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,

I am still cleaning out my e-mail and am down to 245 from about 900 after our

trip and a few days off here. I just read your post. Yes, Patty was loctose

intolerant when she was a baby. She was so bad it took months to find

something she could tolerate. And then it was a formula that was new and only

attained by prescription and was expensive. We didn't have the money for it so

our

doctor used to get tons and give it to me almost free. I forget what the

name was but that was 20 years ago and I am sure there are even better things

out

there now.

It took forever to get that " failure to thrive " label of her. She started

eating bread and cookies around the age of about a year but we had to be

careful. She would get horrible diarahaea. It was a slow and steady thing. By

the

age of 2 she was doing better and we added other things. By the age of 7 she

was still on a watchful diet but not as intense. As she grew her body

accepted more and more. She started ice cream but would only have that on

Fridays

(to get through the weekend). She even had 1% milk in her cereal.

Once we had control of her bowels (yea and then there was the constipation

thing) she also had to drink ensure. She loved it but could only have it twice

a week. We spent years and years trying desperately to put weight on her.

Now that she's an adult things have gone the other way.

To supplement her as a child we gave her crushed calcium that I put in jelly

and/or something she couldn't spit out. That was horrible because she refused

to take it. She could hold that in her mouth for an hour! Finally I gave up

because the battle was worse than the reason to have it.

When she could take acidic drinks and foods I fortified her with orange juice

with calcium etc. She also takes tums with calcium. Along with that she

continues to take calcium every day.

Patty still doesn't drink milk and every now and then she gets whacked if she

eats too much ice cream or things that have milk in them.

Now, please whatever you do don't wait 24 years to go away with your husband

like I did. It was better than anything I could have ever dreamed of. I

wished I did it a long time ago. Everyone needs a break.

That time off for the two of us alone was in your words, awesome!

Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

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ay bonnie you know theres to bonnies in here lol

>

> ,

>

> I am still cleaning out my e-mail and am down to 245 from about 900 after

> our

> trip and a few days off here. I just read your post. Yes, Patty was

> loctose

> intolerant when she was a baby. She was so bad it took months to find

> something she could tolerate. And then it was a formula that was new and

> only

> attained by prescription and was expensive. We didn't have the money for

> it so our

> doctor used to get tons and give it to me almost free. I forget what the

> name was but that was 20 years ago and I am sure there are even better

> things out

> there now.

>

> It took forever to get that " failure to thrive " label of her. She started

> eating bread and cookies around the age of about a year but we had to be

> careful. She would get horrible diarahaea. It was a slow and steady

> thing. By the

> age of 2 she was doing better and we added other things. By the age of 7

> she

> was still on a watchful diet but not as intense. As she grew her body

> accepted more and more. She started ice cream but would only have that on

> Fridays

> (to get through the weekend). She even had 1% milk in her cereal.

>

> Once we had control of her bowels (yea and then there was the constipation

> thing) she also had to drink ensure. She loved it but could only have it

> twice

> a week. We spent years and years trying desperately to put weight on

> her.

> Now that she's an adult things have gone the other way.

>

> To supplement her as a child we gave her crushed calcium that I put in

> jelly

> and/or something she couldn't spit out. That was horrible because she

> refused

> to take it. She could hold that in her mouth for an hour! Finally I gave

> up

> because the battle was worse than the reason to have it.

>

> When she could take acidic drinks and foods I fortified her with orange

> juice

> with calcium etc. She also takes tums with calcium. Along with that she

> continues to take calcium every day.

>

> Patty still doesn't drink milk and every now and then she gets whacked if

> she

> eats too much ice cream or things that have milk in them.

>

> Now, please whatever you do don't wait 24 years to go away with your

> husband

> like I did. It was better than anything I could have ever dreamed of. I

> wished I did it a long time ago. Everyone needs a break.

>

> That time off for the two of us alone was in your words, awesome!

>

>

>

> Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

>

>

>

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ay bonnie you know theres to bonnies in here lol

>

> ,

>

> I am still cleaning out my e-mail and am down to 245 from about 900 after

> our

> trip and a few days off here. I just read your post. Yes, Patty was

> loctose

> intolerant when she was a baby. She was so bad it took months to find

> something she could tolerate. And then it was a formula that was new and

> only

> attained by prescription and was expensive. We didn't have the money for

> it so our

> doctor used to get tons and give it to me almost free. I forget what the

> name was but that was 20 years ago and I am sure there are even better

> things out

> there now.

>

> It took forever to get that " failure to thrive " label of her. She started

> eating bread and cookies around the age of about a year but we had to be

> careful. She would get horrible diarahaea. It was a slow and steady

> thing. By the

> age of 2 she was doing better and we added other things. By the age of 7

> she

> was still on a watchful diet but not as intense. As she grew her body

> accepted more and more. She started ice cream but would only have that on

> Fridays

> (to get through the weekend). She even had 1% milk in her cereal.

>

> Once we had control of her bowels (yea and then there was the constipation

> thing) she also had to drink ensure. She loved it but could only have it

> twice

> a week. We spent years and years trying desperately to put weight on

> her.

> Now that she's an adult things have gone the other way.

>

> To supplement her as a child we gave her crushed calcium that I put in

> jelly

> and/or something she couldn't spit out. That was horrible because she

> refused

> to take it. She could hold that in her mouth for an hour! Finally I gave

> up

> because the battle was worse than the reason to have it.

>

> When she could take acidic drinks and foods I fortified her with orange

> juice

> with calcium etc. She also takes tums with calcium. Along with that she

> continues to take calcium every day.

