i almost felt so weird..becasue before..*as in now cuz weight is

back*...i seem

>invisible.

>no one comments on my shirt...blah blah blah.

I can't comment on how it is for you, but when I was Big Donna I *wanted*

to be invisible. I dressed in nondescript or slightly shabby clothing,

careful not to choose anything that might attract attention. Jeans and

T-shirts were my uniform. (Now I sometimes even wear dresses to work --

for no special reason, just because I want to!) My posture, my behaviour,

my choices -- all (unconsciously) directed toward not drawing attention to

myself.

>actually when i was getting all the comments...and it was MANY...in fact,

toooo

>many....that when people would say something to me...

>i would privately think...*dont tick me off*...LOL...and *shud up*

>LOL

>see, they didnt see my " new " shirt or anything before......didnt have the

time

>of day for me....

>A.

Try this view -- they were trying to compliment you without drawing

attention to the weight you'd lost. Now they refrain from complimenting

you because that would draw attention to the weight you've gained back.

When my weight loss started becoming visible, I didn't want people to

notice or comment. Don't get me wrong, it was a huge pleasure to receive

compliments, but I didn't want to become dependant on them. I didn't want

to miss them when they stopped (because people were becoming used to

having Slender Donna around). You don't hear slender people receiving

compliments for losing weight, do you?

This whole process is a tremendously personal one. Maybe that's why

's comments (from Mitch's posting) came across as so rude. He was

intruding on both Bob's and Mitch's intensely personal spaces with a few

really clumsy words.

Donna

Donna.Hrynkiw@...

Sept. 19: Talk Like a Pirate Day, matey!

http://www.talklikeapirate.com/piratehome.html

[Guest guest]

>one thing i also noticed is.........EVERYONE ...would comment on

> " wow " you look good today.

>i like your shirt, hair, shoes...jacket...earrings..whatever the comment

would

>be.

>i almost felt so weird..becasue before..*as in now cuz weight is

back*...i seem

>invisible.

>no one comments on my shirt...blah blah blah.

I can't comment on how it is for you, but when I was Big Donna I *wanted*

to be invisible. I dressed in nondescript or slightly shabby clothing,

careful not to choose anything that might attract attention. Jeans and

T-shirts were my uniform. (Now I sometimes even wear dresses to work --

for no special reason, just because I want to!) My posture, my behaviour,

my choices -- all (unconsciously) directed toward not drawing attention to

myself.

>actually when i was getting all the comments...and it was MANY...in fact,

toooo

>many....that when people would say something to me...

>i would privately think...*dont tick me off*...LOL...and *shud up*

>LOL

>see, they didnt see my " new " shirt or anything before......didnt have the

time

>of day for me....

>A.

Try this view -- they were trying to compliment you without drawing

attention to the weight you'd lost. Now they refrain from complimenting

you because that would draw attention to the weight you've gained back.

When my weight loss started becoming visible, I didn't want people to

notice or comment. Don't get me wrong, it was a huge pleasure to receive

compliments, but I didn't want to become dependant on them. I didn't want

to miss them when they stopped (because people were becoming used to

having Slender Donna around). You don't hear slender people receiving

compliments for losing weight, do you?

This whole process is a tremendously personal one. Maybe that's why

's comments (from Mitch's posting) came across as so rude. He was

intruding on both Bob's and Mitch's intensely personal spaces with a few

really clumsy words.

Donna

Donna.Hrynkiw@...

Sept. 19: Talk Like a Pirate Day, matey!

http://www.talklikeapirate.com/piratehome.html

[Guest guest]

And we wonder why there is so much workplace violence! It's like a junior

high! I can't imagine saying things like that to someone. Especially a

business man saying this.

And that poor heavy man, I am sure it just really crushed him and did

nothing to move him any closer to weight loss.

Moe

An uncomfortable Moment

> So, as I'm leaving the office yesterday, this real thin guy - call him

>

> - puts

> his arm around this really heavy-set guy - Bob - & then points

> to me.

>

> He says, " See that - what do your notice? "

>

> Bob says, " He's lost a lot of weight "

>

> says, " Take the hint. Its' healthy "

>

> Uncomfortable for Bob. Uncomfortable for me. I

>

> Mitch

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

And we wonder why there is so much workplace violence! It's like a junior

high! I can't imagine saying things like that to someone. Especially a

business man saying this.

And that poor heavy man, I am sure it just really crushed him and did

nothing to move him any closer to weight loss.

Moe

An uncomfortable Moment

> So, as I'm leaving the office yesterday, this real thin guy - call him

>

> - puts

> his arm around this really heavy-set guy - Bob - & then points

> to me.

