Re: I'm sooooooooo mad!!!!!!!!!!

[Guest guest]

Nicci,

I can tell you right now. Find someone else, who is going to respect

your decisions as a mother as to how this child should eat her

afternoon snacks. She is 7, she cannot restrain herself from the

wonderful, glorious, yummy, nasty, junk food!!! This same thing

happened to me, when i was 6-7 yrs old i was skinny!!!! like REALLY

skinny, but then we were allowed to have more and more junk food,

and i dont blame my parents they didnt realize what it could do. I

was an active kid also so they didnt think twice about it, both my

brother and sister never had a weight problem either, and because i

was in the pool everyday for like five hours a day they didnt think

it was really harmful. but it was, because it was the amount i was

eating...i'd just keep on eating it because it was an

addiction...here i am 17 years later and i'm still struggling. Now

i'm not saying that's what's going to happen to your daughter, of

course, but i'm just telling you my own experience. You know what

is good for her, and what she shouldnt be eating...obviously dear

old gramma doesnt becuase the child has gained 6 sizes and 18 lbs!

It is a very difficult decision too. Just remember we're all here

for you!! Good luck with whatever you decide to do, and make sure

you keep us up on what goes on!

*Giant HUGS*

Amy

> I can totally understand where you gals are coming from. My

grandmother gets Cassie off the bus and keeps her for about 45

minutes every day until I get home from work, and every day she buys

her a " treat " at the store, usually a bag of cheese curls or doritos

as well as a candy bar. And every day for a long time I knew

nothing about it. Cassie is 7 and at the beginning of the school

year she weighed 80 pounds and was in a size 10. Now she weighs 98

pounds and is in a size 16. I couldn't figure out for the longest

time why she was gaining so much weight, and at first I didn't say

anything to her about it. Then about a month ago she started

getting really upset a lot. Come to find out she is getting teased

a lot at school about her weight. I was at a loss as to why she was

gaining since she eats pretty healthy and is very active with dance,

soccer, basketball, and softball. I told her she just needs to keep

making healthy food choices and keep up her exercise that she gets

from sports etc and she said " but mom, its so hard not to eat the

stuff grandma buys for me after school. " I didn't know she was

buying it, and we aren't talking the little bags of chips, we're

talking a whole big bag, and Cassie eats the whole thing plus a

milky way bar every day. So I tried to talk to dear old grams about

how Cassie's weight is bothering her and how I'll start sending an

afternoon snack with her and please don't buy her junk at the

store. Well, I thought it was better at first, but it turns out

that she is still buying the junk and just telling Cassie to hide it

from me. She told Cassie that just because I'm on a diet I think

the whole world should be on one too, and that there is nothing

wrong with the way she looks!! I could have killed her!! Well, I'm

at a loss now, cuz I don't know how to handle it, so I've decided

that we only have 3 weeks left of school, and then I'll have to make

other arrangements for Cassie after school next year. I dont know

what else to do.

> Nicci

[Guest guest]

Nicci,

I can tell you right now. Find someone else, who is going to respect

your decisions as a mother as to how this child should eat her

afternoon snacks. She is 7, she cannot restrain herself from the

wonderful, glorious, yummy, nasty, junk food!!! This same thing

happened to me, when i was 6-7 yrs old i was skinny!!!! like REALLY

skinny, but then we were allowed to have more and more junk food,

and i dont blame my parents they didnt realize what it could do. I

was an active kid also so they didnt think twice about it, both my

brother and sister never had a weight problem either, and because i

was in the pool everyday for like five hours a day they didnt think

it was really harmful. but it was, because it was the amount i was

eating...i'd just keep on eating it because it was an

addiction...here i am 17 years later and i'm still struggling. Now

i'm not saying that's what's going to happen to your daughter, of

course, but i'm just telling you my own experience. You know what

is good for her, and what she shouldnt be eating...obviously dear

old gramma doesnt becuase the child has gained 6 sizes and 18 lbs!