>

> Patty still doesn't drink milk and every now and then she gets whacked if

> she

> eats too much ice cream or things that have milk in them.

>

> Now, please whatever you do don't wait 24 years to go away with your

> husband

> like I did. It was better than anything I could have ever dreamed of. I

> wished I did it a long time ago. Everyone needs a break.

>

> That time off for the two of us alone was in your words, awesome!

>

>

>

> Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

>

>

>

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Ellen,

Yes, I just read last night that there's another Bonnie on this list. It is

not a name that I run into.

Hey Bonnie from South Africa-nice to see of another one! Welcome to the list.

Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

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Yeah the one from South Africa...

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ay bonnie you know theres to bonnies in here lol

>

> ,

>

> I am still cleaning out my e-mail and am down to 245 from about 900 after

> our

> trip and a few days off here. I just read your post. Yes, Patty was

> loctose

> intolerant when she was a baby. She was so bad it took months to find

> something she could tolerate. And then it was a formula that was new and

> only

> attained by prescription and was expensive. We didn't have the money for

> it so our

> doctor used to get tons and give it to me almost free. I forget what the

> name was but that was 20 years ago and I am sure there are even better

> things out

> there now.

>

> It took forever to get that " failure to thrive " label of her. She started

> eating bread and cookies around the age of about a year but we had to be

> careful. She would get horrible diarahaea. It was a slow and steady

> thing. By the

> age of 2 she was doing better and we added other things. By the age of 7

> she

> was still on a watchful diet but not as intense. As she grew her body

> accepted more and more. She started ice cream but would only have that on

> Fridays

> (to get through the weekend). She even had 1% milk in her cereal.

>

> Once we had control of her bowels (yea and then there was the constipation

> thing) she also had to drink ensure. She loved it but could only have it

> twice

> a week. We spent years and years trying desperately to put weight on

> her.

> Now that she's an adult things have gone the other way.

>

> To supplement her as a child we gave her crushed calcium that I put in

> jelly

> and/or something she couldn't spit out. That was horrible because she

> refused

> to take it. She could hold that in her mouth for an hour! Finally I gave

> up

> because the battle was worse than the reason to have it.

>

> When she could take acidic drinks and foods I fortified her with orange

> juice

> with calcium etc. She also takes tums with calcium. Along with that she

> continues to take calcium every day.

>

> Patty still doesn't drink milk and every now and then she gets whacked if

> she

> eats too much ice cream or things that have milk in them.

>

> Now, please whatever you do don't wait 24 years to go away with your

> husband

> like I did. It was better than anything I could have ever dreamed of. I

> wished I did it a long time ago. Everyone needs a break.

>

> That time off for the two of us alone was in your words, awesome!

>

>

>

> Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

>

>

>

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Ellen,

Yes, I just read last night that there's another Bonnie on this list. It is

not a name that I run into.

Hey Bonnie from South Africa-nice to see of another one! Welcome to the

list.

Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

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Bonnie, Was Patty ever tube fed? I struggle to keep weight on Carmen

too. She's never been tube fed and I'm struggling with whether she'll

outgrow some of her swallowing struggles or need the g tube before

then. She's 20 months old and I'm thinking if we can just keep going

without it (we have the trach, so I'm trying to keep only one man made

stoma for now). She gains about 1/4 pound per month but is below the

5th percentile--she follows the curve but is just way below it.

>

> ,

>

> I am still cleaning out my e-mail and am down to 245 from about 900

after our

> trip and a few days off here. I just read your post. Yes, Patty

was loctose

> intolerant when she was a baby. She was so bad it took months to find

> something she could tolerate. And then it was a formula that was

new and only

> attained by prescription and was expensive. We didn't have the

money for it so our

> doctor used to get tons and give it to me almost free. I forget

what the

> name was but that was 20 years ago and I am sure there are even

better things out

> there now.

>

> It took forever to get that " failure to thrive " label of her. She

started

> eating bread and cookies around the age of about a year but we had

to be

> careful. She would get horrible diarahaea. It was a slow and

steady thing. By the

> age of 2 she was doing better and we added other things. By the age

of 7 she

> was still on a watchful diet but not as intense. As she grew her body

> accepted more and more. She started ice cream but would only have

that on Fridays

> (to get through the weekend). She even had 1% milk in her cereal.

>

> Once we had control of her bowels (yea and then there was the

constipation

> thing) she also had to drink ensure. She loved it but could only

have it twice

> a week. We spent years and years trying desperately to put weight

on her.

> Now that she's an adult things have gone the other way.

>

> To supplement her as a child we gave her crushed calcium that I put

in jelly

> and/or something she couldn't spit out. That was horrible because

she refused

> to take it. She could hold that in her mouth for an hour! Finally I

gave up

> because the battle was worse than the reason to have it.

>

> When she could take acidic drinks and foods I fortified her with

orange juice

> with calcium etc. She also takes tums with calcium. Along with

that she

> continues to take calcium every day.

>

> Patty still doesn't drink milk and every now and then she gets

whacked if she

> eats too much ice cream or things that have milk in them.

>

> Now, please whatever you do don't wait 24 years to go away with your

husband

> like I did. It was better than anything I could have ever dreamed

of. I

> wished I did it a long time ago. Everyone needs a break.

>

> That time off for the two of us alone was in your words, awesome!

