Re: Sharon*OT--I just need to rant....

May 23, 2003

In a message dated 5/23/2003 10:20:34 PM Central Daylight Time,

smbalik@... writes:

> I'm really worried that no matter what I say or do, that I

> will lose the friendship, and its important to me to not do that.

> Anyone have any suggestions?

>

Sharon...dont make this more difficult than it is on yourself or on her. The

sooner you tell her you cannot do it the more time she will have to make other

arrangements.

NO is such a small word but one that sometimes takes the most courage to say.

Friends do not have unfair expectations of friends and while I am sure she

will be upset at first the fact of the matter is you are not responsible for

their financial constraints (ie her feeling the need to get a job tho unable to

afford daycare/not being able to make it on hubbys salary/having more children

than they could afford..oooooh boy dont get me started on that LOL) and it

will ultimately benefit nobody if even before this arrangement begins your

resentment is building.

PLEASE tell her soon and tell her FIRMLY that this is just not something you

are able to handle right now. Dont make excuses or feel the need to grovel

either Sharon just tell her honestly. Its hard I know when you want to save the

world and help everyone and obviously you had good intentions but please just

say NO and dont let even the idea of it stress you more than it has already.

HUGSSSSSSSSS to you hon. I know it hurts to not be able to help even when you

want to but when you know already its not in your best interest you just have

to say NO.

HUGSSSSSS HUGSSSS HUGSSSSSS

Shan

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