>

> He says, " See that - what do your notice? "

>

> Bob says, " He's lost a lot of weight "

>

> says, " Take the hint. Its' healthy "

>

> Uncomfortable for Bob. Uncomfortable for me. I

>

> Mitch

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Gah! What an insensitive goober head!!! Who made him king of the world, eh?

You're just being put through the ringer right now, aren't you Mitch?

An uncomfortable Moment

So, as I'm leaving the office yesterday, this real thin guy - call him

- puts

his arm around this really heavy-set guy - Bob - & then points

to me.

He says, " See that - what do your notice? "

Bob says, " He's lost a lot of weight "

says, " Take the hint. Its' healthy "

Uncomfortable for Bob. Uncomfortable for me. I

Mitch

[Guest guest]

Gah! What an insensitive goober head!!! Who made him king of the world, eh?

You're just being put through the ringer right now, aren't you Mitch?

An uncomfortable Moment

So, as I'm leaving the office yesterday, this real thin guy - call him

- puts

his arm around this really heavy-set guy - Bob - & then points

to me.

He says, " See that - what do your notice? "

Bob says, " He's lost a lot of weight "

says, " Take the hint. Its' healthy "

Uncomfortable for Bob. Uncomfortable for me. I

Mitch

[Guest guest]

Gah! What an insensitive goober head!!! Who made him king of the world, eh?

You're just being put through the ringer right now, aren't you Mitch?

An uncomfortable Moment

So, as I'm leaving the office yesterday, this real thin guy - call him

- puts

his arm around this really heavy-set guy - Bob - & then points

to me.

He says, " See that - what do your notice? "

Bob says, " He's lost a lot of weight "

says, " Take the hint. Its' healthy "

Uncomfortable for Bob. Uncomfortable for me. I

Mitch

[Guest guest]

Wow, what a jerk. I bet that REALLY hurt Bob. Can you imagine how it would

have felt if he'd said that to you a few years ago. Would you feel

comfortable talking to Bob about it? Just saying " Man, I am so so sorry. I

never would have thought he'd say something like that in a million years and

I just want you to know that I feel really awful about it. "

~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'

Tory Klementsen, MCP A+

Career and Technology Educator

www.teechur.com

www.msteechur.com

-The successful person will do the things that the unsuccessful person will

not.

> An uncomfortable Moment

>

>

> So, as I'm leaving the office yesterday, this real thin guy - call him

>

> - puts

> his arm around this really heavy-set guy - Bob - & then points

> to me.

>

> He says, " See that - what do your notice? "

>

> Bob says, " He's lost a lot of weight "

>

> says, " Take the hint. Its' healthy "

>

> Uncomfortable for Bob. Uncomfortable for me. I

>

> Mitch

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Wow, what a jerk. I bet that REALLY hurt Bob. Can you imagine how it would

have felt if he'd said that to you a few years ago. Would you feel

comfortable talking to Bob about it? Just saying " Man, I am so so sorry. I

never would have thought he'd say something like that in a million years and

I just want you to know that I feel really awful about it. "

~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'

Tory Klementsen, MCP A+

Career and Technology Educator

www.teechur.com

www.msteechur.com

-The successful person will do the things that the unsuccessful person will

not.

> An uncomfortable Moment

>

>

> So, as I'm leaving the office yesterday, this real thin guy - call him

>

> - puts

> his arm around this really heavy-set guy - Bob - & then points

> to me.

>

> He says, " See that - what do your notice? "

>

> Bob says, " He's lost a lot of weight "

>

> says, " Take the hint. Its' healthy "

>

> Uncomfortable for Bob. Uncomfortable for me. I

>

> Mitch

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Wow, what a jerk. I bet that REALLY hurt Bob. Can you imagine how it would

have felt if he'd said that to you a few years ago. Would you feel

comfortable talking to Bob about it? Just saying " Man, I am so so sorry. I

never would have thought he'd say something like that in a million years and

I just want you to know that I feel really awful about it. "

~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'

Tory Klementsen, MCP A+

Career and Technology Educator

www.teechur.com

www.msteechur.com

-The successful person will do the things that the unsuccessful person will

not.

> An uncomfortable Moment

>

>

> So, as I'm leaving the office yesterday, this real thin guy - call him

>

> - puts

> his arm around this really heavy-set guy - Bob - & then points

> to me.