>

>

>

> Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

>

>

>

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Bonnie, Was Patty ever tube fed? I struggle to keep weight on Carmen

too. She's never been tube fed and I'm struggling with whether she'll

outgrow some of her swallowing struggles or need the g tube before

then. She's 20 months old and I'm thinking if we can just keep going

without it (we have the trach, so I'm trying to keep only one man made

stoma for now). She gains about 1/4 pound per month but is below the

5th percentile--she follows the curve but is just way below it.

>

> ,

>

> I am still cleaning out my e-mail and am down to 245 from about 900

after our

> trip and a few days off here. I just read your post. Yes, Patty

was loctose

> intolerant when she was a baby. She was so bad it took months to find

> something she could tolerate. And then it was a formula that was

new and only

> attained by prescription and was expensive. We didn't have the

money for it so our

> doctor used to get tons and give it to me almost free. I forget

what the

> name was but that was 20 years ago and I am sure there are even

better things out

> there now.

>

> It took forever to get that " failure to thrive " label of her. She

started

> eating bread and cookies around the age of about a year but we had

to be

> careful. She would get horrible diarahaea. It was a slow and

steady thing. By the

> age of 2 she was doing better and we added other things. By the age

of 7 she

> was still on a watchful diet but not as intense. As she grew her body

> accepted more and more. She started ice cream but would only have

that on Fridays

> (to get through the weekend). She even had 1% milk in her cereal.

>

> Once we had control of her bowels (yea and then there was the

constipation

> thing) she also had to drink ensure. She loved it but could only

have it twice

> a week. We spent years and years trying desperately to put weight

on her.

> Now that she's an adult things have gone the other way.

>

> To supplement her as a child we gave her crushed calcium that I put

in jelly

> and/or something she couldn't spit out. That was horrible because

she refused

> to take it. She could hold that in her mouth for an hour! Finally I

gave up

> because the battle was worse than the reason to have it.

>

> When she could take acidic drinks and foods I fortified her with

orange juice

> with calcium etc. She also takes tums with calcium. Along with

that she

> continues to take calcium every day.

>

> Patty still doesn't drink milk and every now and then she gets

whacked if she

> eats too much ice cream or things that have milk in them.

>

> Now, please whatever you do don't wait 24 years to go away with your

husband

> like I did. It was better than anything I could have ever dreamed

of. I

> wished I did it a long time ago. Everyone needs a break.

>

> That time off for the two of us alone was in your words, awesome!

>

>

>

> Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

>

>

>

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Bonnie, Was Patty ever tube fed? I struggle to keep weight on Carmen

too. She's never been tube fed and I'm struggling with whether she'll

outgrow some of her swallowing struggles or need the g tube before

then. She's 20 months old and I'm thinking if we can just keep going

without it (we have the trach, so I'm trying to keep only one man made

stoma for now). She gains about 1/4 pound per month but is below the

5th percentile--she follows the curve but is just way below it.

>

> ,

>

> I am still cleaning out my e-mail and am down to 245 from about 900

after our

> trip and a few days off here. I just read your post. Yes, Patty

was loctose

> intolerant when she was a baby. She was so bad it took months to find

> something she could tolerate. And then it was a formula that was

new and only

> attained by prescription and was expensive. We didn't have the

money for it so our

> doctor used to get tons and give it to me almost free. I forget

what the

> name was but that was 20 years ago and I am sure there are even

better things out

> there now.

>

> It took forever to get that " failure to thrive " label of her. She

started

> eating bread and cookies around the age of about a year but we had

to be

> careful. She would get horrible diarahaea. It was a slow and

steady thing. By the

> age of 2 she was doing better and we added other things. By the age

of 7 she

> was still on a watchful diet but not as intense. As she grew her body

> accepted more and more. She started ice cream but would only have

that on Fridays

> (to get through the weekend). She even had 1% milk in her cereal.

>

> Once we had control of her bowels (yea and then there was the

constipation

> thing) she also had to drink ensure. She loved it but could only

have it twice

> a week. We spent years and years trying desperately to put weight

on her.

> Now that she's an adult things have gone the other way.

>

> To supplement her as a child we gave her crushed calcium that I put

in jelly

> and/or something she couldn't spit out. That was horrible because

she refused

> to take it. She could hold that in her mouth for an hour! Finally I

gave up

> because the battle was worse than the reason to have it.

>

> When she could take acidic drinks and foods I fortified her with

orange juice

> with calcium etc. She also takes tums with calcium. Along with

that she

> continues to take calcium every day.

>

> Patty still doesn't drink milk and every now and then she gets

whacked if she

> eats too much ice cream or things that have milk in them.

>

> Now, please whatever you do don't wait 24 years to go away with your

husband

> like I did. It was better than anything I could have ever dreamed

of. I

> wished I did it a long time ago. Everyone needs a break.

>

> That time off for the two of us alone was in your words, awesome!

>

>

>

> Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

>

>

>

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Carmen-

To complicate your thoughts -- Aubrie did have the tube from infancy to age

1.5 yrs -- and she never gained weight well even with it. She stayed well

below the fifth percentile forever. She's finally gaining weight this year.

At age 8, she has just hit 47 lbs. When she was tube fed she got super high

cal formula. After, she drank Pediasure. Now she's still on whole milk.

She eats well and there are no low-fat products in our house.

Michele W

mom to Aubrie 8 yrs CHARGE, 14 yrs and wife to DJ

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Carmen-

To complicate your thoughts -- Aubrie did have the tube from infancy to age

1.5 yrs -- and she never gained weight well even with it. She stayed well

below the fifth percentile forever. She's finally gaining weight this year.

At age 8, she has just hit 47 lbs. When she was tube fed she got super high

cal formula. After, she drank Pediasure. Now she's still on whole milk.