It is a very difficult decision too. Just remember we're all here

for you!! Good luck with whatever you decide to do, and make sure

you keep us up on what goes on!

*Giant HUGS*

Amy

> I can totally understand where you gals are coming from. My

grandmother gets Cassie off the bus and keeps her for about 45

minutes every day until I get home from work, and every day she buys

her a " treat " at the store, usually a bag of cheese curls or doritos

as well as a candy bar. And every day for a long time I knew

nothing about it. Cassie is 7 and at the beginning of the school

year she weighed 80 pounds and was in a size 10. Now she weighs 98

pounds and is in a size 16. I couldn't figure out for the longest

time why she was gaining so much weight, and at first I didn't say

anything to her about it. Then about a month ago she started

getting really upset a lot. Come to find out she is getting teased

a lot at school about her weight. I was at a loss as to why she was

gaining since she eats pretty healthy and is very active with dance,

soccer, basketball, and softball. I told her she just needs to keep

making healthy food choices and keep up her exercise that she gets

from sports etc and she said " but mom, its so hard not to eat the

stuff grandma buys for me after school. " I didn't know she was

buying it, and we aren't talking the little bags of chips, we're

talking a whole big bag, and Cassie eats the whole thing plus a

milky way bar every day. So I tried to talk to dear old grams about

how Cassie's weight is bothering her and how I'll start sending an

afternoon snack with her and please don't buy her junk at the

store. Well, I thought it was better at first, but it turns out

that she is still buying the junk and just telling Cassie to hide it

from me. She told Cassie that just because I'm on a diet I think

the whole world should be on one too, and that there is nothing

wrong with the way she looks!! I could have killed her!! Well, I'm

at a loss now, cuz I don't know how to handle it, so I've decided

that we only have 3 weeks left of school, and then I'll have to make

other arrangements for Cassie after school next year. I dont know

what else to do.

> Nicci

[Guest guest]

One quick question....how exactly did you go about getting your

parents to take your teenager? I have one I'd be willing to part

with for a bit. Actualy, any tips on pawning off a 4 year old?

Ang

> I just have to complain for a minute. I'm sooooooooo mad at my

> hubby. My just 12 year old is staying with my parents right now.

> All of my kids have been slender and tall since they were born and

he

> was no exception. I'm very active though, so they are also. Being

> with grandma and grandpa provides alot more TV and computer time

> however and he has gained some serious weight. He was a size 14

when

> he went there and is now just barely squeezing into a size 18.

This

> obviously worries me greatly and I've had extensive talks with my

> parents about helping him make good food choices and the hour limit

> to computer/TV rule that my kids live by. We've talked and talked

> and they know my fears and are I'm sure trying their best to help

him

> monitor things, but this whole situation is really hard on them

too.

> Anyway, his weight is an issue that needs to be dealt with, but I

> believe it's an issue that needs to be treaded on lightly. I've

> explained to him in depth about how he needs to make sure he's

> getting his fruits and vegetables, and that even though Grandma has

> all the yummy stuff he needs to eat that sparingly and reach for

the

> fruit if he's hungry. (Which is always also around in abundence

> because they breed parrots.) I've also explained how easy it is to

> eat just because your bored, homesick or upset and that he needs to

> try to avoid that. I bought his bike, soccer ball and net,

scooter,

> and basketball stuff over there. I've explained the importance of

> water, which he always had here but now is sucking down juice.

> Anyway, I told him he needed to be careful and only eat when hungry

> regardless of what he's offered, because he was starting to gain a

> little extra unneeded weight. My husband on the other hand told

him

> how fat he was, told him he had boy boobs and marched him up to the

> scale. I was livid. We had a LONG talk after Zachary left and I

> think it maybe sunk in. I pointed out just as I have to be careful

> in letting my kids know I'm exercising to be healthy and watch what

I

> eat to maintain a healthy weight he has to watch what he says.

He's

> afraid my actions will make my daughter anorexic but he doesn't see

> how what he did could lead to obesity. Am I right on this or just

> being paranoid????? It would seem to me that comments on that will

> lead him to sneak food and binge. I really am furious. Anyway, I

> thought I would really show him....there's that mean streak in me.