>

> He says, " See that - what do your notice? "

>

> Bob says, " He's lost a lot of weight "

>

> says, " Take the hint. Its' healthy "

>

> Uncomfortable for Bob. Uncomfortable for me. I

>

> Mitch

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

>

> i almost felt so weird..becasue before..*as in now cuz weight is

> back*...i seem invisible.

> no one comments on my shirt...blah blah blah.

>

> actually when i was getting all the comments...and it was

> MANY...in fact, toooo many....that when people would say

> something to me...

> i would privately think...*dont tick me off*...LOL...and *shud up*

> LOL

> see, they didnt see my " new " shirt or anything before......didnt

> have the time of day for me....

> soooooooooooooo right now, dont bother talking to me!!!!

>

Oh my gosh Arlene, I know EXACTLY how you feel. Most people were fine. I

work with professionals and most of them were great. But there were a

few...like one time at a staff dinner we had I sat down across from two sets

of couples and said hi. I smiled at them, introduced my husband, and for the

first time since high school noticed this look of " Why is SHE sitting here? "

in their eyes. They politely, but obviously without any sense of kindness

said hello back, then turned and talked to each other throughout the meal.

If I tried to join the conversation (since we were talking shop) they'd

either give one word answers or ignore me. It made me realize that one had

actually been treating me like a second citizen for awhile, despite my

offering as much support and help as I could to her (she was a new teacher

that year).

When I returned to work last Fall after one had been on maternity leave for

awhile, she came running up to me gushing about how good I looked and how

awesome it was that I'd lost weight. Suddenly I guess I looked good enough

to be " in. " (She's probably 12 or so years younger than I am, and still very

much in " high school " mode.) I just looked at her, smiled sweetly, answered

her question and turned around and walked off. I just wanted to say, " You

know what? You should have been nicer to me when I was fat because I was a

MUCH nicer person then. Now you can bite me. "

Sad to say, I've also noticed this same thing with my younger sister and

brother. BEfore I wasn't ever invited to their activities when they lived

here, nor if I was visiting there and they were having something like a

party with friends. Now I am. Coincidence? I've chosen, because I love them

both very much, to believe that it is...but deep inside I know that it has a

lot to do with how I look. Now I am no longer the fat ugly sister. In fact,

I'm the thinnest one (which amazes us all). Now I'm acceptable enough. Oh,

and suddenly Mom's taking pictures more too. She NEVER had pictures of me

up. I'm serious. If you walk into her house you see dozens of pictures of

the other siblings and the grandchildren. There was one tiny, wallet-sized

picture of Roy and I at the prom (when we chaperoned) that that's it,

despite us sending pictures. Suddenly now there are more pictures.

Coincidence? AGain, I think not.

[Guest guest]

>

> i almost felt so weird..becasue before..*as in now cuz weight is

> back*...i seem invisible.

> no one comments on my shirt...blah blah blah.

>

> actually when i was getting all the comments...and it was

> MANY...in fact, toooo many....that when people would say

> something to me...

> i would privately think...*dont tick me off*...LOL...and *shud up*

> LOL

> see, they didnt see my " new " shirt or anything before......didnt

> have the time of day for me....

> soooooooooooooo right now, dont bother talking to me!!!!

>

Oh my gosh Arlene, I know EXACTLY how you feel. Most people were fine. I

work with professionals and most of them were great. But there were a

few...like one time at a staff dinner we had I sat down across from two sets

of couples and said hi. I smiled at them, introduced my husband, and for the

first time since high school noticed this look of " Why is SHE sitting here? "

in their eyes. They politely, but obviously without any sense of kindness

said hello back, then turned and talked to each other throughout the meal.

If I tried to join the conversation (since we were talking shop) they'd

either give one word answers or ignore me. It made me realize that one had

actually been treating me like a second citizen for awhile, despite my

offering as much support and help as I could to her (she was a new teacher

that year).

When I returned to work last Fall after one had been on maternity leave for

awhile, she came running up to me gushing about how good I looked and how

awesome it was that I'd lost weight. Suddenly I guess I looked good enough

to be " in. " (She's probably 12 or so years younger than I am, and still very

much in " high school " mode.) I just looked at her, smiled sweetly, answered

her question and turned around and walked off. I just wanted to say, " You

know what? You should have been nicer to me when I was fat because I was a

MUCH nicer person then. Now you can bite me. "

Sad to say, I've also noticed this same thing with my younger sister and

brother. BEfore I wasn't ever invited to their activities when they lived

here, nor if I was visiting there and they were having something like a

party with friends. Now I am. Coincidence? I've chosen, because I love them

both very much, to believe that it is...but deep inside I know that it has a

lot to do with how I look. Now I am no longer the fat ugly sister. In fact,

I'm the thinnest one (which amazes us all). Now I'm acceptable enough. Oh,

and suddenly Mom's taking pictures more too. She NEVER had pictures of me

up. I'm serious. If you walk into her house you see dozens of pictures of

the other siblings and the grandchildren. There was one tiny, wallet-sized

picture of Roy and I at the prom (when we chaperoned) that that's it,

despite us sending pictures. Suddenly now there are more pictures.