She eats well and there are no low-fat products in our house.

Michele W

mom to Aubrie 8 yrs CHARGE, 14 yrs and wife to DJ

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,

Are your doctors aware that it is quite typical for children with CHARGE to

be about the 3rd percentile. If she is gaining steadily, does not have

major surgery coming up that you want her " beefed up " for, and so on - I

wonder if the g-tube is necessary especially if you are able to keep her

hydrated. How is her height? Before doing a surgical intervention I would

also consider having an endocrinologist evaluate her growth hormone - some

kids with CHARGE have actual low growth hormone levels. If so, all the

calories in the world won't correct the problem. Just a couple thoughts to

consider if you are not convinced the tube is necessary.

Kim

> Bonnie, Was Patty ever tube fed? I struggle to keep weight on Carmen

> too. She's never been tube fed and I'm struggling with whether she'll

> outgrow some of her swallowing struggles or need the g tube before

> then. She's 20 months old and I'm thinking if we can just keep going

> without it (we have the trach, so I'm trying to keep only one man made

> stoma for now). She gains about 1/4 pound per month but is below the

> 5th percentile--she follows the curve but is just way below it.

>

>

>

>

>>

>> ,

>>

>> I am still cleaning out my e-mail and am down to 245 from about 900

> after our

>> trip and a few days off here. I just read your post. Yes, Patty

> was loctose

>> intolerant when she was a baby. She was so bad it took months to find

>> something she could tolerate. And then it was a formula that was

> new and only

>> attained by prescription and was expensive. We didn't have the

> money for it so our

>> doctor used to get tons and give it to me almost free. I forget

> what the

>> name was but that was 20 years ago and I am sure there are even

> better things out

>> there now.

>>

>> It took forever to get that " failure to thrive " label of her. She

> started

>> eating bread and cookies around the age of about a year but we had

> to be

>> careful. She would get horrible diarahaea. It was a slow and

> steady thing. By the

>> age of 2 she was doing better and we added other things. By the age

> of 7 she

>> was still on a watchful diet but not as intense. As she grew her body

>> accepted more and more. She started ice cream but would only have

> that on Fridays

>> (to get through the weekend). She even had 1% milk in her cereal.

>>

>> Once we had control of her bowels (yea and then there was the

> constipation

>> thing) she also had to drink ensure. She loved it but could only

> have it twice

>> a week. We spent years and years trying desperately to put weight

> on her.

>> Now that she's an adult things have gone the other way.

>>

>> To supplement her as a child we gave her crushed calcium that I put

> in jelly

>> and/or something she couldn't spit out. That was horrible because

> she refused

>> to take it. She could hold that in her mouth for an hour! Finally I

> gave up

>> because the battle was worse than the reason to have it.

>>

>> When she could take acidic drinks and foods I fortified her with

> orange juice

>> with calcium etc. She also takes tums with calcium. Along with

> that she

>> continues to take calcium every day.

>>

>> Patty still doesn't drink milk and every now and then she gets

> whacked if she

>> eats too much ice cream or things that have milk in them.

>>

>> Now, please whatever you do don't wait 24 years to go away with your

> husband

>> like I did. It was better than anything I could have ever dreamed

> of. I

>> wished I did it a long time ago. Everyone needs a break.

>>

>> That time off for the two of us alone was in your words, awesome!

>>

>>

>>

>> Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

>>

>>

>>

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,

Are your doctors aware that it is quite typical for children with CHARGE to

be about the 3rd percentile. If she is gaining steadily, does not have

major surgery coming up that you want her " beefed up " for, and so on - I

wonder if the g-tube is necessary especially if you are able to keep her

hydrated. How is her height? Before doing a surgical intervention I would

also consider having an endocrinologist evaluate her growth hormone - some

kids with CHARGE have actual low growth hormone levels. If so, all the

calories in the world won't correct the problem. Just a couple thoughts to

consider if you are not convinced the tube is necessary.

Kim

> Bonnie, Was Patty ever tube fed? I struggle to keep weight on Carmen

> too. She's never been tube fed and I'm struggling with whether she'll

> outgrow some of her swallowing struggles or need the g tube before

> then. She's 20 months old and I'm thinking if we can just keep going

> without it (we have the trach, so I'm trying to keep only one man made

> stoma for now). She gains about 1/4 pound per month but is below the

> 5th percentile--she follows the curve but is just way below it.

>

>

>

>

>>

>> ,

>>

>> I am still cleaning out my e-mail and am down to 245 from about 900

> after our

>> trip and a few days off here. I just read your post. Yes, Patty

> was loctose

>> intolerant when she was a baby. She was so bad it took months to find

>> something she could tolerate. And then it was a formula that was

> new and only

>> attained by prescription and was expensive. We didn't have the

> money for it so our

>> doctor used to get tons and give it to me almost free. I forget

> what the

>> name was but that was 20 years ago and I am sure there are even

> better things out

>> there now.

>>

>> It took forever to get that " failure to thrive " label of her. She

> started

>> eating bread and cookies around the age of about a year but we had

> to be

>> careful. She would get horrible diarahaea. It was a slow and

> steady thing. By the

>> age of 2 she was doing better and we added other things. By the age

> of 7 she

>> was still on a watchful diet but not as intense. As she grew her body

>> accepted more and more. She started ice cream but would only have

> that on Fridays

>> (to get through the weekend). She even had 1% milk in her cereal.

