(venting) Why...

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do people have to be so judgmental and give their opinions when they are not asked for?!?! Especially people who have no idea what they are talking about?? Here's the deal. My sister just remembered that I had my u/s yesterday so she called to find out if we knew what we're having. I said no but I have to have another u/s anyway so we still have at least one more shot for finding out. Well, she asked me why so I told her and she asked what that would mean. I told her that if it doesn't move up I would at least HAVE to have a c-section... Well, she starts judging me bc I don't really want another one and really want to try to go the VBAC route. Telling me how she keeps hearing on the news that once a woman has a c-section she should *always* have one bc research shows that you are more likely to have a uterine rupture (well, first of all, duh!!!... that's why you have to be carefully monitored and not all women can do VBACs) Okay, anyway... she took only an excerpt out of what she's heard, and I know that bc I've heard all about it... When I confronted her on that she had nothing to say but, "well, yeah". Second of all, who the hell is she to judge me bc I want this?!?! She didn't go through the c-section... or the needing help to get out of bed, take a shower, or even go pee... or the infection I had bc my incision wouldn't heal properly. And I was lucky enough to have people to help me when I had my first c-section... This time will have to work, my mom won't know for sure when she'll be arriving, AND I have a 4 year old daughter I have to tend to in addition to a newborn baby. I'm not making her decisions for her life so why does she think she has a right to stick her nose in on this one? Do I want another cesarean? No... Would I do it if it was the only safe way to bring this baby out? Yes!!!! I know of plenty of people who are choosing repeat c-sections out of convenience or just fear of a vaginal delivery, and I'm not judging them. A woman's body is HER body and she should be able to go the delivery route she chooses without having to worry about what others are going to say about it. I'm so sick of people who think that the way they think is the only way anyone should think!! Anyway, my sis tells me she'll call me back when she gets home so she doesn't have to stay on her cell phone... well, I don't want her to call me back right now. I'm too mad at her. I'm just so frustrated... If she calls me back and goes on and on about it I just might end up telling her to mind her own business and hanging up on her. (Bad, huh?) Okay... so that's enough of me venting... I'll go try to find something to do to calm me down. Later everyone!! Amywife to ~2/14/97~mommy to ~6/18/97~ and one on the way ~EDD 11/8/01~Get more from the Web. FREE MSN Explorer download : http://explorer.msn.com