Coincidence? AGain, I think not.

[Guest guest]

>

> i almost felt so weird..becasue before..*as in now cuz weight is

> back*...i seem invisible.

> no one comments on my shirt...blah blah blah.

>

> actually when i was getting all the comments...and it was

> MANY...in fact, toooo many....that when people would say

> something to me...

> i would privately think...*dont tick me off*...LOL...and *shud up*

> LOL

> see, they didnt see my " new " shirt or anything before......didnt

> have the time of day for me....

> soooooooooooooo right now, dont bother talking to me!!!!

>

Oh my gosh Arlene, I know EXACTLY how you feel. Most people were fine. I

work with professionals and most of them were great. But there were a

few...like one time at a staff dinner we had I sat down across from two sets

of couples and said hi. I smiled at them, introduced my husband, and for the

first time since high school noticed this look of " Why is SHE sitting here? "

in their eyes. They politely, but obviously without any sense of kindness

said hello back, then turned and talked to each other throughout the meal.

If I tried to join the conversation (since we were talking shop) they'd

either give one word answers or ignore me. It made me realize that one had

actually been treating me like a second citizen for awhile, despite my

offering as much support and help as I could to her (she was a new teacher

that year).

When I returned to work last Fall after one had been on maternity leave for

awhile, she came running up to me gushing about how good I looked and how

awesome it was that I'd lost weight. Suddenly I guess I looked good enough

to be " in. " (She's probably 12 or so years younger than I am, and still very

much in " high school " mode.) I just looked at her, smiled sweetly, answered

her question and turned around and walked off. I just wanted to say, " You

know what? You should have been nicer to me when I was fat because I was a

MUCH nicer person then. Now you can bite me. "

Sad to say, I've also noticed this same thing with my younger sister and

brother. BEfore I wasn't ever invited to their activities when they lived

here, nor if I was visiting there and they were having something like a

party with friends. Now I am. Coincidence? I've chosen, because I love them

both very much, to believe that it is...but deep inside I know that it has a

lot to do with how I look. Now I am no longer the fat ugly sister. In fact,

I'm the thinnest one (which amazes us all). Now I'm acceptable enough. Oh,

and suddenly Mom's taking pictures more too. She NEVER had pictures of me

up. I'm serious. If you walk into her house you see dozens of pictures of

the other siblings and the grandchildren. There was one tiny, wallet-sized

picture of Roy and I at the prom (when we chaperoned) that that's it,

despite us sending pictures. Suddenly now there are more pictures.

Coincidence? AGain, I think not.

[Guest guest]

said: " Let it go. No offense, but I have had the same experiences. I

have found that dwelling on it doesn't help matters. "

.....I don't know that they're dwelling on it, but sharing like experiences.

I call it support.

ly, it hurts. I experience it still. I just hit 198.6 last night at

weigh-in, have lost 65.8 pounds, but I still get the " look " from people (because

I'm still " fat. " ) ly, it hurts and it sucks. I am a wonderful person, but

I can guarantee you that many people only see fat. I receive contemptuous looks

every day. I ran in to my same-aged, thin neighbor at Subway. Instead of saying

hello, she said to me, " I'm glad to see you eating at Subway, it's healthy. "

HUH? Whatever happened to, " Hi, Lyn, how are you...good, Sue, how are

you! " ...not that %#@#ing contemptuous " it's healthy BS. "

I'm not dwelling on it, it's a painful fact of life. Maybe I'm immature, but I

know when I get " there " (goal) and I get treated better by certain people (I

know there will be a few,) I'm going to tell them to take a flying leap. With

weight loss brings confidence, and I have no tolerance for idiots. And in my

case, that includes a brother that has treated me, and my 2 overweight sisters,

like crap for years. Until I get the apology I deserve (and my sisters) I have

no time for him. I deserve better.

I will state that being overweight, we get to see the true character of people.

It shines through. And I guarantee you, I currently, and in the future, will

avoid those people like the plague...because they are not deserving of my

acquaintanceship, friendship, etc. Like Tory said...say your hello, be civil,

and be on your way. Self-respect is everything.