>>

>> Once we had control of her bowels (yea and then there was the

> constipation

>> thing) she also had to drink ensure. She loved it but could only

> have it twice

>> a week. We spent years and years trying desperately to put weight

> on her.

>> Now that she's an adult things have gone the other way.

>>

>> To supplement her as a child we gave her crushed calcium that I put

> in jelly

>> and/or something she couldn't spit out. That was horrible because

> she refused

>> to take it. She could hold that in her mouth for an hour! Finally I

> gave up

>> because the battle was worse than the reason to have it.

>>

>> When she could take acidic drinks and foods I fortified her with

> orange juice

>> with calcium etc. She also takes tums with calcium. Along with

> that she

>> continues to take calcium every day.

>>

>> Patty still doesn't drink milk and every now and then she gets

> whacked if she

>> eats too much ice cream or things that have milk in them.

>>

>> Now, please whatever you do don't wait 24 years to go away with your

> husband

>> like I did. It was better than anything I could have ever dreamed

> of. I

>> wished I did it a long time ago. Everyone needs a break.

>>

>> That time off for the two of us alone was in your words, awesome!

>>

>>

>>

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Michele, Yes, I've deducted this may be the case for some of our

kids. Did Aubrie ever get diagnosed with failure to thrive? B.

>

> Carmen-

> To complicate your thoughts -- Aubrie did have the tube from infancy

to age

> 1.5 yrs -- and she never gained weight well even with it. She

stayed well

> below the fifth percentile forever. She's finally gaining weight

this year.

> At age 8, she has just hit 47 lbs. When she was tube fed she got

super high

> cal formula. After, she drank Pediasure. Now she's still on whole

milk.

> She eats well and there are no low-fat products in our house.

>

> Michele W

> mom to Aubrie 8 yrs CHARGE, 14 yrs and wife to DJ

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Kim, Yes I am thinking that Carmen will always be on the small

side--her dad and I are actually not very big either, so it's not

surprising. Carmen's brother, Zachary has always been about 40th for

weight and 25th for height! Carm's pediatrician is great, and

basically says as long as Carmen continues to steadily grow and not

level off that he's happy!

> >>

> >> ,

> >>

> >> I am still cleaning out my e-mail and am down to 245 from about 900

> > after our

> >> trip and a few days off here. I just read your post. Yes, Patty

> > was loctose

> >> intolerant when she was a baby. She was so bad it took months to

find

> >> something she could tolerate. And then it was a formula that was

> > new and only

> >> attained by prescription and was expensive. We didn't have the

> > money for it so our

> >> doctor used to get tons and give it to me almost free. I forget

> > what the

> >> name was but that was 20 years ago and I am sure there are even

> > better things out

> >> there now.

> >>

> >> It took forever to get that " failure to thrive " label of her. She

> > started

> >> eating bread and cookies around the age of about a year but we had

> > to be

> >> careful. She would get horrible diarahaea. It was a slow and

> > steady thing. By the

> >> age of 2 she was doing better and we added other things. By the age

> > of 7 she

> >> was still on a watchful diet but not as intense. As she grew her

body

> >> accepted more and more. She started ice cream but would only have

> > that on Fridays

> >> (to get through the weekend). She even had 1% milk in her cereal.

> >>

> >> Once we had control of her bowels (yea and then there was the

> > constipation

> >> thing) she also had to drink ensure. She loved it but could only

> > have it twice

> >> a week. We spent years and years trying desperately to put weight

> > on her.

> >> Now that she's an adult things have gone the other way.

> >>

> >> To supplement her as a child we gave her crushed calcium that I put

> > in jelly

> >> and/or something she couldn't spit out. That was horrible because

> > she refused

> >> to take it. She could hold that in her mouth for an hour! Finally I

> > gave up

> >> because the battle was worse than the reason to have it.

> >>

> >> When she could take acidic drinks and foods I fortified her with

> > orange juice

> >> with calcium etc. She also takes tums with calcium. Along with

> > that she

> >> continues to take calcium every day.

> >>

> >> Patty still doesn't drink milk and every now and then she gets

> > whacked if she

> >> eats too much ice cream or things that have milk in them.

> >>

> >> Now, please whatever you do don't wait 24 years to go away with your

> > husband

> >> like I did. It was better than anything I could have ever dreamed

> > of. I

> >> wished I did it a long time ago. Everyone needs a break.

> >>

> >> That time off for the two of us alone was in your words, awesome!

> >>

> >>

> >>

> >> Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

> >>

> >>

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That sounds right. You should know though that the big " take-home message "

of the 2003 conference was that every child should have an endocrinologist

following their growth and other issues from as early as possible. So, when

you're feeling ready to add another specialist to your list, you should find

one and get that relationship started. You'll want them to watch growth and

also assist with preventing early osteoporosis and support puberty in a

proactive way.

Michele W

mom to Aubrie 8 yrs CHARGE, 14 yrs and wife to DJ

Re: To Bonnie

Kim, Yes I am thinking that Carmen will always be on the small

side--her dad and I are actually not very big either, so it's not

surprising. Carmen's brother, Zachary has always been about 40th for

weight and 25th for height! Carm's pediatrician is great, and

basically says as long as Carmen continues to steadily grow and not

level off that he's happy!

> >>

> >> ,

> >>

> >> I am still cleaning out my e-mail and am down to 245 from about 900

> > after our

> >> trip and a few days off here. I just read your post. Yes, Patty

> > was loctose

> >> intolerant when she was a baby. She was so bad it took months to

find

> >> something she could tolerate. And then it was a formula that was

> > new and only

> >> attained by prescription and was expensive. We didn't have the

> > money for it so our

> >> doctor used to get tons and give it to me almost free. I forget

> > what the

> >> name was but that was 20 years ago and I am sure there are even

> > better things out

> >> there now.