> So I put in Zachary's info and he came up as overweight but in the

> 47th percentile for his age and then put in Jerry's who came up

> overweight but in the 57th percentile. I thought maybe pointing

out

> he could make a few changes might make him lighten up on Zachary.

I

> know he's just worried about him, as I am, but I think his approach

> will make matters worse. Thank goodness he'll be home in a couple

> months and I'll be here making sure he makes good choices, controls

> his portions, and exercises. He was here today and did my 3 mile

> walking tape with me and ate healthy meals. Then I gave them all a

> small ice cream cone (or so they thought-smile-it was actually my

low

> fat frozen yogurt). When I handed it to him he said, " but I

thought

> you guys wanted me to loose weight???? " I answered that I do, but

> that together we can help him do that without depriving him of any

of

> the things he loves.

> Sorry, that was longer then I meant it to be. Meaghan

[Guest guest]

Oh you don't mean that Ang-lol. You cherish every moment you have

with those babies, it ends too quick!!!!!! ANd yes, I heard you say

the one is a teenager, but they'll always be your babies. Meaghan---

In weightlossbuddies2 , " " <amvdhrjr@n...> wrote:

> One quick question....how exactly did you go about getting your

> parents to take your teenager? I have one I'd be willing to part

> with for a bit. Actualy, any tips on pawning off a 4 year old?

> Ang

>

> > I just have to complain for a minute. I'm sooooooooo mad at my

> > hubby. My just 12 year old is staying with my parents right

now.

> > All of my kids have been slender and tall since they were born

and

> he

> > was no exception. I'm very active though, so they are also.

Being

> > with grandma and grandpa provides alot more TV and computer time

> > however and he has gained some serious weight. He was a size 14

> when

> > he went there and is now just barely squeezing into a size 18.

> This

> > obviously worries me greatly and I've had extensive talks with my

> > parents about helping him make good food choices and the hour

limit

> > to computer/TV rule that my kids live by. We've talked and

talked

> > and they know my fears and are I'm sure trying their best to help

> him

> > monitor things, but this whole situation is really hard on them

> too.

> > Anyway, his weight is an issue that needs to be dealt with, but I

> > believe it's an issue that needs to be treaded on lightly. I've

> > explained to him in depth about how he needs to make sure he's

> > getting his fruits and vegetables, and that even though Grandma

has

> > all the yummy stuff he needs to eat that sparingly and reach for

> the

> > fruit if he's hungry. (Which is always also around in abundence

> > because they breed parrots.) I've also explained how easy it is

to

> > eat just because your bored, homesick or upset and that he needs

to

> > try to avoid that. I bought his bike, soccer ball and net,

> scooter,

> > and basketball stuff over there. I've explained the importance

of

> > water, which he always had here but now is sucking down juice.

> > Anyway, I told him he needed to be careful and only eat when

hungry

> > regardless of what he's offered, because he was starting to gain

a

> > little extra unneeded weight. My husband on the other hand told

> him

> > how fat he was, told him he had boy boobs and marched him up to

the

> > scale. I was livid. We had a LONG talk after Zachary left and I

> > think it maybe sunk in. I pointed out just as I have to be

careful

> > in letting my kids know I'm exercising to be healthy and watch

what

> I

> > eat to maintain a healthy weight he has to watch what he says.

> He's

> > afraid my actions will make my daughter anorexic but he doesn't

see

> > how what he did could lead to obesity. Am I right on this or

just

> > being paranoid????? It would seem to me that comments on that

will

> > lead him to sneak food and binge. I really am furious. Anyway,

I

> > thought I would really show him....there's that mean streak in

me.

> > So I put in Zachary's info and he came up as overweight but in

the

> > 47th percentile for his age and then put in Jerry's who came up

> > overweight but in the 57th percentile. I thought maybe pointing

> out

> > he could make a few changes might make him lighten up on

Zachary.

