Guest guest Posted June 26, 2004 Report Share Posted June 26, 2004 Hi Sharon Are you able to consult privately with her oncologist? If so tell him/her what you have told us BEFORE her appointment. First of all to save her from suicide and secondly to let the oncologist know she is that depressed. Every threat of suicide should be taken VERY seriously so don't mess around with it call her DR. She may be upset with you but you won't be dealing with regrets should she need help. Hugs and Prayers Narice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2004 Report Share Posted June 26, 2004 Hi Sharon Are you able to consult privately with her oncologist? If so tell him/her what you have told us BEFORE her appointment. First of all to save her from suicide and secondly to let the oncologist know she is that depressed. Every threat of suicide should be taken VERY seriously so don't mess around with it call her DR. She may be upset with you but you won't be dealing with regrets should she need help. Hugs and Prayers Narice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2004 Report Share Posted June 26, 2004 Sharon Your mother & U will both be in my prayers for Monday and all other days also. It is so frustrating at times for both the caregiver and patient. I know Galen gets frustrated at times and also down,he has mentioned just giving up a few times, me well I stopped going to church, I had never told anyone that b4, but now have opened myself up to the world, It was just my own self mad at the world I am coming around I guess to try to adjust to all of this madness and am thinking about going back. This is like one big roller coaster ride that is for sure, one day up, and the next one down!! liz > Friends, > > Mom is feeling down as she anticipates seeing the radiologist on > Monday. She expects that he is going to say she can't have an RFA. > I don't know what to think. Part of me thinks that he would not have > her come in just to tell her that he can't do it. She has never seen > this doctor before,so we have no sense of what he is like. > > The oncologist was supposed to talk to the surgeon who wanted to do > the liver resection this week, but we heard nothing. > > Has anyone else had a loved one mention suicide if the news is bad? > Maybe that is too personal; if so, please excuse my bad manners. I > don't know what to say or do if Mom falls completely apart. Telling > her that other possibilities exist will fall on deaf ears as the onc > told her there weren't any. > > Venting helps ease the tension a little. Please think an extra good > thought for my mother on Monday and for everyone else here for that > matter. > > Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2004 Report Share Posted June 26, 2004 Sharon Your mother & U will both be in my prayers for Monday and all other days also. It is so frustrating at times for both the caregiver and patient. I know Galen gets frustrated at times and also down,he has mentioned just giving up a few times, me well I stopped going to church, I had never told anyone that b4, but now have opened myself up to the world, It was just my own self mad at the world I am coming around I guess to try to adjust to all of this madness and am thinking about going back. This is like one big roller coaster ride that is for sure, one day up, and the next one down!! liz > Friends, > > Mom is feeling down as she anticipates seeing the radiologist on > Monday. She expects that he is going to say she can't have an RFA. > I don't know what to think. Part of me thinks that he would not have > her come in just to tell her that he can't do it. She has never seen > this doctor before,so we have no sense of what he is like. > > The oncologist was supposed to talk to the surgeon who wanted to do > the liver resection this week, but we heard nothing. > > Has anyone else had a loved one mention suicide if the news is bad? > Maybe that is too personal; if so, please excuse my bad manners. I > don't know what to say or do if Mom falls completely apart. Telling > her that other possibilities exist will fall on deaf ears as the onc > told her there weren't any. > > Venting helps ease the tension a little. Please think an extra good > thought for my mother on Monday and for everyone else here for that > matter. > > Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2004 Report Share Posted June 26, 2004 Sharon Your mother & U will both be in my prayers for Monday and all other days also. It is so frustrating at times for both the caregiver and patient. I know Galen gets frustrated at times and also down,he has mentioned just giving up a few times, me well I stopped going to church, I had never told anyone that b4, but now have opened myself up to the world, It was just my own self mad at the world I am coming around I guess to try to adjust to all of this madness and am thinking about going back. This is like one big roller coaster ride that is for sure, one day up, and the next one down!! liz > Friends, > > Mom is feeling down as she anticipates seeing the radiologist on > Monday. She expects that he is going to say she can't have an RFA. > I don't know what to think. Part of me thinks that he would not have > her come in just to tell her that he can't do it. She has never seen > this doctor before,so we have no sense of what he is like. > > The oncologist was supposed to talk to the surgeon who wanted to do > the liver resection this week, but we heard nothing. > > Has anyone else had a loved one mention suicide if the news is bad? > Maybe that is too personal; if so, please excuse my bad manners. I > don't know what to say or do if Mom falls completely apart. Telling > her that other possibilities exist will fall on deaf ears as the onc > told her there weren't any. > > Venting helps ease the tension a little. Please think an extra good > thought for my mother on Monday and for everyone else here for that > matter. > > Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2004 Report Share Posted June 26, 2004 Sharon,not just good thoughts but hugs and prayers too are going your way right now. You hang in there because you will get through this no matter what and so will your mother!! Hugs & Prayers to All, H S/O 'Hubby,52,diagnosed 7/31/03 inoperable stage IV cc Third-line chemo of Avastin/CPT-11/5FU/LV for 3 mo, 5/20/04 CT scans show significant progression of disease,CEA:1060 