> >>

> >> It took forever to get that " failure to thrive " label of her. She

> > started

> >> eating bread and cookies around the age of about a year but we had

> > to be

> >> careful. She would get horrible diarahaea. It was a slow and

> > steady thing. By the

> >> age of 2 she was doing better and we added other things. By the age

> > of 7 she

> >> was still on a watchful diet but not as intense. As she grew her

body

> >> accepted more and more. She started ice cream but would only have

> > that on Fridays

> >> (to get through the weekend). She even had 1% milk in her cereal.

> >>

> >> Once we had control of her bowels (yea and then there was the

> > constipation

> >> thing) she also had to drink ensure. She loved it but could only

> > have it twice

> >> a week. We spent years and years trying desperately to put weight

> > on her.

> >> Now that she's an adult things have gone the other way.

> >>

> >> To supplement her as a child we gave her crushed calcium that I put

> > in jelly

> >> and/or something she couldn't spit out. That was horrible because

> > she refused

> >> to take it. She could hold that in her mouth for an hour! Finally I

> > gave up

> >> because the battle was worse than the reason to have it.

> >>

> >> When she could take acidic drinks and foods I fortified her with

> > orange juice

> >> with calcium etc. She also takes tums with calcium. Along with

> > that she

> >> continues to take calcium every day.

> >>

> >> Patty still doesn't drink milk and every now and then she gets

> > whacked if she

> >> eats too much ice cream or things that have milk in them.

> >>

> >> Now, please whatever you do don't wait 24 years to go away with your

> > husband

> >> like I did. It was better than anything I could have ever dreamed

> > of. I

> >> wished I did it a long time ago. Everyone needs a break.

> >>

> >> That time off for the two of us alone was in your words, awesome!

> >>

> >>

> >>

> >> Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

> >>

> >>

> >>

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Yes, she was " failure to thrive " at 4 weeks old. She'd been hospitalized at

birth til 3 weeks, then went back in at 4 weeks for another week or 2.

That's when she got the NGtube which later was changed to the Gtube.

Michele W

mom to Aubrie 8 yrs CHARGE, 14 yrs and wife to DJ

Re: To Bonnie

Michele, Yes, I've deducted this may be the case for some of our

kids. Did Aubrie ever get diagnosed with failure to thrive? B.

>

> Carmen-

> To complicate your thoughts -- Aubrie did have the tube from infancy

to age

> 1.5 yrs -- and she never gained weight well even with it. She

stayed well

> below the fifth percentile forever. She's finally gaining weight

this year.

> At age 8, she has just hit 47 lbs. When she was tube fed she got

super high

> cal formula. After, she drank Pediasure. Now she's still on whole

milk.

> She eats well and there are no low-fat products in our house.

>

> Michele W

> mom to Aubrie 8 yrs CHARGE, 14 yrs and wife to DJ

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Please remember that Patty is 21 and I am sure there have been a great deal

of medical advances since she was a baby.

No, she was never tube fed and yes she struggled to keep on weight. It was a

battle for her. I don't know if it was because of her food coming out of her

nose, lack of swallowing, reflux, her pneumonia's, ear infections, lactose

intollerance....But I think it was all of that and more. We had to feed her two

ounces every two hours for months. Feeding her took over a half hour so it

seemed that is all we did. Then it was three ounces every three hours etc. We

even had to do it during the night. Oh would and I argue on who's turn

it was and to be honest we didn't follow that schedule so closely after about

a month after she was home. I felt it was more important for her to at least

sleep as much as possible for her health. We were also told that although she

wasn't ON the growth chart she was following it so not to worry.

I realize now that we didn't have insurance so little was done medically. I

think if we had insurance she might have been tube fed as an infant. Then she

could have just focused on being.

Patty had gotten so much better at eating by the time she was 20 months old.

But I used to garden, can and freeze my own fruits and vegetables, cook

without salt, grind up our meals for her.... It wasn't just the calcium and

carbohydrates that I wanted her to have, I wanted her to be nutritionally

strong. I

even used have tofu in our diet. Not anymore!

I am just wondering how much Carmen weighs? Is her height near or at the 5th

percentile too? Patty's weight and height increased as they were supposed to

though they were both below.

I would never suggest what to do because I don't know your child. In the end

of all this Patty thrived. Plus, she really got tons of use out of her

clothes. Kris grew out of everything but I can honestly say Patty wore out some

outfits!

Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

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Hi ,

is and has always been in the 5th percentile....his doctor is not

worried... eats 2000 calories each day and runs off about 3000...he is in

constant motion...whether it is singing or dancing...running up the hall...

was tube fed for 4 years and after jumping through all the hoops for the doctors

had it removed when he was 6.... follows his own curve....he is 48.5

inches tall and 47 pounds....and doing well....The reason the tube was in in the

first place was to pack on weight for open heart surgery.......

It was not an easy decision but since he had a cleft lip and palate he could

not drink enough by mouth to support life...it had to be done...

Good luck

Ellen mom to 8

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Good point, Michele. I guess one more specialist isn't going to break

us at this point. I will email Carmen's primary ped doc on that one

today. Thanks much, B.