> I

> > know he's just worried about him, as I am, but I think his

approach

> > will make matters worse. Thank goodness he'll be home in a

couple

> > months and I'll be here making sure he makes good choices,

controls

> > his portions, and exercises. He was here today and did my 3 mile

> > walking tape with me and ate healthy meals. Then I gave them all

a

> > small ice cream cone (or so they thought-smile-it was actually my

> low

> > fat frozen yogurt). When I handed it to him he said, " but I

> thought

> > you guys wanted me to loose weight???? " I answered that I do,

but

> > that together we can help him do that without depriving him of

any

> of

> > the things he loves.

> > Sorry, that was longer then I meant it to be. Meaghan

[Guest guest]

It was me who was talking about my son having cancer. He was diagnosed with

Leukemia at just under 3 years old. He is in remission now, after 4 years of

extensive chemotherapy, although they do not consider him " cured " yet, and

he still goes in every few months for testing. He is definitely doing

better, but he still does not seem like your average healthy 10 year old. He

is extremely thin, pale, and always has dark circles under his eyes. I am

always terrified that he will relapse. They say that if he stays cancer-free

for 5 years after his treatment ended that the chances of relapse are very

slim. We are at the 3 year mark now, so hopefully all is well!

The biggest challenge now is dealing with all the emotional consequences of

the experience.

Jette

Re: I'm sooooooooo mad!!!!!!!!!!

> -Sue H., Wow you just made my heart skip a few beats!!!!! That is

> Jette's son, not mine. (I interpreted it as it was something her son

> had when he was little and that he's O.K. now. I pray I got that

> right!!!!! (Jette????)) Meaghan

>

> -- In weightlossbuddies2 , " Sue " <crystalheart52@y...>

> wrote:

> > Hi Meaghan

> > I didn't know your son had been

> > diagnosed with cancer, is he alright

> > now??

[Guest guest]

It was me who was talking about my son having cancer. He was diagnosed with

Leukemia at just under 3 years old. He is in remission now, after 4 years of

extensive chemotherapy, although they do not consider him " cured " yet, and

he still goes in every few months for testing. He is definitely doing

better, but he still does not seem like your average healthy 10 year old. He

is extremely thin, pale, and always has dark circles under his eyes. I am

always terrified that he will relapse. They say that if he stays cancer-free

for 5 years after his treatment ended that the chances of relapse are very

slim. We are at the 3 year mark now, so hopefully all is well!

The biggest challenge now is dealing with all the emotional consequences of

the experience.

Jette

Re: I'm sooooooooo mad!!!!!!!!!!

> -Sue H., Wow you just made my heart skip a few beats!!!!! That is

> Jette's son, not mine. (I interpreted it as it was something her son

> had when he was little and that he's O.K. now. I pray I got that

> right!!!!! (Jette????)) Meaghan

>

> -- In weightlossbuddies2 , " Sue " <crystalheart52@y...>

> wrote:

> > Hi Meaghan

> > I didn't know your son had been

> > diagnosed with cancer, is he alright

> > now??

[Guest guest]

Jette, I'll pray for the next two years that he remains in

remission!!!!!!!! Did I say that right???? That must be so scarey

for all of you, I can't even imagine what you're going through. At

first I was thinking how sad that you have to live with that fear

every few months when he goes for testing, but then I figured it's

probably a fear you all live with daily!!!! I'm so so sorry, but

grateful that he's in remission. Good luck, my thoughts and prayers

are with you. Meaghan

> > > Hi Meaghan

> > > I didn't know your son had been

> > > diagnosed with cancer, is he alright

> > > now??

[Guest guest]

Jette, hugs your over half way there girl! Sounds promising to me! One of my

best friends growing up had been diagnosed as a child and when we were in high

school she was as healthy as a horse! hugsKiti & gt; & gt; Hi Meaghan & gt;

& gt; I didn't know your son had been & gt; & gt; diagnosed with cancer, is he

alright & gt; & gt; now??