6/2/04 started " Plan D " ,Folfox 4 > Friends, > > Mom is feeling down as she anticipates seeing the radiologist on > Monday. She expects that he is going to say she can't have an RFA. > I don't know what to think. Part of me thinks that he would not have > her come in just to tell her that he can't do it. She has never seen > this doctor before,so we have no sense of what he is like. > > The oncologist was supposed to talk to the surgeon who wanted to do > the liver resection this week, but we heard nothing. > > Has anyone else had a loved one mention suicide if the news is bad? > Maybe that is too personal; if so, please excuse my bad manners. I > don't know what to say or do if Mom falls completely apart. Telling > her that other possibilities exist will fall on deaf ears as the onc > told her there weren't any. > > Venting helps ease the tension a little. Please think an extra good > thought for my mother on Monday and for everyone else here for that > matter. > > Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2004 Report Share Posted June 27, 2004 Liz, I understand your anger, because I have been that angry myself. It is just hard not to be angry. I will hold you in my prayers as well. Sharon colon_cancer_support , " gill4636 " <gill4636@y...> wrote: > Sharon > Your mother & U will both be in my prayers for Monday and all other > days also. > It is so frustrating at times for both the caregiver and patient. I > know Galen gets frustrated at times and also down,he has mentioned > just giving up a few times, me well I stopped going to church, I had > never told anyone that b4, but now have opened myself up to the > world, It was just my own self mad at the world I am coming around I > guess to try to adjust to all of this madness and am thinking about > going back. > This is like one big roller coaster ride that is for sure, one day > up, and the next one down!! > > liz > > > > > > Friends, > > > > Mom is feeling down as she anticipates seeing the radiologist on > > Monday. She expects that he is going to say she can't have an > RFA. > > I don't know what to think. Part of me thinks that he would not > have > > her come in just to tell her that he can't do it. She has never > seen > > this doctor before,so we have no sense of what he is like. > > > > The oncologist was supposed to talk to the surgeon who wanted to do > > the liver resection this week, but we heard nothing. > > > > Has anyone else had a loved one mention suicide if the news is > bad? > > Maybe that is too personal; if so, please excuse my bad manners. I > > don't know what to say or do if Mom falls completely apart. Telling > > her that other possibilities exist will fall on deaf ears as the > onc > > told her there weren't any. > > > > Venting helps ease the tension a little. Please think an extra > good > > thought for my mother on Monday and for everyone else here for that > > matter. > > > > Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2004 Report Share Posted June 27, 2004 Liz, I understand your anger, because I have been that angry myself. It is just hard not to be angry. I will hold you in my prayers as well. Sharon colon_cancer_support , " gill4636 " <gill4636@y...> wrote: > Sharon > Your mother & U will both be in my prayers for Monday and all other > days also. > It is so frustrating at times for both the caregiver and patient. I > know Galen gets frustrated at times and also down,he has mentioned > just giving up a few times, me well I stopped going to church, I had > never told anyone that b4, but now have opened myself up to the > world, It was just my own self mad at the world I am coming around I > guess to try to adjust to all of this madness and am thinking about > going back. > This is like one big roller coaster ride that is for sure, one day > up, and the next one down!! > > liz > > > > > > Friends, > > > > Mom is feeling down as she anticipates seeing the radiologist on > > Monday. She expects that he is going to say she can't have an > RFA. > > I don't know what to think. Part of me thinks that he would not > have > > her come in just to tell her that he can't do it. She has never > seen > > this doctor before,so we have no sense of what he is like. > > > > The oncologist was supposed to talk to the surgeon who wanted to do > > the liver resection this week, but we heard nothing. > > > > Has anyone else had a loved one mention suicide if the news is > bad? > > Maybe that is too personal; if so, please excuse my bad manners. I > > don't know what to say or do if Mom falls completely apart. Telling > > her that other possibilities exist will fall on deaf ears as the > onc > > told her there weren't any. > > > > Venting helps ease the tension a little. Please think an extra > good > > thought for my mother on Monday and for everyone else here for that > > matter. > > > > Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2004 Report Share Posted June 27, 2004 Narice, I don't see any way to reach the oncologist before the appointment. He has no connection to the radiologist Mom sees tomorrow, so I just have to pray for good news. Sharon > Hi Sharon > Are you able to consult privately with her oncologist? If so tell him/her > what you have told us BEFORE her appointment. First of all to save her from > suicide and secondly to let the oncologist know she is that depressed. > Every threat of suicide should be taken VERY seriously so don't mess around > with it call her DR. She may be upset with you but you won't be dealing with > regrets should she need help. > > Hugs and Prayers > Narice > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2004 Report Share Posted June 27, 2004 Narice, I don't see any way to reach the oncologist before the appointment. He has no connection to the radiologist Mom sees tomorrow, so I just have to pray for good news. Sharon > Hi Sharon > Are you able to consult privately with her oncologist? If so tell him/her > what you have told us BEFORE her appointment. First of all to save her from > suicide and secondly to let the oncologist know she is that depressed. > Every threat of suicide should be taken VERY seriously so don't mess around > with it call her DR. She may be upset with you but you won't be dealing with > regrets should she need help. > > Hugs and Prayers > Narice > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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