> > >>

> > >> ,

> > >>

> > >> I am still cleaning out my e-mail and am down to 245 from about 900

> > > after our

> > >> trip and a few days off here. I just read your post. Yes, Patty

> > > was loctose

> > >> intolerant when she was a baby. She was so bad it took months to

> find

> > >> something she could tolerate. And then it was a formula that was

> > > new and only

> > >> attained by prescription and was expensive. We didn't have the

> > > money for it so our

> > >> doctor used to get tons and give it to me almost free. I forget

> > > what the

> > >> name was but that was 20 years ago and I am sure there are even

> > > better things out

> > >> there now.

> > >>

> > >> It took forever to get that " failure to thrive " label of her. She

> > > started

> > >> eating bread and cookies around the age of about a year but we had

> > > to be

> > >> careful. She would get horrible diarahaea. It was a slow and

> > > steady thing. By the

> > >> age of 2 she was doing better and we added other things. By

the age

> > > of 7 she

> > >> was still on a watchful diet but not as intense. As she grew her

> body

> > >> accepted more and more. She started ice cream but would only have

> > > that on Fridays

> > >> (to get through the weekend). She even had 1% milk in her cereal.

> > >>

> > >> Once we had control of her bowels (yea and then there was the

> > > constipation

> > >> thing) she also had to drink ensure. She loved it but could only

> > > have it twice

> > >> a week. We spent years and years trying desperately to put weight

> > > on her.

> > >> Now that she's an adult things have gone the other way.

> > >>

> > >> To supplement her as a child we gave her crushed calcium that I put

> > > in jelly

> > >> and/or something she couldn't spit out. That was horrible because

> > > she refused

> > >> to take it. She could hold that in her mouth for an hour!

Finally I

> > > gave up

> > >> because the battle was worse than the reason to have it.

> > >>

> > >> When she could take acidic drinks and foods I fortified her with

> > > orange juice

> > >> with calcium etc. She also takes tums with calcium. Along with

> > > that she

> > >> continues to take calcium every day.

> > >>

> > >> Patty still doesn't drink milk and every now and then she gets

> > > whacked if she

> > >> eats too much ice cream or things that have milk in them.

> > >>

> > >> Now, please whatever you do don't wait 24 years to go away with

your

> > > husband

> > >> like I did. It was better than anything I could have ever dreamed

> > > of. I

> > >> wished I did it a long time ago. Everyone needs a break.

> > >>

> > >> That time off for the two of us alone was in your words, awesome!

> > >>

> > >>

> > >>

> > >> Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

> > >>

> > >>

> > >>

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Bonnie, Carmen stays at the 5th percentile for height and weight, and

they both grow proportionately. Her head circ has actually made it on

to the the actual " normal " curve--so it is outgrowing her body and

height! Carmen has never been tube fed, but interestingly, we feed

her the same way you fed Patty all those years ago. We feed her about

4 ounces every 3 hours--and it used to be 2 ounces every 2 and so on.

She can't seem to get more than 4 ounces in at a time, and sometimes

3.5 ounces is all she can take. She gets full easily and we could

certainly feed her all day long. She's a slow eater and we let her

clear her food completely before we give her the next bite. She has

had evidence of nasal reflux, but since her choanal atresia repair,

we've never seen food come out of her nose, so it's not so severe that

the food comes all the way up. I just called her speech pathologist

yesterday to determine when the next swallow study should be done

because Carmen has only had one and it was when she was 4 months old.

She is 20 months now and eats pudding textures, pastas, hot dogs,

sausage, pretty much any of the gerber graduate meals. She just can't

have anything that has a sauce that's too thin--so we thicken

everything. She has a trach so we can easily tell if she can't

tolerate something. She has progressed with what she can eat and

swallow steadily but very slowly and yes, she just wears those darned

outfits out!!!!

Thanks Bonnie, I really respect what you've been through and it has

taught me a lot!!

B, mom to Carmen 20 months (CHARGE) and Zachary 4.5 years

>

> ,

>

> Please remember that Patty is 21 and I am sure there have been a

great deal

> of medical advances since she was a baby.

>

> No, she was never tube fed and yes she struggled to keep on weight.

It was a

> battle for her. I don't know if it was because of her food coming

out of her

> nose, lack of swallowing, reflux, her pneumonia's, ear infections,

lactose

> intollerance....But I think it was all of that and more. We had to

feed her two

> ounces every two hours for months. Feeding her took over a half

hour so it

> seemed that is all we did. Then it was three ounces every three

hours etc. We

> even had to do it during the night. Oh would and I argue on

who's turn

> it was and to be honest we didn't follow that schedule so closely

after about

> a month after she was home. I felt it was more important for her to

at least

> sleep as much as possible for her health. We were also told that

although she

> wasn't ON the growth chart she was following it so not to worry.

>

> I realize now that we didn't have insurance so little was done

medically. I

> think if we had insurance she might have been tube fed as an infant.

Then she

> could have just focused on being.

>

> Patty had gotten so much better at eating by the time she was 20

months old.

> But I used to garden, can and freeze my own fruits and vegetables, cook

> without salt, grind up our meals for her.... It wasn't just the

calcium and

> carbohydrates that I wanted her to have, I wanted her to be

nutritionally strong. I

> even used have tofu in our diet. Not anymore!

>

> I am just wondering how much Carmen weighs? Is her height near or

at the 5th

> percentile too? Patty's weight and height increased as they were

supposed to

> though they were both below.

>

> I would never suggest what to do because I don't know your child.

In the end

> of all this Patty thrived. Plus, she really got tons of use out of her

> clothes. Kris grew out of everything but I can honestly say Patty

wore out some

> outfits!