Lyn

in a bad mood today and on her soapbox lol

RE: An uncomfortable Moment

Let it go. No offense, but I have had the same experiences. I have found

that dwelling on it doesn't help matters.

" It's allright now,

I've learned my lesson well.

You see you can't please everyone,

So you've got to please yourself. "

[Guest guest]

> Let it go. No offense, but I have had the same experiences. I

> have found that dwelling on it doesn't help matters.

That's easier said than done, especially when you're dealing with family. I

also tend to believe that for me, I need to hang on to things for awhile in

order to work through them. I'm not bitter and I'm not angry, but at the

same time I'm not going to say " Oh, it's okay for you to treat me like

garbage. By all means. Have at me again. "

As an adult I have the right to set limits on how people treat me and what I

will and will not accept in my life. I will not accept someone deciding to

degrade me based on how I look, period. I also have a bit of an issue with

the " get over it " thing. I'm not sitting home pining away 'cause mommy

didn't buy me that pony when I turned 12. I'm sharing an experience I've had

with another person. I'll get over it when I'm ready to...but in the

meantime I won't let it consume me.

Like I said, I'm not bitter. I'm not angry. I'm more disappointed that I

have people in my life who are so shallow that my worth to them goes up or

down based on the numbers on my scale. I don't define myself that way, of

course. I'm stronger than that. But it still stings a little that others do

define me by my weight.

[Guest guest]

I overheard a great comment someone made at Trader Joes- Friends are God's

way of saying 'sorry about your family'.

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RE: An uncomfortable Moment

> Let it go. No offense, but I have had the same experiences. I

> have found that dwelling on it doesn't help matters.

That's easier said than done, especially when you're dealing with family. I

also tend to believe that for me, I need to hang on to things for awhile in

order to work through them. I'm not bitter and I'm not angry, but at the

same time I'm not going to say " Oh, it's okay for you to treat me like

garbage. By all means. Have at me again. "

As an adult I have the right to set limits on how people treat me and what I

will and will not accept in my life. I will not accept someone deciding to

degrade me based on how I look, period. I also have a bit of an issue with

the " get over it " thing. I'm not sitting home pining away 'cause mommy

didn't buy me that pony when I turned 12. I'm sharing an experience I've had

with another person. I'll get over it when I'm ready to...but in the

meantime I won't let it consume me.

Like I said, I'm not bitter. I'm not angry. I'm more disappointed that I

have people in my life who are so shallow that my worth to them goes up or

down based on the numbers on my scale. I don't define myself that way, of

course. I'm stronger than that. But it still stings a little that others do

define me by my weight.

[Guest guest]

Okay, I love that...I have to keep that one. Thank you. LOL!

~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'

Tory Klementsen, MCP A+

Career and Technology Educator

www.teechur.com

www.msteechur.com

-The successful person will do the things that the unsuccessful person will

not.

> Re: An uncomfortable Moment

>

>

> I overheard a great comment someone made at Trader Joes-

> Friends are God's way of saying 'sorry about your family'.

> ..................................................................

> ...................................

>

> RE: An uncomfortable Moment

>

>

> > Let it go. No offense, but I have had the same experiences. I

> > have found that dwelling on it doesn't help matters.

>

> That's easier said than done, especially when you're dealing

> with family. I

> also tend to believe that for me, I need to hang on to things

> for awhile in

> order to work through them. I'm not bitter and I'm not angry, but at the

> same time I'm not going to say " Oh, it's okay for you to treat me like

> garbage. By all means. Have at me again. "

>

> As an adult I have the right to set limits on how people treat

> me and what I

> will and will not accept in my life. I will not accept someone

> deciding to

> degrade me based on how I look, period. I also have a bit of an

> issue with

> the " get over it " thing. I'm not sitting home pining away 'cause mommy

> didn't buy me that pony when I turned 12. I'm sharing an

> experience I've had

> with another person. I'll get over it when I'm ready to...but in the

> meantime I won't let it consume me.

>

> Like I said, I'm not bitter. I'm not angry. I'm more disappointed that I

> have people in my life who are so shallow that my worth to them

> goes up or

> down based on the numbers on my scale. I don't define myself

> that way, of

> course. I'm stronger than that. But it still stings a little

> that others do

> define me by my weight.

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

sooo kewl.

i love that saying too~!!

and tory, thankyou also for your sharing your experience, its nice to know i am

not the only one that feels/felt that way

ARlene

I overheard a great comment someone made at Trader Joes- Friends are God's

way of saying 'sorry about your family'.