[Guest guest]

Meaghan,

Thanks so much for your thoughts! It has definitely been scary, and it

breaks my heart to see what the years of treatment did to break his spirit.

He is just not the same vivacious little boy anymore. It has never seemed

fair to me that such a young, innocent child should have to go through so

much, so early in life. If I could have traded places with him, I would have

in a hearbeat.

Jette

----- Original Message -----

> Jette, I'll pray for the next two years that he remains in

> remission!!!!!!!! Did I say that right???? That must be so scarey

> for all of you, I can't even imagine what you're going through. At

> first I was thinking how sad that you have to live with that fear

> every few months when he goes for testing, but then I figured it's

> probably a fear you all live with daily!!!! I'm so so sorry, but

> grateful that he's in remission. Good luck, my thoughts and prayers

> are with you. Meaghan

[Guest guest]

-You are so right Jette...it is completely unfair....and it's things

like him having to go through that, that you may never know the

reason for. I believe everything happens for a reason, but when it

comes to a child being hurt or sick I can never find the reason.

That is so sad that you said it has broken his spirit. But you know

what...your love and support will give it back to him!!!!!!!!! Does

he know about the five year thing???? If so, he may just be

terrified and you'll see your old son back when he's cleared that

mark. Hang in there Jette, and know we are always here for you. You

are going through one of the toughest things anybody could go

through, don't try to face it alone. By the way I'm added him to the

churches prayer list. Meaghan-- In

weightlossbuddies2 , " Jette " <yahoo@e...> wrote:

> Meaghan,

>

> Thanks so much for your thoughts! It has definitely been scary, and

it

> breaks my heart to see what the years of treatment did to break his

spirit.

> He is just not the same vivacious little boy anymore. It has never

seemed

> fair to me that such a young, innocent child should have to go

through so

> much, so early in life. If I could have traded places with him, I

would have

> in a hearbeat.

>

> Jette

>

>

> ----- Original Message -----

>

> > Jette, I'll pray for the next two years that he remains in

> > remission!!!!!!!! Did I say that right???? That must be so

scarey

> > for all of you, I can't even imagine what you're going through.

At

> > first I was thinking how sad that you have to live with that fear

> > every few months when he goes for testing, but then I figured it's

> > probably a fear you all live with daily!!!! I'm so so sorry, but

> > grateful that he's in remission. Good luck, my thoughts and

prayers

> > are with you. Meaghan

[Guest guest]

-You are so right Jette...it is completely unfair....and it's things

like him having to go through that, that you may never know the

reason for. I believe everything happens for a reason, but when it

comes to a child being hurt or sick I can never find the reason.

That is so sad that you said it has broken his spirit. But you know

what...your love and support will give it back to him!!!!!!!!! Does

he know about the five year thing???? If so, he may just be

terrified and you'll see your old son back when he's cleared that

mark. Hang in there Jette, and know we are always here for you. You

are going through one of the toughest things anybody could go

through, don't try to face it alone. By the way I'm added him to the

churches prayer list. Meaghan-- In

weightlossbuddies2 , " Jette " <yahoo@e...> wrote:

> Meaghan,

>

> Thanks so much for your thoughts! It has definitely been scary, and

it

> breaks my heart to see what the years of treatment did to break his

spirit.

> He is just not the same vivacious little boy anymore. It has never

seemed

> fair to me that such a young, innocent child should have to go

through so

> much, so early in life. If I could have traded places with him, I

would have

> in a hearbeat.

>

> Jette

>

>

> ----- Original Message -----

>

> > Jette, I'll pray for the next two years that he remains in

> > remission!!!!!!!! Did I say that right???? That must be so

scarey

> > for all of you, I can't even imagine what you're going through.

At

> > first I was thinking how sad that you have to live with that fear

> > every few months when he goes for testing, but then I figured it's

> > probably a fear you all live with daily!!!! I'm so so sorry, but

> > grateful that he's in remission. Good luck, my thoughts and

prayers

> > are with you. Meaghan