>

> Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

>

>

>

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Yes, I remember it all so well now that you are reminding me more. I do have

to admit I hated hot dogs. They were often what choked her. So did lettuce

as she got older. That kid put us through tons with choking on food. She also

used to hold things in her mouth forever! Sometimes we would think she would

be done eating, I would check her mouth, we'd let her down to find at a later

time that she was storing her food in her cheeks like a chipmunk. Be alert

on that one because I have heard that Patty isn't the only one who did that.

Another thing we did was cook a T-bone steak and when we cut the meat off we

would freeze it. Boy did she just love to gnaw on it. I think it helped with

her teething. Just be careful to get most of the meat and fat off and to

watch for sharp edges. In telling this story I feel like my grandmother as I

got

that Idea from her!

Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

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Bonnie, Thanks for the frozen meat tip--good protein/cal booster! I

have one more (okay " another " --can't promise it will only be one

more!) question--I remember a while back you said that Patty made

gutteral noises for the most part up until about 2 years old. Am I

remembering this correctly? What do you think happened that helped

move her speech along? I am thinking that once the jaw muscles have

time to strengthen and the tongue moves around appropriately through

eating different textures, that the speech comes as a result. So, I'm

wondering if when Patty starting eating different textures if her

speech improved. And also, can Patty eat whatever she wants now or

does she still have trouble with thin liquids or chewing? Does Patty

have any idea how helpful her history is to all of us? And I hope she

knows how much her newfound independence is inspiring us, too!

Thanks so much for helping!!! B

>

> ,

>

> Yes, I remember it all so well now that you are reminding me more. I

do have

> to admit I hated hot dogs. They were often what choked her. So did

lettuce

> as she got older. That kid put us through tons with choking on

food. She also

> used to hold things in her mouth forever! Sometimes we would think

she would

> be done eating, I would check her mouth, we'd let her down to find

at a later

> time that she was storing her food in her cheeks like a chipmunk.

Be alert

> on that one because I have heard that Patty isn't the only one who

did that.

>

> Another thing we did was cook a T-bone steak and when we cut the

meat off we

> would freeze it. Boy did she just love to gnaw on it. I think it

helped with

> her teething. Just be careful to get most of the meat and fat off

and to

> watch for sharp edges. In telling this story I feel like my

grandmother as I got

> that Idea from her!

>

>

>

> Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

>

>

>

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Bonnie, Thanks for the frozen meat tip--good protein/cal booster! I

have one more (okay " another " --can't promise it will only be one

more!) question--I remember a while back you said that Patty made

gutteral noises for the most part up until about 2 years old. Am I

remembering this correctly? What do you think happened that helped

move her speech along? I am thinking that once the jaw muscles have

time to strengthen and the tongue moves around appropriately through

eating different textures, that the speech comes as a result. So, I'm

wondering if when Patty starting eating different textures if her

speech improved. And also, can Patty eat whatever she wants now or

does she still have trouble with thin liquids or chewing? Does Patty

have any idea how helpful her history is to all of us? And I hope she

knows how much her newfound independence is inspiring us, too!

Thanks so much for helping!!! B

>

> ,

>

> Yes, I remember it all so well now that you are reminding me more. I

do have

> to admit I hated hot dogs. They were often what choked her. So did

lettuce

> as she got older. That kid put us through tons with choking on

food. She also

> used to hold things in her mouth forever! Sometimes we would think

she would

> be done eating, I would check her mouth, we'd let her down to find

at a later

> time that she was storing her food in her cheeks like a chipmunk.

Be alert

> on that one because I have heard that Patty isn't the only one who

did that.

>

> Another thing we did was cook a T-bone steak and when we cut the

meat off we

> would freeze it. Boy did she just love to gnaw on it. I think it

helped with

> her teething. Just be careful to get most of the meat and fat off

and to

> watch for sharp edges. In telling this story I feel like my

grandmother as I got

> that Idea from her!

>

>

>

> Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

>

>

>

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Bonnie, Thanks for the frozen meat tip--good protein/cal booster! I

have one more (okay " another " --can't promise it will only be one

more!) question--I remember a while back you said that Patty made

gutteral noises for the most part up until about 2 years old. Am I

remembering this correctly? What do you think happened that helped

move her speech along? I am thinking that once the jaw muscles have

time to strengthen and the tongue moves around appropriately through

eating different textures, that the speech comes as a result. So, I'm

wondering if when Patty starting eating different textures if her

speech improved. And also, can Patty eat whatever she wants now or

does she still have trouble with thin liquids or chewing? Does Patty

have any idea how helpful her history is to all of us? And I hope she

knows how much her newfound independence is inspiring us, too!

Thanks so much for helping!!! B

>

> ,

>

> Yes, I remember it all so well now that you are reminding me more. I

do have

> to admit I hated hot dogs. They were often what choked her. So did

lettuce

> as she got older. That kid put us through tons with choking on

food. She also

> used to hold things in her mouth forever! Sometimes we would think

she would

> be done eating, I would check her mouth, we'd let her down to find

at a later

> time that she was storing her food in her cheeks like a chipmunk.

Be alert

> on that one because I have heard that Patty isn't the only one who

did that.

>

> Another thing we did was cook a T-bone steak and when we cut the

meat off we

> would freeze it. Boy did she just love to gnaw on it. I think it

helped with

> her teething. Just be careful to get most of the meat and fat off

and to

> watch for sharp edges. In telling this story I feel like my

grandmother as I got

> that Idea from her!

>

>

>

> Bonnie, mom to a 23, Patty CHARGE 21, and wife to

>

>

>

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